no reason to live. seriously.
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pride dun mean ego big big...low self esteem people can be proud...actually dats y low self esteem.Originally posted by Congenial:yeah Yunhaier, the Pisces thing I think is quite true..not too sure though..
no, its not about pride thing or wad..
i dont have any ego or pride etc, and i always think that others are much better than me..much much better.
and the way im coping with this, its really mentally draining and painfull..arrgg
becos u cannot accept ppl much much better dats y feel bad...
just to open up ur channels abit...if theres nothing absolutely wrong to be very worst of then others. and u can accept urself as it is....perhaps u wun find it so straineous to open up to ppl. the tension might occur becos u might feel like an inferior species.
the pride im talking about...is the extreme self awareness.
maybe u wun feel that way now...but do think about it lor. can you answer to yourself why u feel stressed by people? -
color ghost u are really damn right. Don really need to worry about wat pple think of u. Actually, in actual and real fact in yr current situation, they are not even thinking about u. I am not out here to insult u, but it is the truth. I am a very proud person, not in the sense of showing off, but it is my character that i have lots of pride. I used to be the same as u, not daring to make mistakes at all (not going to elaborate cuz i'm the same). But i slowly got to learn that i was, and u ARE TOO SENSITIVE!!
But let me tell u, u have of the ingredients to become one of the most successful people there would ever exist. Ok tat sounded a bit over the hill, but bottom line is, u dont noe how high ur potential is yet, juz why u always low confidence. So i'm here to tell u. Being serious most of the time is not yr fault. Come on, think positively. It is one of the factors pple would look up to u, that is when u do gain confedence.
And how do u gain confidence? Go around with a smile on yr face, give a simple morning when u see pple u noe. A smile can release homornes into yr brain so u wont feel so nervous. Of cuz u r going to tell me u wont dare cuz pple will feel why u suddenly behaving like tat. So, try that on friends whom u noe and they noe u. No matter how small the number, they r still good enough.. How many bloody friends do u need? A full table of hundred? Stop living in LALa land. A few close ones are enough. Note: Please i beg u at least sit with yr class during breaks even if u dont like to. If still cannot talk den neminds, juz sit there. Try to join any conversation if possible. If they go huh den please juz explain again. FUCK care them, juz stare straight into their eyes when u talking, trust me, will gain confidence one.
It takes time, i noe. Don worry, juz carry on plugging away. Of cuz, a new environment helps, but make the most of wat u have. U r a fighter my friend, u really r, i have not read that u feel like giving up, and i noe u wont. Tat again is a charateristic of a leader. A good one in fact. With yr experience, u would sympathise with minorities, yr seriousness would carry yr team through any circumstances. Exert yrself on conversations, of cuz only if u got anything good to say. If u don feel comfortable, den leave the conversation lor.
I am an introvert too, but not an anti social. Be wild with yr group of friends, have they forsaken u or have u done so yrself in situation? Maybe yr talents lie somewhere else. A normal person does not mean someone who talks non stop. These may actually be pple who feel so insecure tat if they don talk they feel pple don like them. We are humans, made differently my friend. If u do not love yrself in the first place, don expect others to love u. Put this in mind, be brave and hit everything which comes head on. Sori if u dont understand some things i said cuz my essay writing skills not very good. These are the principles i have always lived by since i decided to forced myself not to be so sensitive. And these are my achievements: I'm not arrogant, juz letting u noe it can be done, there are many better than me but i consider myself lucky cuz of my late development: I am a student councillor, a secretary who is better than the president in my other cca cuz i joined late, i am a part time councellor for my school mates and have a healthy rapport with my teachers too. But i always remember the people who are quiet, value their opinions.
From what i have written please forgive if i sounded too big headed, i juz want u to noe that watever happens to u, many go through worse and comes out alive and kicking. I'm not very to the point here cuz of bad phrasing, i apologise. But if u can trust me to bring u through this crisis of yours, juz leave me a personal message. Believe tat there r pple around who will not leave u juz because they r uncomfortable, there may be other reasons. Will be waiting to hear from u -
Thanks, personally I been through that phase, and I realised that if you want to be accepted, it has to start from within. The moment I finished secondary school I decided to adopt this new strategy. It worked brilliantly. And to top it off, I was almost to the point of anti-social as a child, with parents never understanding my exasperated outbursts, my extreme fear of socialising....it was a lonely path so to speak. I made a resolution that I wanted to be successful in life, I have to, and will need to, mingle. I did it. I believe so can anyone. I'm no elitest or anyone with great credentials.Originally posted by I_Need_U:color ghost u are really damn right. ..... -
Originally posted by Congenial:
Dude, u articulate quite nicely some of my sentiments. Not for this thread, i wouldn't know that so many other shared such problems to varying extend.
bleahs..
now people, u guys are getting the wrong ideas here..
