I wish I'm single again, I could turn back time...
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There's so many problems in my life
my husband
my inlaw
my family
my parents
and myself
i wish i could turn back time and remain single or be single again, and why??
i cant stand my husband - because his ego is so high, he thought he can settle all his mother's problem and our problem but in the end all suffers
i cant stand my inlaw - because she always look for or depend on my husband but not her other son who is still single with no commitments and her husband who dont really bothers about her problems and our problems and she refused to listen to me at all
i cant stand my family - because most of them go on their separate ways after married and never visit my parents at all
i cant stand my parents - because they were too demanding
i cant stand myself i hate myself may be because i married the wrong man of my life, i wish i could turn back time and be single or become single again............. -
look forward. no use thinking of what-might-have-been.Originally posted by mckenzy:There's so many problems in my life
my husband
my inlaw
my family
my parents
and myself
i wish i could turn back time and remain single or be single again, and why??
i cant stand my husband - because his ego is so high, he thought he can settle all his mother's problem and our problem but in the end all suffers
i cant stand my inlaw - because she always look for or depend on my husband but not her other son who is still single with no commitments and her husband who dont really bothers about her problems and our problems and she refused to listen to me at all
i cant stand my family - because most of them go on their separate ways after married and never visit my parents at all
i cant stand my parents - because they were too demanding
i cant stand myself i hate myself may be because i married the wrong man of my life, i wish i could turn back time and be single or become single again............. -
NPNTOriginally posted by mckenzy:There's so many problems in my life
my husband
my inlaw
my family
my parents
and myself
i wish i could turn back time and remain single or be single again, and why??
i cant stand my husband - because his ego is so high, he thought he can settle all his mother's problem and our problem but in the end all suffers
i cant stand my inlaw - because she always look for or depend on my husband but not her other son who is still single with no commitments and her husband who dont really bothers about her problems and our problems and she refused to listen to me at all
i cant stand my family - because most of them go on their separate ways after married and never visit my parents at all
i cant stand my parents - because they were too demanding
i cant stand myself i hate myself may be because i married the wrong man of my life, i wish i could turn back time and be single or become single again.............
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Both new members here. Registered just 2 days difference. SBSK's clone?
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Yeah I'm new here and I dont know what to do, and I dont have a friend to talk to about my probs. I am a working housewife, problems around me changed me alot that I love to be alone all the time, I am not like I used to be cheerful and happy-go-lucky... I am sad all the time. So I'm here at least to tell somebody my little sadness of my married life...to release my stress...is not easyOriginally posted by Manager433:Both new members here. Registered just 2 days difference. SBSK's clone? 
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Originally posted by mckenzy:There's so many problems in my life
i wish i could turn back time and remain single or be single again, and why??
i cant stand my husband - because his ego is so high, he thought he can settle all his mother's problem and our problem but in the end all suffers
Can you elaborate this issue as it is the most important.
i cant stand my inlaw - because she always look for or depend on my husband but not her other son who is still single with no commitments and her husband who dont really bothers about her problems and our problems and she refused to listen to me at all Elaborate...
i cant stand my family - because most of them go on their separate ways after married and never visit my parents at all
i cant stand my parents - because they were too demanding
i cant stand myself i hate myself may be because i married the wrong man of my life, i wish i could turn back time and be single or become single again............. Have you given yourself the same thought when you've made the decision to wear the ring? Could you remember why you chose this man?
Are you ranting because you're over stressed? Pressured during this period of time?
It's sometimes good to meet up with your friends and have a heart to heart sharing, they might be able to nurse your emotional load and ease it off from you.
If you've chosen this perspective in life. More likely it's because you failed yourself first.
It may not be too harsh, just enough. Think thru? -
Hmmmz....Originally posted by mckenzy:Yeah I'm new here and I dont know what to do, and I dont have a friend to talk to about my probs. I am a working housewife, problems around me changed me alot that I love to be alone all the time, I am not like I used to be cheerful and happy-go-lucky... I am sad all the time. So I'm here at least to tell somebody my little sadness of my married life...to release my stress...is not easy
There isn't much way to turn back time, no advances yet...so all you gotta do is to speak more with your husband, discuss on the issues affecting you and let him know your stand.
