No reply from girl, why lei?
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Originally posted by M©+square:
how could she be nice to you for 2 weeks or more and suddenly ignore you ...
Many times, there is no need for a direct answer/confrontation.
If one is [b]alert to know what is going on in a 'relationship or courtship', he's able to sense and detect signals girls will give.
In your case Antoh. I'll classify it as dense, it's not their fault.
Personal advice to Antoh: To girls, truths are not to be said. Truths usually hurts and comes with harsh words. They don't want to be known as b!tch or looked like they've dumped the guy outright. When you understand girls...those facts are simple, rather it's quite 'in the face', to accept or not is all up to you.
She's not obligated to give you a direct answer unless both has entered into mutual knowledge of attraction.
Neither is 'waiting is waiting' a wise idea. It doesn't prove anything. To your situation....it is very unwise. You're too unflexible and self absorbed, learn to relax and take things easy and slowly.
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Give me details. How do you quantify 'nice'?Originally posted by antoh:how could she be nice to you for 2 weeks or more and suddenly ignore you ...
It could be minor gestures towards you which she deemed as friendly. However you may have overly interpretated her actions, that might have scared her off.
How about opening a thread and give your details.
Warning: Good advices comes with bubble pricking.
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when she dont resist your kissing? or touching? or "playing" with you?
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antoh....these are not details. These are merely brief descriptions.Originally posted by antoh:when she dont resist your kissing? or touching? or "playing" with you?
Maybe you don't feel comfortable sharing about your private life.
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not here ar ... far too personal ....
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suit yourself. Allow me to probe alittle further.Originally posted by antoh:not here ar ... far too personal ....
You and her in a relationship? Confirmed state or presumed state or unsure? -
unsure
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Originally posted by antoh:how could she be nice to you for 2 weeks or more and suddenly ignore you ...Originally posted by antoh:when she dont resist your kissing? or touching? or "playing" with you?
Your last post has spoken for itself of those questions.Originally posted by M©+square:
suit yourself. Allow me to probe alittle further.
You and her in a relationship? Confirmed state or presumed state or unsure?
Originally posted by antoh:unsure
Cheers -
from confirmed to unsure ... haiz ..
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Please dun hijack my thread Antoh
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TuaTauOriginally posted by Tuatau:Hold that thought.
You mentioned that you tried calling the lady in question on her mobile but it was switched off. She may not be ready to receive your call yet -- she probably would have guessed what you were going to say, but she was not ready to respond.
Don't quit after one missed call. True, the silent response to your numerous messages may mean she is not interested, but it may also mean she simply does not know what to say, yet. Call her again after one week or two. If your call went through and she cut you off after seeing your caller ID, perhaps then you could go back to your TV programmes and forget about her.
You may also wish to go easy on the messages via SMS and MSN. When the lady is not ready yet, whatever message you send is only going to confuse or irritate her.
And I'd ditch the flower idea if I were you. You've already reassured her that you just wanted to be normal friends with her. One doesn't send flowers to a normal friend unless he or she opens a new business or is lying in a coffin.
You are right in most aspects.
I think i will just let it rest until she either responds or after a period of time.
The girl i met is educated, intelligent, cheerful and witty and i will never believe my judgment on her is wrong. I am sure she is one that can speak her mind and she will tell me if she was not interested.
So i guess i may still have a chance since she might be considering her position -
Okok well i might have gotton ahead of myself...but perhaps more to commitment issues perhaps she just not used to the idea yet or she could be holding out for the time being to see, if any better men came alongOriginally posted by Tuatau:Haha... how could the expenses of such mundane matters be the stumbling block to her happiness? She must be the first lady I've heard who didn't want to get married because it was too expensive.
And thinking about marriage at this point? Whoa... hold your horses.
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Yes i know my mistake now. If she can hear my thoughts, i just want her to know that i am truely sorry and it only proves that one is human.Originally posted by M©+square:You behave like Mr freaky guy.
By now you should know why she didn't reply after so many post from AA forumites.
I just tripped over big time and i pray to god that i would be given another chance to try again.
Today I recieved an email, a sms and a phone call all from different gals asking me out, but after meeting this girl i really liked i just feel impatient and no longer interested in entertaining others. Is that commitment, well i dun know, i really dun know...cant think so much now as i am exhausted for the day, perhaps tomorrow would turn out a better day for me.........gd night folks -
Clarion..
Move on
There's plenty of chicks out there.
I just got to know a 30 year old.
Guess what?
I left her a deep impression.
And I'm only 24.
I approached her in a club almost a month ago.
Number is not an issue.
It's in your inner beliefs and attitude.
