what do men want...
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Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship
by Bonnie Yuill
Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more in a relationship than an attractive women who will cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every once in a while. What he really needs is your admiration.
He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!
He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.
He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.
For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he feels as though he is in charge – he is once again someone's knight in shining armour.
If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)
Sex makes him feel loved
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you.
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women
You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do better – he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you.
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children?
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As long as the sex is active...men will be happy!
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Sounds like men are from mars, women are from venus.
sex = love?
So can i conclude that men love with their lower body and not their heart? -
Yoz...
Sex = Love...
True for the time a man takes to finish in bed...
Men are still capable of loving a woman like a woman...n yearn to be loved juz like the other gender...there is no diff...men are still emotional creatures...
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Not completely correct.Originally posted by ChristinaTeh:As long as the sex is active...men will be happy! -
Possbile conclusion? but again, not all men thinks the same. They evolve thru experience.Originally posted by browniebaobao:Sounds like men are from mars, women are from venus.
sex = love?
So can i conclude that men love with their lower body and not their heart?
Sex = emotions hence inspires Love within them.
When there's fufilment in all aspects in a r/s. They'll naturally feel loved, in a way or another. -
Well, at least the men I met with tells me so. They're just neglected when sex is concerned and that is one of the main catalyst of straying.Originally posted by M©+square:Not completely correct. -
all I can say is most men become irrational when it comes to opposite sex
thus they let their lower body do the thinking
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yuck! no.Originally posted by SnowFlag:children?
we often have that just to make the woman happy. -
Men are simple.
We just want yummy food on the table,
sex,
peace from nagging
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That's how i feel abt men too.. Even for women.. But of cos, the love must exist. Otherwise, will just feel empty deep down.Originally posted by M©+square:When there's fufilment in all aspects in a r/s. They'll naturally feel loved, in a way or another.
In the path to fulfilling all aspects, it's no easy task. Compromise, communication and consideration.
For men in this forum, any comments on what men really want in a r'ship? -
They want women to mother them
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Not true. If a guy marrried a gal who isn't the gal he love, the guy will be unhappy too.Originally posted by ChristinaTeh:As long as the sex is active...men will be happy! -
You're partially right also...but y would one wanna marry someone he/she don't like? Unless it's arranged by parents....Originally posted by SnowFlag:Not true. If a guy marrried a gal who isn't the gal he love, the guy will be unhappy too. -
Love & Sex.....Sex improves Love...
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Wow..
i`m rather impressed by the post
to a certain extend
i feel that it holds a substential amount of truths
guys and gals all need love and attention from the other part
i`ll give the post a 9.9/10
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to a certain extent... i agree wif the post... i agree almost everything....
maybe is cos as i was reading, i think of how my bf actually keeps me happy n such. how he "saved" me from writng mistakes in my CV. how he really took care of me when i was sick n down.
i'll give it 9.9/10
dat 0.1 is abt sex lah... haha~ -
Ah.. So you are into Oedipous Complex!Originally posted by gerrykoh:They want women to mother them -
Perhaps it has become a habit already. Since both are together for few years, eventually marriage falls into place. Isn't that quite commonly seen in S'pore context? Very sadly, divorce rate is increasing. And that probably explains the wrong decision made.Originally posted by dcx:You're partially right also...but y would one wanna marry someone he/she don't like? Unless it's arranged by parents.... -
But some ppl marry becoz at that time they're real good...but as time goes by, perphaps both are rather used to seeing each other everyday n has nothing to tok abt...no more excitements before...Originally posted by icepole:Perhaps it has become a habit already. Since both are together for few years, eventually marriage falls into place. Isn't that quite commonly seen in S'pore context? Very sadly, divorce rate is increasing. And that probably explains the wrong decision made.
As a result, the guy might know a girl in a pub or elsewhere n everything's fresh again between the guy n the newly known girl..as for the wife, vice-versa...not apply to all cases, but some of them onli.
I do know that there're also cases whereby the couple onli got to know each other than less than a year n got married....better???? -
Unless you know all the men in the world. Otherwise your statement wouldn't stand.Originally posted by ChristinaTeh:Well, at least the men I met with tells me so. They're just neglected when sex is concerned and that is one of the main catalyst of straying.
Keep to the whole issue rather than hitting on sex. -
The topic is the answer.......in summerised form.Originally posted by icepole:That's how i feel abt men too.. Even for women.. But of cos, the love must exist. Otherwise, will just feel empty deep down.
In the path to fulfilling all aspects, it's no easy task. Compromise, communication and consideration.
For men in this forum, :::any comments on what men really want in a r'ship?::: -
...MC2, you're indeed a wise one....Originally posted by M©+square:Unless you know all the men in the world. Otherwise your statement wouldn't stand.
Keep to the whole issue rather than hitting on sex.
OKies... apart from sex,
1. no nagging
2. i can go out with my friends for a drink any time
3. i can watch football/TV all day/anytime.
4. i can tinker with my new car/Harley all day
5. no housework
5. when i get home.... well, i'll leave that out..else MC2 will tell me off again.. -
Efforts are required from both parties. If r'ship gets stagnant, do something about it. Create the sparks again. If there is a conflict, resolve it. There's no perfect person or perfect love. However, perfect the imperfections.Originally posted by dcx:But some ppl marry becoz at that time they're real good...but as time goes by, perphaps both are rather used to seeing each other everyday n has nothing to tok abt...no more excitements before...
As a result, the guy might know a girl in a pub or elsewhere n everything's fresh again between the guy n the newly known girl..as for the wife, vice-versa...not apply to all cases, but some of them onli.
I do know that there're also cases whereby the couple onli got to know each other than less than a year n got married....better????
Temptations are everywhere. If one is contented, he/she should not stray. Temptations are only short term excitements as it will fade away.
At the end of the day, I feel it takes 2 to make a r'ship works.