Love before first sight?

• grief00

  22 Apr 05, 10:19

  Hi pple.
  
  Well, couldn't believe I've fallen into such a situation. I've never believed that a person could take on a special liking towards someone even before meeting up with her face to face, until it happened to me.
  
  Got to know this girl through friendster through a very unexpected manner, and became friends with her, frequently chatting with her on msn and sms, and occasionally on phone. It came to a certain stage where I realised that I've got a crush on her.
  
  Yea, seems naive, absurd, and whatever you want to call. Guess such feeling is uncontrollable. I really need to hear you people's views on this issue. Anyone had a similar experience before? Care to share how did you deal with such a problem?
  
  Getting real bothered by this man..
  
  Thanks guys.
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:23

  I am going thru the exact same thing
  
  Just to let you know..you are not alone in this
  
  i.c.y
• dragg

  22 Apr 05, 10:24

  arrange to meet up with her
• Estee

  22 Apr 05, 10:25

  meet up then see how.
• Oyster Omelette

  22 Apr 05, 10:25

  You must be quite anti-social and lonely in nature to have such a thing occurring to you, do go out more often with your friends
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:25

  Originally posted by dragg:

  arrange to meet up with her

  yea, this is the best thing. and i believe both of you are in Spore? Then shudnt be too hard to arrange a meet up if both of you are really serious about this?
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:27

  Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:

  You must be quite anti-social and lonely in nature to have such a thing occurring to you, do go out more often with your friends

  dun judge pls, he doesn't have to be anti-social and lonely in nature to have this happening to him. Some times things happen beyond our control...
  
  i.c.y
• grief00

  22 Apr 05, 10:27

  I definitely can't let her know. She doesn't know that I think like that, and I don't think she's got any special feelings towards me. I'm sure she's just treating me as a friend. Haven't even got the opportunity to ask her out yet..
  telling her about it will simply destroy any chances of even continuing being friends with her..
  
  Oh well, sigh..
  
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:28

  Originally posted by grief00:

  I definitely can't let her know. She doesn't know that I think like that, and I don't think she's got any special feelings towards me. I'm sure she's just treating me as a friend. Haven't even got the opportunity to ask her out yet..
  telling her about it will simply destroy any chances of even continuing being friends with her..
  
  Oh well, sigh..
  

  Haha, dats wat my sweetie thought before he let me know about it. Anyway, try to hint to her? or maybe just simply ask her to go out as friends? Nothing wrong with that right?
  
  i.c.y
• dragg

  22 Apr 05, 10:30

  Originally posted by grief00:

  I definitely can't let her know. She doesn't know that I think like that, and I don't think she's got any special feelings towards me. I'm sure she's just treating me as a friend. Haven't even got the opportunity to ask her out yet..
  telling her about it will simply destroy any chances of even continuing being friends with her..
  
  Oh well, sigh..
  

  dont be so sure ok? at least give it a try then sigh in vain.
  
  
• grief00

  22 Apr 05, 10:30

  Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:

  You must be quite anti-social and lonely in nature to have such a thing occurring to you, do go out more often with your friends

  Thanks for your advice. I have to say that I'm not really how you describe. I do have close friends and buddies that I go out with often. I myself am feeling quite stupid that such incident could occur to me.
  
  I used to disagree with my friends who go for blind dates, net-meeting and stuffs, but now I understand that sometimes, when someone's captured ur feelings, you just can't control it.
• BabyLover

  22 Apr 05, 10:32

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  dun judge pls, he doesn't have to be anti-social and lonely in nature to have this happening to him. Some times things happen beyond our control...
  
  i.c.y

  yah agree.. try asking her out n c how it goes....gd luck~
• Oyster Omelette

  22 Apr 05, 10:33

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  Haha, dats wat my sweetie thought before he let me know about it. Anyway, try to hint to her? or maybe just simply ask her to go out as friends? Nothing wrong with that right?
  
  i.c.y

  erm,icy, you are into internet romances too?
• choco B

  22 Apr 05, 10:33

  Internet romance is so sweet and ... i dunno. Simple. Giddy.
  