[b]my condition
i used to have my grp of friends.
but then i cant seem to talk cos anxious, nervous, etc
they are nice people who initiate conversations with me.
then i cannot talk to them cos u noe y..
then they are like
:how come u so strange one:
then we get distant.
that happens eveytime.
i can bet my life ard 99% if i meet one of u here, confirm u would say i am a strange boi..and u urself would be uncomfortable with me, thus..
then we grow distant.
then if i call u, u would be thinking "wad does this weird guy wants?"
because of that, i wont call u, and we grow more distant.
i have this persistant feeling people are looking at me all the time no matter how hard i shake it off..
then there was one time when i said some vulgarities. it was meant to be a joke, but my current condition is that, everything i say will come out in serious tone. that guy gt depressed.
i got really guilty, and even though i apologised and he accepted it, i got very depressed and i kept thinking aboutthe whole incident 24 hrs.
no matter how hard, i cant stop dwelling on such negative incidents. and i can even dwell it during meal times
i am super tensed, like what oyster omelette dude has said
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Btw how old are u? If we are of around the same age, what u going thru shouldn't be classified as teen angst ( as suggested by some)
I guess we, or me , have a deep seated self-esteem problem, coupled with a complex mix of psychological fears, emotional weakness & memories of past failures
... very complex, my teen angst years were long past & i was a pretty happy go lucky teenager..
Dun know why i ended up like this today..
I am reading a story of my fave anti-hero Howard Hughes, he is also famously remembered for being extremely uncomfortable with ppl, alienating himeslf frm even his wife & aunt Annette who brought him up after his parents death..
If only i am as talented & wealthy as him -
erm..
what u both have said are definitely true, no doubt.
i want to do all the things that u guys recommend, but i just cant.
i have a phobia.
phobia of peeps.
ok, if someone has a phobia of lifts, he will think that the lift jam la, he cannot breathe in lifts la, etc..then die die cannot go in lift..
same with me, if i meet people, staightway my natural respose say that this person wont be interested with me, this person will judge me, i will get extremely self consious.
that scares me, really, and i die die cannot get near people, or i might just explode, really.
but after reading books and stuff, i am now trying real hard, super hard to just be AROUND people.
and for john nash, i feel for u man, even though u dont have this phobia, u have depression.
once u have depression, trust me, hardly anyone wants to get near a miserable sad looking face, serious.
aniway, im trying to be positive and stuff, even though its super hard, and im having bouts of depression too, so quite hard lah.
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there's nobody in this world, in any way superior to you.Originally posted by Congenial:hello my fellow forumites.
basically just to tell u guys my woes.
i have no friends at all. ok, maybe jus one, since i start my tertiaty education.
when i meet people, i would get nervous, my hands start sweating, i get these negative thoughts etc.
people seem to have this "i detest u" look on their faces. i cannot initiate conversations, i cant joke, i cant make friends. these are things many people take for granted, while me, im longing and desperate for them.
i hava very bad relationship with people. i still remember when i was doing project, i cock things up, my mates started to gossip abt me not doing my stuff etc.. but thats just because i just cannot ask them the specific tasks i am suppose to do, its not because im a slacker..
i have also created many enemies because at times i look snobbish, but deep inside, they donnoe how nervous and worried i am. if only they knew.
when i eat alone in the canteen, there was one of my classmates asking "why u oways eat alone one ah" i feel so embarrased i could die of embarrassment, literally.
even teachers did not spare me. they would be very reluctant to speak to me, let alone meet me. i have a difficulty in asking Qs and when i asked, i look worried and nervous, and teachers would get put off by that.
i am constantly worried, nervous jittery, when around people. they only place i seek solace is at home alone, with my PC.
no matter how many practice i do or how many times i psych myself up, when it comes to people again, i would fall down again.
the more i meet people, the more i get worried and nervous, and the more people are not comfortable with me, and the worst my condition becomes.
i am desperate, really.
i long for friends and stuff, but i know i am not able to get these luxuries.
i have taken down notes for living. and i have found out that my existance does not serve that reasons that i have taken note..
if not for religion, i would have died years ago..
believe it.
