what if Girls tell you that you are not my Cup of tea?
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From wat u said, u r really pushing it. When she come straight to the point and said "no", then take it. Still dare to say "know her for 4 years", dun even understand her... wah lao. If cannot go into relationship, continue to be friends with her also not bad wat.
And u keep bothering her, this of cos breaks her limit of tolerance, and gave u the boot. Since she dun wan already, I think u should stop "investing" ur time and energy on her. Keep urself occupied with other things to do, she not the only lady in the world, nor the last. Basic respect, if she dun wans it, then dun keep doing it. If this also dunno, I'm wondering wat u've been doing this past for 4 years.
Whether u wan to take my advise anot, itz up to u, itz ur funeral. Dun waste ur youth away by trying very hard to stick to her like a shadow. If tat lady really likes u, she'll be the 1 sticking to u, not u to her.
Cheerz.Originally posted by Guaiboy:hmm know this ger 4yrs... woo her after knowing her better for the 1yr or lesser... we used to go cycle from one place to another... we would go to shop for fish thingy... free we would meet and eat lunch n dinner wif her... the feeling very happy... sometimes we free would go for jog.play badminton..gym... every year during special occasion... we would exchange present like during Xmas or bday sometimes for no reason we would buy things for each other... she always feel touch wif my present cos i always buy the things she aim for or like... eg.perfumn MMC card dvd player wallet etc.. den during chi new year she would baked pineapple tart n gave it to me... hmm she so thoughtful... whenever her coms are down her uncles.. i always help her fix it and she feel really touch n happy for my great work...whenever she needs help or wat she would call me up and i always solve for her.. as time goes she got herself a licence n bike.. she always busy wif her bike thing or out wif other friends to know more abt bikes things.. mths later.. she work in an office which needs lots of computer knowledge.. she keep look me up wanted me to help her wif it... during my BMT, her office coms always have problem she ask me to help her fix.. she would pillion me to her office to help her fix com every of my bk out day n she got really happy and touch...when free she would pillion me go to some restaurant to have dinner at nite time or sent me back to camp.. i express to her my feeling 3yrs+ which is also during my BMT.. I drove her out.. she didnt know i like her at all...she reject mi as dun wan to go steady now as she prefer the feeling of being woo.. n say that as friends can b forever..but if steady she break she will nv ever contact again and its gone... she also wan mi to keep my promise that when ever she hav problem i be there for her... well so far she always need help i didnt reject any task she gave.... wonder she dislike mi or jus an excuse.. hmm? well as times goes by.. i met some problem in camp.. she ask keep ask me to change my charactor as not so gd... i keep promise her.but my mind keep slip away... as no one ever told me to change... well she say that she treat mi as friends that y tell me to change if others she wouldnt even care.. few mths later i got impatient express my feeling again.. she told mi once again...friend better. and can last forever... i ask her did she like mi... she tell mi tat she like mi but not as lover now... she say that if steady wif her 1wks later cfm break which she is so confident...wonder i think is my charactor... she also state that my char not really gd... keep ask her why why or fan her... and she have friend who is much better than me...hai... mths later i getting possessive which i didnt know... and she begins to find me more n more fan.. keep ask her out or fan her something... but really miss her tat time.. hmm till 1 day she got fedup she told me off that she dun like mi at all.. now and in future also wun... cos your not my cup of tea!! even i change into a better person also dun like at all... well heart got shattered...i ask her y again... n saying my thinking like a 3yrs old kid.. keep ask her y yy y... fan her...naggy at times.. saying last time i not like tat... hai... duno wat got into me.. she hav a sis... and her sis used to encourage me of chasing her... now she allied wif her and tell me to stop my wishful thinking... i nv b wif her and 4ever... hai.. wonder i used help them up.. y they are so mean... saying i will nv hav the chance... she given me a route... is either friends or enermy.. what can i do.... i still like her alot... i hav to choose to b friend...but we are so close yet so far apart... feel so hurt at times...keep telling me we are friend for ever... ask mi dun anyhow think.. haii...well i dun hav e looks and ht... she looks quite pretty....mayb im not suitable to match wif her... TO be continue....
