How many times will u break your love ones heart b4 u learn
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i fail many times also
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i fail many times also
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Perhaps she duno how to face u...
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Relax girl... Though life is not about failing, but it's certainly about picking yourself up after failures...?Originally posted by jusgal:i fail many times also 
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No worries, mate. Knw u must b feeling dwn. But remember tis WATEVER CHOICE U MADE, U MUST NT REGRET. ITS ALRITE IF U DO NT HV ANI BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES, BUT ITS REALLI SAD IF U HV LOTSA REGRETS. I respect ur choice, but its realli nt easy 2 start 1's business. its like her life, or 2 say her husband or child. She realli hv 2 put in 150% or more effort. I hope u understand. Nobodi says doing business is easy, morever she jus started, n u knw hw bad travel market in s'pore is nw. Another question 2 ask urself is, do u luv her? if yes, n u find there still chance 2 b bk 2gather, i urge u 2 take e first step of rebuilding e bridge of luv. I realli tink n feel tat e person she needs most is u, n ur support n encouragement. It doesnt matter if she cant go on dates wif u or both of u cant spent time 2gather, wat matters most is she still luv u. No pt a gal eat, n spent time wif u, but her heart is nt wif u. Hope these tings i wrote will b able 2 help u a little. CHEERS
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i'm in a same ship with you,
i've just lost my GF we had alot of memories
just because of one sms we broke up
what i couldnt take is, how could she easily forget what we have shared
many questions popped too
i have once asked her to come back to me, but she said "she wants to be alone"
1. does she still love me like the way i do?
2. does she miss me the way i miss her?
3. ?????
4. go abroad to work and study?
geez.... i'm bored, i feel lonely.... life is meaningless now.... -
x2. I think u r not the person tt is nt learning, just tt u found the wrong parties.Originally posted by Devil1976:Relax girl... Though life is not about failing, but it's certainly about picking yourself up after failures...? -
Don't think so much. If she said this, it only means that she has think and want to move on. She might have think alot n alot to decide that she wants to be alone.Originally posted by chris_pattz:i'm in a same ship with you,
i've just lost my GF we had alot of memories
just because of one sms we broke up
what i couldnt take is, how could she easily forget what we have shared
many questions popped too
i have once asked her to come back to me, but she said "she wants to be alone"
1. does she still love me like the way i do?
2. does she miss me the way i miss her?
3. ?????
4. go abroad to work and study?
geez.... i'm bored, i feel lonely.... life is meaningless now....
You won't get any answes out of all your questions, the only thing you will have is to make your own brain and heart more painful.
Just move on and don't turn back. -
Its been a while since u broke up..u have disected everyting bit by bit, analysing her msgs, etc....isnt it time u pick up the pieces n get on with ur life? If she really loves u n cant live without u...she wil come back to u.Life is all about meeting ppl b4 meeting the right one.She was 'perfect' for u for a certain time in ur life...now her time has passed (maybe)..n fate has sent somene else for u (probably)..
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hi guys..just alittle update
Yesterday i bought flowers , a book and a card and ask the florist to send to her place..
later at night , she sms me a '
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at least a smile ..which made my heart so happy..
i haven heard from her for 2-3 days..
this morning i msg her good morning and she reply good morning too...
*good sign*
but only just now.. i caught her on msn... @ 1st was pretty formal...then i started getting emotional..telling her how i miss those times we had together..she begun to cry..and she say it hurts..*coz she got lungs problem*...and we a long talk abt how i miss her n how much i love her..and how dissapointed i was with her...and it made her cry more..
later she told me she was already sick b4 we suppose to go thailand..but did not dare to tell me ...so she escaped n avoided me...*which i have no idea why still*
she said she dont want me to worry and be a burden to me anymore..she stills loves me alot but dont want to hamper me . coz she is still very sick n need to recover..so tats why she would go missing n avoid me..
i know her intentions are good..but it only made me more worried , more upset abt her..her love for me made me feel that i m only to be there in good times to enjoy life n laff with her...when shes down..she will cry alone..
which i do not want to accept her kind of attitude towards me..how can i ? let my love one suffer alone n not cry..how can i be happy when she's sad? i want to be with her and take care of her but she has lock me out of her life..
later on..she said she not feeling well and wanted to rest..so i ask her to take care...she ended with "no one should feel the suffering i m going tru"
and she logged of..
i smsed her ' i am not anybody , i am the guy who will spend the rest of your life with ,and no matter how painful or how much suffering u go tru, i will be here for u. whether u like it or not'
...to be continued...hopefully.. -
touching... if everything is real.Originally posted by wuss:hi guys..just alittle update
Yesterday i bought flowers , a book and a card and ask the florist to send to her place..
later at night , she sms me a ''
at least a smile ..which made my heart so happy..
i haven heard from her for 2-3 days..
this morning i msg her good morning and she reply good morning too...
