I got a Nice guy friend.
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I have a friend who must be the sweetest, shyest person in the world.. His name is Peter, his age modestly 27.. He is rather short and skinny, has a thin moustache and even thinner hair on his head.. Since his vision is not perfect, he wears glasses: they are small, round and frame-less..
In order not to inconvenience anyone, he always walks sideways.. Instead of saying 'Excuse me', he prefers to glide by one side.. If the gap is so narrow that it will not allow him to pass, Peter waits patiently until the obstruction clears.. On the MRT, If he manages to take the seat, he never gives it up to anyone, but the moment he sees a woman with a child in her arms or a weak, elderly person climb on board he immediately stands up..
He has never interrupted anybody during a conversation.. On the other hand, he can never manage more than two words without somebody interrupting him.. This does not seem to irritate him.. Because he is that " Nice."
However, he is still single.. All his life, he's never been in love.. Not that he don't want to, but simply because he was never presented a chance by local females.. The sight of him makes a lot of them ran away at the first instance..
Not that he mind though, he enjoyed the solitude and quiet reflection being single has given him.. Wait a minute, doesn't every girls dream of being with a " Nice" guy ? I can't helped but feel sad for my friend..
Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me”..
Yet, they continue to lament the lack of "Nice" men in the world.. Don't you think women are funny creature ? -
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There's a thin line between Loser and Nice, though I would venture that girls prefer more assertive, firm but nice guys.... to be Nice nice, tts the girl's job
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Do you think my friend is a "Loser" ?Originally posted by SeraphimX:There's a thin line between Loser and Nice, though I would venture that girls prefer more assertive, firm but nice guys.... to be Nice nice, tts the girl's job -
There's a difference between being "Nice" and being "Different".
"Nice" is never a good label for a guy. If a woman commented that a guy is nice, most of the time it means that he is just a friend and no more. When a woman commented that you are a nice guy, she's telling you this, "Try harder, you idiot.", or "We are nothing more than just friends."
When a woman says that she is looking for a nice guy, it means the other opposite. Not a bad guy, or a complete jerk, but someone who knows how to turn her on and keeps her sparks and anticipation going in her attraction mechanism, as well as raising the sexual tension within her, causing her to be attracted to that man.
Women look out for a few things: -
1. Eye Contact
2. Body Language
3. Verbal Communication (How you tease or make her laugh)
4. Anticipation (whether the guy knows about this)
5. Character and Personality
I shall end my briefing here to let you digest what I've mentioned. Of course, there're many more to know and remember but this is only the tip of an iceberg.
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In other words, women are looking for a " Clown".. One who is never serious, able to make her laugh and inmature? Now, isn't that a "Jerk" that women are looking for?
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Your friend is not a loser, just that he's not interesting enough.
Clowns? they can be irritating if gone overboard.
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The criteria of being a good wife: filial, kind-hearted, humble, considerate.. etc etc.. doesn't the same goes with women who's looking for a husband?Originally posted by Magnus:Your friend is not a loser, just that he's not interesting enough.
Clowns? they can be irritating if gone overboard.
Just being 'nice' is too single-dimensional.
So what if he's not interesting, fun or assertives ? unless they want their hubby to continue his funny and interesting ways after marriage too... -
You are now talking about marriage material.
At your friend's age, most women of that age (& below) are not looking for that yet. -
Even married women likes her husband to remain funny and interesting after marriage, so long as it's only to her and not some other women.Originally posted by caramon:The criteria of being a good wife: filial, kind-hearted, humble, considerate.. etc etc.. doesn't the same goes with women who's looking for a husband?
So what if he's not interesting, fun or assertives ? unless they want their hubby to continue his funny and interesting ways after marriage too...
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Well, not exactly a clown...Originally posted by caramon:In other words, women are looking for a " Clown".. One who is never serious, able to make her laugh and inmature? Now, isn't that a "Jerk" that women are looking for?
I think a good guy is polite when he has to be, calm confident and assertive to a certain degree at other times...
I would consider allowing yourself to get interrupted all the time or not daring to say excuse me reminiscient of losers...
your friend may not be a loser its just those loserific qualitie's he possesses
Just think...ok hes humble gentle watever, but wheres the excitement and feeling of moving forward...he can't provide that, unless your the dominant one, the marraige would stagnate pretty fast -
I don't know, maybe I am out-dated.. But, couples go into relationship for ?? surely they are looking if that might leads to marriage..Originally posted by Magnus:You are now talking about marriage material.
