Seriously, if the trust is gone, its hard to rebuild the relationship.Originally posted by krispy:ya...precisely.. dats wat i ask him too... he claims dat its those gals who wan his no...
Frm the start he used to check on my hp to see if there's any new guys' no in my contacts & whenever i go clubbing...he'll repeatly warn me not to tok to any guys or noe any guys... but now he's contradicting himself....
i told him honestly dat i wun be able to trust him even if we get back 2gether.. But he say he'll prove to me... I'm really very confused now...
If the girls want this numberOriginally posted by krispy:ya...precisely.. dats wat i ask him too... he claims dat its those gals who wan his no...
Frm the start he used to check on my hp to see if there's any new guys' no in my contacts & whenever i go clubbing...he'll repeatly warn me not to tok to any guys or noe any guys... but now he's contradicting himself....
i told him honestly dat i wun be able to trust him even if we get back 2gether.. But he say he'll prove to me... I'm really very confused now...
agreeOriginally posted by elindra:If the girls want this number
He can always say I have a girlfriend and I dont' think it is appropriate.
From my experience, guys will always say they will turn over a new leaf, sure they do for a while then it is back to old ways. I'm not saying every guy is the same but those who really change are rare.
am really sorry...Originally posted by krispy:But i really do love him alot.. & i wud say he used to love mi alot...but i dunno wat happened along the way... dat he changes to be like dat...
i've sacrifice alot for him... stick by his side when he's going thru the worse stage of his life.. help him alot when he needs help... my mum was even expecting us to get married soon....
i have alot of hope on him... but nv wud i expect him to treat me like a fool...
Sounds like one of my relationshipsOriginally posted by krispy:But i really do love him alot.. & i wud say he used to love mi alot...but i dunno wat happened along the way... dat he changes to be like dat...
i've sacrifice alot for him... stick by his side when he's going thru the worse stage of his life.. help him alot when he needs help... my mum was even expecting us to get married soon....
i have alot of hope on him... but nv wud i expect him to treat me like a fool...
Broken trust.Originally posted by krispy:my bf has been "collecting" hp nos. frm gals he noe in pubs... & when i asked him abt it... he lied to me... & make it seem as though its my fault dat i din trust him... the 1st time i found out dat he actually has been lying to me for the past half yr... during dat period i was suffering frm depression.. yet he din care abt mi & had the mood to go out to knw other gals... after dat time, he promised dat he will nv lie to me again.. so we patch things up.. & i tried my best to give him my trust & respect...
But recently i found out dat he's been lying to me again...when i confronted him.. he still felt dat he din do anything wrong... & still shouted at me.. den he even say, "see? i told u not to look at my message.. now u see liao wanna get angry.." i was really devastated & deeply hurt... i finally ended our 2years plus relationship...
now.. he sms me sayng he's sorry to hurt me.. & he starting to realise how much he love me after i left him... but he juz wanna cool things down 1st & change totally to commit himself to me...
i dunno whtr i shld trust him again... he betrayed my trust again & again... i dun wish to be hurt again... yet i still love him...
Can anyone advise me wat i shld do?
Originally posted by krispy:Echoing elindra's comments, let's try putting the picture in another perspective for you to understand.
But i really do love him alot.. & i wud say he used to love mi alot...but i dunno wat happened along the way... dat he changes to be like dat...
Not sure if your bf would really change for the better.. But how are you coping with your depression now?Originally posted by krispy:my bf has been "collecting" hp nos. frm gals he noe in pubs... & when i asked him abt it... he lied to me... & make it seem as though its my fault dat i din trust him... the 1st time i found out dat he actually has been lying to me for the past half yr... during dat period i was suffering frm depression.. yet he din care abt mi & had the mood to go out to knw other gals... after dat time, he promised dat he will nv lie to me again.. so we patch things up.. & i tried my best to give him my trust & respect...
But recently i found out dat he's been lying to me again...when i confronted him.. he still felt dat he din do anything wrong... & still shouted at me.. den he even say, "see? i told u not to look at my message.. now u see liao wanna get angry.." i was really devastated & deeply hurt... i finally ended our 2years plus relationship...
now.. he sms me sayng he's sorry to hurt me.. & he starting to realise how much he love me after i left him... but he juz wanna cool things down 1st & change totally to commit himself to me...
i dunno whtr i shld trust him again... he betrayed my trust again & again... i dun wish to be hurt again... yet i still love him...
Can anyone advise me wat i shld do?
not really.sometimes U really feel that ur privacy is being invaded.Originally posted by elindra:If he has nothing to hide, he won't have to say things like,"You don't trust me" etc and will hand you his phone straight away.
Originally posted by krispy:Are guys nv satisfied? i guess there's no way to get him committed unless he himself is determined to do it rite?
As much as my mind tells me to leave him... my heart dun...
so i'm really at a lost now...
& i'm scared dat i'll nv trust any guy ever again...