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There is also nobody as unique as ur own self too.Originally posted by boy in blues:there's nobody in this world, in any way superior to you.
believe it.
see you around
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I used to have the same problem too. Was always very nervous that I will embarass myself in front of other people, esp gals & those whom I thought was cool. But then I realised one thing, the moment you try too hard to impress and always wanted to leave a good impression, or you try very hard not to embarass yourself, things always turn out SHIT. Gals shake their head at me and guys thinks I am a jerk.
But 8 years ago things changed, and I like to share it.
I realised I have to be natural, talked around something which happened recently to stay connected and kept conversation short when meeting people, unless you are teaching something. I studied popular ppl in my circle of friends and learn about hand gestures and appropriate physical contact too. Be quick to admit genuine mistakes you have said wrongly & done wrongly. People know you never fight just to 'save face'.
Another thing. Mix with big company (but not hang out & waste time) with lots of people and you will learn lots of socialising skills.
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i believe in overcoming phobias. i have a fear of heights when i was in my teens. in fact it was so serious i felt giddy if i have to go to buildings that are higher than ten storeys? and i tried to overcome it but telling myself im no different from the next person...if he doesnt fear why should i? so i keep staring down any chance i got....and suddenly nowadays i develop a liking to looking down from higher grounds. that is to say, i like to take cable cars, helicopters or even planes just to look down.Originally posted by Congenial:erm..
what u both have said are definitely true, no doubt.
i want to do all the things that u guys recommend, but i just cant.
i have a phobia.
phobia of peeps.
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wa..i did not realise that there quite a handful of people suffereing from social phobia.
yah, basically people dont realise its severity and extend of its disability, as outside we look OK, not like those having heart attack where they are obviously physically not rite.
but deep inside, we are suffering like hell. pure hell. that was why i had no reason to live, cos i did not know how to deal with it, and i could not get out of this nightmare. it keeps repeating, no stop to it. i wasnt afraid of death. i wanted to die.
yah, after researching, i think theres hope, phobia can be overcome. now i dont want to die.
the negative thinking patterns have to be changed.
i have to learn a lot of new things, social skills etc..
although it has been about 0.5 percent improvement, its still improvement for now.
although at times when i say i am improving, i feel i am denying myself as at times i feel i am not improving, but it gets worst as i meet more people.
i jus guess i have to force myself out. sometimes feel like giving up, but i say no, till the head hurts.
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It takes time... Have CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF and bring HOPE to YOUR FUTURE....Originally posted by Congenial:wa..i did not realise that there quite a handful of people suffereing from social phobia.
yah, basically people dont realise its severity and extend of its disability, as outside we look OK, not like those having heart attack where they are obviously physically not rite.
but deep inside, we are suffering like hell. pure hell. that was why i had no reason to live, cos i did not know how to deal with it, and i could not get out of this nightmare. it keeps repeating, no stop to it. i wasnt afraid of death. i wanted to die.
yah, after researching, i think theres hope, phobia can be overcome. now i dont want to die.
the negative thinking patterns have to be changed.
i have to learn a lot of new things, social skills etc..
although it has been about 0.5 percent improvement, its still improvement for now.
although at times when i say i am improving, i feel i am denying myself as at times i feel i am not improving, but it gets worst as i meet more people.
i jus guess i have to force myself out. sometimes feel like giving up, but i say no, till the head hurts.
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HeyÂ…. U r exactly e same like me! Its called social phobia, if I aint wrong. I am always afraid n feel that pple r looking at meÂ….. n I get extremely nervous n anxious around pple n always have fast increased heart beatsÂ…Â…. It got so worse that I cant even write in lectures n eat around with peopleÂ…Â… school, everyday was a nightmare
Dun worry I believe social phobia can b curedÂ….. for mi, I think e best way is medication combined with self- help therapiesÂ…. Pls do not be stigmatized by the thought of seeking help from a psychratistÂ….. Social phobia is a medical condition such like diabetes n heart diseaseÂ…Â… it caused by the chemical inbalances in the brainÂ….. n usually strikes at late teenage or early adulthoodÂ…Â…Â…
U do not have to let pple know tt u r gonna c a psychriatist if u mindÂ…Â…. Mayb u should drop by to c e school counselor to tok about ur social phobia problem n she will arrange for contacts to c docs at nuh or imhÂ…Â… dun worry the pple r friendly n u will be glad to take of such a first step to seek for their helpÂ…Â….