At your friend's age, most women of that age (& below) are not looking for that yet.
But, sadly my friend was not being presented with that chance.. the chance for girls to un-lock his heart and "see" how beautiful it is.. -
My friend Peter do party occasionally, he's not totally boring.. he may not have the excitement of a yuppies or the creative brain of Mr sim, but he has a good heart..Originally posted by SeraphimX:Well, not exactly a clown...
I think a good guy is polite when he has to be, calm confident and assertive to a certain degree at other times...
I would consider allowing yourself to get interrupted all the time or not daring to say excuse me reminiscient of losers...
your friend may not be a loser its just those loserific qualitie's he possesses
Just think...ok hes humble gentle watever, but wheres the excitement and feeling of moving forward...he can't provide that, unless your the dominant one, the marraige would stagnate pretty fast
He is someone you can rely on, someone that you can trust.. but sadly, women judge him by his appearance.. I doubt if he's alone, going by the statistic of so many men going for oversea brides.. -
Tell him to improve his appearance- get rid of his mostache, wear contacts, go for makeover.
Appearance are impt. for initial attraction that is why guys always go for pretty girls. For girls, character & personality are more impt. cos we can accept average looks.
Being nice means gentlemanly in his treatment towards girls.
We don't want a wimp. He must be assertive & knows what he wants eg when he gets interrupted by rude pple when speaking, he should not keep quiet. -
I have nothing against nice guys, but sometimes they just do not seem to have enuff confidence and courage to even let a girl knows how they feel about her...so if you are a girl, wud you want to be with someone like that? So usually the girl will go off with someone else who is more expressive and more assertive, and then the "nice" guy will lose his chance lor..
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Is he sad for himself? Why sad for him? Is he not enjoying his life? Why must be attached then not sad for him?Originally posted by caramon:I have a friend who must be the sweetest, shyest person in the world.. His name is Peter, his age modestly 27.. He is rather short and skinny, has a thin moustache and even thinner hair on his head.. Since his vision is not perfect, he wears glasses: they are small, round and frame-less..
In order not to inconvenience anyone, he always walks sideways.. Instead of saying 'Excuse me', he prefers to glide by one side.. If the gap is so narrow that it will not allow him to pass, Peter waits patiently until the obstruction clears.. On the MRT, If he manages to take the seat, he never gives it up to anyone, but the moment he sees a woman with a child in her arms or a weak, elderly person climb on board he immediately stands up..
He has never interrupted anybody during a conversation.. On the other hand, he can never manage more than two words without somebody interrupting him.. This does not seem to irritate him.. Because he is that " Nice."
However, he is still single.. All his life, he's never been in love.. Not that he don't want to, but simply because he was never presented a chance by local females.. The sight of him makes a lot of them ran away at the first instance..
Not that he mind though, he enjoyed the solitude and quiet reflection being single has given him.. Wait a minute, doesn't every girls dream of being with a " Nice" guy ? I can't helped but feel sad for my friend..
Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me”..
Yet, they continue to lament the lack of "Nice" men in the world.. Don't you think women are funny creature ? 
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Think your friend lack confident and charisma. Gers oso look for either a person who protect her, entertain her or suuport her.
What about your frd?
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nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai!
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As guys don't like wall-flowers,
women don't like doormats
Compredes? -
Ur fren needs some "touch-up" in order to attract females...one won't be able to see his "nice & good" unless they're close to him, i.e. everyday see him...etc...
From the description details you've provided, i believe he really needs to "touch-up" his appearance...n also, since you're his fren (female?), you could try to intro some of your frens to him then... -
You speak too chim liaoz...what wall , flowers, door, mats???? Got TV or not???Originally posted by mistyblue:As guys don't like wall-flowers,
women don't like doormats
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I think his friend needs to be more assertive besides a physical make-over. From what Caramon is saying, he sounds like a doormat and girls don't like doormats.Originally posted by dcx:Ur fren needs some "touch-up" in order to attract females...one won't be able to see his "nice & good" unless they're close to him, i.e. everyday see him...etc...
From the description details you've provided, i believe he really needs to "touch-up" his appearance...n also, since you're his fren (female?), you could try to intro some of your frens to him then... -
Ok ok...
TV show, Friends.
David Shimmer played a typical nice guy. OK in TV land, he gets his girl. In real life, such people will get walked over and never find a girl. -
is that you, caramon?
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I suspect its him... but then....Originally posted by SnowFlag:is that you, caramon?