do u check your bf/gf's hp msgs?
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jus wondering if you ppl read ur partner's hp msgs... y do u or do not? is it a sign of distrust or insecurity
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Well..if they allow me why not?
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No. Just as i like to have my privacy...i will respect him also.
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w/o their knowledge?
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no unless she show me...
but i dun mind her reading lar..
actually we no secrets btwn us,
but still it's a form of respect -
nope.
ignorance is bliss -
yupz... i agree..Originally posted by mastdfj:no unless she show me...
but i dun mind her reading lar..
actually we no secrets btwn us,
but still it's a form of respect -
reading sms... haizz...
see ur gf wat type... if she insecure type... den she read coz she dun trust you.
normally nothing wrong, but still... there ought to be some respect here. -
for me....not everytime ba(oni when she shows me)....for her its a muz to chk mine ar...
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I go thru her hp...bcoz she ask me to help her clear her sms. Too many useless sms slowing the hp speed.
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I agree! Haha.. and it is also a form of trust and respect for your gf/bf. Checking on the messages that she/he received will only betray the trust between you and her/him.Originally posted by FireIce:nope.
ignorance is bliss
But things are different if she/he volunteers to show you some messages lah. Haha.. if not, I think one should not even think of checking the messages of his/her gf/bf! -
nope...
dont think its good to do that... -
Some times when she volunteer let u see her sms, idea is to force u to let her "see" yours... den >> interrogation time!Originally posted by fabiaN__:I agree! Haha.. and it is also a form of trust and respect for your gf/bf. Checking on the messages that she/he received will only betray the trust between you and her/him.
But things are different if she/he volunteers to show you some messages lah. Haha.. if not, I think one should not even think of checking the messages of his/her gf/bf! -
No. It's a respect for her privacy.Originally posted by mek:jus wondering if you ppl read ur partner's hp msgs... y do u or do not? is it a sign of distrust or insecurity
Whether it's a sign of distrust or insecurity depends on how the 2 parties see it and on the situation in which the event takes place? -
I reckon you have your thoughts when this question is posted?Originally posted by mek:jus wondering if you ppl read ur partner's hp msgs... y do u or do not? is it a sign of distrust or insecurity
What do you think is the implication behind? What is the reason you want to read ur partner's sms?
I'm more interested to know your answer. -
my dad dunno how to read his messages (yes, he came from the moutains...). and when i read his messages, i found out that he (or maybe his friends helped him) subscribed to some erotic sms chat lines.
if you wanna read your partner's smses, be prepared for this. -
won't check
coz he automatic will tell me
who msg me i also will tell him
if he with me..i will just show him the msg or ask him read the msg for me
if not ard..will just tell him who msg me..and the overall content -
cos i heard my fren checks her bf's msgs duno is with or w/o his knowledge then jus thot in future will i do it... on one hand i think its shows distrust.. n i think i wont want to do it.. on the other hand being a very insecure person i would still have thots of doing it actually...Originally posted by M©+square:I reckon you have your thoughts when this question is posted?
What do you think is the implication behind? What is the reason you want to read ur partner's sms?
I'm more interested to know your answer. -
horns dun grow overnight.
simple as tt... -
Haha.. can... no prob man. Laiiiiii who wanna check my Inbox?!Originally posted by mach10:Some times when she volunteer let u see her sms, idea is to force u to let her "see" yours... den >> interrogation time! -
Well, either u hav not enough of confidence in urself that other guy/girl might overtaken u or u do not hav enough trust in her.
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No. I won't. As long as we're not married, she has her own privacy.
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By the way you're putting it.Originally posted by mek:cos i heard my fren checks her bf's msgs duno is with or w/o his knowledge then jus thot in future will i do it... on one hand i think its shows distrust.. n i think i wont want to do it.. on the other hand being a very insecure person i would still have thots of doing it actually...
I think you're thinking of reading yr boyfriend's sms without his knowledge. Insecurities and inferior self image affects this area of the mind like poison, desire to get light out of your partner's mysteries and darkside.
This act will usually end up - Even if he's clean, there is still poison in your mind to think he is not, the act is irresistable.
Hence propels us to approach like a thief, lurking into his privacy.
Destruction from this simple act creates ripples which will huant both parties. Breach of trust and lack of faith will arise as problems. Even if he has hanky panky smses in his hp and you caught it. Would you leave him? More like or not, you'll stay with him hence the cycle of the irresistable act and miserable relationship.
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M©'s Advice:
Stick to your values in the relationship, do not let the hp intimidate you into dishonest approach to clear your doubts about your bf.
If there is really a need to find out what is in his sms, ask him. Gain open communication and trust. Clear things out when in doubt, especially when you are insecure about certain issues.
Your boyfriend should be ever ready to comfort you and assure that the relationship still goes strong.
Another point - How long have you been in this relationship?
Seems like you're affect by your friends action over your relationship. It's quite uncalled for.
Were there any changes in this relationship? Many times, it is not the big problems which destroys a relationship; subconciously the small issues or mistakes in a relationship.
Cheers -
my 2-cent worth..
even if you feel unworthy / insecured or you are suffering in unmentioned ways while you're with your bf, doing things that sabotage the relationship is the surest way to punishing yourself and your conscience.
whatever happens, let go of the bitterness for yourself and for him.
with love, there's no mistake that can't be forgiven.
All the best. -
if he honors my privacy, i will honor his.
if he wants to let me see, he will let me see. if not, i wun go see la...I mean msgs are meant to be private.
but if i dun wan to let him see then he still go and see, i will get angry. cos I dun like ppl to invade my privacy, when i dun allow it.
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