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so wat is ur opinion for this case?
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I think the first thing you should do is find out whether or not she REALLY has a bf. You could try asking her close friends or something. If she does, then back off. If she doesn't then well,Originally posted by soulness:so wat is ur opinion for this case?
you're free to chase her, but if she starts avoiding you it might be a sign that you should tone it down a little. -
Look, man, in your initial post you said that she already had a boyfriend. Let me quote from it:Originally posted by soulness:u guys are against it becoz of the 3rd party issue
but if i tell u that i actually not sure that if she had a bf right now or not, would this change how u guys look at it?
in fact, i never really asked her whether she is attached or not. i only remember seeing her with a guy before. that was like half a year ago, besides she seem to behave like she is single
ie; sometimes we tease her saying she going dating with bf, she will reply saying "no lar, just normal friend" etcthis girl i like already got a bf.
So we gave suitable advice accordingly.
Now you tell us that you're not sure whether she has a bf. To be brutally frank with you, you can't really expect others to help you when you keep flip-flopping on your facts. Be perfectly straight with us, and we'll do our best to help.
That said, just go and ask her once and for all whether or not she's attached.
If she's not attached, then there's no issue. You can happily chase her all you want, and we can close this thread for good.
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sorry guys, but when i said she got a bf..i was assuming the worst possible scenario for myself.
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With or without a bf, her reactions to you certainly don't look good at all.Originally posted by soulness:sorry guys, but when i said she got a bf..i was assuming the worst possible scenario for myself.
Besides.. You can be quite indecisive and probably harbour a rather negative outlook in life too. It's not easy to get a girl to like you on the basis of that. Especially one who's avoiding you... -
Dear Soulness,
Ask urself: If u haf a gf, wld u like her to give a chance to a guy who's pursuing her relentlessly? NO, rite? U wld wan her to remain 100% committed to u, correct?
This is wat this girl is doing, & it's the right thg to do. She's probably happee in her r'ship, & if u love her, u wld wish her well. Wat for try to come between her & her bf?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by soulness:this girl i like already got a bf. i know her for a long time already. we are actually once very close friends. when i realised that i liked her, i began aggresively woo her by asking her out for makan, movie, play etc.
but recently she i feel that she is avoiding me leh.
why is she behaving like that? does that means game over for me already?
the problem here is that i havent even confess to her. its just like losing the competition before it even started. so sad
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Then get ur facts straight before posting & asking for our advice, there're genuine cases who give us the full facts so tt we can advise them properly & Not waste ev. body's time.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by soulness:sorry guys, but when i said she got a bf..i was assuming the worst possible scenario for myself. -
My opinion 2 ur question, is make her fall 4 u, but dun make urself sink 2 deep into tis affair. I tink u knw wat 2 do, but always remember tis, Gals dun like guys 2 try 2 hard. It will onli irritate them more. CHEERZ
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looks like u harbour a more negative outlook towards life..Originally posted by Devil1976:With or without a bf, her reactions to you certainly don't look good at all.
Besides.. You can be quite indecisive and probably harbour a rather negative outlook in life too. It's not easy to get a girl to like you on the basis of that. Especially one who's avoiding you...
anyway, from ur post u sound like asking me to dont ever go near her again
remember that i know her for a long time already and we are vrey close..
if i dont talk to her anymore, it will make matter worst(even if i dont get to be with her, i dont wish to lose her as a FRIEND)
i can easily back out, but of all posts i read, urs give zero substance but lotsa sarcasm
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if i find it easy to get the girl i like, do u think i be wasting my time here reading ur post with lotsa sarcasm and sh*t?Originally posted by Devil1976:With or without a bf, her reactions to you certainly don't look good at all.
