when do we move on in relationships
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i am so shattered.. i think i really depend too much on my bf.. somehow my life revolve around him?
every little thing affects me so much.. i used to be non-chalent, guys only.. this one dun have got other guys... how can i go back to my past life?
I need a life man.
why is it that i allowed myself to totally absorb him into my life? i really regret it. i dunno why the hell are there BGR in this world.. love can be such a wonderful feeling.. it can sux big time too. -
just ask him "why".
maybe he want a slightly more independent girl.
First thing to do is go back to your family. Not to the bar or pub.
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yeah.. family and friends =D.. also, based on your title, you cant really tell when do you move on in relationships. the best guide would be the relationship itself, or the people in it. It is all on that first step that either party makes at the right time. when is the right time? only the people in the relationship know.
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If it doesn't work out, take it easy...Originally posted by Steph84:i am so shattered.. i think i really depend too much on my bf.. somehow my life revolve around him?
every little thing affects me so much.. i used to be non-chalent, guys only.. this one dun have got other guys... how can i go back to my past life?
I need a life man.
why is it that i allowed myself to totally absorb him into my life? i really regret it. i dunno why the hell are there BGR in this world.. love can be such a wonderful feeling.. it can sux big time too.
Who knows, you might even meet someone else who is better than your current boyfriend...
Love can be a good or bad thing depending on both parties involved.
At the end of the day, it is your choice to be with such a guy...
Since you are already together, just try to work things out and if it can't then leave...
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Reorganise your life?Originally posted by Steph84:i am so shattered.. i think i really depend too much on my bf.. somehow my life revolve around him?
every little thing affects me so much.. i used to be non-chalent, guys only.. this one dun have got other guys... how can i go back to my past life?
I need a life man.
why is it that i allowed myself to totally absorb him into my life? i really regret it. i dunno why the hell are there BGR in this world.. love can be such a wonderful feeling.. it can sux big time too.
Spend adequate and balanced life-style between time with your bf, family, friends or interest etc.? -
most of the things that can be said have been said..
so i shall offer the most offered commodity here..
friendship.
Plenty of decent peeps around here that can be friends.. if u will u could look around... u should be able to find a few outings... its that first step to making friends.. and its urs to take
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take a step at a time:
first day just try not calling him
second day,mayb sms him only..
the rest is easy -
Do what u used to do before u have a bf.
Go out with your family & friends, learn a new hobby or sport so your mind will be occupied & u don't think of him so much. -
Learn to let go and move on. Time will heal all wounds.Originally posted by Steph84:i am so shattered.. i think i really depend too much on my bf.. somehow my life revolve around him?
every little thing affects me so much.. i used to be non-chalent, guys only.. this one dun have got other guys... how can i go back to my past life?
I need a life man.
why is it that i allowed myself to totally absorb him into my life? i really regret it. i dunno why the hell are there BGR in this world.. love can be such a wonderful feeling.. it can sux big time too.
Every ending is a new beginning.You just don't know it at that time. -
yah.. he also said i shouldnt rely on him so much from now on. i shall do just that.. will try to exercise my self control.Originally posted by ha8n:take a step at a time:
first day just try not calling him
second day,mayb sms him only..
the rest is easy
Anyway, frens all got own bfs, own life... contact msn n sms now... seems lk the older u become, the more frens drift apart..
also, the older i become, the less out-going n sociable i've become.
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Think you're only 21...?Originally posted by Steph84:yah.. he also said i shouldnt rely on him so much from now on. i shall do just that.. will try to exercise my self control.
Anyway, frens all got own bfs, own life... contact msn n sms now... seems lk the older u become, the more frens drift apart..
also, the older i become, the less out-going n sociable i've become. 
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eh devil u put ur forum to perm ignore my posts is it... how come i post what.. it is NEVER seen nor heard nor acknowledged de
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dun think i spout nonsense ALL the time oso mah... -
i see ur posts.. dun worry..Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:most of the things that can be said have been said..
so i shall offer the most offered commodity here..
friendship.
Plenty of decent peeps around here that can be friends.. if u will u could look around... u should be able to find a few outings... its that first step to making friends.. and its urs to take -
when you are sick and tired of be being so sick and tired that which what you are... you will move on.
Good luck -
o...k...Originally posted by Steph84:i see ur posts.. dun worry.. -
You want to be acknowledged?Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:eh devil u put ur forum to perm ignore my posts is it... how come i post what.. it is NEVER seen nor heard nor acknowledged de
zzzzzzzzz
dun think i spout nonsense ALL the time oso mah...
And may i ask. What's the point?
Not being acknowledged doesn't mean you're sprouting or posting nonsense.
Dev, answer our normalbOi please? -
To Steph84:
There are many reasons for break ups.
In order to move on. Many will offer advice to time.
But there are many other ways to quicken the wearing off of the after effects of hurt from a failed relationship.
You may wish to reveal why/reason for the breakup?