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i think u misunderstood, i think he meant know her for years not 4 years.Originally posted by Boo777:From wat u said, u r really pushing it. When she come straight to the point and said "no", then take it. Still dare to say "know her for 4 years", dun even understand her... wah lao. If cannot go into relationship, continue to be friends with her also not bad wat.
And u keep bothering her, this of cos breaks her limit of tolerance, and gave u the boot. Since she dun wan already, I think u should stop "investing" ur time and energy on her. Keep urself occupied with other things to do, she not the only lady in the world, nor the last. Basic respect, if she dun wans it, then dun keep doing it. If this also dunno, I'm wondering wat u've been doing this past for 4 years.
Whether u wan to take my advise anot, itz up to u, itz ur funeral. Dun waste ur youth away by trying very hard to stick to her like a shadow. If tat lady really likes u, she'll be the 1 sticking to u, not u to her.
Cheerz.
but i agreed with u on yr points.
no point pushing it, the girl's limit has been breached, if u kept pushing, u will only end up losing even the friendship -
What's wrong with 'friends'? Stop drowning your own relationship....
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ermm no la.. he is right four years... can say I used to b keep pushing and fan her too much...Originally posted by Kenashi:i think u misunderstood, i think he meant know her for years not 4 years.
but i agreed with u on yr points.
no point pushing it, the girl's limit has been breached, if u kept pushing, u will only end up losing even the friendship -
I love her I wan to be a better relationship than friends... I feel very comfortable to be with her... I always used her to motivate my life everyday.... we used to email sms each other or chat... sudden its just gone is like something is missing my motivation gone and my life feeling boring no mood for everything...Originally posted by Devil1976:What's wrong with 'friends'? Stop drowning your own relationship....
every since we have settle everything down n befriend, she behave like normal as if nothing seems to be happening...I have started not to call her or sms too much not to fan her anymore and b a man.. wks later she found me that I have change my char abit n state we are still friends.. hai y must she keep saying out... we went out a few times.. there was once she was working, she need to get change and go for a new job interview but left her clothes n shoes. she called mi up and ask me for help again.. she ask me to go to her house and meet her sis and go to her workplace pass it to her... hai that was tiring rushing from 1 place to another. as she need it urgently.. so i did help her and also need help her sis buy food for her... she was happy but in her mind jus treat mi as friends.. there was one nite i her help and i meet her for nite supper... we chat a lot abt things n problem.. she entrusted me passing her passport size photo.. she say that she have nv pass or gv any photo to her friend "guy" so she asking me help her to scan n print.. was wonder y she treating me special.... the next day it was very late 1am midnite she asking how is the pic she need it urgently, so tat nite i cycle to her house n did a gd job pass it to her... she was very delighted and touch from her eyes.. she didnt expect i can print out the same n we chat a while n bid gd bye as she nid to work... soon she sms saying we are friends ok.. dun b mistaken... as she say that i feel sad again... y must she keep reminds me feeling i am so close yet so far apart... I saw her happy face but i feel sad that i cant b wif her... shall i carry on to help her till 1 day she have found herself a bf... mayb she might notice tis silly guy keep helping her need me when she in trouble... sometimes mayb she making used of mi.. i also not sure but I really like her did everythings she says.... hai... so confused.. -
She's using u... yes.... but dun get me wrong, but only as a friend.
Sometimes, itz good to stop watever u do now and take a break. I believe u r not the ONLY friend she'd got rite? And besides, after u've done sooo much for her, she'll be damned if she still dunno tat u haven't give up... bah... sturbbon boy.
Long story short, u need to change ur mindset. Treat her only as a friend... yes, I know it is hard, I've been thru tat road b4, so u r not alone. Think out of the box for a sec. If the things she require u to do is too time consuming ask urself, will u do this for just a normal friend?? If the answer is no, then deny her, tell her u r bz with work... or something like tat.
To forget the "feeling" when u see her again, occupy urself with activiates, go out with a bunch of friends an party like hell man!! Yeah!! I never say it'll work for everyone, but the feeling will slowly die off if u see less of her.
Cheerz brudda!!
