need help to let go...
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haha shameless? nah.. it's jus normal la.. there r guys and gurls out there 2 timing ppl.. but there r ppl who r willing to be 2 timed too! but in this case.. his gf is not those kinda. .he simply didnt cherish wad he had.. i understand.. but it's jus too late.. gd luck dude
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The first thing to do..is to forgive yourself. People may not forgive you but in order to let go, you must forgive yourself and move on.
I know it's hard to forgive yourself but it really all boils down to whether you really want to let go or just continue to be miserable. Because if you don't let go, it doesn't mean your ex will forgive you. Since it's apparent that she won't, just go easy on yourself. Everybody makes mistakes. You deserve her hostility towards yourself but just try to pick yourself up, forget about the past, go easy on yourself for now and make sure not to make the same mistake again.
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since she has moved on with her life, juz let her go pls...
dun "si chan lan da"... -
tell me have u been in a long relationship b4? or even been in a relationship that can last after the honeymoon period.?Originally posted by shadowlunar:Hope you suffer the agony for a few more months. Hope your next gf will double time on you. Hope someone will come by and rip that scar of yours and let it bleed profusely. Hope your ex-gf will hate you for life and curse you whenever she sees you. Hope you will be guilty for life.
Know why I putting all these hopes on you. It's ppl like you who change a gal's perspective about guys and makes them think all guys are two timers. You make that gal feel more insecure in future relationship. You make the next bf of her to pick up the pieces and patch it back. You left a scar in her heart because of your irresponsible actions. No gals should deserve all these things.
I wish all the best to your ex-gf and all the worst to you. You may hear this a million times but I just have to say it loud, YOU GOD DAMNED DESERVED ALL THIS AGONY BECAUSE YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF THIS MESS.
I really pity that gal and glad that she overcame her sorrows. And you? Still want to get her back and hurt her again?
LOSER! PHUI! I just hate double timers. They are scums and lowlifes. PHUI!
For your info, I'm a guy speaking from my own personal views and I do not represent anyone or party. If you feel offended by my posting, apology is not given, I meant to do that.
hope u can stay strong and dun eat ur own words in the future... if u ever eat ur words pls come back and apologies to thread starter. if u stay strong, not only the thread starter i also deserve this kind of insult. i respect . -
serve u rite.
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The least you can do for her now is to let her alone to let her have the peace she deserves... Perhaps in that sense, it's already something she's yearning for.... As much as you wish it over, you should understand how even more difficult it could be for her...? Let time do the rest...Originally posted by rumie:hi people...
exactly 5 months ago, i broke-off with my ex... cos, i was, well, double-timing her back then.
i really feel guilty about it already, so please don't talk about what a bad guy i am cos i KNOW i am one and that's it.
anyway, i dunno whether it is guilt of is it becasue i still have feelings for her (YES, i DID love her back then), but i haven't been myself for the past 5 months.
have cried more than 15 times for her, tried to apologise and make her know that i was truly sorry... but she just doesn't want to care anymore.
I guess i deserve all of these... but it seems that i still message her every now and then even though she doesn't reply... i know she has moved on and had let go and doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore,
but i still feel.. weird.
i know i want her to be happy and i shouldnt disturb her anymore, but i just cant seem to let go. it's retribution, i guess...
please, how do i let go?
it was only a 2 months old relationship, but... the feelings are strong... sigh... what have i done???...
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well, you did two time her behind her back...she's just paying you back by two timing you in front of your face...the only thing different is you came to a realisation that she's better than the girl you two timed her with and she found out that the guy she two timed you with is better than the dickhead that you are...
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I can sensed sarcasm in your comments. I don't have and never will eat my words, not in the past, not in the present and definitely not in the future. You never being through (or maybe you are a double timer too) it, you'll never understand it. Try being the receiving end, see how you handle it.Originally posted by ak0:tell me have u been in a long relationship b4? or even been in a relationship that can last after the honeymoon period.?
hope u can stay strong and dun eat ur own words in the future... if u ever eat ur words pls come back and apologies to thread starter. if u stay strong, not only the thread starter i also deserve this kind of insult. i respect .
