what shd i do?
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mi and my gf have a lot of problem.......evertime a problem occurs she will want to break up with mi and whether it was my fault anot i will always be the one to ask for forgivness and beg to continue the r/s with mi..... but i think i m getting tired after all these years!!! should i just end the relationship? she has a lot of friends and there are always ppl accompany her......pls advise!
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frankly,if u keep persisting,both of u won't be happy...i can't see any happy ending in this...sorry dude...
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ya.....maybe u r rite.....we hv too many problem....she is too out-going while i m those nerd type.....maybe we shd end our r/s this way.....she always the 1st one to ask for a break up....i think i let her say out the words...this way she won't feel so hurt......Originally posted by Takumi2eLimit:frankly,if u keep persisting,both of u won't be happy...i can't see any happy ending in this...sorry dude... -
end this fast to shorten the pain...call her now n break with her...
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Seriously i see no point of you hanging on to this relationship.. since one is not willing to put in any single effort to keep it going.. Think about it this way.. if one girl were to keep saying she wants to break up each time you both quarrel.. This goes to show how keen she is in this relationship.. She can have or not to have.. since you mention that she has lots of friends out there to accompany her.. that even prove the point of having a relationship to her is nothing..Originally posted by man4nth:mi and my gf have a lot of problem.......evertime a problem occurs she will want to break up with mi and whether it was my fault anot i will always be the one to ask for forgivness and beg to continue the r/s with mi..... but i think i m getting tired after all these years!!! should i just end the relationship? she has a lot of friends and there are always ppl accompany her......pls advise!
Ending or not.. is up to you decision.. if you have already made up your mind then dun turn back.. Maybe this way.. you feel better and happier.. to jus let go.. Holding on to a relationship where you see no future.. pointless.. and jus for the sake of being together.. Do you think in the end you'll still happy??
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dont' wait till when you both quarrel or problems come then you ask for a break up.. whether is you or her.. who say it out first.. it will still be hurtful.. don't make it worse in such situation..Originally posted by man4nth:ya.....maybe u r rite.....we hv too many problem....she is too out-going while i m those nerd type.....maybe we shd end our r/s this way.....she always the 1st one to ask for a break up....i think i let her say out the words...this way she won't feel so hurt......
I rather you ask her out and tell her once and for all.. tell what's the main reason for breaking up.. at the very least.. you still can be friends.. don't end up like enemies.. -
we hv been together for quite some time and i do feel something for her...
i not sure how serious she is in this r/s but i know her friends are a bad influence to her cause she listen to her friends more than listen to mi.....even when we make love, she will ask her friend for advise..... i think i really nthing in her eyes........... -
Well.. She's jus not the one that suits you afterall.. If you feel that you are nothing to her not even a companion.. then no point staying on.. You have to understand that she put her friends in the first priority.. what ever she do.. she first thing tell her friends and not you.. Is there trust between you two.. IS there Communication breakdown.. YOu said her friends are a bad influence to her.. But does she realised that??Originally posted by man4nth:we hv been together for quite some time and i do feel something for her...
i not sure how serious she is in this r/s but i know her friends are a bad influence to her cause she listen to her friends more than listen to mi.....even when we make love, she will ask her friend for advise..... i think i really nthing in her eyes...........
How bad are her friends?? Why don't you try talking to her about all these?? Like wise you say you are an introvert.. and she's an extrovert.. Obviously she doesn't like to be tied down or control by someone.. she's too used to having freedom.. But you jus have to accept who she is.. are you able to take it in the end?? No.. you are defeated!
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i guess u r rite......i oso c no point carry on with the r/s.........Originally posted by SunRisE:Well.. She's jus not the one that suits you afterall.. If you feel that you are nothing to her not even a companion.. then no point staying on.. You have to understand that she put her friends in the first priority.. what ever she do.. she first thing tell her friends and not you.. Is there trust between you two.. IS there Communication breakdown.. YOu said her friends are a bad influence to her.. But does she realised that??
How bad are her friends?? Why don't you try talking to her about all these?? Like wise you say you are an introvert.. and she's an extrovert.. Obviously she doesn't like to be tied down or control by someone.. she's too used to having freedom.. But you jus have to accept who she is.. are you able to take it in the end?? No.. you are defeated!
Her outgoing personality makes you feel insecure.. makes you feel lost..
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lol...ur situation is same as me...i used to quarrel with my gf every now and then...everyday also got...then everytime nt my fault i always the one who give in and say sorry and did those ting...she like din give a damn...plus always she say wanna break is it when i diam diam din respond...i also dunno wat to do...
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Young girls are typically very dependent on their peers for approval and support. Especially when they're not mature or self-confident enough.Originally posted by man4nth:i not sure how serious she is in this r/s but i know her friends are a bad influence to her cause she listen to her friends more than listen to mi.....even when we make love, she will ask her friend for advise..... i think i really nthing in her eyes...........
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the fact is i m serious to her....I really dun wan to end it this way as we hv been together for many years..............Originally posted by $e@wEeD:lol...ur situation is same as me...i used to quarrel with my gf every now and then...everyday also got...then everytime nt my fault i always the one who give in and say sorry and did those ting...she like din give a damn...plus always she say wanna break is it when i diam diam din respond...i also dunno wat to do... -
well...she is not tat young! 26 this yrs................Originally posted by choco B:Young girls are typically very dependent on their peers for approval and support. Especially when they're not mature or self-confident enough. -
Do you see the problem?
