No reply from girl, why lei?
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yeah ... lai ma .... di di ... kor kor will take care of you
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den u never bother to know her better 1st and u want her to decide if u can be her bf bo?Originally posted by clarion:There could be a possibility. But i feel quite yuan wan, if she was to judge me so quickly without even bothering to know me better first. -
but if she response, dont you think you will know her better for another day
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That why my blunder....now i want to know her as friend...keep telling her that but no replyOriginally posted by Axelheat755:den u never bother to know her better 1st and u want her to decide if u can be her bf bo? -
I think you already scared her away... I tok I very lousy le...
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Hiazzz... i beginning to think so....too
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Maybe she ONLY wanna be friends... but u tell her u wanna be her bf, scared her... tats why u kena the cold treatment.
she dun want u to have ANY hope...
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I agree with you...well see how loh...mayber after Wednesday she so shocked she might replyOriginally posted by Axelheat755:Maybe she ONLY wanna be friends... but u tell her u wanna be her bf, scared her... tats why u kena the cold treatment.
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oh man...all the best dude.. and wat ohthatsme say is quite true abt girls liking challenges... and never say anything like " i luv u " kindda stuff unless they say it first...Originally posted by clarion:I agree with you...well see how loh...mayber after Wednesday she so shocked she might reply
jus my 2cents worth
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Understood. Wont be so expressive in the future...and if things dun work out this time...i think i will stop dating for good...just so damn tired of giving and never getting anything backOriginally posted by kennekii:oh man...all the best dude.. and wat ohthatsme say is quite true abt girls liking challenges... and never say anything like " i luv u " kindda stuff unless they say it first...
jus my 2cents worth -
dont be so esily dishearted, this doesnt workout becos there's a better girl coming your way. giv urself sometime to recover and hunt again.Originally posted by clarion:Understood. Wont be so expressive in the future...and if things dun work out this time...i think i will stop dating for good...just so damn tired of giving and never getting anything back
here's an article i got from some site:
===the nice guy===
First, there are a large percentage of men who are not a Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you] at all. We call this type of guy The Nice Guy, The Wimp or The Teddy Bear Guy. This chap wears his high Interest Level [degree of love] on his sleeve. He'll do anything to gain a woman's approval.
He's needy and clingy and is always trying to please and impress. He's too open and too vulnerable too soon. He's overly considerate and places the woman's needs before his own. He's often so whipped and brainwashed with political correctness that he even does things like ask a woman for her permission to kiss her.
You get the picture. This is not the type of man who fuels women's romantic fantasies. He is not a turn-on -- in fact, he's quite the opposite.
===the perfect balance===
Just remember that women, particularly the beautiful ones, are sick to death of the endless number of men who are constantly catering to their whims. They're desperately weary of always getting their way with men and are hungry for a Challenge even if he doesn't come in the ideal form.
Now let's leave The Wimp out of the equation and give a woman the choice only between Mr. Positive Challenge and Mr. Negative Challenge. In this situation, the greater the woman's self-esteem, the more likely she would be to go for Mr. Positive Challenge. If her self-esteem is so-so, then she might go for the guy who is somewhere in between the two.
Now that you're single again, my advice to you, Manny, is to no longer go out with abusive women who've been abused. Treat yourself with love and respect by finding a woman to date who is sweet and loving.
hope this helps -
Oh god i sound and behave like Mr Nice guy haizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzOriginally posted by kennekii:dont be so esily dishearted, this doesnt workout becos there's a better girl coming your way. giv urself sometime to recover and hunt again.
here's an article i got from some site:
===the nice guy===
First, there are a large percentage of men who are not a Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you] at all. We call this type of guy The Nice Guy, The Wimp or The Teddy Bear Guy. This chap wears his high Interest Level [degree of love] on his sleeve. He'll do anything to gain a woman's approval.
He's needy and clingy and is always trying to please and impress. He's too open and too vulnerable too soon. He's overly considerate and places the woman's needs before his own. He's often so whipped and brainwashed with political correctness that he even does things like ask a woman for her permission to kiss her.
You get the picture. This is not the type of man who fuels women's romantic fantasies. He is not a turn-on -- in fact, he's quite the opposite.
===the perfect balance===
Just remember that women, particularly the beautiful ones, are sick to death of the endless number of men who are constantly catering to their whims. They're desperately weary of always getting their way with men and are hungry for a Challenge even if he doesn't come in the ideal form.
Now let's leave The Wimp out of the equation and give a woman the choice only between Mr. Positive Challenge and Mr. Negative Challenge. In this situation, the greater the woman's self-esteem, the more likely she would be to go for Mr. Positive Challenge. If her self-esteem is so-so, then she might go for the guy who is somewhere in between the two.
Now that you're single again, my advice to you, Manny, is to no longer go out with abusive women who've been abused. Treat yourself with love and respect by finding a woman to date who is sweet and loving.
hope this helps -
Wish me luck folks going to put plan into action tomorrow....
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You know what? I just realised nothing i do will change her mind...just came to me while i was watching TV haizzz. i guess the best thing is just to move on and meanwhil hope she will one day call.
I will also direct her here so that perhaps she will realize how a guy onced felll so hard for her.
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Originally posted by clarion:
Hold that thought.
THE END
You mentioned that you tried calling the lady in question on her mobile but it was switched off. She may not be ready to receive your call yet -- she probably would have guessed what you were going to say, but she was not ready to respond.
Don't quit after one missed call. True, the silent response to your numerous messages may mean she is not interested, but it may also mean she simply does not know what to say, yet. Call her again after one week or two. If your call went through and she cut you off after seeing your caller ID, perhaps then you could go back to your TV programmes and forget about her.
