6 yrs difference in a relationship.
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"Nian ling bu shi wen ti, gao ai bu shi ju li" >> Age is not problem, height is not distance<<Originally posted by lord54:hi all,
thks for all the above comment. those comments really sent me thinking alot abt our relationship. i feel that other than her age, all her other attributes is good to my standard. i want to give it my best as i dun want to regret for life. will make her family feel that i am worthy of their daughter.
i believe that "love is not given, u had to earn it".
by the way, i got a fren who married her bf last yr. She 32, he 26...
Evident of possible marriage of your kind. All the best!!
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well friend, no one can totally guess what the other party wants. And her thinking might be slightly different from urs as both of u have reached different phases of life, and probably aimin for different goals and have different concerns. But as long u like her, who cares. If both of you are willing to work on teh differences, i dun see any problems in it. For your part, u must understand, she have different needs, interests and concerns than urs. what u are willing to give up for her doesnt mean she can do the same. I guess its up to a sound mind vs heart and feelins in the end. Follow what u think is right ba. ^ ^Originally posted by lord54:hi,
now trying whatever i can to get her back. can someone give some opinions or suggestion pls?thks.
Frm her, i realise that i am not a good guy. i dun know how to treat a gal well, dun know what she really want. and many more things.
done lots of soul searching these few days. it is true that there are really a lot better gals out there but she is the only one special in this world. there will never be another her ever again...
now wat i can is to let my action speak for it.
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He / she has got his / her points too... No doubt sometimes love is 'GREAT'... Enough to make you blind....Originally posted by mach10:Hey i tink you are getting shortsighted here...
True love does conquers all. If Obstacles are "too great"... That means there isn't any real genuine love.
If obstacles are "too great" to you, den i tink you are not ready for anything, less say relationship and marriage.
Say... you're contradicting yourself by adding in the last sentence.
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hi all,
well i am doing wat i can do. i feel that i am alone in this fight..... feel so lonely. she say that her heart is closed and will never open again...told me to carry on with life and just treat as normal frds frm now on. those words had left a scar in me. those words kept repeating in my mind all the time.
tried to do wat i can, she was not very happy abt it. avoiding me even more. tried to talk to her but her ans were normally shorter than ever and can see that she treat others is different. no longer see the smile on her face anymore when i am talking to her. She seems to be entertaining me for the sake of entertaining.
my mood had dropped to a very low pt today...even my supervisor knows abt this and told me just forget abt it and just let it go...frds told me to give up and find others and forget abt her... how i wish i could do that.
talking abt forgetting is easy but doing it was not so easy as it seems....
those who been thru this knows how it feels. everyday had to look like nothing had happened which in fact deep inside is feeling very down...
feel so tired for this few days...
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So since you already know what's in for you... Accepting the facts or not is just a matter of fancy...Originally posted by lord54:hi all,
well i am doing wat i can do. i feel that i am alone in this fight..... feel so lonely. she say that her heart is closed and will never open again...told me to carry on with life and just treat as normal frds frm now on. those words had left a scar in me. those words kept repeating in my mind all the time.
tried to do wat i can, she was not very happy abt it. avoiding me even more. tried to talk to her but her ans were normally shorter than ever and can see that she treat others is different. no longer see the smile on her face anymore when i am talking to her. She seems to be entertaining me for the sake of entertaining.
my mood had dropped to a very low pt today...even my supervisor knows abt this and told me just forget abt it and just let it go...frds told me to give up and find others and forget abt her... how i wish i could do that.
talking abt forgetting is easy but doing it was not so easy as it seems....
those who been thru this knows how it feels. everyday had to look like nothing had happened which in fact deep inside is feeling very down...
feel so tired for this few days...
feeling very very tired.....
Personal advice is just accept the rejection and move on... Further doings at the way you're handing things probably would only cause more irritations on her side..... -
There are lots of divorce cases nowadays. Is age difference the reason? Not necessarily so. What are her parents worries? A relationship with a view to marriage is not just between the 2 of you. It is important to get the blessings of parents. Talk to them!!!
But firstly you have to consider if you really dont mind the age gap. being 25 and 31 is very different from 35 to 41 and 45 to 51 for that matter.