Itz Tiger Time!! Itz Friday!!!Originally posted by Guaiboy:I love her I wan to be a better relationship than friends... I feel very comfortable to be with her... I always used her to motivate my life everyday.... we used to email sms each other or chat... sudden its just gone is like something is missing my motivation gone and my life feeling boring no mood for everything...
every since we have settle everything down n befriend, she behave like normal as if nothing seems to be happening...I have started not to call her or sms too much not to fan her anymore and b a man.. wks later she found me that I have change my char abit n state we are still friends.. hai y must she keep saying out... we went out a few times.. there was once she was working, she need to get change and go for a new job interview but left her clothes n shoes. she called mi up and ask me for help again.. she ask me to go to her house and meet her sis and go to her workplace pass it to her... hai that was tiring rushing from 1 place to another. as she need it urgently.. so i did help her and also need help her sis buy food for her... she was happy but in her mind jus treat mi as friends.. there was one nite i her help and i meet her for nite supper... we chat a lot abt things n problem.. she entrusted me passing her passport size photo.. she say that she have nv pass or gv any photo to her friend "guy" so she asking me help her to scan n print.. was wonder y she treating me special.... the next day it was very late 1am midnite she asking how is the pic she need it urgently, so tat nite i cycle to her house n did a gd job pass it to her... she was very delighted and touch from her eyes.. she didnt expect i can print out the same n we chat a while n bid gd bye as she nid to work... soon she sms saying we are friends ok.. dun b mistaken... as she say that i feel sad again... y must she keep reminds me feeling i am so close yet so far apart... I saw her happy face but i feel sad that i cant b wif her... shall i carry on to help her till 1 day she have found herself a bf... mayb she might notice tis silly guy keep helping her need me when she in trouble... sometimes mayb she making used of mi.. i also not sure but I really like her did everythings she says.... hai... so confused.. -
It's good to have a partner or something in your life which you can use to motivate you. But are you ready for the adverse effects when things don't work out?Originally posted by Guaiboy:I love her I wan to be a better relationship than friends... I feel very comfortable to be with her... I always used her to motivate my life everyday.... we used to email sms each other or chat... sudden its just gone is like something is missing my motivation gone and my life feeling boring no mood for everything...
every since we have settle everything down n befriend, she behave like normal as if nothing seems to be happening...I have started not to call her or sms too much not to fan her anymore and b a man.. wks later she found me that I have change my char abit n state we are still friends.. hai y must she keep saying out... we went out a few times.. there was once she was working, she need to get change and go for a new job interview but left her clothes n shoes. she called mi up and ask me for help again.. she ask me to go to her house and meet her sis and go to her workplace pass it to her... hai that was tiring rushing from 1 place to another. as she need it urgently.. so i did help her and also need help her sis buy food for her... she was happy but in her mind jus treat mi as friends.. there was one nite i her help and i meet her for nite supper... we chat a lot abt things n problem.. she entrusted me passing her passport size photo.. she say that she have nv pass or gv any photo to her friend "guy" so she asking me help her to scan n print.. was wonder y she treating me special.... the next day it was very late 1am midnite she asking how is the pic she need it urgently, so tat nite i cycle to her house n did a gd job pass it to her... she was very delighted and touch from her eyes.. she didnt expect i can print out the same n we chat a while n bid gd bye as she nid to work... soon she sms saying we are friends ok.. dun b mistaken... as she say that i feel sad again... y must she keep reminds me feeling i am so close yet so far apart... I saw her happy face but i feel sad that i cant b wif her... shall i carry on to help her till 1 day she have found herself a bf... mayb she might notice tis silly guy keep helping her need me when she in trouble... sometimes mayb she making used of mi.. i also not sure but I really like her did everythings she says.... hai... so confused..
And as much said as 'friends'... Don't mind me saying this... But somehow I feel that you're just doing too much? In my personal opinion, there might be a chance that she just knows of how you feel of you and is currently trying to make use of you? How old are the both of you?