You may also wish to go easy on the messages via SMS and MSN. When the lady is not ready yet, whatever message you send is only going to confuse or irritate her.
And I'd ditch the flower idea if I were you. You've already reassured her that you just wanted to be normal friends with her. One doesn't send flowers to a normal friend unless he or she opens a new business or is lying in a coffin. -
Ok....well whatever we say here is no longer privy infomation, i sent her a link to this forum last night
You know since i am not emotionally affected anymore. Think about it from a more rational sense, i might know the predicament she might be going through.
Think about it, if you were a girl or a guy for the matter. You are thrifty by nature, lived with your parents for like all your life. Things are simple and easy and most importantly comfortable.
Then are certain occasions when you do have pangs of sadness and loneliness, this is the time when you wished for a partner "someone to share your thoughts and a shoulder to lean on", i quote her.
All of a sudden Clarion turns up and gets all excited about marriage and relationships and commitments...suddenly there seems to be alot of expenses...ceremony, buying flats etc etc.
So what happens? The girl freezes, in a way she must be thinking...do i really want this? Or am i happy living a happy single life? Am i ready to start spending more which having a committed relationship entails. -
Sad to say, u frightened the poor girl by being too eager
Learn from this, start slow, be friends first, let her get to know u better.
Watch for signs that she is interested before u confess.
Since she remains uncontactable, then u should move on.
Don't worry, there are many more girls out there. -
Eh, Not true leh, I always forced those wif me to admit it 1st kekekekekekeke
FeowFeowOriginally posted by kennekii:oh man...all the best dude.. and wat ohthatsme say is quite true abt girls liking challenges... and never say anything like " i luv u " kindda stuff unless they say it first...
jus my 2cents worth -
we got hard time knowing what she wants
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Originally posted by clarion:
Haha... how could the expenses of such mundane matters be the stumbling block to her happiness? She must be the first lady I've heard who didn't want to get married because it was too expensive.
suddenly there seems to be alot of expenses...ceremony, buying flats etc etc.
And thinking about marriage at this point? Whoa... hold your horses.
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It's not about the money lah. The girl's not even sure if she likes you as a person, much less think about commitment.
It's not that women are hard to understand.
Sometimes men just refuse to accept realityOriginally posted by clarion:All of a sudden Clarion turns up and gets all excited about marriage and relationships and commitments...suddenly there seems to be alot of expenses...ceremony, buying flats etc etc.
So what happens? The girl freezes, in a way she must be thinking...do i really want this? Or am i happy living a happy single life? Am i ready to start spending more which having a committed relationship entails. -
but dont you think it will be easy to tell us that you dont like me rather than me having thinking why is she not responsing ...
men is a very easy species, we will go next once we are rejected.(but there is really devoted ones)
if in the first place you dont want us to disturb u juz let us know and we will smoke out far far away ...
like one gal i keep smsing her ... until she tell me dont contact her anymore ....
we can understand one .. we are not unreasonable person.
we juz want to know the truth rather than mysteries ...
this is what happen to some gals who nvr give a clear answer that there will be no future for both of them. this guy will wait and wait ... those not too determine one will leave ar ... if those very determine ones will wait and wait until one day when things turn bad liao then start to blame each other ... why for ...
some time you will think it will not be nice to reject someone in his face ... but do you think it will be more hurtful to know they will not be together for the rest of the life and he is always there and waiting?
think about it .... if you think this relationship is impossible, jus let him knows at least it will not be too headache at the end of day. -
Originally posted by clarion:Well come Wednesday, i will send her flowers and a letter and a movie ticket for thursday
See how fate goes....if she dun turn up then watch myself loh...hahaha ...... -
Many times, there is no need for a direct answer/confrontation.Originally posted by antoh:but dont you think it will be easy to tell us that you dont like me rather than me having thinking why is she not responsing ...
men is a very easy species, we will go next once we are rejected.(but there is really devoted ones)
if in the first place you dont want us to disturb u juz let us know and we will smoke out far far away ...
like one gal i keep smsing her ... until she tell me dont contact her anymore ....
we can understand one .. we are not unreasonable person.
we juz want to know the truth rather than mysteries ...
this is what happen to some gals who nvr give a clear answer that there will be no future for both of them. this guy will wait and wait ... those not too determine one will leave ar ... if those very determine ones will wait and wait until one day when things turn bad liao then start to blame each other ... why for ...
some time you will think it will not be nice to reject someone in his face ... but do you think it will be more hurtful to know they will not be together for the rest of the life and he is always there and waiting?
think about it .... if you think this relationship is impossible, jus let him knows at least it will not be too headache at the end of day.
If one is alert to know what is going on in a 'relationship or courtship', he's able to sense and detect signals girls will give.
In your case Antoh. I'll classify it as dense, it's not their fault.
Personal advice to Antoh: To girls, truths are not to be said. Truths usually hurts and comes with harsh words. They don't want to be known as b!tch or looked like they've dumped the guy outright. When you understand girls...those facts are simple, rather it's quite 'in the face', to accept or not is all up to you.
She's not obligated to give you a direct answer unless both has entered into mutual knowledge of attraction.
Neither is 'waiting is waiting' a wise idea. It doesn't prove anything. To your situation....it is very unwise. You're too unflexible and self absorbed, learn to relax and take things easy and slowly.
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You behave like Mr freaky guy.Originally posted by clarion:Oh god i sound and behave like Mr Nice guy haizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
By now you should know why she didn't reply after so many post from AA forumites.