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Do you recall what incident or when you started changing?Originally posted by mckenzy:Yeah I'm new here and I dont know what to do, and I dont have a friend to talk to about my probs. I am a working housewife, problems around me changed me alot that I love to be alone all the time, I am not like I used to be cheerful and happy-go-lucky... I am sad all the time. So I'm here at least to tell somebody my little sadness of my married life...to release my stress...is not easy
We are here to help...that's why we want to hear more from you to clearly understand your own perspective.
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ok, rub me and i'll grant u 3 wishes....
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when you signed on the dotted line... you not only takes ownership of your spouse but anything and everything that comes with it... yes including the in-laws
Its a package for life.... -
I think she didn't really mean the things she typed here. Just pressured?Originally posted by X-men:when you signed on the dotted line... you not only takes ownership of your spouse but anything and everything that comes with it... yes including the in-laws
Its a package for life....
Long time no see anyway. -
Originally posted by LuNAtIcfArKeR:ok, rub me and i'll grant u s wishes....
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I've tried talking to him but there was not much action from him, all the time he remain silence in his study room surfing the net and I was like left alone waiting for him to sit next to me and chat you see... I cannot talk this out with my friends because I don't trust them at all, you know these pple will spread rumours about you once they listen to your other side of the world stuff like that... and I can only talk to strangers about this about myself.. well it's a very long story, we were lovers in sec. school and we were not prepared to get married when our parents told us to get married in the first place ... we dont even have enough savings to support both our parents after married or when they're in trouble at this time...I dont know how to talk to him when he loves to be alone all the time in the study room...or am I the only one who is under pressure worrying about this whole thing?... I'll be out of job soon, and it's hard to find job nowadays.. and at the sametime all this problems is playing around in my head, I mean my parents, my inlaws, my husbands, my job....Originally posted by deathscythe99:Hmmmz....
There isn't much way to turn back time, no advances yet...so all you gotta do is to speak more with your husband, discuss on the issues affecting you and let him know your stand.
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u sounds like ding's wife ? We have a member here who sounds like your hudbandOriginally posted by mckenzy:I've tried talking to him but there was not much action from him, all the time he remain silence in his study room surfing the net and I was like left alone waiting for him to sit next to me and chat you see... I cannot talk this out with my friends because I don't trust them at all, you know these pple will spread rumours about you once they listen to your other side of the world stuff like that... and I can only talk to strangers about this about myself.. well it's a very long story, we were lovers in sec. school and we were not prepared to get married when our parents told us to get married in the first place ... we dont even have enough savings to support both our parents after married or when they're in trouble at this time...I dont know how to talk to him when he loves to be alone all the time in the study room...or am I the only one who is under pressure worrying about this whole thing?... I'll be out of job soon, and it's hard to find job nowadays.. and at the sametime all this problems is playing around in my head, I mean my parents, my inlaws, my husbands, my job.... -
humm sounds as if this is a tough one to crack.
Here are some methods which I have thought of.
1) method 1
sounds crazy to me too. Apply leave and dump everything and disappear do not tell anyone. Switch off hp. Take a trip alone to find yourself again. Works for super stress people.
2) method 2
start helping others, like going to old folks home doing something useful.
At least it gives some purpose in life.
3) method 3
Super hack care, live for yourself why do you always worry about others when they never care about you?
4) method 4
The D word. Do not really want to use it as it is the last card to use. We are here to help not to break up.
Final thought:
Unless you do something about it. nothing will change. I understand you are just here to complain and to destress and you know in your heart there is nothing you can change. So just complain as much as possible let it all out ! this may be the only method I find suitable for you now. -
if you have kids..... got to think for them.........
kids are innoncent and they are the one that suffer if parent divorce ...
if u dont have kid ...... maybe can consider divorce good for both parties ....
settle once and for all dont have to drag the suffering for too long -
Well who is "ding's wife"? .. the word D - divorce has been said twice to him after my marriage but there was no action taken from him and now a few years gone already I dont know how long can I stand this anymore ..Originally posted by Nolvadex:u sounds like ding's wife ? We have a member here who sounds like your hudband -
heheh don't use the 'D' word unless you really mean it
if you use it as a threat then after use first time
nothing happen, he will not feel anything.