She tried to 'kick' you off, but somehow you might have pissed her off by being so persistent...? I'm saying it certainly is... But seriously... Think about all the things you're doing for her? Is that what you'll normally do for a 'normal friend'? Before you go "why is she treating me like this despite how I've treated her..??", I would like to tell you that it's really your life and it's really your choice... Whatever you're doing for her now... Sacrifices and everything... Don't have some 'fat hope' that she might just fall for you there after... Don't even think that she actually owes you anything after that... Afterall, she kept REMINDING YOU... "We're only friends...." -
this does not make any sense but... take note:
when a girl tells u that she likes the feeling of being woo, tt doesn't means tt she likes being wooed. got it? she's telling u this as an excuse for not hurting u.
practically speaking, girls don't like guys who chase them around, do the things they like, give them presents tt they want, and just being nice directly. all these will not trigger her affection or attraction towards u.
in times, u may need to try to start being humorous with her, make fun of her, bust her on and on, and stop doing anything to please her in the first place because every guys who wants to know her would probably do the same. and u r not the exception.
note: she may make fun of u back, but take it as a pinch of salt.
from what she really wants, is a guy tt is different from any other guys tt chases her around, and rather, a guy tt is rather laid back.
in this situation, u need some space, not the girl. she now treats u only as a friend and ur hope and chances now lies elsewhere. gotta move on. i'll see ya there!
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Chances is very low.
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you also can feel i doing too much... y she cant... btw she is 21 im 22.. sometimes she would hint me that she need something den she would says its joking.. wat i think is she wanted me to buy things for her or help her wif a surprise... remember she complaint to me that i used to be very gd to her... always gv her surprises... n when i stop gving her all tis she ask me y... hai... yea i did think before this not nomally a friend will do.. but y she still request many things from me if she thinks that she treated me as friend afterall.. tbe feeling making me like a bf to her yet to her is not... if friend she know herself that things she need cant b asking lots from me... but i feel enjoying it doing for someone i like.. but she dun like... haiya...Originally posted by Devil1976:It's good to have a partner or something in your life which you can use to motivate you. But are you ready for the adverse effects when things don't work out?
And as much said as 'friends'... Don't mind me saying this... But somehow I feel that you're just doing too much? In my personal opinion, there might be a chance that she just knows of how you feel of you and is currently trying to make use of you? How old are the both of you?
She tried to 'kick' you off, but somehow you might have pissed her off by being so persistent...? I'm saying it certainly is... But seriously... Think about all the things you're doing for her? Is that what you'll normally do for a 'normal friend'? Before you go "why is she treating me like this despite how I've treated her..??", I would like to tell you that it's really your life and it's really your choice... Whatever you're doing for her now... Sacrifices and everything... Don't have some 'fat hope' that she might just fall for you there after... Don't even think that she actually owes you anything after that... Afterall, she kept REMINDING YOU... "We're only friends...." -
Originally posted by keuriseudo:this does not make any sense but... take note:
when a girl tells u that she likes the feeling of being woo, tt doesn't means tt she likes being wooed. got it? she's telling u this as an excuse for not hurting u.
reply> hmm i not sure true a not... but can says some girls really play hard to get...
practically speaking, girls don't like guys who chase them around, do the things they like, give them presents tt they want, and just being nice directly. all these will not trigger her affection or attraction towards u.
in times, u may need to try to start being humorous with her, make fun of her, bust her on and on, and stop doing anything to please her in the first place because every guys who wants to know her would probably do the same. and u r not the exception.
reply> den what can do to trigger girls affection or attract ? well no idea to do anything to like a person other than all this to touch her... hai
note: she may make fun of u back, but take it as a pinch of salt.
from what she really wants, is a guy tt is different from any other guys tt chases her around, and rather, a guy tt is rather laid back.
in this situation, u need some space, not the girl. she now treats u only as a friend and ur hope and chances now lies elsewhere. gotta move on. i'll see ya there!
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yea now i treating her as my best friend but my heart is still there wif her... if i sudden say No to her help when she request she will felt wierd or am i angry her or something... den she will show a angry tone or sad tone... tats make mi sad... but whenever i make to help her she got delighted when i do a gd job.. well she have others friend which drives Wrx or so...wonder why she dun ask them to help i guess they can do it too.. but she told me she dun like em at all or wan to have a relationship.. well so part of it duno is wan to b friend wif her or forget abt her is impossible too... u will nv forget a person for lifes...Originally posted by Boo777:She's using u... yes.... but dun get me wrong, but only as a friend.