Cheers -
Re-organise your life,
re-build uour relationship wif ur family members.. which u have neglected...
do your favourite sports / games / activities with your friends,
contact your old school mates...
Cheers.... -
Troubled people sometimes don't reply to everything... It'll just confuse them further...Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:o...k...
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try to make yourself busy with your work and maybe spare some time for your friends around you..this maybe a way to draw away from your current~ this is a time for you to learn to be independent..from what i see you are just afraid f lonliness so that is why you depends on your current so much~
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hi all
I see too much traits in my ex in my current bf.. traits like not serious abt work, no aim no goals in life, disorganised.. not steadfast in achieving his goals... only empty talk...
all these traits were wad made me so resolute to leave my ex in the past.
I dunno whether to leave my bf or not. cos i love him.. but i do not want to be with such a guy for life.. no security at all.
I wished he'd change.. but i know its hard.. its just innate in him that his character is like that.
i guess i just need to courage to leave him... indeed, to seek greener pastures...
but really, i love him. feel comfortable with him n all.. but it is just so sickening to know that wad happened in the past is happening again now.
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Let's get the pieces together. You depend too much on your bf. But how are you relying too much on him? Financially? Or you're always spending time with him, day and night? You find that this relationship is changing you into something you do not desire? You want to love, yet you want to experience many other things. He has already mentioned that you should not rely too much on him. You want to get back to your friends, but they are busy with their relationships as well. So you find it difficult to resort to any other activities other than spending time with ur bf.Originally posted by Steph84:i am so shattered.. i think i really depend too much on my bf.. somehow my life revolve around him?
every little thing affects me so much.. i used to be non-chalent, guys only.. this one dun have got other guys... how can i go back to my past life?
I need a life man.
why is it that i allowed myself to totally absorb him into my life? i really regret it. i dunno why the hell are there BGR in this world.. love can be such a wonderful feeling.. it can sux big time too.
Moi Suggestion: I would suggest you call up your friends, and organise some activities with ur friends along with their partners. Going out in only a pair will restrict the level of activity and often than not, you'll end up in the same routine over and over again. Hence, by inviting your friends and their partners over lunch, dinner or a movie, it will allow all of you to have a more interesting and intelligence conversation and interaction. And in this way, you can get to meet the other guys(ur friends' partners). -
Since you mentioned that you really love him, it will be difficult on your part to leave him. Why don't you give the relationship more time, give your bf to prove his worth and that he can change for you. Let him know how you feel, talk alilttle about the future and hear what he says and comment on those as well. Do heed my suggestion. You do not have to leave him immediately, but at the same time, your options are open, and you can see what is it in other guys that is missing of him. Mayb a new guy will come along, and has better prospects and makes you feel just as comfortable with him, you'll never know.Originally posted by Steph84:hi all
I see too much traits in my ex in my current bf.. traits like not serious abt work, no aim no goals in life, disorganised.. not steadfast in achieving his goals... only empty talk...
all these traits were wad made me so resolute to leave my ex in the past.
I dunno whether to leave my bf or not. cos i love him.. but i do not want to be with such a guy for life.. no security at all.
I wished he'd change.. but i know its hard.. its just innate in him that his character is like that.
i guess i just need to courage to leave him... indeed, to seek greener pastures...
but really, i love him. feel comfortable with him n all.. but it is just so sickening to know that wad happened in the past is happening again now.
At the end of the day, you should decide either to pursue your love for him regardless of the insecurity he gives, or leave him for the better sake of your future. -
If we love the way we always do, we will get the love we always get.Originally posted by Steph84:hi all
I see too much traits in my ex in my current bf.. traits like not serious abt work, no aim no goals in life, disorganised.. not steadfast in achieving his goals... only empty talk...
all these traits were wad made me so resolute to leave my ex in the past.
I dunno whether to leave my bf or not. cos i love him.. but i do not want to be with such a guy for life.. no security at all.
I wished he'd change.. but i know its hard.. its just innate in him that his character is like that.
i guess i just need to courage to leave him... indeed, to seek greener pastures...
but really, i love him. feel comfortable with him n all.. but it is just so sickening to know that wad happened in the past is happening again now. 
If historical experience cannot allow you to evolve, not particularly surprisingly why things would turn out to be this way.
You get what you opt for.
The traits you hated, also has the same traits that you like.
You love such a man... the feel... the idea... the mindset... certain personality...
But the sad truth is that ultimately, you realise you can't change him.
And this is the harsh reality of a woman loving a man, who cannot commit himself to the relationship OR the future of the relationship.
Cheers -
well.. this is not the first thread that it has happened..Originally posted by M©+square:You want to be acknowledged?
And may i ask. What's the point?
Not being acknowledged doesn't mean you're sprouting or posting nonsense.
Dev, answer our normalbOi please?
i noe that i am nitpicking here.. but it just happened too many times and it just irked me..