stuck between 2 women

• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 15:22

  currently i'm married with a daughter less than 1 yr old and i had another gf outside whose name is Mona. my wife and i had been together for abt 18 yrs liao and kinda tired of her due to many factors. should i divorce my wife and be with Mona, or should i maintain my family and have a mistress outside? I know my wife kinda know i have another women outside cuz few night i did not come home liao, i was sleeping at Mona's house. she is keeping quiet i think i will tell her face to face later that i've another women outside.
• a_splash

  31 Mar 05, 15:27

  
  
  poor daughter of yours!
  
  sigh,....my sympathy!
  
  May god blesss you!
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 15:30

  this is the situation i'm in..
  
  http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=124078
• FeowFeow

  31 Mar 05, 15:30

  Dear Mr Ding,
  
  Honestly, the best solution would be for you to do your wife and child a favour and go far far away.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  currently i'm married with a daughter less than 1 yr old and i had another gf outside whose name is Mona. my wife and i had been together for abt 18 yrs liao and kinda tired of her due to many factors. should i divorce my wife and be with Mona, or should i maintain my family and have a mistress outside? I know my wife kinda know i have another women outside cuz few night i did not come home liao, i was sleeping at Mona's house. she is keeping quiet i think i will tell her face to face later that i've another women outside.

• M©+square

  31 Mar 05, 15:32

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• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 15:34

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Dear Mr Ding,
  
  Honestly, the best solution would be for you to do your wife and child a favour and go far far away.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  how abt Mona? i am afraid she will get pregnant that's what she told me yesterday so both of are are using protection now. How can i leave Mona like this? I love her and she loves me.
• a_splash

  31 Mar 05, 15:43

  thanks for the link! ok i zip my mouth.....
  
  

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  this is the situation i'm in..
  
  http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=124078

• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 15:47

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  this is the situation i'm in..
  
  http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=124078

  In that post, you still loves your wife and want to make up for it, now you are thinking of divorcing her to be with the Mona. WTF are you toking??? How can a change of heart in such a short time !! Better go and die la .... Me a man don't even support or pity you .....
• FireIce

  31 Mar 05, 15:50

  huo gai!
  
  hope u wake up and find urself castrated and ur dong in the pot of curry
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 15:57

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  In that post, you still loves your wife and want to make up for it, now you are thinking of divorcing her to be with the Mona. WTF are you toking??? How can a change of heart in such a short time !! Better go and die la .... Me a man don't even support or pity you .....

  SORRY... I lost my temple. I shouldn't lose it here and I know no one will want to keep it. It is just that you don't f@#$ around your friend when you are married. If go for Chicken, still not too bad cos that is paying for service and it is a one time off. With a friend, the fling will never end. CAn you imagine when the whole family including your daughter come together to resolve the matter, who is going to suffer more. NOT you. You have fun and your wife will be hurt. So is your daughter. What is the impact on the little one when she grow up to know what kind of a father she have. Will she have confidence with man in future ..... How is your wife going to take it ?? IF she is weak, will she find the courage for new life after you... I pity her parents to see her suffer. What kind of heartache are they going to have???
  
  See one stupid mistake, so many people suffer and now you are asking for support here??? I don't understand it ...
  
• M©+square

  31 Mar 05, 16:00

  Hypothetical: "What good is a man if he gains the whole world yet loses his very own soul."
  
  Sigh.
• ak0

  31 Mar 05, 16:01

  ask ur wife if can accept mona lo then problem solve liao... try to comrpomise and sort things out.
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 16:03

  Originally posted by ak0:

  ask ur wife if can accept mona lo then problem solve liao... try to comrpomise and sort things out.

  You mean like mona moving in and live together, happily ever after ?/
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 16:05

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  SORRY... I lost my temple. I shouldn't lose it here and I know no one will want to keep it. It is just that you don't f@#$ around your friend when you are married. If go for Chicken, still not too bad cos that is paying for service and it is a one time off. With a friend, the fling will never end. CAn you imagine when the whole family including your daughter come together to resolve the matter, who is going to suffer more. NOT you. You have fun and your wife will be hurt. So is your daughter. What is the impact on the little one when she grow up to know what kind of a father she have. Will she have confidence with man in future ..... How is your wife going to take it ?? IF she is weak, will she find the courage for new life after you... I pity her parents to see her suffer. What kind of heartache are they going to have???
  
  See one stupid mistake, so many people suffer and now you are asking for support here??? I don't understand it ...
  

  my wife knows already or else that few nights i did not come home and when i come home in the morning, she was weeping inside her room and my heart also pains and u all think i no feeling one iszit? she never even ask where i go last night. she just sms me yesterday 'dear pls come home after you enjoy yrself. love you always' this girl, my wife, we were together since sec school so more or less i say i must be firm to her but it's kinda difficult..i also very soft hearted one especially when she cry i will give in liao
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 16:07

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  You mean like mona moving in and live together, happily ever after ?/

  if my wife allows Mona to move in i don't mind having 2 women in my house but i doubt Mona will cuz she got her own apartment.
• a_splash

  31 Mar 05, 16:12

  haha ha....
  
  tell u wat i think
  
  this is either a self directed story or u need to go to the doc...
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 16:22

