Finacial problem that affect relationship
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Hi,
Im very sad now, but i hope to express my feelings in here.
my girlfriend and i we been together for 4yrs+ recently she suddendly overnight changed and said that we broke off awhile, it was weird, i didnt do anything wrong to her or either we quarrell. few days later i saw her holding hands with another guy. i confronted her, but she kept crying. i asked her what happen to us both. she dont wish to answer. she keep crying. i asked for collegues of hers. she said that she wants to settle down with a finacial stable guy. this is hard for me though im studying now, i told my gf that i will finish my studies and move into the working soceity, we been enduring for so many years yet.. it true that alwayys i no money but then does she really love me or that guy she known 3days because he is stable. this is lame. this world is it no more love? is it love = so relistic in money... -
let her go , i know u like her alot , seen she chosen her path let her be with that . Thats no way u can change her now , unless u strike toto 1 million , having 1 million i believe u oso will not want her . tk care , use 2 hrs b4 u slp to make up ur mind ba .
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Makes no sense that she just keeps crying when you ask her. Does she have some difficulties that she is not telling you? Is her family facing some form of financial difficulties?
I mean if she just wanted to settle down with someone financially stable, she could have just walked out of the relationship. No need for her to cry when you demand for an explaination although it is the 'cooling off' period. -
i feel tat when she is with u, she already noe the guy n started a r/s with the other guy. if not, how come jus a few days of break off, she hold other ppl hand liao? she does not really love u. FORGET HER!!!
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she still loves me, but she want to escape the problem she facing, she got a habit of spending money, when we both talk about money stuffs we quarrell, she dont tell her friendz or family or me about things, i scared she all stressed up in her heart. scared she cannot maintain all those stress. i tell her i obviously common sense i cant quit studying and go work now with that abit of pay, right? ok im 21.. she is 22 .. the guy she is with now is 24.. i told her i got plans for myself she ownself said want to get married by 27 like that, i told her yes why not. we must have faith in ourself. not escaping with another guy which is finacially stable, right? because i always no money means i forever no money, she scared she next time will suffer with me.. this is lame..
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so she love money?Originally posted by zichuan:she still loves me, but she want to escape the problem she facing, she got a habit of spending money, when we both talk about money stuffs we quarrell, she dont tell her friendz or family or me about things, i scared she all stressed up in her heart. scared she cannot maintain all those stress. i tell her i obviously common sense i cant quit studying and go work now with that abit of pay, right? ok im 21.. she is 22 .. the guy she is with now is 24.. i told her i got plans for myself she ownself said want to get married by 27 like that, i told her yes why not. we must have faith in ourself. not escaping with another guy which is finacially stable, right? because i always no money means i forever no money, she scared she next time will suffer with me.. this is lame.. -
its like omg, replacing someone over me.. common lets not talk about how many years we been tgether.. its the bonding we had once. she waited for my to finish my ns, now im back to studies.. den later go out to work. she is like cant wait, no patience, i dont know what she is thinking.. its god that make me saw them, if not i am still in the dark. because she still calls me at night to tell me she miss me.. oh hell.. got things dont want tell me.. keep inside her heart.
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She did better start learning to spend within her means if not there will be problems in the future between the both of you as well about money.Originally posted by zichuan:she still loves me, but she want to escape the problem she facing, she got a habit of spending money, when we both talk about money stuffs we quarrell, she dont tell her friendz or family or me about things, i scared she all stressed up in her heart. scared she cannot maintain all those stress. i tell her i obviously common sense i cant quit studying and go work now with that abit of pay, right? ok im 21.. she is 22 .. the guy she is with now is 24.. i told her i got plans for myself she ownself said want to get married by 27 like that, i told her yes why not. we must have faith in ourself. not escaping with another guy which is finacially stable, right? because i always no money means i forever no money, she scared she next time will suffer with me.. this is lame..
Looks like she don't have confidence in you
Anyway, think about it carefully because she doesn't seem to have her priorities straight. If she can't sort it out within herself, it may be better to move on. -
forget her la...
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relaxOriginally posted by zichuan:Hi,
Im very sad now, but i hope to express my feelings in here.
my girlfriend and i we been together for 4yrs+ recently she suddendly overnight changed and said that we broke off awhile, it was weird, i didnt do anything wrong to her or either we quarrell. few days later i saw her holding hands with another guy. i confronted her, but she kept crying. i asked her what happen to us both. she dont wish to answer. she keep crying. i asked for collegues of hers. she said that she wants to settle down with a finacial stable guy. this is hard for me though im studying now, i told my gf that i will finish my studies and move into the working soceity, we been enduring for so many years yet.. it true that alwayys i no money but then does she really love me or that guy she known 3days because he is stable. this is lame. this world is it no more love? is it love = so relistic in money...
next time when you get stinking rich,
drive your Lamborghini down Orchard Road and open the door
girls will flood in like water -
she dont love money, if love money can pei me 4yrs while i financially not stable? she say love me not because of money, seriously i can forgive her what she did to me with another man. there is reasons yes at least tell me because we are couple, and we should together face the problem, not escaping with another guy to share stuffs with the guy. right?Originally posted by RaTtY81:so she love money? -
its true, but because i still love her, i want to change her person. its her thinking that makes her think into the wrong path. my piority is to make her thinkg straight, change her character. she cant be like this forever, if touch wood she with this guy really together, end of the day would end up like me. scenario the guy she with now suddendly quit job, no money.. haha the history has begun back to him.Originally posted by elindra:She did better start learning to spend within her means if not there will be problems in the future between the both of you as well about money.
