Feel like killing my father
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I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
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so his bad habit is getting to you. sure is irritating but dont have to kill him. just move out of the house.
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Under one roof...that why we have to giv in and give out of cuz most importantly is forgive. my daddy smoke..and my sisters including me n my mum..dun like him to smoke(the smell stinks the whole house!puke!)...but we got no choice and bare wif the smell. we told him..but he nv listen like ur dad too..sadZ.and we understand y he cnt quit cuz..he have been smoking for 30 over yrs!he say if he quit he will die. but we try to tahan.whenever he smoke in the house...all of us will jus went in the rm, close the door and left him alone to smoke.haha...after sometime...he compromise wif us that he will cut down on smoking and smoke outside the house...Originally posted by quacker:I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
HELP!
Since non of u cn tahan ur dad...although mine n urs is diff case..u cn try to giv back all those noises to him?let him get the geez of how is the impact of the noises he made.show sum action towards him. it may help. jus by saying cant do aniting..they wun take it seriously. -
Wah...I don't wanna be like him man. My neighbours will suffer. My mom will start going mad. He'll probably enjoy the "company" he is getting. imagine the 2 of us battling it out by making noises in the house!
Will tahan...until cannot...send him to old folks home? I really do not want to do that
If I were to kill him, it will be out of rashness... So before i pick up the weapon, I better think of the consequences huh? -
call those counselling hotline?
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This is totally unacceptable.that what i feel,how can he smoke in the house.He nv consider about his family HEALTH.HEeALTH is the most important.but he is making them smoke 2nd hand.Y some ppl dont know how to think about other.This is what i call conflict arise from stupidity.Because if it was my father i will be very piss off and we will go into conflict just because he dont know such common sense.Originally posted by I-Me-Myself:Under one roof...that why we have to giv in and give out of cuz most importantly is forgive. my daddy smoke..and my sisters including me n my mum..dun like him to smoke(the smell stinks the whole house!puke!)...but we got no choice and bare wif the smell. we told him..but he nv listen like ur dad too..sadZ.and we understand y he cnt quit cuz..he have been smoking for 30 over yrs!he say if he quit he will die. but we try to tahan.whenever he smoke in the house...all of us will jus went in the rm, close the door and left him alone to smoke.haha...after sometime...he compromise wif us that he will cut down on smoking and smoke outside the house...
Since non of u cn tahan ur dad...although mine n urs is diff case..u cn try to giv back all those noises to him?let him get the geez of how is the impact of the noises he made.show sum action towards him. it may help. jus by saying cant do aniting..they wun take it seriously. -
yah..tt y all of us dun like...Originally posted by Omega-broly:This is totally unacceptable.that what i feel,how can he smoke in the house.He nv consider about his family HEALTH.HEeALTH is the most important.but he is making them smoke 2nd hand.Y some ppl dont know how to think about other.This is what i call conflict arise from stupidity.Because if it was my father i will be very piss off and we will go into conflict just because he dont know such common sense.
but nw better liao he smoke outside the house at least...
but i have been taking in the 2nd hand smoke for like abt 17 yrs lol
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hmm..tt means no use le lor..hmm...serious tok oso no use? let me tink of other action tt cn do to stop him haha...perhaps..u cn blust the radio...listening to radio will be better then listening to him i guess. i tink this cn really piss him off.Originally posted by quacker:Wah...I don't wanna be like him man. My neighbours will suffer. My mom will start going mad. He'll probably enjoy the "company" he is getting. imagine the 2 of us battling it out by making noises in the house!
Will tahan...until cannot...send him to old folks home? I really do not want to do that
If I were to kill him, it will be out of rashness... So before i pick up the weapon, I better think of the consequences huh?
sending him to old folk hm do solve the problem..but dun u tink..u shldnt do tt..after all he bring u up..pay for ur sch fees and daily expenses....what will other ppl tink of ur family?...
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well,alot of people wants to have dad..but they don't and you all have one and don't cherish them..no matter how bad or what they do they are still your own dad~since you people already endured fer so many years and why not just keep quiet and keep on enduring? or maybe you can have a good talk with him..if he is just as stubborn as you have said..just find someone whom he will listen to,to talk to him..
