Is it considered 'cruelty'?
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I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way. -
Is it really and truly the only way?
Perhaps you do not want to see what is beyond the obvious, for it is full of uncertainties, but truly...
Is it really and truly the only way? -
Stoicism shields pain, and bars happiness.
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Hi BabyRS
Sorry for I may misunderstand your topic. However, I never believe cruelty is realities in life and I never believe it is the only way to live.
RegardsOriginally posted by BabyRS:I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way. -
so philosophical.
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Yoz...Originally posted by BabyRS:I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way.
U r nt cruel...wat muz be done muz be done...if its for the greater good...
Cheers... -
Hmm... Don't get it...? Very much like my previous (and occasionally now...) style...?Originally posted by BabyRS:I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way. -
Unfortunately, it is, (for me at least). I can't give up so much for something that's totally unknown. I'm just not willing to take the risk because it involves a complete upheaval from the tried and tested. But in a way you are right... it is not the only way. An emotionally stronger and brave person may choose to weather it out and not live with 'what ifs'.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Is it really and truly the only way?
Perhaps you do not want to see what is beyond the obvious, for it is full of uncertainties, but truly...
Is it really and truly the only way?
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you think too much???
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I don't get it ...either...Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Don't get it...? Very much like my previous (and occasionally now...) style...?
how so? -
It is necessary for you to go thru this phrase.(?)Originally posted by BabyRS:I don't get it ...either... how so?
Learn to appreciate this phrase.
Cheers -
Don't let something that can be salvaged become a case of what-ifs.IT's about your mindset at times, let your mind be free and you will realise that certain situations are in fact acceptable.Originally posted by BabyRS:I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way.
I've been seeing too many what-ifs and gone through too much "I told you so"s -
lol. tt's almost robotic.Originally posted by starblue:you think too much???
such stoicism brings forth much grief. while many a soul are not contented with love and the hurts that invariably arise along with it, no one is ever happy without it.
cruel? certainly. you're being too hard on yourself.
rather than choosing to remain unmoved in the face of love, why not use the same stoicism to face the trials of love with much fortitude and equanmity? -
you have already chosen your path and I believe that no will can change your mind.
We can only advice you in the forum but we have no right to chose your path
So I can only say this:
Be strong gal, you still have us to support. No matter who you are and what are your problems, We will be here by your side in your times of need. -
An emotionally stronger and brave person, or maybe you from the future.Originally posted by BabyRS:Unfortunately, it is, (for me at least). I can't give up so much for something that's totally unknown. I'm just not willing to take the risk because it involves a complete upheaval from the tried and tested. But in a way you are right... it is not the only way. An emotionally stronger and brave person may choose to weather it out and not live with 'what ifs'.
But since you have already decided, just go on and don't look back, for regrets will only hold you down to the past..~ -
I hate being cruel...................................................................................
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+1...
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Yeah... It's an interesting phase...Originally posted by M©+square:It is necessary for you to go thru this phrase.(?)
Learn to appreciate this phrase.
Cheers -
We are all cursed! Its call "Life".
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Things are never what they seem...Originally posted by M©+square:It is necessary for you to go thru this phrase.(?)
Learn to appreciate this phrase.
Cheers
some things are better left unsaid. -
Thank You... that meant so much.Originally posted by drx:you have already chosen your path and I believe that no will can change your mind.
We can only advice you in the forum but we have no right to chose your path
So I can only say this:
Be strong gal, you still have us to support. No matter who you are and what are your problems, We will be here by your side in your times of need. -
Thing is - in the long run - it will hurt the other party more than it would affect me, and I don't want that to happen. I will not start, nor continue something that I do not forsee the ending of. Love between two people is not about feelings per se - it involves emotions, physical well being, family, friends... loved ones. While it is true that ultimately the choice is up to the two people in the relationship, we do not exist alone in this society, and sometimes we should respect circumstances. Going against the flow might be thrilling for 2 people in the honeymoon period, but when the ribbons and roses flutter and settle down...there must be the support of family and friends to see you through the sometimes hard times. In a different country, society and lifestyle; that is difficult.Originally posted by devoid05:lol. tt's almost robotic.
such stoicism brings forth much grief. while many a soul are not contented with love and the hurts that invariably arise along with it, no one is ever happy without it.
cruel? certainly. you're being too hard on yourself.
rather than choosing to remain unmoved in the face of love, why not use the same stoicism to face the trials of love with much fortitude and equanmity?