I suggest you do give him an ultimatum
to go for marriage counselling
because it will end up a one way track
Looks to me you want to give up
and just looking for reasons to do so
if you still want to save ur marriage
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may i know how old r u ?Originally posted by mckenzy:There's so many problems in my life
my husband
my inlaw
my family
my parents
and myself
i wish i could turn back time and remain single or be single again, and why?? -
life can n3v3r be perfect! This is life !
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It seems to be like you TRIED to talk to him. But it didn't succeed.Originally posted by mckenzy:I've tried talking to him but there was not much action from him, all the time he remain silence in his study room surfing the net and I was like left alone waiting for him to sit next to me and chat you see... I cannot talk this out with my friends because I don't trust them at all, you know these pple will spread rumours about you once they listen to your other side of the world stuff like that... and I can only talk to strangers about this about myself.. well it's a very long story, we were lovers in sec. school and we were not prepared to get married when our parents told us to get married in the first place ... we dont even have enough savings to support both our parents after married or when they're in trouble at this time...I dont know how to talk to him when he loves to be alone all the time in the study room...or am I the only one who is under pressure worrying about this whole thing?... I'll be out of job soon, and it's hard to find job nowadays.. and at the sametime all this problems is playing around in my head, I mean my parents, my inlaws, my husbands, my job....
I Urge you to try again. This time with more conviction. Talk to him and express all your fears and concerns to him. Don't be the only one in the relationship to burden these.
Choose an appropriate time and mood too. This is very important.
Remember not to be too paranoid and try to talk sense..
Hope to hear good news from you soon~ -
your username is very theOriginally posted by fuck fuck fuck: 
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Hey! Method 1 sounds great !!Originally posted by drx:humm sounds as if this is a tough one to crack.
Here are some methods which I have thought of.
1) method 1
sounds crazy to me too. Apply leave and dump everything and disappear do not tell anyone. Switch off hp. Take a trip alone to find yourself again. Works for super stress people.
2) method 2
start helping others, like going to old folks home doing something useful.
At least it gives some purpose in life.
3) method 3
Super hack care, live for yourself why do you always worry about others when they never care about you?
4) method 4
The D word. Do not really want to use it as it is the last card to use. We are here to help not to break up. -
you cant turn back time. but i sure know a way you can get single again.
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I wouldn't encourage using this method.Originally posted by _Aaron_:It seems to be like you TRIED to talk to him. But it didn't succeed.
I Urge you to try again. This time with more conviction. Talk to him and express all your fears and concerns to him. Don't be the only one in the relationship to burden these.
Choose an appropriate time and mood too. This is very important.
Remember not to be too paranoid and try to talk sense..
Hope to hear good news from you soon~ Generally, male will feel threatened when confronted by familiy issues. It invokes questioning of ability and ego. Which in this case, her husband doesn't even care.
Taking this into consideration, expressing emotions and concern is a bad move. It will make matters on her side worse; namely - No support from husband and family members.
Have you ever experienced listening to burdens which you didn't feel like carrying, being a part in it? Responsibility and mindset of oneself affect crucial responses.
Suggestion:::
The ball is in her court. TThe burden is hers.
McKenzy should go to a Family Welfare Association/Centre.
Call up hotline and seek help on how to deal with firstly SELF.
Once McKenzy can settle down and think clearly, she'll realise the problem is not with her family. (those are existing issues which happened even before marriage)
Her main issue is now to solve her immediate need.
Work and Financial income.
Thereafter she can slowly work towards building or leaving the family.
Till when McKenzy's husband needs help, he will automatically seek her for solution.
That's when she could set her condition on her advantage.
Question is:
Is she willing to look at the present issue, tackle at hand.
Is she looking too much at her husband, family - thought they are the source of the problem.
What was the age when they got married?
Cheers