I initiated a breakup in the past because the gal was double timing on me. She said she loved me more when I found out about it. But I let her go because there's no point holding on to something which is not rightfully yours anymore. Guess how long it took me to overcome it? Almost a year. From that time onwards, I despised all those double timers because they betrayed the trust of their love ones.
For the threadstarter, I don't see any remorse in him. He's not really apologetic of what he have done. That's why he deserved what he is in now. By speaking out for him, I believe you're into casual relationships too. Hope you're not gonna end up like the threadstarter.
For your info, this is my 8th year with my gal and still going strong. I still love her very much as in the beginning and it never strike me to find another one. I believe if you treat a gal right, she will reciprocate it. So, what do you have to be proud of? Name it. -
agree ... the starter was not remorseful or apologetic for his actions. He just want the feelins removed or the girl he betrayed to come back...
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Right on. All those ppl who deserved my sympathy are those kidney patients in NKF, orphans in Africa, poor families in 3rd world countries, you get what I mean........Originally posted by mistyblue:agree ... the starter was not remorseful or apologetic for his actions. He just want the feelins removed or the girl he betrayed to come back...
For the threadstarter and those double timers, they are worse than Shit. Shit still can be used as fertilizer. Double timers are worthless, maybe a spit from me, that's all. Period. -
1. read my post carefully: i never had the intention of asking my ex back.
2. ... i AM sorry for what i did. what sort of remorse do you want me to show? kill myself?
Or do you all want me to break down and cry everytime someone made bad comments about me for what i did?
at least i didn't say things like "... so, all of you all are saying that you've never commit a mistake in your life before, eh? well, gd for you. and i hope that if you ever do make a mistake, i wish that NO ONE forgives you."
but i didnt. i gladly accept anything from you people, cos i know i deserve it and i mean it.
i came in here NOT to ask for forgiveness nor understanding nor pity.
3. i never have any sacarcism in my replies to all those who replied to curse me. i gladly accept all curses and whatever.
4. Finally, i'm never proud of what i did. my sole prupose here is to seek help to let go so that my ex will be happy and free from my disturbance.
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Come on,
Give this poor guy a break already,shit happens n he has already felt the pain.
my 2 cents,seriously i dun think two timing is any big deal,gives me more choices b4 i decide which is best for me.hell,it's not like only the guys two time.
it's not like i oppose to those who dun two time,i do respect the true feelings that those guys n girls r giving out to their spouse but hey they r missing out a lot of fun here.
Rumie,dude
to err is human,no one blames u,but u did learn a valuable experience,chances doesnt always knock twice,get on with life m8,drown urself in pubs,bars or disco.hook up with some more girls n carry on,u r still young n derserve to have more choices.
cheers
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your situation is what you had cause on yourself. two months only? what about me? lolOriginally posted by rumie:hi people...
exactly 5 months ago, i broke-off with my ex... cos, i was, well, double-timing her back then.
i really feel guilty about it already, so please don't talk about what a bad guy i am cos i KNOW i am one and that's it.
anyway, i dunno whether it is guilt of is it becasue i still have feelings for her (YES, i DID love her back then), but i haven't been myself for the past 5 months.
have cried more than 15 times for her, tried to apologise and make her know that i was truly sorry... but she just doesn't want to care anymore.
I guess i deserve all of these... but it seems that i still message her every now and then even though she doesn't reply... i know she has moved on and had let go and doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore,
but i still feel.. weird.
i know i want her to be happy and i shouldnt disturb her anymore, but i just cant seem to let go. it's retribution, i guess...
please, how do i let go?
it was only a 2 months old relationship, but... the feelings are strong... sigh... what have i done???... -
hmm...i had a 4 yrs rs once,wat abt u?Originally posted by zichuan:your situation is what you had cause on yourself. two months only? what about me? lol -
i know... i know... sigh~ i'm constantly reminding myself this, which is good, i guess.Originally posted by zichuan:your situation is what you had cause on yourself. two months only? what about me? lol