  Indulge, but always be realistic about it. Especially if you haven't met her yet.
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:34

  Originally posted by grief00:

  Thanks for your advice. I have to say that I'm not really how you describe. I do have close friends and buddies that I go out with often. I myself am feeling quite stupid that such incident could occur to me.
  
  I used to disagree with my friends who go for blind dates, net-meeting and stuffs, but now I understand that sometimes, when someone's captured ur feelings, you just can't control it.

  I agree. And dun feel that you are stupid. Because like you said, sometimes feelings are very hard to control...
  
  but a virtual relationship will remain that unless you take steps to make it grow into a r/s in real life. And if you want that to happen, you would have to muster the courage to ask her to meet you...
  
  i.c.y
• choco B

  22 Apr 05, 10:34

  Online romances aren't THAT bad!
  
  

  Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:

  You must be quite anti-social and lonely in nature to have such a thing occurring to you, do go out more often with your friends

• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:35

  Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:

  erm,icy, you are into internet romances too?

  Do you think it is wrong?
  
  Is there any wrong and right in loving someone?
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:35

  Originally posted by choco B:

  Internet romance is so sweet and ... i dunno. Simple. Giddy.
  
  Indulge, but always be realistic about it. Especially if you haven't met her yet.

  haha then I am definitely..indulging
  
  more like my sweetie is indulging me hahaha
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:36

  Originally posted by choco B:

  Online romances aren't THAT bad!
  
  

  u have been in it before?
  
  i.c.y
• Oyster Omelette

  22 Apr 05, 10:38

  Originally posted by grief00:

  Thanks for your advice. I have to say that I'm not really how you describe. I do have close friends and buddies that I go out with often. I myself am feeling quite stupid that such incident could occur to me.
  
  I used to disagree with my friends who go for blind dates, net-meeting and stuffs, but now I understand that sometimes, when someone's captured ur feelings, you just can't control it.

  Nah, you don't have to feel stupid, I just thought that maybe if you could go out more often, you would not indulge in this kind of 'loner' activities. But of course, not saying 'loner' activities aren't good, just like some 'sociable' activities like too much clubbing and (drinking, smoking etc.) .
  
  Anyway, I could advice you to drop hints here and there and also, be patient as some people do find internet romances not real and fufiling. Advice can only be given, but the rest, it's still up to you.
• grief00

  22 Apr 05, 10:39

  Hey, thanks for the encouragement guys. I'm new in this forum, and am really pleasantly surprised that there are so many responses in such a short while.
  
  This problem is definitely making my mood fluctuate alot. Could be so happy at one moment, and very depressed at another. Having major exams soon certainly doesn't help.
  
  Just wondering how you guys would cope if u're in the same situation?
  
  
• Oyster Omelette

  22 Apr 05, 10:40

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  Do you think it is wrong?
  
  Is there any wrong and right in loving someone?
  
  i.c.y

  Nope, there is no wrong in loving someone if you know the person personally and well.(whether is it from the internet or real life)
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:41

  Originally posted by Oyster Omelette:

  Nah, you don't have to feel stupid, I just thought that maybe if you could go out more often, you would not indulge in this kind of 'loner' activities. But of course, not saying 'loner' activities aren't good, just like some 'sociable' activities like too much clubbing and (drinking, smoking etc.) .
  
  Anyway, I could advice you to drop hints here and there and also, be patient as some people do find internet romances not real and fufiling. Advice can only be given, but the rest, it's still up to you.

  it is not a loner activity. he is communicating with someone he can connect with
  
  And oyster, I am just saying how I feel about all this. I am not trying to offend you in anyway.
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  22 Apr 05, 10:41

  Originally posted by grief00:

  Hey, thanks for the encouragement guys. I'm new in this forum, and am really pleasantly surprised that there are so many responses in such a short while.
  
  This problem is definitely making my mood fluctuate alot. Could be so happy at one moment, and very depressed at another. Having major exams soon certainly doesn't help.
  
  Just wondering how you guys would cope if u're in the same situation?
  
  

  PM me wif ur MSN add, we will talk there
  
  i.c.y
• choco B

  22 Apr 05, 10:42

  Yeah, in the past.
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  u have been in it before?
  
  i.c.y