One thing, to correct of ur misconception on medicationÂ…Â….. its not addictive like drugs such as nicotineÂ…. Where the hell did u read tt from? If in doubt, always ask e doc instead of jumping into conclusions from books ok? U have to b patient abt e meditcation though, its effects will settle gradually over monthsÂ…Â… but believe mi, it will make those anxious moments easier to handleÂ…Â…
Be brave! Take the first step and u will b let into a world less of anxieties n negative thoughtsÂ…. Be strong in ur journey, do not despairÂ….. Take steps slowly one at a time n I believe u will succeed! -
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wuuoo..another guy with same condition.
no, i did not really mean as in nicotine kind of addiction...
its like when you stop using it, your anxiety comes back to haunt u again..
then you would need it for a long long time.
and i have done my research, such drugs are not meant to be used for permanent use.
and if at first if u use like 10 mg, then next time you would need a higher dosage, and higher and higher..
and such drugs, its really very hard to quit..i would want to go thru it..
and yeah, doctors will say not addictive so and so..just like my asthma inhaler..say do me good la, wont get addicted lah..
but in few months time, from just 1 puff a day, to about 12 times a day, which was deadly, cause at most oni 8 shots..
i developed tolerance to it..and i needed more..
then i tried to quit, damn, it was pure hell, serious, pure hell... -
That's why as SummerDream has suggested, take the drugs TOGETHER with THERAPY....Originally posted by Congenial:wuuoo..another guy with same condition.
no, i did not really mean as in nicotine kind of addiction...
its like when you stop using it, your anxiety comes back to haunt u again..
then you would need it for a long long time.
and i have done my research, such drugs are not meant to be used for permanent use.
and if at first if u use like 10 mg, then next time you would need a higher dosage, and higher and higher..
and such drugs, its really very hard to quit..i would want to go thru it..
and yeah, doctors will say not addictive so and so..just like my asthma inhaler..say do me good la, wont get addicted lah..
but in few months time, from just 1 puff a day, to about 12 times a day, which was deadly, cause at most oni 8 shots..
i developed tolerance to it..and i needed more..
then i tried to quit, damn, it was pure hell, serious, pure hell...
When you're on it, try to cultivate and develop your own form of mentality... While you're feeling better, just GO AHEAD and MEET PEOPLE....
Once you're getting the hang of it, can try clearing off the drugs and be ON YOUR OWN....
And don't have any PHOBIA about getting OFF the drugs...
Ultimately, the drugs is suppose to just give you a good 'kick off'... How things go from there is very much ON YOUR OWN... It's just like a certification for studies... Get the JOB, then it's really depending on HOW YOU PERFORM?
While you're feeling good or better on the drugs, don't RELY ON IT TOTALLY and think that things are just fine now... WORK ON IT... TAKE ADVANTAGE of the mental condition the drugs has landed you IN... You're quite right about one thing... IF you RELY on the DRUGS alone to WORK THE MIRACLE for you, sooner or later, you might be no difference from a drug addict... Addictive or not is really up to individual's mentality (reliance on the feeling and condition the drugs can give and how they manage the dosage...)...
Disturbed mind -- (after drugs therapy)--> Stablised and chemically 'balanced' brain (on drugs) ----> As time goes on, requirement on dosage to maintain condition gets higher -- (self-therapy and mentality conditioning)--> Once the brain has reached a level of 'self-substained' and 'balanced' brain chemicals, get off the drugs and let the brain works on its own....
Points to note 'post-therapy'. Always try to maintain a lower stress level and constantly 'therapy' yourself if possible at a more relaxing pace. Understand that stress and such are just PART of lives. And SOMETIMES you just don't wish to meet people. Doesn't mean that your therapy is a failure or your condition has comes back to haunt you. The deeper you fall back into such 'delusioned beliefs', the deeper you set yourself back into depression and isolation...
Brain chemicals become imbalanced again... -
thanks for the replies once again..
yea Devil1976, i truly get what you mean, and i am applying that concept for the time being.
yea, basically i tried to get out of my comfort zone..
recently i went to a gathering, where some friends who thinks that its pitiful to leave me out, therefore, asked me whether i would like to join them..
usually, i would not, as i knew for sure that it would get comfortable and embarrassing.
then that day i went, there was a quite a number of people, around 10 or so.
they were happily chatting with one another, and some kind souls initiated conversations with me.
that moment was super terrible. being with the crowd alone nearly gave me a heart attack, let alone talking with someone, i nearly died.
i was shaking, my heart beating super fast, i felt i couldnt breathe. in my head i knew they were thinking i was a very weird person, and that made things worst. its that thinking that kills me every now and then.
a pretty girl there made matters worst..arrg..
i ran away a few minutes later..and they were like "okay... weird? "
and i was like -
Your condition is not the worst lar, there are people who suffer worst then you.
