Finacial problem that affect relationship
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even if you join the workforce are you able to satisfy her financially? let her go. many marriages failed because of financial problems. it is extremely difficult if she is the sort that is overly concerned with money.
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If she is not willing to stick with u through thick & thin, then she is not worth it.
Even in marriage, there will be ups & downs eg retrenchment, sickness.
U need someone supportive who is strong enough to help u.
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Wow... what's this got to do with Capricorn or Virgo?Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Is she a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn?
Being practical, I guess?
Being practical does not equate being materialistic!!
Yes, I'm Capricorn.
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I agree with gerry.Originally posted by gerrykoh:If she is not willing to stick with u through thick & thin, then she is not worth it.
Even in marriage, there will be ups & downs eg retrenchment, sickness.
U need someone supportive who is strong enough to help u.
Remember choose a marriage partner carefully.
I think she should be dropped like a hot rock... even though you feel you love her and are willing to forgive her. It's obvious that it's not your time to earn the bucks yet since you're still studying. She should know this. If she can't wait 2-3 years, she's not worth it! -
Hi zichuan
From your message I feel that you still love her and aty the same time you are angry with her. We all had hear only one side of your story which is why I wont want to judge her base on this. However, if you are thinking of changing her, I will like to suggest that you think about it again. Nobody can change anybody unless he/she want to be change in the first place. So dont waste your time waiting to change her. Let say you live til 80, you only have four 20 years to go. 1/4 of your live have already past so dont waste anymore time on thing you cant control and change.
RegardsOriginally posted by zichuan:Hi,
Im very sad now, but i hope to express my feelings in here.
my girlfriend and i we been together for 4yrs+ recently she suddendly overnight changed and said that we broke off awhile, it was weird, i didnt do anything wrong to her or either we quarrell. few days later i saw her holding hands with another guy. i confronted her, but she kept crying. i asked her what happen to us both. she dont wish to answer. she keep crying. i asked for collegues of hers. she said that she wants to settle down with a finacial stable guy. this is hard for me though im studying now, i told my gf that i will finish my studies and move into the working soceity, we been enduring for so many years yet.. it true that alwayys i no money but then does she really love me or that guy she known 3days because he is stable. this is lame. this world is it no more love? is it love = so relistic in money... -
hmm...Originally posted by RaTtY81:fark her la... she now with another guy yet call u n sae she miss u... wtf...
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wah u give ppl wake up call ah?Originally posted by RaTtY81:she dun love u la... stop dreaming n wake up...
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here's my story
i've said b4.. i got a gf (we both 19) .. whom we started 1 yr plus ago.. den 2 months ago.. we broke up.. due to some misunderstanding.. we seldom quarrel.. tt was the 1st major one
the one month when i was single.. i was in hell.. i know there's guy (27) going after her..he has a car... stable income... ($4000+/month) whereas i kinda poor as i spent alot clubbing, hanging out.. yea. but luckily.. due to my perserverance.. and stuff.. i managed to get her back with me.. she chose me over the $ and cars tt she could be enjoying right now!
i feel so bad as i can only afford to tk cabs or public transport with her... i cant bring her to top restuarants every dates .. but i believe.. i can give her the happiness as well...
SEE, actually not all gers r materialistic..
i agree that when they need money.. when they wan buy stuff... they will sian..( as she couldnt afford) but money is secondary... slowly spend.. slowly save.. it's crucial... wad's most important.. is the commitment.. and passion for each other.. u've been with ur gf for 4 yrs! have u ever been COMPLACENT? like... neglecting her... kp her.. or wad? i used to be liddat.. but now.. i cherish her alot.. after losing her... once...
gd luck bro... even if she's really choosing others for those $ and stuff... u have to move on.. maybe she needs more security u see..
( i oso working hard) , muz get a car in the future!! i promised my gf.. long way to go la.. -
X2Originally posted by Axelheat755:wah u give ppl wake up call ah? -
i was juz tinking...in a girl's point of view...u sure the only problem the two of u have is $$ problem? could it at the same time be other problems in ur relationship dat make her leave u?
