PLs advice i am at a lost
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Think abt it. Does she worth your sincerity??? Did she repent her mistake??? Your loved one should never hurt you if she has you in her heart. And not even to mention smsing you 'reporting' her story with the other chap.
Live for yourself, Ninestar. Yes, memories might flood back. Hurt may arise from within. You must understand one thing. You're left alone to lick your wound now. She's enjoying the best of both world. That shouldn't be the way in a r'ship, ain't it?
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Hi icepole,
I think this advice applies to me too.
Hi ninestar,
Its true, think abt it, is it fair? when a relationship fails, both parties are at fault in one way or another but in my opinion, must it end it in such way that she is enjoying while you have to recover from the wound caused by her? Friends can only comfort you, but the true fact is that time and more time is needed for you to build yourself up again by no one else but yourself.
I have been through this stage, icepole and the rest have given me alot of encouragement too, but who can heal my pain, anger, hatred and unfairness?
Me myself but of course, encouragement is important too to make you move on faster. Really hope that you can move out of the nightmare. I may be single now, but at least I know that I have love my ex before, treat her well, just cant afford enough time to spend with her but I kept telling myself, is this the way she should repay me? -
well,if she can do this to you now meaning that she might do something behind your back in future..so i think its better to let go and bless the both of them~ im sure you can someone else more worth than her thou~Originally posted by Ninestar:hi folks... last thursday i found out that my gf of 2 yrs is seeing a guy at her workplace for sometime. it happen when i was studying for my exams when they started going out. both of us are 24 this year. had plans to settle down. Met her on thursday night at her block downstairs. i waited for ard 1 hr b4 she came home on the bike the guy was riding. we sat down and talked. i ask her wat are her options. she say she has feelings for both of us and can only make a decision after her exams in march. the best part is she din tell the guy she is attached. as i didn't want it to drag on... we agreed upon being friends.but she did say that she enjoys being with the guy. as for me she din say anything. She goes out with the guy and she smses me to let me noe when she reach hme. I seriously donno wat i shld do? i kinda agreed to withdraw and gave my blessings to both of them. I seriously loved her and had talk about settling down with her. izzit because i am studying and the guy has a stable job? i really don't know but if its over, is she still considering starting over with me or just treating me as a friend. i don mind being friends. as love cannot be forced... been feeling kinda weird this few days. my friends and parents are kinda shocked to see me in this state. But for me life goes on... haizx
Pls Advice
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2 things.
1stly, I suggest u to move on. I dunno how come u can stomach the fact that your gf is 2 timing u... for all u know she might be having sex, kissing or engaging in heavy petting with the bike guy. possible? Well for me, I dun think I can stomach this thought.
2nd thing....
u trade share? cool..same here...
PM me for lobang if u have
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another IW. just like my ex. and when they wanna dump u for someone better they will come up with all sorts of excueses to make u feel bad.
to all the guys who kena this kind of gal, my advise is leave her asap and give another deserving gal the chance. even if she comes back to u this thing most likely will happen again.
some women are that scheming and shameless. PUI!
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Hi ptw,Originally posted by ptw:Hi icepole,
I think this advice applies to me too.
Hi ninestar,
Its true, think abt it, is it fair? when a relationship fails, both parties are at fault in one way or another but in my opinion, must it end it in such way that she is enjoying while you have to recover from the wound caused by her? Friends can only comfort you, but the true fact is that time and more time is needed for you to build yourself up again by no one else but yourself.
I have been through this stage, icepole and the rest have given me alot of encouragement too, but who can heal my pain, anger, hatred and unfairness?
Me myself but of course, encouragement is important too to make you move on faster. Really hope that you can move out of the nightmare. I may be single now, but at least I know that I have love my ex before, treat her well, just cant afford enough time to spend with her but I kept telling myself, is this the way she should repay me?
feeling much better now??? I do hope so as I believe you've got the power and strength to overcome the nightmare. -
Hi icepole,
I felt much better than last time, I am sure of that, time past fast, reaching 4 months after breakup with my ex. Its definite that she has drifted away from me day by day. Still think abt her at times,nothing much I can do but to encourage myself that the day wil come when I fell in love with another better girl. As what I have mention, this is fate that creates so many events in the r/s that make us part.
To ninestar, this couple of weeks, you will definitely feel hurt andyou will keep thinking ofthe sweet memories with her, thinking what have you done wrong that make you suffer like hell. Remember, a understanding girl wil never do things like this to you unles you have done something terribly wrong to her. -
Sigh~ Love is a powerful force that not everyone can take. Once you are devoted 2 a thing and yet ultimately have 2 miss, you will be terribly depress till mad.
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thks all for ur advice... i have moved on iwth my life, as for her... just let her do wat she wants. after her exam, when she makes her decision so be it.... to me i just take it as an obstacle and moved on.
Cheers!!!
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Congrats!!its good that you have decided to move on..although the road ahead is hard..but you can do it and live happily if you want to..good luck and take care!!