Once I was small, girls will run away from the sight of me cos I was too big and look like a Gaint. At least in your life your friends just shun you, but in my life, girls really run away.
you know how it feels? You can only see and hope for someone to accept you.
I finally learn the right way for people to accept me for what I am, is to start helping people. If you cannot talk to people is ok, just help them silently. slowly and surely it will open up a new hope for people to accept.
The first steps may be hard on you but if you never give up hope , you will be like me now I got so many friends that I cannot cope.
Life is short, you will never go when you will go. Start slow, talk to a few friends first. Hey we are here talking to you rite? we are your friends too. Believe in yourself ad you can break through this ice barrier.
P.S I believe in you! -
wa..there are loads of advises here! im amazed.
i try to follow what the forumites have said, eg dont force yourself, take meds, no one's superior than u..remove that pride etc..
i went to a GP, i told him about my probs, it was totally hard for me to speak to him. i was shaking and stuttering, but he was friendly.
he gave me some pills that slows down the heart beat. ate them, and for the first time in my life, i could talk to the person in my attachment company that i was toubleshooting for his PC, even though i was shaking inside,it did not show physically
ok, there were also a lot of setbacks. like when my mom compared me to my brother, who is more friendly and outgoing, it really triggered my social phobia in me, causing me to think that people are more superior than me, and i am the lowest of the lowest.
maybe i think too much, too much for their needs, afraid to hurt them, while generally people are "heck care" bunch.
there was also once when i tried to get out of my comfort zone, and said hi to a pretty classmate of mine, and she looked at me like i was an alien or something, gave a smirk and "what are doing here loser?" kind of face.
i was toally embarrased and it reinforced my thinking that attractive girls are all like her, therefore, i cannot talk to them.
and i have not talked to a single girl since SEC 2 for the fear of wrong choice words that might hurt them, believe me.
now i know these are all not exactly true, and im just too self consious, i think too much, but ts hard to change..
its like how you would try to UNLEARN to ride a bike, seems hard eh?
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Hi Congenial
I feel that this one sentence will solve your problem. "Get up at where you fall."
RegardsOriginally posted by Congenial:hello my fellow forumites.
basically just to tell u guys my woes.
i have no friends at all. ok, maybe jus one, since i start my tertiaty education.
when i meet people, i would get nervous, my hands start sweating, i get these negative thoughts etc.
people seem to have this "i detest u" look on their faces. i cannot initiate conversations, i cant joke, i cant make friends. these are things many people take for granted, while me, im longing and desperate for them.
i hava very bad relationship with people. i still remember when i was doing project, i cock things up, my mates started to gossip abt me not doing my stuff etc.. but thats just because i just cannot ask them the specific tasks i am suppose to do, its not because im a slacker..
i have also created many enemies because at times i look snobbish, but deep inside, they donnoe how nervous and worried i am. if only they knew.
when i eat alone in the canteen, there was one of my classmates asking "why u oways eat alone one ah" i feel so embarrased i could die of embarrassment, literally.
even teachers did not spare me. they would be very reluctant to speak to me, let alone meet me. i have a difficulty in asking Qs and when i asked, i look worried and nervous, and teachers would get put off by that.
i am constantly worried, nervous jittery, when around people. they only place i seek solace is at home alone, with my PC.
no matter how many practice i do or how many times i psych myself up, when it comes to people again, i would fall down again.
the more i meet people, the more i get worried and nervous, and the more people are not comfortable with me, and the worst my condition becomes.
i am desperate, really.
i long for friends and stuff, but i know i am not able to get these luxuries.
i have taken down notes for living. and i have found out that my existance does not serve that reasons that i have taken note..
if not for religion, i would have died years ago.. -
You've only got to LIVE ONCE.Originally posted by Congenial:wa..there are loads of advises here! im amazed.
i try to follow what the forumites have said, eg dont force yourself, take meds, no one's superior than u..remove that pride etc..
i went to a GP, i told him about my probs, it was totally hard for me to speak to him. i was shaking and stuttering, but he was friendly.
he gave me some pills that slows down the heart beat. ate them, and for the first time in my life, i could talk to the person in my attachment company that i was toubleshooting for his PC, even though i was shaking inside,it did not show physically
ok, there were also a lot of setbacks. like when my mom compared me to my brother, who is more friendly and outgoing, it really triggered my social phobia in me, causing me to think that people are more superior than me, and i am the lowest of the lowest.