Looks like she don't have confidence in you Anyway, think about it carefully because she doesn't seem to have her priorities straight. If she can't sort it out within herself, it may be better to move on. -
fark her la... she now with another guy yet call u n sae she miss u... wtf...
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Looks like you really care about her.Originally posted by zichuan:its true, but because i still love her, i want to change her person. its her thinking that makes her think into the wrong path. my piority is to make her thinkg straight, change her character. she cant be like this forever, if touch wood she with this guy really together, end of the day would end up like me. scenario the guy she with now suddendly quit job, no money.. haha the history has begun back to him.
She is really lucky though she doesn't know it.
Anyway, good luck in whatever you want to do. -
till today morning she still keep crying.. whats wrong.. its your fault that you hurt me, but then i can forgive you of what you did. she said she will think: choose mi or that guy..
imagine.. choose 4yrs guy? choose 3days guy? temporaty love and long lasting love.. this is lame... temportay $ long term $?? i hope she see far.. she must have confidence in me. i hope this is what she is thinking now. -
This whole thing is lame.
I really have to take my hat off you. -
she's not seeing far.
you can 1) choose to wait, 2) move on. -
she dun love u la... stop dreaming n wake up...
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See women knows only how to spend men's money and cry all day like my wife wat else they know CB I had enough liao
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I will be direct but forgive my frankness. Please get this into your head.... she is probably with that guy for quite long..... and NOT 3 days.... she must have been double timing you for some time.....Originally posted by zichuan:till today morning she still keep crying.. whats wrong.. its your fault that you hurt me, but then i can forgive you of what you did. she said she will think: choose mi or that guy..
imagine.. choose 4yrs guy? choose 3days guy? temporaty love and long lasting love.. this is lame... temportay $ long term $?? i hope she see far.. she must have confidence in me. i hope this is what she is thinking now. -
yea tats wat i feel aso... no way i can accept some1 as my gf after like 3 days of break up.Originally posted by spencer99:I will be direct but forgive my frankness. Please get this into your head.... she is probably with that guy for quite long..... and NOT 3 days.... she must have been double timing you for some time..... -
i know its like, what the hell.. i know time for gals is critical. but for man 30yrs also not old. they cant wait, they wan faster married be tai tai and have children.Originally posted by spencer99:I will be direct but forgive my frankness. Please get this into your head.... she is probably with that guy for quite long..... and NOT 3 days.... she must have been double timing you for some time..... -
Originally posted by zichuan:Hi,
Im very sad now, but i hope to express my feelings in here.
my girlfriend and i we been together for 4yrs+ recently she suddendly overnight changed and said that we broke off awhile, it was weird, i didnt do anything wrong to her or either we quarrell. few days later i saw her holding hands with another guy. i confronted her, but she kept crying. i asked her what happen to us both. she dont wish to answer. she keep crying. i asked for collegues of hers. she said that she wants to settle down with a finacial stable guy. this is hard for me though im studying now, i told my gf that i will finish my studies and move into the working soceity, we been enduring for so many years yet.. it true that alwayys i no money but then does she really love me or that guy she known 3days because he is stable. this is lame. this world is it no more love? is it love = so relistic in money...
Is she a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn?
P.S: I would rather you go on your way, strive for your career, fall in love with another woman who APPRECIATE the real you than for something you have. Think hard and think carefully; it's not about money - it's about personality.
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Had a few case like yours.
Haiz same tatic by girls to dump bf of many years.
Cry cry cry hope that you can pity her and siam faster.
Make the new bf soft heart and faster marry her also.
Pity leh the same tatic use so many times i can see through it.
Boy you had been taken a ride by the gal lar.
let me do some prediction as what will happen.
1) she will try to break up with you no matter wat u say.
2) everytime see you also cry to win pity lar big deal.
3) Try to hitch the new guy as fast as possible to get more money.
4) After spending all her husband cash then siam to another guy to get more.
Please do not say she will not do this and that lar.
Happen means happen scream and shout will not help.
Remember this lesson well next time when looking for gf try to find a gal who you can afford lar. -
What a damn b****.......! I know what it must feel like to be treated like s***....I think u should jus forget about her. Reading ur post brings me back to my own experience where I felt so short-changed - I was in the mood for resolving issues at all times but she wasn't, she chose the easy way out instead - exactly what u're experiencing now......
U should not accept this kinda behaviour from her, its not tolerable and u should not take her back. FOrget her - if she's capable of doing something like that once, she'll do it again......this kinda woman got innate mental problem, avoid at all costs!!