Sometimes, itz good to stop watever u do now and take a break. I believe u r not the ONLY friend she'd got rite? And besides, after u've done sooo much for her, she'll be damned if she still dunno tat u haven't give up... bah... sturbbon boy.
Long story short, u need to change ur mindset. Treat her only as a friend... yes, I know it is hard, I've been thru tat road b4, so u r not alone. Think out of the box for a sec. If the things she require u to do is too time consuming ask urself, will u do this for just a normal friend?? If the answer is no, then deny her, tell her u r bz with work... or something like tat.
To forget the "feeling" when u see her again, occupy urself with activiates, go out with a bunch of friends an party like hell man!! Yeah!! I never say it'll work for everyone, but the feeling will slowly die off if u see less of her.
Cheerz brudda!!
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hmm yday when was going home.. she was on way home on mrt and call mi up askin how am i..well jus when we were on the way we met up... and went back together... she ask mi whether she looks pretty and chat alot.. i hav a voucher for buy something which i didnt know how to spent it.. she wanted mi to sell her at very low price haii i didnt.. but she keep hint mi tat y not buy something for her instead i not using it.. hai.. hmm soon also asking mi to acc her to IT show as she wanted to buy something tis sunday... oh ya recently she wanted a CPU... i hava a friend which he wanted to gv mi so i could fix my old com wif more powerful systems... but den she told me she need 1... and ask mi that can gv to her as she need it... and if her bikes parts i nid she next time can gv to mi... hmm not sure... but i dun hav a bike licence now... tot could pass but fail... y she keeping wan mi to gv her things... always say that she poor nid buy tis n tat... buy poor.. hai.. if she is my gf i dun mind gving her all i can but she keep demand me like what a bf should do.... she knows i nv use tat com.. and know im a nice guy... mayb i pamper her too much... but i feel very happy to meet up wif her or b wif her... wonder is she...
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Sorry 4 saying this guaiboy, but I think she's trying to use u. U seem 2 b a dependable and loving guy and I'm sure she noticed that. My guess is that she sees you as someone who will help her at all costs, and for one very simple reason : YOU LIKE HER.
It's really your decision to make, but if I were you I'ld probably stop treating her so nicely. Why don't you try asking her to help you for a change? See if she's willing. If she's not, well.....(I'm sure you can fill in the blank yourself)
Some pills are bitter to swallow, but when you do swallow them you'll feel much better...after a while that is. -
hmm... ya she mayb making use of me which i ask her before.. but she claims that she was'nt as she was being busy no time to help me sometimes... eg. recently I ask her help me buy med for my fish den say tat she mayb busy no time to buy got work till so late so on.. den wat if buy wrong med kill my fish how... but i tell her the disease of my fish. jus need tell to shop will do le.. but she insist of goin myself better... hmm.. if i ask her help too much she will think Im a guy.. y always need girls to do things 4 u or accompany u... like ger ger ah.. all tis... hai make me so confused.. but somethings she have help like goin to JB help me buy games or software.. jus tat seldom i need help from her... y girls so cruel... think abt themself only... what abt my feeling...Originally posted by ramblingjoe:Sorry 4 saying this guaiboy, but I think she's trying to use u. U seem 2 b a dependable and loving guy and I'm sure she noticed that. My guess is that she sees you as someone who will help her at all costs, and for one very simple reason : YOU LIKE HER.
It's really your decision to make, but if I were you I'ld probably stop treating her so nicely. Why don't you try asking her to help you for a change? See if she's willing. If she's not, well.....(I'm sure you can fill in the blank yourself)
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i might not be ur cup of tea...
but i can be ur plate of pork -
easy as abc..
you tell her "you are not my cup of tea as i prefer coffee." -
That just means you're one girl closer to your future wife!
I'm serious.