Besides.. You can be quite indecisive and probably harbour a rather negative outlook in life too. It's not easy to get a girl to like you on the basis of that. Especially one who's avoiding you...
i needed help, that is why i am here. i thought that is wat this forum is all about?
perhaps u dont like me to post in ur forums? just tell me directly, im fine with that.
its at least better than enduring all ur unhelpful and unfriendly remarks -
How can you say you are her close friend when you do not know if she has a boyfriend
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Originally posted by soulness:this girl i like already got a bf. i know her for a long time already. we are actually once very close friends. when i realised that i liked her, i began aggresively woo her by asking her out for makan, movie, play etc.
but recently she i feel that she is avoiding me leh.
why is she behaving like that? does that means game over for me already?
the problem here is that i havent even confess to her. its just like losing the competition before it even started. so sad
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Think, if you were once, close friends, you should still b able to find out from her if she have a bf.
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not say downgrade lar..
but i seriously dont htink there is any everlasting close friendship
as time passed, naturally will drifted apart mah..i think that is normal
anyway, i can ask her directly...and i will ask ehhee -
soulness come on. she dun likes u. and avoiding is a way of expressions.
me also avoid some gers becoz i dun like them.
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its really sad if i gonna lose a friend like her becos of this
maybe after a while, she will be back to her normal self if i stop all my wooing -
Originally posted by soulness:looks like u harbour a more negative outlook towards life..
anyway, from ur post u sound like asking me to dont ever go near her again
remember that i know her for a long time already and we are vrey close..
if i dont talk to her anymore, it will make matter worst(even if i dont get to be with her, i dont wish to lose her as a FRIEND)
i can easily back out, but of all posts i read, urs give zero substance but lotsa sarcasm
sorry to be so frank. just my humble point of view
I have nothing against you posting in AA. By the way, this is not my forum. I'm just a co-moderator in here.Originally posted by soulness:if i find it easy to get the girl i like, do u think i be wasting my time here reading ur post with lotsa sarcasm and sh*t?
i needed help, that is why i am here. i thought that is wat this forum is all about?
perhaps u dont like me to post in ur forums? just tell me directly, im fine with that.
its at least better than enduring all ur unhelpful and unfriendly remarks
-edited- (this is the part I initially posted for you, but edited off after I thought of saving you the sarcasm and sh*t)
By the way, since you've already posted this here, you don't have to PM me.
I'm not angry with you.
Finally. Just want you to know that if you've really got what you need from this forum if you insist on your stands, it probably won't be 'help' you're receiving....
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Goddammit .. u r jus like me .. liked my close fren .. in the end avoid like fark .. nv confess to her oso .. cos i don wan to stain the frenship .. but i jus it cant be helped .. my actions r far too obvious tat i like her .. so our frenship got stained no matter what .. she used to come movies with me .. but now .. asking her out is like talking to a tree .. all the excuses will come .. so much to a point tat i couldnt take it n told her i like her .. y .. cos i feel tat it doesnt make a difference .. say or nv say oso the same .. haix .. sometimes i rather i had nv fall for her .. but .. so i haven been contacting her for 2 weeks .. she didnt initiate contact too .. .. my hp spoilt so lost her contact .. so i tried to hint her over msn n frenster to contact me .. but she didnt .. tats what pains me more cos she don mind discontinuing our frenship ... wat a mental toture ..
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if she is available, then u can try to woo her. but if u can try sound her out first weather u got chance or not first. she may treasure the friendship more then a relationship (like wat some guys do). so if she just wanna stay as friends, just stay as friends and wait till she wants to get attached then u can try ur luck again or at the same time look for other babe.
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sorry i had to quote on this, this is easier SAID than DONE. and it takes a lot out of the head. ur better off not thinking too much about u and her. my advice is dun give out ur heart on a silver platter. and ya... trying too hard? better not try at all if u dun want to get urself hurt. to quote from yoda: do or do not there is no try. in this case u shudn push it or ull ruin it.Originally posted by Godsent:My opinion 2 ur question, is make her fall 4 u, but dun make urself sink 2 deep into tis affair. I tink u knw wat 2 do, but always remember tis, Gals dun like guys 2 try 2 hard. It will onli irritate them more. CHEERZ