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ok. wot exactly happened? you posted in such an abstract manner. from wot i cld gather, you didn't want to enter into a relationship, fearing tt the consequences cld be dire?... care to share more? i tink i missed out on the family objection part.Originally posted by BabyRS:Thing is - in the long run - it will hurt the other party more than it would affect me, and I don't want that to happen. I will not start, nor continue something that I do not forsee the ending of. Love between two people is not about feelings per se - it involves emotions, physical well being, family, friends... loved ones. While it is true that ultimately the choice is up to the two people in the relationship, we do not exist alone in this society, and sometimes we should respect circumstances. Going against the flow might be thrilling for 2 people in the honeymoon period, but when the ribbons and roses flutter and settle down...there must be the support of family and friends to see you through the sometimes hard times. In a different country, society and lifestyle; that is difficult.
anyway, if you cannot envision a future in this relationship, then don't jump into it. but cld it be that these are all preconceived misconceptions on your part? -
why care so much about the way how others look?
what matter most is the feelings you have for each other -
very cruel.....Originally posted by BabyRS:I hate being cruel. But I guess sometimes in order to protect someone you have to be.
I guess the concept is very much like when my parents used to not allow me to date or go out as freely as I would've liked to. I used to get all upset and thought that they were just being cruel. Only now though, I realise, that at that age...regardless of how 'mature' we deem ourselves to be, we are still susceptible to undue influences and negative energy. In a way, they were protecting me. 'Cos they allowed me to come of age before releasing me to the even more morbid World.
When I am better able to cope with the harsh realities of Life.
I feel cruel now that I have to be the one to mete out the 'protection'. It does not make me feel good that I have to appear all heartless and care-less, especially at a time when that person needs a pillar of strength most.
I would have given everything material that I have for the situation to not be as it is, but Fate does have its way of mocking us, of entangling us and choking us in its powerful grasp. I did for a time try to stand on neutral ground, but I realise that it was often misconstrued, for he never did relent. The fine gray line is a difficult one to tread upon, and for this reason alone, even the strongest man does hold on to the last tatters of hope when there isn't even a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Therefore I will have to walk upon this dreaded path, to be absolutely immune to the outpouring of emotions and the affection offered. It hurts me more than it would anyone else, but it has to be done... for it's the only way. -
It's not so much about how the society will look upon us - rather it is how I will adapt to an entirely different way of life. OK - to make it so much simpler, me being with him will entail a lot of sacrifice, more on my part than his. It will firstly mean I would have to move to another country. I just don't think I will be able to handle the complete overhaul. Being with him would also mean:Originally posted by leilan84:
why care so much about the way how others look?
what matter most is the feelings you have for each other
1. Me leaving my family (not because of objection, but more of the physical distance) - with my Mom getting older and me being so close to her, I'm just not willing to leave her alone here. I have asked her to go, but she does not want to leave all the things that are so familiar to her... and at her age, she is just not willing to have to learn to adapt to a new environment.
2. Me not being sure of what I would do over there (workwise). Actually I need not work at all - but what I do (advertising/design) has always been my passion... and I simply cannot envision myself not working. I understand that I might be able to get another job there, but I would then have to start and learn the style from scratch.
3. Me leaving my best friends. They are very important to me. They have seen me through some very rough times, and I am loathe to not be able to see them as often as I would like to.
and a whole lot of other minor reasons that add up quite substantially.
While it may be true that maybe love can overcome all odds, if I was younger maybe I would have taken the plunge in a heartbeat. Maybe as we mature we become more cynical, and rationale takes over. More often than not, sometimes love just isn't enough.