Don't worry about it just most on. There's no point of pinning for someone who don't have the 'eyes' or the 'heart' to see the true you. Unless you're the biggest jerk in the world of cos. -
You think girls are cruel? I think you're even more cruel to yourself... Despite the fact that you know she's probably just making use of you... Despite you know you shouldn't be doing so much... Despite she told you that you've got no chance... You still continue to deceive yourself...Originally posted by Guaiboy:hmm... ya she mayb making use of me which i ask her before.. but she claims that she was'nt as she was being busy no time to help me sometimes... eg. recently I ask her help me buy med for my fish den say tat she mayb busy no time to buy got work till so late so on.. den wat if buy wrong med kill my fish how... but i tell her the disease of my fish. jus need tell to shop will do le.. but she insist of goin myself better... hmm.. if i ask her help too much she will think Im a guy.. y always need girls to do things 4 u or accompany u... like ger ger ah.. all tis... hai make me so confused.. but somethings she have help like goin to JB help me buy games or software.. jus tat seldom i need help from her... y girls so cruel... think abt themself only... what abt my feeling...
Stop being a fool. Like you've said, normal friends don't have to do things to that extent. And while you're doing them, don't ask why... Because you're the one who choose to continue with your foolish acts....
Your feelings is what you tend to yourself. If you would rather let this woman run all heads in your mind despite the facts... Spending so much time taking care of her... Who's gonna take care of yourself..? -
if i leave her i think she will felt that no one will help her in so many things le.... wonder i done so much y still cant move her wif sincerity.... another is shall i be her friend who always help when in need that 1 day she knows that actually I am the one waitting for her who love her a lot...I was thinking girls dun like guys to love them or dote on them meh ? i jus feel very happy being wif her which I can do whatever she ask for... hai.. think I should start to say No le...Originally posted by Devil1976:You think girls are cruel? I think you're even more cruel to yourself... Despite the fact that you know she's probably just making use of you... Despite you know you shouldn't be doing so much... Despite she told you that you've got no chance... You still continue to deceive yourself...
Stop being a fool. Like you've said, normal friends don't have to do things to that extent. And while you're doing them, don't ask why... Because you're the one who choose to continue with your foolish acts....
Your feelings is what you tend to yourself. If you would rather let this woman run all heads in your mind despite the facts... Spending so much time taking care of her... Who's gonna take care of yourself..? -
Well, yes you might move her, but chances are you are NOT GOING TO. Pal, she already knows you love her a lot, otherwise why would you put up with all her requests for help!Originally posted by Guaiboy:if i leave her i think she will felt that no one will help her in so many things le.... wonder i done so much y still cant move her wif sincerity.... another is shall i be her friend who always help when in need that 1 day she knows that actually I am the one waitting for her who love her a lot...I was thinking girls dun like guys to love them or dote on them meh ? i jus feel very happy being wif her which I can do whatever she ask for... hai.. think I should start to say No le...
Don't just think that you should say no. Do it! I guarantee she'll b very surprised when u say no to her at first, she may ask things like "But don't you like me?" and all dat crap. I suggest you reply "No XXX, I don't like you. I once did, but obviously you didn't appreciate me."
Wake up and smell the coffee pal. You deserve someone who will appreciate you more. I really mean it. -
If u can,change urself to make her like u.
But in the long run,if ur change is just temporary,things wun work out the way u want them to.
So just be urself and if she doesnt like the way u are,just forget her and wait patiently for a girl who will like u for what u are. -
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read David DeAngelo, guys... but use your own discretion. David teaches guys to be jerks. but overall, i think he got a few pointers why girls feel attraction for some guys and not for others.
honestly, if you guys wanna chase a girl, the least you can do is to give her space. maybe it's just me, i don't know. but i sure do love my personal private precious space. ;p -
I think she already knows that you love her alot...?Originally posted by Guaiboy:if i leave her i think she will felt that no one will help her in so many things le.... wonder i done so much y still cant move her wif sincerity.... another is shall i be her friend who always help when in need that 1 day she knows that actually I am the one waitting for her who love her a lot...I was thinking girls dun like guys to love them or dote on them meh ? i jus feel very happy being wif her which I can do whatever she ask for... hai.. think I should start to say No le...
By the way, sincerity doesn't move everything... If she doesn't love you, accept it or not... She still doesn't love you...
And... Since it's really your life... You can do whatever you want with it... Another thing? Since it's YOUR CHOICE to do those stupid things, quit complaining yeah?