maybe i think too much, too much for their needs, afraid to hurt them, while generally people are "heck care" bunch.
there was also once when i tried to get out of my comfort zone, and said hi to a pretty classmate of mine, and she looked at me like i was an alien or something, gave a smirk and "what are doing here loser?" kind of face.
i was toally embarrased and it reinforced my thinking that attractive girls are all like her, therefore, i cannot talk to them.
and i have not talked to a single girl since SEC 2 for the fear of wrong choice words that might hurt them, believe me.
now i know these are all not exactly true, and im just too self consious, i think too much, but ts hard to change..
its like how you would try to UNLEARN to ride a bike, seems hard eh?
gets depressing at times. those who are certified depressed should know the feeling.
If you're afraid to live at all. You won't be living anyway?
Often said... "Failures are often not the worst mistake you can make, at least not when compared to not having tried at all....?" -
You should really be CONCENTRATING on LIVING and just EXPRESSING YOURSELF... Like you would over here in the INTERNET.... Just speak up and nobody would see you weird... Even if they DO see you weird..? NAY... Just HECK CARE and BE YOURSELF for a start...?Originally posted by Congenial:thanks for the replies once again..
yea Devil1976, i truly get what you mean, and i am applying that concept for the time being.
yea, basically i tried to get out of my comfort zone..
recently i went to a gathering, where some friends who thinks that its pitiful to leave me out, therefore, asked me whether i would like to join them..
usually, i would not, as i knew for sure that it would get comfortable and embarrassing.
then that day i went, there was a quite a number of people, around 10 or so.
they were happily chatting with one another, and some kind souls initiated conversations with me.
that moment was super terrible. being with the crowd alone nearly gave me a heart attack, let alone talking with someone, i nearly died.
i was shaking, my heart beating super fast, i felt i couldnt breathe. in my head i knew they were thinking i was a very weird person, and that made things worst. its that thinking that kills me every now and then.
a pretty girl there made matters worst..arrg..
i ran away a few minutes later..and they were like "okay... weird? "
and i was like
You're not suppose to be scared.... You're suppose to be HAVING FUN!!! " -
with all the attention you are getting i say u're better den u think u are. i dun like to speak either, but dat doesn't mean i can't.Originally posted by Congenial:hello my fellow forumites.
basically just to tell u guys my woes.
i have no friends at all. ok, maybe jus one, since i start my tertiaty education.
when i meet people, i would get nervous, my hands start sweating, i get these negative thoughts et..
cheer up, its okay if u die, but dun forget the consequences u will cause including what u might do if u were still alive. aka, no u can't die juz yet. -
DAMN, that shot through my head man. You live only once! it just gave me a bit of motivation! thanks for that man, even if u didnt realise, your words had really gave me that wake up call!Originally posted by Devil1976:You've only got to LIVE ONCE.
If you're afraid to live at all. You won't be living anyway?
Often said... "Failures are often not the worst mistake you can make, at least not when compared to not having tried at all....?"
"U onli live once"
Yeah..
as for your second quote, i need to improve on my attitude first before i can deal with that.
yeah, and what drx said has also given a shot through my head.
if i were to think rationally, there are more people suffering worst than me, probably that wang yixin/joeann who suffers from split personality disorder is suffering much more, i wouldnt have known.
i am trying to put myself in the shoes of those who suffer from this kinda things.
quotes of the day
"U live once"
"its better to fail than never try"
its super duper hard to abide by this concept, but i will try..
and this friggin depression is not helping either..arrg..
aniways, thanx all for that wonderful advises, i will surely follow them as close as possible... -
There's always a 1st STEP to something before the following steps...Originally posted by Congenial:DAMN, that shot through my head man. You live only once! it just gave me a bit of motivation! thanks for that man, even if u didnt realise, your words had really gave me that wake up call!
"U onli live once"
Yeah..
as for your second quote, i need to improve on my attitude first before i can deal with that.
yeah, and what drx said has also given a shot through my head.
if i were to think rationally, there are more people suffering worst than me, probably that wang yixin/joeann who suffers from split personality disorder is suffering much more, i wouldnt have known.
i am trying to put myself in the shoes of those who suffer from this kinda things.
quotes of the day
"U live once"
"its better to fail than never try"
its super duper hard to abide by this concept, but i will try..
and this friggin depression is not helping either..arrg..
aniways, thanx all for that wonderful advises, i will surely follow them as close as possible...
I'm LEARNING TOO...