Everytime there's a problem in the relationship, all she has to do is to say "hmm, you don't love me, lets break up." And you'll be like a lost puppy, going back to her for forgiveness, and letting her get away scott-free.
She's been spoilt throughout the years friend... why should she do anything, or ask opinions from you when she can just do what she wants in the relationship? She'll just threaten to break off with you, if you reject anything she says anyway.
There's no future for you in this r/s ... perhaps its time to give it up, or at least let her know that you will not spoil her anymore. Depending on how she'll react, she MAY stay with you still, but i think it would be rare...
Good Luck
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so u mean when she wan a break up i just say ok we break up????Originally posted by _Aaron_:Do you see the problem?
Everytime there's a problem in the relationship, all she has to do is to say "hmm, you don't love me, lets break up." And you'll be like a lost puppy, going back to her for forgiveness, and letting her get away scott-free.
She's been spoilt throughout the years friend... why should she do anything, or ask opinions from you when she can just do what she wants in the relationship? She'll just threaten to break off with you, if you reject anything she says anyway.
There's no future for you in this r/s ... perhaps its time to give it up, or at least let her know that you will not spoil her anymore. Depending on how she'll react, she MAY stay with you still, but i think it would be rare...
Good Luck
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Correction. Women with a youngish mindset?
Originally posted by man4nth:well...she is not tat young! 26 this yrs................ -
Yar. Be daring!
Originally posted by man4nth:so u mean when she wan a break up i just say ok we break up???? -
but we been together for quite some time....isn't it pity to break off just like tat??? i hv feeling for her...........
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Can you know the exact reason why she threaten to break up with you everytime? Is she trying to be the boss (take control) in this relationship or she is insecure or testing you?Originally posted by man4nth:mi and my gf have a lot of problem.......evertime a problem occurs she will want to break up with mi and whether it was my fault anot i will always be the one to ask for forgivness and beg to continue the r/s with mi
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Originally posted by man4nth:but we been together for quite some time....isn't it pity to break off just like tat??? i hv feeling for her...........
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hmm...she was the one who court mi in the 1st place before we really went into a relationship........later on i find out that she n i hv a lot of things in-common..............she started to kick a fuss.....asking for break up.......sometime i really do not undrestand her at all...Originally posted by pqr:Can you know the exact reason why she threaten to break up with you everytime? Is she trying to be the boss (take control) in this relationship or she is insecure or testing you?
Find out then i think you will know what is the next step
I getting very sick in this kind of r/s....
i think i know what to do next....
if she ever want a break up, i will say YES.............. -
hmm...she was the one who court mi in the 1st place before we really went into a relationship........later on i find out that she n i hv a lot of things in-common..............she started to kick a fuss.....asking for break up.......sometime i really do not undrestand her at all...Originally posted by pqr:Can you know the exact reason why she threaten to break up with you everytime? Is she trying to be the boss (take control) in this relationship or she is insecure or testing you?
Find out then i think you will know what is the next step
I getting very sick in this kind of r/s....
i think i know what to do next....
if she ever want a break up, i will say YES.............. -
i had the same prob last time... Make a plan to slowly get rid of all those ard them. Get some help frm the underworld, frame them & land them in jail. IN some cases, where u have no other choice, u may have to kill (remember those scenes frm hk dramas)...Originally posted by man4nth:mi and my gf have a lot of problem.......evertime a problem occurs she will want to break up with mi and whether it was my fault anot i will always be the one to ask for forgivness and beg to continue the r/s with mi..... but i think i m getting tired after all these years!!! should i just end the relationship? she has a lot of friends and there are always ppl accompany her......pls advise!
When she slowly finds herself isolated & helpless, she wld have no choice but to ur bidding...
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Yes you will feel hurt.. But time will heal.. depending on how long it takes.. YOu still have feelings for her.. But then if you insist on carrying on this relationship.. it wont do you both good.. if this were to drag on.. you be hurt even more.. cos you are giving youself a false hope..Originally posted by man4nth:i guess u r rite......i oso c no point carry on with the r/s.........
feel so hurt!!!!
Hoping that she will change for the better.. she will understand you alittle more.. she wont stop goin out with that bunch of friends.. Are you hoping and wishing that one day these will happen?? Seriously.. it will not.. like what everyone always says "it takes two hands to clap" -
Like i say.. dun wait for such situation then you agree for a break up.. if ever next time you see each other on street i bet you never even say hi.. jus walked pass or pretend never see each other.. you wan such thing to happen??Originally posted by man4nth:hmm...she was the one who court mi in the 1st place before we really went into a relationship........later on i find out that she n i hv a lot of things in-common..............she started to kick a fuss.....asking for break up.......sometime i really do not undrestand her at all...
I getting very sick in this kind of r/s....
i think i know what to do next....
if she ever want a break up, i will say YES..............
I rather you end it in a nicer way.. let letting her know what's the cause and problem in this relationship.. whether she listen to you anot.. that's her problem.. Cos i bet there's no one ever tell her such things before.. so you'll be the first one.. telling her what's wrong.. About the relationship.. about her.. about you.. how you feel.. and how she always been undreasonable this and that..
At the very least you explain to her.. what's the cause of all these.. This time round.. not her asking for a breakup.. is you who intiated.. i know is very hurting.. but once you say it out.. she listens and know about.. both still can be friends.. I'm sure that last time none of her bf did that.. Mostly all breakups.. are jus breakup.. and that's it.. Have you ever know what's the reason behind it??
People often don't know.. and will never learn.. as they thought is always not their fault AT ALL.. you never know.. cos the other never ever say it out..
Cheers..