Should I Trust Him Again ?
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Originally posted by Oyathatsme:
Well... Who tells you that beautiful wives are definitely good wives then...? Before complaining about how girls like to ignore not good-looking... Not exciting... Not interesting BUT NICE GUYS... Cast your own shallow mentality out of the window...
It's so simple.
All those laws is bullshit.
[b]Nice guys always finish last.
Look at the Rock stars.
Kid Rock, Tommy Lee.
They are bad guys yet they get the beautiful wives.
Nice guys are boring. So predictable.
Who would want to date a boring guy.
Fustrated chumps.
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And just who tells you that NICE guys = BORING guys...? Sheesh...?
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x2Originally posted by Devil1976:Well... Who tells you that beautiful wives are definitely good wives then...? Before complaining about how girls like to ignore not good-looking... Not exciting... Not interesting BUT NICE GUYS... Cast your own shallow mentality out of the window...
And just who tells you that NICE guys = BORING guys...? Sheesh...? 
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Hello Krispy
I hope what I am going to type will be useful to you. I totally agree with you and what you do. He deserve it. However, it will be very unfair to say that he wont change. I know a person can change if you choose to.
But dont mistaken me, I am not asking you to give him a chance by forgiving him. What I suggest is that you shall go ahead with your life, knowing more guys and have your life back. And as for him, well he can start as a normal friend and start wooing you all over again. If he really do love you, let him rebuild this relationship and the trust he had trash in you.
My advise may not be the best but I will rather give him a chance. However, I dont believe chance shall come free, he shall be tested again and again until he earn what he deserve.
RegardsOriginally posted by krispy:my bf has been "collecting" hp nos. frm gals he noe in pubs... & when i asked him abt it... he lied to me... & make it seem as though its my fault dat i din trust him... the 1st time i found out dat he actually has been lying to me for the past half yr... during dat period i was suffering frm depression.. yet he din care abt mi & had the mood to go out to knw other gals... after dat time, he promised dat he will nv lie to me again.. so we patch things up.. & i tried my best to give him my trust & respect...
But recently i found out dat he's been lying to me again...when i confronted him.. he still felt dat he din do anything wrong... & still shouted at me.. den he even say, "see? i told u not to look at my message.. now u see liao wanna get angry.." i was really devastated & deeply hurt... i finally ended our 2years plus relationship...
now.. he sms me sayng he's sorry to hurt me.. & he starting to realise how much he love me after i left him... but he juz wanna cool things down 1st & change totally to commit himself to me...
i dunno whtr i shld trust him again... he betrayed my trust again & again... i dun wish to be hurt again... yet i still love him...
Can anyone advise me wat i shld do? -
Hi varatare,
Thanks for your advice... & everyone here who respond to my message..
I guess i will take some time to think really hard & see his sincerity..
& maybe put him on observation? Only true love can withstand all tests rite?
Once again... i appreciate all of you here for your care & concern..
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krispy,
no matter how much advices our forumites here has contributed, I know you will go back to him eventually. If i were you, i will follow my heart and give him another chance. All because of 'love'. If he still repeats the same mistakes, I'm sure you will get sick of it one day and you will be able to end this r/s thoroughly yourself then. By then, i'm sure you wouldn't be so hesitant nor devastated as now, because you know you had given this r/s a final try and you had done your best...
No matter what, we will be behind you. All the best.
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How have you been babe...?Originally posted by Ayla:krispy,
no matter how much advices our forumites here has contributed, I know you will go back to him eventually. If i were you, i will follow my heart and give him another chance. All because of 'love'. If he still repeats the same mistakes, I'm sure you will get sick of it one day and you will be able to end this r/s thoroughly yourself then. By then, i'm sure you wouldn't be so hesitant nor devastated as now, because you know you had given this r/s a final try and you had done your best...
No matter what, we will be behind you. All the best.
Long time no see... Miss you already...
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Originally posted by krispy:Hi varatare,
Thanks for your advice... & everyone here who respond to my message..
I guess i will take some time to think really hard & see his sincerity..
& maybe put him on observation? Only true love can withstand all tests rite?
Once again... i appreciate all of you here for your care & concern.. 
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hey Krispy!
the fact that you ask this question means that you don't trust him.
you can't decide to trust, you must TRUST (with your heart).
besides, what sort of monkey business do you think he can be up to with all those numbers? Nothing positive for you relationship i can imagine...
Originally posted by krispy:my bf has been "collecting" hp nos. frm gals he noe in pubs... & when i asked him abt it... he lied to me... & make it seem as though its my fault dat i din trust him... the 1st time i found out dat he actually has been lying to me for the past half yr... during dat period i was suffering frm depression.. yet he din care abt mi & had the mood to go out to knw other gals... after dat time, he promised dat he will nv lie to me again.. so we patch things up.. & i tried my best to give him my trust & respect...
But recently i found out dat he's been lying to me again...when i confronted him.. he still felt dat he din do anything wrong... & still shouted at me.. den he even say, "see? i told u not to look at my message.. now u see liao wanna get angry.." i was really devastated & deeply hurt... i finally ended our 2years plus relationship...
now.. he sms me sayng he's sorry to hurt me.. & he starting to realise how much he love me after i left him... but he juz wanna cool things down 1st & change totally to commit himself to me...
i dunno whtr i shld trust him again... he betrayed my trust again & again... i dun wish to be hurt again... yet i still love him...
Can anyone advise me wat i shld do?