No reply from girl, why lei?
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Very true...i did not learn as much as i did when i broke up with my ex....that is a scar i am proud to wear as it made me more self aware of the mistakes i made and the things i should not do in the future also how to be a better person too!Originally posted by Tuatau:If the scar could help a person remember the lesson and become wiser, then you should not be afraid of getting more scars. Perhaps one day when you meet another with about as many scars as you, the relationship might benefit all the more from those scars. -
You guys are are feeling fustrated.
Cmon you are not a girl.
Be a man.
Be dominant.
Lead your life.
There are plenty of ladies out there.
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A very general statement i wish very much to differ.Originally posted by Tuatau:If the scar could help a person remember the lesson and become wiser, then you should not be afraid of getting more scars. Perhaps one day when you meet another with about as many scars as you, the relationship might benefit all the more from those scars.
It's your opinion anyway. -
Originally posted by M©+square:
A general statement that is also a personal opinion. Hm...
A very general statement i wish very much to differ.
It's your opinion anyway.
But you're right, it is merely an opinion. There is nothing absolute.
Different people have different experiences hence different opinions.
Blessed is the one who seeks and finds true love eventually, with or without scars.
Pity to the one who does not seek anymore, because of the scars. -
well said
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Yes i have met many great gals but alas they are so hung up on their past they refuse to try again or are really bogged down by their fears etc....Originally posted by Tuatau:A general statement that is also a personal opinion. Hm...
But you're right, it is merely an opinion. There is nothing absolute.
Different people have different experiences hence different opinions.
Blessed is the one who seeks and finds true love eventually, with or without scars.
Pity to the one who does not seek anymore, because of the scars. -
are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away
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Depends on what kind of mindset they have. Most of the time they just swim in their own fears and it only take a suitor to spark it off....Originally posted by antoh:are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away -
I wonder if she thinks or percieves that our differences might be too much for her....come to think of it she did ask me if i go pubbing...
I just told her festives season only mah...and only to Zouk....hmmn perhaps she might prefer somone more sedate...
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quote]Originally posted by antoh:
are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away [/quote]
hmmm
Great girls=?
1. Curvy figure with at least B
2. Good looks/ at least pleasant looking
3. Passionate/ Hot/ Seductive
4. Good Dress-sense
5. Make guys feel like they r no. 1
6. Interesting/ cheery
According to a fren, once a guy has a gf fulfilling at least 3 of the above criteria, he will give in to every request of the girl..
Notice that "nice character" is not in the list..So dun expect great girls to be nice??...
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hmmmOriginally posted by timble:quote]Originally posted by antoh:
[b]are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away
Great girls=?
1. Curvy figure with at least B
2. Good looks/ at least pleasant looking
3. Passionate/ Hot/ Seductive
4. Good Dress-sense
5. Make guys feel like they r no. 1
6. Interesting/ cheery
According to a fren, once a guy has a gf fulfilling at least 3 of the above criteria, he will give in to every request of the girl..
Notice that "nice character" is not in the list..So dun expect great girls to be nice??... [/b][/quote]
Most gals can be all of the above, it depends on how motivated they are. If a man can fulfill her wants and expectations most of the time the above she can fulfill it or works towards being able to achieve...it all rests on her own beliefs -
Still no reply from the lady...
I think at the end of the day if one was to try to salvage the bits left...for me in my case, she has basically helped me realise what kind of girl i am exactly looking for and to hold out for the special one...
You know after dating so many what u used to dream about has been diluted by the many different people that pass through your life...and suddenly the woman u have always dreamed about from young or subconciously suddenly appears in front of your eyes....it kinds of jolts you awake and make u realise that you were falling asleep at the wheel... -
You guys are not scary. Juz too persistent. Juz refuse to acknowledge watever appears in front of you. Unwilling to take into account the negative answers.Originally posted by antoh:are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away -
haha
fustrating -
Have you ever wonder that it is this persistence of yours that may actually scared the girl away? A mature girl may think even more. She may even be thinking that if one day, when she is going to break up with you, you may commit suicide over her. Coz a persistance man only takes into his own feelings in consideration, never hers. Its a virtue to be persistence, but a little way off the line, you are being viewed as stubborn or obstinate.
Be persistence, but give her a breathing space. If you are going to contact her, be it sms, msn or email her every 2 days or so, I can tell you for sure that she will NOT be touched! Instead, she will feel frustrated by your behavior. Chill out. Contact her 1 month later. Give her more time to think abt it, if she really has reserves about the relationship and that she is still interested in you. If nothing happens 1 month later, in my opinion, you can forget abt her.
