back off or stay on??
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im interested in this guy but he's a workaholic..... i tried aaskin him wat if i were to be interested in u but his reactions were kinda neutral..... we chat frequently via msn..... now da problem is whether i shld ask him if he's interested too..... cos his 1st priority seems to be work.......
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Are u sure u want to get involved with a workaholic?
He won't have time for u unless u get a job in his company! -
dats y..... i've been thinking abt this for days already..... really dunno wat to do...... can ani1 gimme some advice???
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From my point of view... from wat u've described so far, I dun think he's interested. He's only treating u as friend. Well.... itz a start.
Prehaps b4 I concluded tat to u, u might wan to tell me watz he's like?? Wat u like about him, or rather, wat attracts him to u? Bcos he's a workaholic?Originally posted by VyVy:im interested in this guy but he's a workaholic..... i tried aaskin him wat if i were to be interested in u but his reactions were kinda neutral..... we chat frequently via msn..... now da problem is whether i shld ask him if he's interested too..... cos his 1st priority seems to be work....... -
im attracted by his charisma..... n anw if he isnt interested one bit.... would he gimme kisses on msn after i asked wat if i am interested in him???Originally posted by Boo777:From my point of view... from wat u've described so far, I dun think he's interested. He's only treating u as friend. Well.... itz a start.
Prehaps b4 I concluded tat to u, u might wan to tell me watz he's like?? Wat u like about him, or rather, wat attracts him to u? Bcos he's a workaholic?
of cos im not attracted to him bcos he's a workaholic..... i wish he isnt man..... from da v beginning i knew him he's already lidat....
n da fact dat he's going overseas for a few mths reali troubles me.....
i reali wish to noe if he's interested as well but i reali fear rejection.... -
i think he is not very interested.
or else he would have taken some actions.
but no harm dropping more hints.
i think it is important that u do not go up to him and tell him openly only to have him reject u. That will be embarassing for both parties and u may lose him as a friend. -
dat is wat im afraid of exactly..... but how do get my ans w/o changing anything....
when i asked him wat if im interested....
he asked mi wat do i c in him n if im da right guy for him.....
wat does this means???
ytd he told me he was rushing thru his work so he could meet up with mi today.... he was in da office till 4am....
he din manage to finish so he couldnt meet me..... he apologised profusely n although im quite upset..... i told him its ok.....
now this is wat reali bothers me.....
if we were to be together...
he wun be able to meet me last min all da time cos of his work.....
n at da same time..... im reali attracted by him.....
this is co contradicting man..... -
What is it about him that made you interested in him anyway?Originally posted by VyVy:dat is wat im afraid of exactly..... but how do get my ans w/o changing anything....
when i asked him wat if im interested....
he asked mi wat do i c in him n if im da right guy for him.....
wat does this means???
ytd he told me he was rushing thru his work so he could meet up with mi today.... he was in da office till 4am....
he din manage to finish so he couldnt meet me..... he apologised profusely n although im quite upset..... i told him its ok.....
now this is wat reali bothers me.....
if we were to be together...
he wun be able to meet me last min all da time cos of his work.....
n at da same time..... im reali attracted by him.....
this is co contradicting man.....
Hmm...VyVy...this nick is really familiar to me, hopefully you are not someone I know.
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told u...... his charisma...... his character........
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you really don't know enough about him yet... find out more before you build yourself a fantasy... be careful of men like this.. They are usually married to their work and you will always be 2nd class to him
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It's not wise to love a guy like that.. If you have to accept someone, you'll probably accept him as a WHOLE. By the way, nobody's perfect.Originally posted by VyVy:im attracted by his charisma..... n anw if he isnt interested one bit.... would he gimme kisses on msn after i asked wat if i am interested in him???
of cos im not attracted to him bcos he's a workaholic..... i wish he isnt man..... from da v beginning i knew him he's already lidat....
n da fact dat he's going overseas for a few mths reali troubles me.....
i reali wish to noe if he's interested as well but i reali fear rejection....
If you go into a relationship knowing you probably can't accept things, you're already fighting a losing battle... -
x2. will suggest u give up, as u r not sure if he like u or jus as friend. or can he be committed to a r/s.Originally posted by Devil1976:It's not wise to love a guy like that.. If you have to accept someone, you'll probably accept him as a WHOLE. By the way, nobody's perfect.
If you go into a relationship knowing you probably can't accept things, you're already fighting a losing battle...
u will be havin a hard time if u reali start 1 wif him. -
I dun mean to flame but.... here goes.
He's not confident. Yeap. He also wan to make sure of something, will this relationship last? For now, he's treating u as only a friend.... nothing more. He also ask u this becos he doesnt wan u to regret ur choice. It also meant he never tot of going into a relationship b4 with u, so, he asked, straight to the point.Originally posted by VyVy:dat is wat im afraid of exactly..... but how do get my ans w/o changing anything....
when i asked him wat if im interested....
he asked mi wat do i c in him n if im da right guy for him.....
wat does this means???