She cries when u ask her for an explanation..probably coz she felt guilty dat u saw her with another guy...and she's not heartless...even though she choose to leave u she's still feeling sth for u...4yrs+ not a period dat she can forget so quickly...her mind decided to leave u..her heart might still ache...she herself might not be too sure of her decision too... -
Not trying to burst your bubble here.Originally posted by Whaleson:here's my story
i've said b4.. i got a gf (we both 19) .. whom we started 1 yr plus ago.. den 2 months ago.. we broke up.. due to some misunderstanding.. we seldom quarrel.. tt was the 1st major one
the one month when i was single.. i was in hell.. i know there's guy (27) going after her..he has a car... stable income... ($4000+/month) whereas i kinda poor as i spent alot clubbing, hanging out.. yea. but luckily.. due to my perserverance.. and stuff.. i managed to get her back with me.. she chose me over the $ and cars tt she could be enjoying right now!
i feel so bad as i can only afford to tk cabs or public transport with her... i cant bring her to top restuarants every dates .. but i believe.. i can give her the happiness as well...
SEE, actually not all gers r materialistic..
i agree that when they need money.. when they wan buy stuff... they will sian..( as she couldnt afford) but money is secondary... slowly spend.. slowly save.. it's crucial... wad's most important.. is the commitment.. and passion for each other.. u've been with ur gf for 4 yrs! have u ever been COMPLACENT? like... neglecting her... kp her.. or wad? i used to be liddat.. but now.. i cherish her alot.. after losing her... once...
gd luck bro... even if she's really choosing others for those $ and stuff... u have to move on.. maybe she needs more security u see..
( i oso working hard) , muz get a car in the future!! i promised my gf.. long way to go la..
Your girlfriend may have chosen you now because of the wide age gap bewteen the other guy and her. Both of you are still young and at 19 and have yet to experience the harsh realities of life and love yet. You should give her (and yourself) a few more years and see how the relationship progresses. Both your perspectives of life may change when the importance of money becomes more apparent.
Spouses married to each other have been known to split because of money or the lack of it. It is not a clear cut issue of "I love you and you love me" and everything will be fine and dandy.
Don't mean to be pessimistic but life is not a bed of roses.
But I wish everything well for the both of you.
Hope she is the one for you.
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Athough I would agree with you that age does often play a role in most cases... On top of that, it's still relatively subjective to what a girl want and the extent to which they would want the things they're after...Originally posted by charlize:Not trying to burst your bubble here.
Your girlfriend may have chosen you now because of the wide age gap bewteen the other guy and her. Both of you are still young and at 19 and have yet to experience the harsh realities of life and love yet. You should give her (and yourself) a few more years and see how the relationship progresses. Both your perspectives of life may change when the importance of money becomes more apparent.
Spouses married to each other have been known to split because of money or the lack of it. It is not a clear cut issue of "I love you and you love me" and everything will be fine and dandy.
Don't mean to be pessimistic but life is not a bed of roses.
But I wish everything well for the both of you.
Hope she is the one for you. -
leave her. to her money is more important then love. at least u see her true colors before marrying her. next time if u make it big, do not ever take her back. save ur love to a more deserving girl.
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When the both of you have offically breakup.The relationship has ended.
Be a man and move on.It may be hard as we all have feelings but since the other party has already decided to move on when she initated the breakup,
then there is really nothing for you to keep waiting for her,holding on to the hope that's not worth waiting and maybe don't even exist.
You are just 22 right?What makes you think you won't be able to find a better gf?
For me,i'll never look back after an relationship ended,regardless who initated the breakup.The very next day after i brokeup,i would feel nothing about my ex.You may think i'm not commited or serious enough in a relationship,therefore i can treat it as nothing happened before.Not true.But i seen no point spending my everyday in tears and unhappiness.
Ever since i a small boy,i been taught not to complain about everything and cry.Life is tough,but i'm tougher.
The strong keep going...Focus on your studies and other more important things.