back off or stay on??
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i see evry one's fore leaving the guy.... but just a piece of my thoughts ... the guy had alot of free time before when u were not interested or probably had not even known him yet! now he realised that he shouldnt waste his Time and decided to focus on his carreer... but that doesnt mean he is not interested in a relationship .... and he may be busy and too involved in his work now.. but that doesnt mean he will be forever or if he gets into a relationship .... I think the most important is not whether he is workaholic but whether he likes you anot? I think we all are too focus on that (workaholic ) rather then he's feelings.... ( his feelings is wat it the most important ) you must find out or make him love you den you wont have problems le
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dats da qn i dare not ask him...... he's always so busy...... dun u think its abit stupid to ask this qn when he'k like busy at work???
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WAit till when he have the time to spend with you then pop the question. Otherwise, save it for a better day. Remember, guys are best at single-operation gear.Originally posted by VyVy:dats da qn i dare not ask him...... he's always so busy...... dun u think its abit stupid to ask this qn when he'k like busy at work???
Let him concentrate on what he's doing first, he'll appreciate your understanding.
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You can pop the qns and leave it to him to reply at anytime he wants.
The question then is would you like to wait?
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It's very likely that he isn't aware of your affection for him rather than playing dumb, considering your claim that he's a workaholic.
Drop him subtle hints and gauge his reactions towards those signs. If they're favourable, proceed onwards. If not, try something different.
The best thing you can do now is to find out his goals in Life. If marriage/a relationship are on the cards, then it's possible that you will see another side of him besides the workaholic one, after the two of you are more familar with one another.
Cheers.
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i think ive dropped him some hints already lor..... i even ask him wat if im interested in u lehz..... not obvious enough meh??? i dunno if he's acting blur or he reali dunno lorz..... n its da 1st time im telling a guy this lor...... haiz.....
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Since you say he is a workaholic maybe he is trying to clear up whatever is in his hand currently before.....Originally posted by VyVy:i think ive dropped him some hints already lor..... i even ask him wat if im interested in u lehz..... not obvious enough meh??? i dunno if he's acting blur or he reali dunno lorz..... n its da 1st time im telling a guy this lor...... haiz.....
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Maybe he is not interested in you?Originally posted by VyVy:i think ive dropped him some hints already lor..... i even ask him wat if im interested in u lehz..... not obvious enough meh??? i dunno if he's acting blur or he reali dunno lorz..... n its da 1st time im telling a guy this lor...... haiz.....
Cos if he is, he would have already grabbed the opportunity to ask you to be his girlfriend. Guys uses terms like workaholic, busy and other excuses to politely rejects girls that they are not interested in. You know, when a guy is interested in you, no reason in this world can stop him from accepting you. Why is that so? Cos guys definitely would want to get physical with the girls that they are interested in...to the extend of dreaming about it.
One thing for sure, he's not interested to get physical with you. I hope he is not gay...*touch wood.
What obvious hints have you hinted to him? Maybe he wasn't paying attention to you during those times and he was probably thinking of other matters which is more important than the hints you are giving him? Some guys will think about work, but every guys will probably spent half the time during a day to think about girls...which is true to what I know of.
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things like i miss u??? maybe he's jus too busy?? or m i jus consoling myself??? cos he's lidat since day 1 i noe him..... n anw maybe he find mi too young for him??? cos he's 10 yr older than me???
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hate to disappoint u, but from wat u told us so far, i am pretty sure he is really NOT INTO u...
and guys yearn for things that they CANNOT get... so dun play the role of a pining little girl... be more suave abt this. If he doesnt reciprocate, stop contacting him and see how.
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ya i dun do that...... he's da 1 contacting me all da while sweetie......Originally posted by sweetie05:hate to disappoint u, but from wat u told us so far, i am pretty sure he is really NOT INTO u...
and guys yearn for things that they CANNOT get... so dun play the role of a pining little girl... be more suave abt this. If he doesnt reciprocate, stop contacting him and see how.
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Bill Poke Poke VyVy on the face to cheer her up....Originally posted by VyVy:ya i dun do that...... he's da 1 contacting me all da while sweetie...... -
haha..... im not upset ok...... cos my feelings for him isnt dat deep yet??Originally posted by Bill Gate:Bill Poke Poke VyVy on the face to cheer her up.... -
Yea, after reading wat everybodi wrote, i tink i've a conclusion for u. I myself m a workaholic, tink frm my pt of view, e guy jus need a companion rather than a gf. He needs sum1 2 share e stress n workload tat he's facing. Dun mean 2 be a wet blanket, but if he's realli interested in you, no matter hw busy he is, he will still wan 2 meet you. Its always an easy xcuse 2 say tat we r busy at work, cause work will never end. Dun tell me he got time 2 talk 2 u on msn, dun hv time 2 meet u. ITS BULLSHIT. A solution is stp guessing, ask him straight, there r onli 2 outcum, either its gd or bad. If its nt e ans u wan 2 hear, then 4get it, no pt waiting. Hope u will get ur ans sn. CHEERS
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Originally posted by Godsent:
this is very true. It is the exact word my ex told me when I asked him where he wants to relationship to go. I guess he just wants a "friend" without commitment, if you know what I mean. Sort of like someone he can hang out with when he has a bit of free time, but he doesn't want to commit because he has other goals he want to pursue at this particular point.
Yea, after reading wat everybodi wrote, i tink i've a conclusion for u. I myself m a workaholic, tink frm my pt of view, e guy jus need a companion rather than a gf. He needs sum1 2 share e stress n workload tat he's facing. Dun mean 2 be a wet blanket, but if he's realli interested in you, no matter hw busy he is, he will still wan 2 meet you. Its always an easy xcuse 2 say tat we r busy at work, cause work will never end. Dun tell me he got time 2 talk 2 u on msn, dun hv time 2 meet u. ITS BULLSHIT. A solution is stp guessing, ask him straight, there r onli 2 outcum, either its gd or bad. If its nt e ans u wan 2 hear, then 4get it, no pt waiting. Hope u will get ur ans sn. CHEERS
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agree. he is always the one contacting u, but won't commit to a rship. i think he is finding joy in leading u on. Dun fall into his trap.Originally posted by Godsent:Yea, after reading wat everybodi wrote, i tink i've a conclusion for u. I myself m a workaholic, tink frm my pt of view, e guy jus need a companion rather than a gf. He needs sum1 2 share e stress n workload tat he's facing. Dun mean 2 be a wet blanket, but if he's realli interested in you, no matter hw busy he is, he will still wan 2 meet you. Its always an easy xcuse 2 say tat we r busy at work, cause work will never end. Dun tell me he got time 2 talk 2 u on msn, dun hv time 2 meet u. ITS BULLSHIT. A solution is stp guessing, ask him straight, there r onli 2 outcum, either its gd or bad. If its nt e ans u wan 2 hear, then 4get it, no pt waiting. Hope u will get ur ans sn. CHEERS
either u play his game -- play hard to get, be aloof, juz like he is (in this case, it is more of a test or revenge); or quit the game -- tell him that if he is not interested in a real rship, then stop calling u.
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yea thanks ppl...... reali appriciate all ur advices......
