Falling in love with a man twice your age?
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Think I am falling in love with a man in his forties... he's charming, gentlemanly... Adivorcee and has a gf now that is in her late twenties... What should I do? Am I courting trouble? He seems to be stringing me along as well...
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Originally posted by harrow:Think I am falling in love with a man in his forties... he's charming, gentlemanly... Adivorcee and has a gf now that is in her late twenties... What should I do? Am I courting trouble? He seems to be stringing me along as well...
You r pretty innocent and fall for his charms.. I have a few gals friends in late 20s who married guy in 40s. Their marriage is not much happier, not based on love and is much different from courtship. Ask yourself why he married his former wife at the 1st place and got divorce in end. All the best to you.. 
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I do not actually knw him that well, but he seems like a honest good guy... how are their marriage different from the others?Originally posted by millienium_bear: You r pretty innocent and fall for his charms.. I have a few gals friends in late 20s who married guy in 40s. Their marriage is not much happier, not based on love and is much different from courtship. Ask yourself why he married his former wife at the 1st place and got divorce in end. All the best to you.. -
wow,thats gonna be real messy if u get involved....how long did his marriage last b4? by the way,as u've just mentioned,he's got a gf,.............
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if he's honest and good, why the heck is he stringing you along?Originally posted by harrow:I do not actually knw him that well, but he seems like a honest good guy... how are their marriage different from the others?
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what, would it make it easier to accept him (gf and all + divorcee) if he was in his 20s?
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Hmm... I do not knw hw long that marriage last, but thats something I should find out more. Btw, I heard he has a son...Originally posted by amuletgurl:wow,thats gonna be real messy if u get involved....how long did his marriage last b4? by the way,as u've just mentioned,he's got a gf,.............
But you are right that since he's attached and I shouldn't be harbouring any thoughts. Thanks! -
but older guys.. seems to be more attentive and more caring eh
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I was thinking maybe he's really interested in me as well... or maybe I was reading too much into it?? being over-sensitive?Originally posted by the Bear:if he's honest and good, why the heck is he stringing you along? -
true.. but guys surely expect something from gals in return..Originally posted by dorothy:but older guys.. seems to be more attentive and more caring eh 
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hmmm... maybe! then age wun be that much of a factor.... haha!! He's really a very charming man for his age!! anyway, that is what make him attractive somehow.Originally posted by jOhO:what, would it make it easier to accept him (gf and all + divorcee) if he was in his 20s? -
yes lor.. i feel that u deserve a better guy.Originally posted by harrow:Hmm... I do not knw hw long that marriage last, but thats something I should find out more. Btw, I heard he has a son...
But you are right that since he's attached and I shouldn't be harbouring any thoughts. Thanks! -
herein, is something else.. he cannot be good and honest if he's interested in you, yet has a girlfriend...
but it does not matter if he is interested or not.. coz he's already got a girlfriend..
if you make a move, you'd be opening up a can of worms as you're putting yourself in as a 3rd party...
don't do that? it'll be messy and will inevitably end in tears...
look around.. there should be other good guys out there who are single, caring and starved of love!
good luck girl!Originally posted by harrow:I was thinking maybe he's really interested in me as well... or maybe I was reading too much into it?? being over-sensitive? -
YES!! Exactly!!!Originally posted by dorothy:but older guys.. seems to be more attentive and more caring eh
They are so f**king damn attentive and caring!!! that you are just swoon!! -
not all
heck! i'm old and decrepit and yet alone
heh heh heh...Originally posted by harrow:YES!! Exactly!!!
They are so f**king damn attentive and caring!!! that you are just swoon!! -
so if he was 20+++ divorced but has a gf, it's ok to be with him?Originally posted by harrow:hmmm... maybe! then age wun be that much of a factor.... haha!! He's really a very charming man for his age!! anyway, that is what make him attractive somehow.
no matter how u look at it, he's attached...? -
Which also brings me to this... what attracts a guy in his forties to a woman half his age??? Is it just happen tht this woman that he likes is half his age?? Guys in his shoes before, pls advise... thanks!Originally posted by millienium_bear:true.. but guys surely expect something from gals in return.. -
i'm not in my forties... but young women are always attractive to men at any age... but it's mainly physical.Originally posted by harrow:Which also brings me to this... what attracts a guy in his forties to a woman half his age??? Is it just happen tht this woman that he likes is half his age?? Guys in his shoes before, pls advise... thanks!
if u wanna connect on a mental level, i think it's quite rare or difficult. -
That's a good piece of advise, I will sleep on this, thanks!!Originally posted by the Bear:herein, is something else.. he cannot be good and honest if he's interested in you, yet has a girlfriend...
but it does not matter if he is interested or not.. coz he's already got a girlfriend..
if you make a move, you'd be opening up a can of worms as you're putting yourself in as a 3rd party...
don't do that? it'll be messy and will inevitably end in tears...
look around.. there should be other good guys out there who are single, caring and starved of love!
good luck girl! -
oh btw.. bear is single... and he's a frigging good guy too! so it's more than advise he can give u!Originally posted by harrow:That's a good piece of advise, I will sleep on this, thanks!!
i better run from befalling paws on my skull... -
Haha!! Maybe its you thats picky!!Originally posted by the Bear:not all
heck! i'm old and decrepit and yet alone
heh heh heh...
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something's brewing.. i can feel it in my bones...
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GRRRR!!!
and hey... i'm not picky.. just that if there is no chemistry or whatever, why force it?Originally posted by jOhO:oh btw.. bear is single... and he's a frigging good guy too! so it's more than advise he can give u!
i better run from befalling paws on my skull... -
Ya, true... no matter what he's attached... maybe I should wait for him to be single again?? Haha... just kidding, I oso nt tht stupid to wait lar...Originally posted by jOhO:so if he was 20+++ divorced but has a gf, it's ok to be with him?
no matter how u look at it, he's attached...? -
you're getting rheumatism?Originally posted by jOhO:something's brewing.. i can feel it in my bones...