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  my wife knows already or else that few nights i did not come home and when i come home in the morning, she was weeping inside her room and my heart also pains and u all think i no feeling one iszit? she never even ask where i go last night. she just sms me yesterday 'dear pls come home after you enjoy yrself. love you always' this girl, my wife, we were together since sec school so more or less i say i must be firm to her but it's kinda difficult..i also very soft hearted one especially when she cry i will give in liao

  I know it is possible to love two persons at the same time. But in situation like this, you have to weigh what is more important. You are now tired with your wife and thinking of divorcing her and you want your ger... You go to Mona and you think you going to live happily ??? IF you decide to forgo Mona, she alone suffer. Not that she deserved it, but she is also a resposible party and have to shoulder some responsibilities. It just too bad she choose a married man. I am not you and I don't know how much you love your wife. But that very moment you marry her, you are responsible to her for the rest of your live because she give everything in her life to you. You cannot dump her now. Ok say you don't love her anymore and Mona is your life now... so how are you going to solve your ger problem. Can she live happily with Mona ? Can Mona accept her as her own even after she give birth to her own child? These are some of the questions you got to ask your self. Even you are head and heel over Mona, you got a responsibilities, not only to your wife but to your child. You can hurt your wife, can you bear to hurt your child.
  
  So, shoulder the responsibilities and break with that Mona and go back to your wife. You said too here that she still love you.. surely, that is a good enough reason for you to go back now.... God bless ...
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 16:25

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  if my wife allows Mona to move in i don't mind having 2 women in my house but i doubt Mona will cuz she got her own apartment.

  You don't understand, do you ??? This is what you are hoping to hear, right? Someone to suggest that three of you lives together... I know it is many men dream to have that, but can you ??? Damn it if you make up story like this to have fun, because you are making man looking silly here. ( you just make me swear ..... )
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 16:34

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  I know it is possible to love two persons at the same time. But in situation like this, you have to weigh what is more important. You are now tired with your wife and thinking of divorcing her and you want your ger... You go to Mona and you think you going to live happily ??? IF you decide to forgo Mona, she alone suffer. Not that she deserved it, but she is also a resposible party and have to shoulder some responsibilities. It just too bad she choose a married man. I am not you and I don't know how much you love your wife. But that very moment you marry her, you are responsible to her for the rest of your live because she give everything in her life to you. You cannot dump her now. Ok say you don't love her anymore and Mona is your life now... so how are you going to solve your ger problem. Can she live happily with Mona ? Can Mona accept her as her own even after she give birth to her own child? These are some of the questions you got to ask your self. Even you are head and heel over Mona, you got a responsibilities, not only to your wife but to your child. You can hurt your wife, can you bear to hurt your child.
  
  So, shoulder the responsibilities and break with that Mona and go back to your wife. You said too here that she still love you.. surely, that is a good enough reason for you to go back now.... God bless ...

  i am already home now or else how i here. my wife is cooking dinner and washing my clothes i think i go help her a bit at least i feel better.
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 16:37

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  i am already home now or else how i here. my wife is cooking dinner and washing my clothes i think i go help her a bit at least i feel better.

  Good for you... only you know what you need to do.. I am sure you have already enough people swearing at you already.. It is not good for your Karma.....
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 16:41

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  Good for you... only you know what you need to do.. I am sure you have already enough people swearing at you already.. It is not good for your Karma.....

  i know many people are scolding me maybe i'm really wrong but i will try to patch up the two girls nicely. not going out tonight see will my wife be happy or not. will try to make it up with my wife if possible but don't know will she be happy or not. try my best pls don't flame me anymore
• Devil1976

  31 Mar 05, 16:43

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  i am already home now or else how i here. my wife is cooking dinner and washing my clothes i think i go help her a bit at least i feel better.

  Would that help much...?
  
  Ask yourself... What you really want... And how are you going to face yourself and your daughter in the future.... Then you START THINKING for yourself again...?
• ORIGAMIST

  31 Mar 05, 16:49

  Originally posted by Ding Shanben:

  i know many people are scolding me maybe i'm really wrong but i will try to patch up the two girls nicely. not going out tonight see will my wife be happy or not. will try to make it up with my wife if possible but don't know will she be happy or not. try my best pls don't flame me anymore

  Over yours words here, it seem you are still hoping for a threesome.. I don't know what to say except good luck to you... You may end out lucky ....
• Ding Shanben

  31 Mar 05, 16:59

  Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:

  Over yours words here, it seem you are still hoping for a threesome.. I don't know what to say except good luck to you... You may end out lucky ....

  have such relationship ever workout? just now tried to start a conversation with my wife but she kinda keep on changing the topic like she know what i am going to say next. so i left her to do the housework and back to my room again. i just wanted to tell her the truth why i didn't come home so often and stay outside overnight. but she quickly change the topic 'say dear go look after baby a while' and she continue her work
• Danisdead101times

  31 Mar 05, 17:05

  this is no time to blame who is right or wrong...now what you can do is to settle this things out...if you really love you wife then just let go of the mona and if you loves mona then just leave your wife...what you doing now is just hurting them and you are enjoying~
  
  from what i see,i think you should let go of mona and continue to have a happy family with your wife and child..and at the same time you are also giving a chance to mona to find someone whom can take good care of her and not being someone else mistress~
  
  if you are a man..decide for yourself and need not come here and ask for our opinion and im sure that you are old enough to think and do what a adult must do...be responsible and be fair to others...