And I'm only a student.
I believe I can get the good looking chicks out there.
The only thing you need to do for any success with girls is to really convince yourself that you are the coolest guy on this planet. -
Now believe that.
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I am not ready to move on just yet, until she tells me that she is really not interested.
I still believe the person i met is matured enough and responsible enough not to just leave me hanging like that. -
So bloody obvious shes not into you.Originally posted by clarion:I am not ready to move on just yet, until she tells me that she is really not interested.
I still believe the person i met is matured enough and responsible enough not to just leave me hanging like that.
She won't tell you.
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i agree with youOriginally posted by clarion:I am not ready to move on just yet, until she tells me that she is really not interested.
I still believe the person i met is matured enough and responsible enough not to just leave me hanging like that. -
After so much that has been said and done, I feel perhaps maybe i have lost? But how can i lose something that was never started in the first place? Only time will tell.......
Perhaps her expectations of her partners was more than she revealed....more speculation than facts I have........... -
Still haven't end yet??
U all still bother about this loser
Time for us to get a life n move on
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The joke is on me I guess..
The funny thing is having dinner with my parents last night, I was raving on and on abt this great girl i have met etc etc...and when they asked how are you guys now....well i sought of told them we were incommunicado
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Dear Clarion,
Sorree to reply to Antoh in ur thread.
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Dear Antoh,
I'd been asked by a kind soul who really wans to help u, so I've looked @ ur replies & ur posts, & here's a lady's pt of view. Pls note tt these r my own subjective views, & r Not wholly representative of the SG female population:
1. U asked why izzit girls can't simply tell u straight in the face tt there's No hope for u instead of simply keeping quiet.
Objective View:
If u wanna look @ it from an academic (altho this is arguable) pt of view, we'll take a leaf outta the book of Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Mars. We ladies r supposed to be sugar & spice & all thgs nice, it's instinctive for us to wanna protect a person from hurt. Hence, we'd rather keep thgs inside than be nasty & hurt u.
Subjective View:
If u're a gd fren, I'd definitely Not wanna tell u, "U're a gd fren, but u're really Not Prince Charming, so I'd appreciate it if u can get ur creepy hands off me". If u're Not a gd fren, I cldn't be bothered to tell u, lest u go ard telling ur frens I'd been leading u on, & I'm a biotch, etc etc etc.
2. U asked how a girl cld be nice to u for 2 wks or more, & suddenly ignore u.
Subjective View:
U're a new fren of mine, or even if u're Not a new fren, u may be a fren whom I've Not gotten to noe well enuff. Mebbi I wld like to see whether there can be anythg more tt comes outta this frenship. After 2 wks, I've decided tt u're kinda creepy, & do Not wanna carry on further wif u, but cosh u called me 20x on my mobile fone, I think u're a psycho, & I'd better avoid u instead of telling u. I wldn't wan u to stalk me.
3. How can she (as stated above in Pt 2) when she hadn't been resisting ur touching, kissing, "playing" (watever this means, altho I shudder @ the thot).
Subjective View:
She might be trying, to see whether anythg can come outta this frenship (perhaps more?), as stated in Pt 2. But after she realised tt u're clearly Not her type, she beat a hasty retreat. Moreover, u called her 20x on her mobile fone, it'd be wiser to avoid u if she feared for her safety.
4. Not sure if u're in a r'ship wif her.
Subjective View:
U're Not, period.
*DISCLAIMER: The above is based on the assumption tt u dunno her tt well.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:quote:
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Originally posted by antoh:
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Originally posted by M©+square:
suit yourself. Allow me to probe alittle further.
You and her in a relationship? Confirmed state or presumed state or unsure?
Originally posted by antoh:unsure
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Your last post has spoken for itself of those questions.
Cheers
[This message was edited by M©+square on 2005-04-12 14:50:08.]
Your last post has spoken for itself of those questions.
Cheers -
No worries, would like to learn new things along the way, life is a non stop learning process
I just bought two self help book from Kino yesterday evening after dinner..
They are titled
How to make anyone like you by Leil Lowndes &
How to make anyone fall in love with you same Author. -
Antoh please reply pvt to Feow Feow, i dun wish my thread to be clogged up with other issues...
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Theories are still theory if u dun try them out. How much u get for them?? Think itz time to do some reading to further refine my skillz.
Anyway, good hunting out there.Originally posted by clarion:No worries, would like to learn new things along the way, life is a non stop learning process
I just bought two self help book from Kino yesterday evening after dinner..
They are titled
How to make anyone like you by Leil Lowndes &
How to make anyone fall in love with you same Author.