Cheers. -
Originally posted by ILPSY:
Have you ever wonder that it is this persistence of yours that may actually scared the girl away? A mature girl may think even more. She may even be thinking that if one day, when she is going to break up with you, you may commit suicide over her. [b]Coz a persistance man only takes into his own feelings in consideration, never hers. Its a virtue to be persistence, but a little way off the line, you are being viewed as stubborn or obstinate.
Be persistence, but give her a breathing space. If you are going to contact her, be it sms, msn or email her every 2 days or so, I can tell you for sure that she will NOT be touched! Instead, she will feel frustrated by your behavior. Chill out. Contact her 1 month later. Give her more time to think abt it, if she really has reserves about the relationship and that she is still interested in you. If nothing happens 1 month later, in my opinion, you can forget abt her.
Cheers.[/b]
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Originally posted by ILPSY:
Ok...its a good idea. Will follow this for now.
Have you ever wonder that it is this persistence of yours that may actually scared the girl away? A mature girl may think even more. She may even be thinking that if one day, when she is going to break up with you, you may commit suicide over her. [b]Coz a persistance man only takes into his own feelings in consideration, never hers. Its a virtue to be persistence, but a little way off the line, you are being viewed as stubborn or obstinate.
Be persistence, but give her a breathing space. If you are going to contact her, be it sms, msn or email her every 2 days or so, I can tell you for sure that she will NOT be touched! Instead, she will feel frustrated by your behavior. Chill out. Contact her 1 month later. Give her more time to think abt it, if she really has reserves about the relationship and that she is still interested in you. If nothing happens 1 month later, in my opinion, you can forget abt her.
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Maybe you should start a topic with your own problem in it? It'll be easier for people to give their opinions on your situation and for them to advise you on it...? With 2 separate problems along in the same thread, things can get a little confusing...?Originally posted by timble:Tks for your kind words. Think so much, yet still decide to go with my feelings
This relationship has made me realised how selfish and horrible I can be, esp with my words. I tried to be Wei3 Da4.. but can't do it. Time will heal...but that will be one more scar... would I still dare try again?:I
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Not we....YOU ARE~Originally posted by antoh:are we really so scary? to frighten the gals away
imagine a 20+ looking like 40+....
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Hi Devil, sorry for any confusion caused. It was not meant to be a prob thread.
Regards
Timble -
I suppose i have to keep myself as busy as possible so as not to think too much....seems like an eternity...well my birthday is next month mid. Will invite her out on that day...as a last resort..if she dun turn up that would be really closure and a memorable date to boot
Somehow...deep inside i fear all is loss...but at least i lernt many things from it..ah life is all about learning...learning and learning
I am really fatigue...from the past few nights of sleeplessness, so dun mind guys if i ramble...perhaps a trip to Phuture tomolo might clear my mind?
Anyone want to go hahahah we can have a forum meeting kekekek -
No problem... Just thought if you need more specific advices and comments..?Originally posted by timble:Hi Devil, sorry for any confusion caused. It was not meant to be a prob thread.
Regards
Timble
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Aiyoh! I dun want to go! Wat if you fall in love with me?!Originally posted by clarion:I suppose i have to keep myself as busy as possible so as not to think too much....seems like an eternity...well my birthday is next month mid. Will invite her out on that day...as a last resort..if she dun turn up that would be really closure and a memorable date to boot
Somehow...deep inside i fear all is loss...but at least i lernt many things from it..ah life is all about learning...learning and learning
I am really fatigue...from the past few nights of sleeplessness, so dun mind guys if i ramble...perhaps a trip to Phuture tomolo might clear my mind?
Anyone want to go hahahah we can have a forum meeting kekekek
Then, I will be the next lead actress in this forum!!! -
u n her oni?Originally posted by clarion:I suppose i have to keep myself as busy as possible so as not to think too much....seems like an eternity...well my birthday is next month mid. Will invite her out on that day...as a last resort..if she dun turn up that would be really closure and a memorable date to boot
Somehow...deep inside i fear all is loss...but at least i lernt many things from it..ah life is all about learning...learning and learning
I am really fatigue...from the past few nights of sleeplessness, so dun mind guys if i ramble...perhaps a trip to Phuture tomolo might clear my mind?
Anyone want to go hahahah we can have a forum meeting kekekek
if its a group den MAYBE u will have a chance to get her to go if u sound sincere enough... its its just u n her i think the odds are zero..
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That's very thoughtful...Tk u very much.. thoughtful devil...I will when I can't take it anymore.Originally posted by Devil1976:No problem... Just thought if you need more specific advices and comments..?