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I am worse then you, my ah gong likes to fart every min (and very chao chao somemore) and talk very loudly in his dreams. My father,too, likes playing the radio very loudly and my mother, loves smoking and playing majong and even come home...drunk.So do you think I should plan a whole family massacre?
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no you should give them a family massage instead...they are just too stressed already~Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:I am worse then you, my ah gong likes to fart every min (and very chao chao somemore) and talk very loudly in his dreams. My father,too, likes playing the radio very loudly and my mother, loves smoking and playing majong and even come home...drunk.So do you think I should plan a whole family massacre? -
how old are you? i guess u r really young coz whatever u've said is totally imature. so, ur dad has a habit of making funny noises, SO what! be grateful that he is working and providing for the family. be grateful that u have a roof over ur head. be grateful that u have a computer and u can come online to complain.
have u seen other dads who gamble and need the whole family to work to pay off the debts? have you seen dads who beats up the family whenever he is drunk or unhappy? have u seen dads who refuses to work and eat off the savings?
think about it and i think its about time you say sorry to ur dad. talk to him after u've apologised and tell him in a serious tone that the whole family is feeling very irritated with his behaviour and try to work on a solution. find out why is he making such sounds. is there something wrong with his throat or whatever...
edit: hahaha ok so u are 25... ok.. anyway just cool it and think of a better way out.
p.s: nice blog design if its designed by u. -
cook him something everyday that are prescribed here http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=126933 and try talk to him againOriginally posted by quacker:I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
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I'm shocked. Even ur mum says she wana stab him to death? OMG..
At least he done his part and took up the responsibility as a father. I dun see why, even if he is so unhygienic, uncivilised or unreasonable, does he deserve death? Learn to endure and get along well with each other. Ever told him that you all dun like his acts etc? Did he made an effort to change? -
Well... My dad used to do lots of things just out to irritate us too... My mum's getting out of nerves, perhaps my brother too... But I'm hardly at home these days....?Originally posted by quacker:I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
HELP!
Personally... I think that your father is more like a 'happy go lucky' kinda guy... Yeah.... Always happy and smiling away... Taking things easy... Though sometimes he can irritate people... (perhaps purposely?) But if you really know about it, quite alot of old folks would do that... In one way or another... Just to get attention...
And if you really wanna know...? Nope... You don't even have to kill your dad probably... As a person ages... And less people pay attention to them... It's just a slow way of leaving this world... Dying... Rotting away... Just like a person who has caught a particular type of disease... Waiting to die... They want people to talk to... Attention... To feel alive (at least while they still really are alive...?)...
My dad too.. Sometimes I feel that he's trying hard to communicate with us... Though his method is not 'right'...? I used to teach that he's very much of a nuisance only too... Always trying ways to REALLY BOTHER and DISTURB people... But indirectly, I must admit that though he's already old, he's still 'teaching' me things... Like... About 'communication'.... About 'tolerance'.... 'Understanding'...? Nope.. Though I don't really like him... And unlike you, I'm no fillial son... FAR from it.... But I understand that he has given me ALOT... And if he still can, probably would still want to....?
These days... He no longer bother me as much as before... Sometimes a few mild attempts... Perhaps he has thought of just to let his children live their own lives and for himself, his own.... A different phase in being an older person...? Well... All I can say is we are all learning throughout different phases of our lives....
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u gonna b strike by lightning u noe?
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_________________________________________________________Originally posted by dibilo:how old are you? i guess u r really young coz whatever u've said is totally imature. so, ur dad has a habit of making funny noises, SO what! be grateful that he is working and providing for the family. be grateful that u have a roof over ur head. be grateful that u have a computer and u can come online to complain.
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I know, i know. I should be grateful, and I AM! I am trying very hard, i am i am! I am using my computer in my office for your info. I try to go home as late as possible, to escape all the shit...because I DO not want to end up hearing my parents quarrelling, u know?
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dibilo:have u seen other dads who gamble and need the whole family to work to pay off the debts? have you seen dads who beats up the family whenever he is drunk or unhappy? have u seen dads who refuses to work and eat off the savings?