*good sign*
but only just now.. i caught her on msn... @ 1st was pretty formal...then i started getting emotional..telling her how i miss those times we had together..she begun to cry..and she say it hurts..*coz she got lungs problem*...and we a long talk abt how i miss her n how much i love her..and how dissapointed i was with her...and it made her cry more..
later she told me she was already sick b4 we suppose to go thailand..but did not dare to tell me ...so she escaped n avoided me...*which i have no idea why still*
she said she dont want me to worry and be a burden to me anymore..she stills loves me alot but dont want to hamper me . coz she is still very sick n need to recover..so tats why she would go missing n avoid me..
i know her intentions are good..but it only made me more worried , more upset abt her..her love for me made me feel that i m only to be there in good times to enjoy life n laff with her...when shes down..she will cry alone..
which i do not want to accept her kind of attitude towards me..how can i ? let my love one suffer alone n not cry..how can i be happy when she's sad? i want to be with her and take care of her but she has lock me out of her life..
later on..she said she not feeling well and wanted to rest..so i ask her to take care...she ended with "no one should feel the suffering i m going tru"
and she logged of..
i smsed her ' i am not anybody , i am the guy who will spend the rest of your life with ,and no matter how painful or how much suffering u go tru, i will be here for u. whether u like it or not'
...to be continued...hopefully..
hope everything ends well. all the best! -
Originally posted by wuss:
I really dunno how to describe the feelings i have now...Something would be close would be.
numb , dull , empty , void , dazed
For 1 1/2 years i have been with a gal i love , everything was perfect in the beginning , till late last year . She started her own travel agency and begin diggin herself into work. Sms and calls drizzle to a minimal , sometimes she would disappear for hours or sometimes 1-2 days , sms becomes almost non-existant or no picking up of calls or returns. "Be patient i tell myself , she's busy with work " and i know she is , and i always hope things would get better. But it din , our dates gets cancelled , postponed , she forgets special days. All she can say is "i m sorry , tied up with work" again n again.
Be patient i tell myself , over n over again.
And still things look gloomy , i tried to talk to her, abt us distancing , and the amount of time we do not have for each other . And she acknowledges that, but all she can do is cry and say sorry.
Be patient , one day i ll see the light at the tunnel . I know i will , i tell myself , when the coldest n loneliest night i bear alone.
till now ,
She skipped valentine's day , not a card , not a gift , say she's not feeling well . Its alrite i tell her , i took a week to choose a gift for her , a card and a rose . I dont mind , its okie hun , no worries. She say she get something for me for chinese valentine , to make it up .
We had planned a previous month b4 going to koh samui today coz tommorrow is my birthday , she suggested and arrange for a trip for me.
For one month i was happy and excited for this trip.I even took 3 days leave.
I had my hair cut , my teeth clean at the dentist , bought a lot of beach wear . Pack everything early.
Till the day b4 yesterday , she disappeared again , sms me telling me she's busy , will call me back . never did.
And yesterday , the day we suppose to fly off to koh samui. She msg me in the morning she's also busy. I forgotten how many times i called and left msges and sms her. and i well knew she might not be able to make it..
I left home alone hoping last min she would call me , and i sat at the departure hall alone . waiting for some miracle to happen. i check the plane tix booking , it never showed our names . Somehow the internet booking never went tru , i have ask her to double check with airlines twice , guess she never did.
So i sat there waitin ...alone...hoping its a mistake and she has a valid reason to be missing. While i m worried sick for 2 days ..
finally the sms came , 1 hour b4 departure. She's Stuck with work and cannot make it anymore , she's very upset n sorry.
I was dumb founded.....somehow in my heart i knew it was the last chance i would give to her. and she failed to make it.
I sms her , "its over"
She reply "wat you mean ? are you leaving me?"
I sms her " I didnt leave you , you leave me long ago , you just dont realise it , i m no longer no 1 in your life , your clients more important than me"
she replied " i m so sorry"
I sat there for the next few hours , looking our flight fly away.staring into the emptiness of the viewhall. Thinking wad did i wrong , why did my relationship fail. How can things turn out like this , when i devote my love n life to her and she treats me like dirt , not even the basic respect of a fren.
How can i be so low ? i msg her so many questions , and she never answered any ...she just says she's sorry.
so i began to walk ...took the train to town , look for a fren , then went off to buy beers and sat near the river. I called my closest frens , and started to cry.alcohol does make a man lose his emotional control. I spend the next few hours staring into the river n thinking wad went wrong. And i called her , many times again , she prob do not dare to pick up the phone. As if i m in the wrong , why m i still trying to call her?
So i took my luggage and walk the streets alone again , till my mind was so dazed and took a cab home n slept.
I woke up this morning hoping its all dream...but it isnt.. just a feeling of nothingness...She msg me while i was sleeping , telling she knows she hurt me deeply and will leave me for good this time.
I did not reply to that.
