Should I keep my first for my wedding night ?
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People said I am conservative. My boyfriend who I am going to marry this September said that too. We quarrel over it often. He said I am too conversative and that not good for our marriage life ? Is it true ? I am 26. This is my 2nd relationship. My first relationship end because of that too. I trust my future hubby but I want to keep it for him on wedding night. But he claimed that since we have registered and is marrying soon, I should allow him to go futher then now what we are doing. Please advise ...
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I believe in having sex only after marriage. I am raised in a conservative family as well and I do not like the trouble of finding out I am pregnant due to sex before marriage, etc. I always make this clear to the guys I am dating tho...
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If he loves you he should respect your wishes. Wait.
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He should respect your wishes and wait. Besides it's only 5 months more.
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But he alway said we are married.
How far should I allow him to go without sex ? Maybe I am too conserative. -
Legally speaking, in the eyes of law, you're married once you have registered with the ROM. Of course, due to customs, most chinese don't consider that as being married without going through the customary rites.
Then again, he should respect your wises if you want to follow tradition. You're a rare gem because most girls these days don't give two hoots about it. -
Have you resgistered your marriage?Originally posted by Casino:But he alway said we are married. How far should I allow him to go without sex ? Maybe I am too conserative.
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yea...I am one of those rare girlsOriginally posted by elindra:Legally speaking, in the eyes of law, you're married once you have registered with the ROM. Of course, due to customs, most chinese don't consider that as being married without going through the customary rites.
Then again, he should respect your wises if you want to follow tradition. You're a rare gem because most girls these days don't give two hoots about it.
I believe in keeping my virginity until the night I am married 
But I strongly believe that if a guy really loves you, he will always respect your decision and will never force you to do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable...
i.c.y -
I cant discuss this in person with anyone. So I hope to have some sincere answer, advise and open discussion here.
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aren't we giving you that?Originally posted by Casino:I cant discuss this in person with anyone. So I hope to have some sincere answer, advise and open discussion here.
i.c.y -
ROM last december.
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i still got energy on wedding night after a long hard day of events?
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Haven't you been training for stamina ?Originally posted by kops21:i still got energy on wedding night after a long hard day of events?
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i am sure he can wait another 5 months. make him wait. it is already around the corner.
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Yes. Thanks icyprincess. I don't mean you.
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Oh. Hmm.
If you don't think you're properly married yet cos you haven't had your customary, and don't wanna have sex, then he should respect your wishes. It's only 5 more months afterall.Originally posted by Casino:ROM last december. -
If he think like you, then there is no problem.
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my stamina very poor....Originally posted by choco B:Haven't you been training for stamina ?
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What ?
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Originally posted by choco B:Oh. Hmm.
If you don't think you're properly married yet cos you haven't had your customary, and don't wanna have sex, then he should respect your wishes. It's only 5 more months afterall. ....... -
well wat's wrong with waiting another 5 months? not like you will run away like dat..
i.c.y -
My though is that if you are not chinese customarry, you are not married. But he been asking for it before we ROM and now worse.
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u got MSN?Originally posted by Casino:My though is that if you are not chinese customarry, you are not married. But he been asking for it before we ROM and now worse. talk over there easier..cos this is sth i feel strongly abt oso 
i.c.y -
Yeah right... you are a marathon runner!!!Originally posted by kops21:my stamina very poor.... -
WAHAHAH
kops21 is an energizer bunnyOriginally posted by spencer99:Yeah right... you are a marathon runner!!!