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Yah, can compare forever, and there will be a father out there who is 10,000 times worse off. Does that mean I should turn a deaf ear to all the nonsense? Maybe I should huh? He doesn't listen, so maybe i should just leave. You dunno how much contradicting thoughts running thru' my mind now...
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dibilo: think about it and i think its about time you say sorry to ur dad. talk to him after u've apologised and tell him in a serious tone that the whole family is feeling very irritated with his behaviour and try to work on a solution. find out why is he making such sounds. is there something wrong with his throat or whatever...
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Say sorry to my dad? What have I done? I just suffer in silence for all these years...maybe I should say thank you to him huh? Ask him to make as much noise as possible, be as disgusting as possible, be as irritating as possible...becos he is my dad, I should love him as he is, and i should go to hell for thinking of killing him. I think i'm on the verge of breaking down...
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edit: hahaha ok so u are 25... ok.. anyway just cool it and think of a better way out.
p.s: nice blog design if its designed by u.
thank you for saying something nice...finally. It's so rare to hear encouraging stuff nowadays... -
move out. see him only once in a blue moon.
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afterall he is your father .....as long as he never sexually abuses or ill treat any one in your family is a blessing aready
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yeah.. at least he doesn't hit his wife or children. i feel like killing mine too. lolz... just bear with it loh. until you get married then can move out of the house le mah...
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ya just that he has some nappealing habits does not command death isn't it
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well... u speak like that because you are unable to comprehend how is it like to live WITHOUT a father...
or worst still... have a father who is there n not yet there...
his habits are innocuous enough.
so stop complaning. your father may not be perfect but he's trying to be the best that he can be.
then again... how would you feel if your children comes up to you one day telling you they hate your ways? -
Well, he's your father afterall and you should never kill him unless it's life and death situation and he's taking a knife going to take your life. If that's happens, go ahead and defence yourself and hack off his head.Originally posted by quacker:I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
HELP!
You know, there're some people who grew up without knowing and having their father beside them and how they wished they had one from hell. :p
Ignore him if you really dislike him that much and don't let him take up any memory space in your mind constantly. There're better things to think of, especially your own future. Your father is not going to be in your future till you die, and you're definitely going to outlive him. When that time comes, won't you be real sad and wished that he'll be alive again and irritate you?
Regardless of how terrible your father is right now, he is your father and you should look forward and remember the good and happy things that both of you have experienced. Anything that's bad memories should be forgotten once it's over...don't bear grudges against family.
Family will always be there to support you in whatever situations, and I'm sure your father loves you a lot and will definitely stand by you if you needed him to be. I'm sure he'll gladly donate a kidney for you if he have to do so to save your life.
Some people became evil because they grew up without their father...for example, Dr. Evil from Austin Powers?
Ignore and Forget, for forgive is divine and forgiveness need to be earned.
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Yes your father may have some bad habits, like wasting water, loud sound and some other bad habits ... etc. But you and your mum too do have bad habits in your dads or someone eyes too. No one is perfect. At least you can count on a dad that been around to support you to give you a home, and does not have a mistress type of big bad habits.Originally posted by quacker:I am trying very hard to be a fillial son, but my father never fails to irritate me with his actions. He has a lot of bad habits...like wasting water, making loud sounds when he spits, produces the most noises when he eats (so much so that I avoid any chance to share the dining table with him).
My mother can't stand him too! She also admitted to having the idea of stabbing him to death. He is so IRRITATING! The noises he makes gives us constant headaches. We tried communicating with him, but he just smiles at us, do not take us seriously, and shrugs it off.
I wonder why he can continue with his acts when he sees us in so much pain. You might think the things he does are trivial and we are making a big fuss. Try enduring that everyday, and be woken up by his din every single day. He is so stubborn! AHHH!!! He is driving me insane!
He is a good man, he raised us up, and he IS my father. But sometimes i just feel like bludgeoning him to death! My mom and I even made a pact to commit suicide if either of us kills him one day.
HELP!
Even you say he is a good man, maybe you and your mum should be struck by lighting for even having thoughts of killing a man just because he have some bad habits.