But dun take my word for it, I only judge from wat u wrote, the situation might be different. By the way, did he gave u any "hints"??
If I can't make it to a meeting at the last minute, I also apologise profusely to the person I'm meeting, no special meaning there. U can't expect him to DEMAND cancelling the meeting bcos he say he feel like it. Tatz very rude leh, no way I'm toking to my friends like tat wat, obviously.Originally posted by VyVy:ytd he told me he was rushing thru his work so he could meet up with mi today.... he was in da office till 4am....
he din manage to finish so he couldnt meet me..... he apologised profusely n although im quite upset..... i told him its ok.....
This I dunno how to advise u. Mayb u need to ask the more experienced gals here. I'm a newbie in relationships too, so cant suggest much.Originally posted by VyVy:now this is wat reali bothers me.....
if we were to be together...
he wun be able to meet me last min all da time cos of his work.....
n at da same time..... im reali attracted by him.....
this is co contradicting man..... -
well.. he's a workaholic.. if you really want to be with him.. then make sure you are able to take it.. that he might not have much time for you.. Maybe at first you would say you don't mind.. but think about.. if this continue for long.. are you sure you can really take it??? Can you really accpet the fact that he puts his career first rather than you??Originally posted by VyVy:im interested in this guy but he's a workaholic..... i tried aaskin him wat if i were to be interested in u but his reactions were kinda neutral..... we chat frequently via msn..... now da problem is whether i shld ask him if he's interested too..... cos his 1st priority seems to be work.......
But bear this in mind that many couples always started quarelling becos the other party din spend time with you.. And they always forget that you accepted him in the first place.. and you know from the start he is like this.. So don't blame or grumble at him for not spending enough time with you..
I dunno you know him for how long.. but i suggest that you really think and consider.. there's no need to rush into a relationship.. Be friends and understand him more...
Cheers..
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u know what is flirting? Especially when it's virtual..no need to be responsible..Originally posted by VyVy:im attracted by his charisma..... n anw if he isnt interested one bit.... would he gimme kisses on msn after i asked wat if i am interested in him???
of cos im not attracted to him bcos he's a workaholic..... i wish he isnt man..... from da v beginning i knew him he's already lidat....
n da fact dat he's going overseas for a few mths reali troubles me.....
i reali wish to noe if he's interested as well but i reali fear rejection.... -
Look...when you dun ask, you're stuck in this kinda situation (For being afraid of rejection).
Well...i believe this thing has been troubling you for quite a while liao...at least one month??? Nvm..let say one day.
How much time does it take for you to ask him whether if he's interested in you??? maximum i give you, 5mins.....5mins is all you need to go thru...
5mins, 1day...which one you prefer??
If i'll you, i'll juz him....if he's interested in me, oh..great...romance..if not, forget it...look for others....at least you won't be sufferring like what you're sufferring now....
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but if i were to ask n he were to say no..... things would not be da same like b4...... dats wat i dun1......Originally posted by dcx:Look...when you dun ask, you're stuck in this kinda situation (For being afraid of rejection).
Well...i believe this thing has been troubling you for quite a while liao...at least one month??? Nvm..let say one day.
How much time does it take for you to ask him whether if he's interested in you??? maximum i give you, 5mins.....5mins is all you need to go thru...
5mins, 1day...which one you prefer??
If i'll you, i'll juz him....if he's interested in me, oh..great...romance..if not, forget it...look for others....at least you won't be sufferring like what you're sufferring now.... -
but if a person were to tell u she's interested but u arent..... will u still chat wit her this way??? to lead her on???Originally posted by browniebaobao:u know what is flirting? Especially when it's virtual..no need to be responsible.. -
Forget about this chap.... it seems like he cant be bothered about other matters.
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Originally posted by VyVy:but if a person were to tell u she's interested but u arent..... will u still chat wit her this way??? to lead her on???
why not? men are afterall, men..
If he juz wants to flirt around, he won't think so much. -
so wat now??? i should jus forget abt him???? but things wun be da same same now wat.....
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U duno wat u wan n you wan others to decide for you? Ask you go ask but you dun wan coz things'll not be the same again...so....what you want? U also dunno...Originally posted by VyVy:so wat now??? i should jus forget abt him???? but things wun be da same same now wat..... -
of cos i wld wana noe if he's interested but things wun be da same if i asked rite??? so i shld jus shut up i guess..... no pt guessing ard ya????? anw thanks ppl....... for all ur advices.....
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walk one step look one step....Originally posted by VyVy:of cos i wld wana noe if he's interested but things wun be da same if i asked rite??? so i shld jus shut up i guess..... no pt guessing ard ya????? anw thanks ppl....... for all ur advices..... -
My ex used to be a workaholic. And he broke with me oso partially because of this reason. He said he wanted to commit to his career first and his work, so he wun be able to commit to me.
After I heard that, I broke up with him the next day.
It is up to you how much you can tolerate a man who won't be able to spend much time with you, and whenever you ask him why, he will say he has a lot of work to do.
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