How can she treat someone she said she love so deeply n truely . Becoz she cant disappoint her clients , but she can break her promises n disappoint me .
Again and again n again , coz she knows i will forgive her.
How many times will u break your love ones heart b4 u learn how to cherish them?
Perhaps all of us need to lose someone we learn our lesson not to take them for granted. But then , perhaps , the person we end up with in the end , might not be the one we love most and lost.
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Originally posted by wuss:
I really dunno how to describe the feelings i have now...Something would be close would be.
numb , dull , empty , void , dazed
For 1 1/2 years i have been with a gal i love , everything was perfect in the beginning , till late last year . She started her own travel agency and begin diggin herself into work. Sms and calls drizzle to a minimal , sometimes she would disappear for hours or sometimes 1-2 days , sms becomes almost non-existant or no picking up of calls or returns. "Be patient i tell myself , she's busy with work " and i know she is , and i always hope things would get better. But it din , our dates gets cancelled , postponed , she forgets special days. All she can say is "i m sorry , tied up with work" again n again.
Be patient i tell myself , over n over again.
And still things look gloomy , i tried to talk to her, abt us distancing , and the amount of time we do not have for each other . And she acknowledges that, but all she can do is cry and say sorry.
Be patient , one day i ll see the light at the tunnel . I know i will , i tell myself , when the coldest n loneliest night i bear alone.
till now ,
She skipped valentine's day , not a card , not a gift , say she's not feeling well . Its alrite i tell her , i took a week to choose a gift for her , a card and a rose . I dont mind , its okie hun , no worries. She say she get something for me for chinese valentine , to make it up .
We had planned a previous month b4 going to koh samui today coz tommorrow is my birthday , she suggested and arrange for a trip for me.
For one month i was happy and excited for this trip.I even took 3 days leave.
I had my hair cut , my teeth clean at the dentist , bought a lot of beach wear . Pack everything early.
Till the day b4 yesterday , she disappeared again , sms me telling me she's busy , will call me back . never did.
And yesterday , the day we suppose to fly off to koh samui. She msg me in the morning she's also busy. I forgotten how many times i called and left msges and sms her. and i well knew she might not be able to make it..
I left home alone hoping last min she would call me , and i sat at the departure hall alone . waiting for some miracle to happen. i check the plane tix booking , it never showed our names . Somehow the internet booking never went tru , i have ask her to double check with airlines twice , guess she never did.
So i sat there waitin ...alone...hoping its a mistake and she has a valid reason to be missing. While i m worried sick for 2 days ..
finally the sms came , 1 hour b4 departure. She's Stuck with work and cannot make it anymore , she's very upset n sorry.
I was dumb founded.....somehow in my heart i knew it was the last chance i would give to her. and she failed to make it.
I sms her , "its over"
She reply "wat you mean ? are you leaving me?"
I sms her " I didnt leave you , you leave me long ago , you just dont realise it , i m no longer no 1 in your life , your clients more important than me"
she replied " i m so sorry"
I sat there for the next few hours , looking our flight fly away.staring into the emptiness of the viewhall. Thinking wad did i wrong , why did my relationship fail. How can things turn out like this , when i devote my love n life to her and she treats me like dirt , not even the basic respect of a fren.
How can i be so low ? i msg her so many questions , and she never answered any ...she just says she's sorry.
so i began to walk ...took the train to town , look for a fren , then went off to buy beers and sat near the river. I called my closest frens , and started to cry.alcohol does make a man lose his emotional control. I spend the next few hours staring into the river n thinking wad went wrong. And i called her , many times again , she prob do not dare to pick up the phone. As if i m in the wrong , why m i still trying to call her?
So i took my luggage and walk the streets alone again , till my mind was so dazed and took a cab home n slept.
I woke up this morning hoping its all dream...but it isnt.. just a feeling of nothingness...She msg me while i was sleeping , telling she knows she hurt me deeply and will leave me for good this time.
I did not reply to that.
How can she treat someone she said she love so deeply n truely . Becoz she cant disappoint her clients , but she can break her promises n disappoint me .
Again and again n again , coz she knows i will forgive her.
How many times will u break your love ones heart b4 u learn how to cherish them?
Perhaps all of us need to lose someone we learn our lesson not to take them for granted. But then , perhaps , the person we end up with in the end , might not be the one we love most and lost. .... -
Originally posted by zacken99: ....
One of my favourite replies! -
my experience is near to yours. my ex was so into her new-found hall (hostel life) in nus.. and she just didn't have time for me.
in the end i, like you decided to end it.. and all she could say was sorry.
i guess i went thru a little more a year later...
i still liked her a lot a year after we broke up.. and i found out she had a new boyfriend
i was heartbroken.. but decided to have a talk with her anyway
the words she said really shattered me
"i don't want to make the same mistakes i did in the previous relationship" -
yep nth bt tr0ble and a waste 0f $$$Originally posted by Bloop...:Women are all a waste of time...
