What should I do. Help pls!! It suffering
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i been there and done that. forget abt her and find someone else more derserving of ur love.
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Originally posted by mal_colm1979:
GREAT...
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Cmon man.. its just a break up. you make me sound like some freak man....
Break up means break up....
Thanks carpe diem jur for your advice.... no worries.... I will be able to recover.
I have thought back and learnt from my wrong doings liao....
But I truly believe a breaking up doesnt necessarily have to be my fault only..
She might have her part of wrong doing also... Just dont wanna make things uglier....
I hav learnt and understand myself...... Though i know that she will never come back... But i still pray hard for her exams....... hope she passes it.
Hopefully she decideds to gimme a chance and let me prove myself.....
Once again.... thanks for all the advice.. especially from carpe...
cheers![/b]
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Sigh guys!!!
Its been days... still trying my best to get over it... It really is sickening...
Nowadays damm kua pua already.....
Super pessimistic in life and often appearing to be staring into blank air...
People gonna call me a couple of times before i answer them....
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GT a life dude...Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Sigh guys!!!
Its been days... still trying my best to get over it... It really is sickening...
Nowadays damm kua pua already.....
Super pessimistic in life and often appearing to be staring into blank air...
People gonna call me a couple of times before i answer them....
ITS TORTURE.......
There is no pt going on like this...
Torturing Urself isnt gonna change the situation... -
Don't try too hard on letting the past go.... When we talk about 'letting go', it means LETTING GO....Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Sigh guys!!!
Its been days... still trying my best to get over it... It really is sickening...
Nowadays damm kua pua already.....
Super pessimistic in life and often appearing to be staring into blank air...
People gonna call me a couple of times before i answer them....
ITS TORTURE.......
Just get on with your own life... Your own activities... And things would loosen on its own......
Anyway, what's you're experiencing can be pretty normal for a start...?
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Hi Malcolm_1979,
No point forcing yourself. Take one step at a time, moving on seems so hard and hurt but remember, like what others has said, dun look back. Maybe she had thought of ending this relationship and she prep herself for it. Maybe she maybe self-centred but someone got to be a victim.
I am one once, life was tough, studying, working, kept dwelling into how my ex betrayed me, kept thinking of the wonderful, as well as bad memories, etc etc. but in the end, what do I get in return? Receive a news that she has engaged with her bf. Is this what I should be rewarded for what I hav done for her? If her heart has left me for other guy, there is really nothing I can do. Rather than staying in tha past, I would rather choose to move on with my life.
My friend told me that her aunt did not get married cos she had been hurt before. She is still single cos most prob she as no confident in relationship. Think abt it, do you want to stay in the past or find a new girl in future who really treasure you.
As what I have mention before, every relationship fails cos the chemistry has died off and when either of the party tried to rekindle a failing relationship, it wont last. Really need both party to be committed.
A couple of months later, you may be giving such advises to the next victim of a failed relationship.
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hihi, i feel so sad for u when i read ur thread but at the same time i am also abit scared..
seems like me n my gf is ard the same as u... i am v clingy to her, but she is v clingy to me too.. this month is our 11th month together, guess i still have a long way to go... people envy of us being together so happily and sweetly, u can say our lives mon- fri = work, sat/sun/pub holiday = dating...
after seeing so many ppl break off after 2 years or so..i start to have abit of fear whether will it happen to me?
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Hi malcomOriginally posted by mal_colm1979:Guess you all are right.... But I can tell all of you people are definitely having more friends than me.... You all have friends to fall back on definitely...
Problem is I only have this PC screen to stare into now... waiting for replies....
You know.. I look through my phone book. Majority of them are all working colleagues... I think by telling them my personal problems will surely freak them out.
Thats wht I keep complaining that my life is hopeless......
Sigh.. argggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
i can relate deeply to how u feel... in fact we share much similarities. One reason i'm afraid of starting a new relationship, despite being intensely lonely, is i know i have nothin to fall back on shld it fail.
Unlike majority of "normal, fortunate" people, i have no frens to fall back on, to confide my problems.
Though my last reationship was more than a yr ago, i'm still leading a very solitary life. somehow, i felt my recovery & life in general would had been much better if i had a few close frens who cared for me. Alas, such simple bliss is not to be part of my life..
Btw, coincidentally, i'm in the sch as ur mentioned ex. And hopefully, u can rcover soon.
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i have a good advice for u.
r/s break ups. its happened to me qutie a few times.
my first break up was sad. but i told myself. " why are u crying over spilt milk, u can't bring her back." so i decided to move on. Miraculously she after 6 to 12 months she started missing me and started calling me. BUT i had no feeling for her. besides she caused me so much misery. so i told her to FUCK OFF -
are you handsome ?.. is she pretty? .. if it is, maybe thats the reason she went steady with you 2 yrs ago .. and maybe thats the reason why you 2 were once an item whom everyone envied ? maybe she went for your looks 2 yrs ago and is now bored of it ??Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys..
My gal just ended a 2 year r/s with me. Last week. I am feeling the full impact of this sad and depressed mood.
The reason she gave is that after 2 years with me, she now wants time to go out and catch up with all her friends. And plus she is pursuing her degree now, Its very taxing for her. My world crumbled, I cannot believe she wants to do this to me.
We were doing very fine and both our parents liked us alot. Apparently, she is trying to let it go now. I heard from her that she is fine now, and happier. She just wants to break free of the feeling of having someone to "report" to... I have never resticted her, unless she is going back home late (4am++) then i will worry. Her place is very deserted.
I think now its a case of she wants more. During this 2 years, I have done so many things for her and things which I did only for her and not the previous r/n. She knows it too, and she appreciates it alot. I think my mistake was to put in too much into this r/s. She simply pulled out of it and I was left picking up the pieces. I have to drink myself dead drunk everynight at home to make myself sleep.
Waking up in the morning for work is worst. Knowing that something is missing in my life and its torturing..
During this 2 years, what ever I did, I put her above me. That is why now, hte impact is much much bigger for me than her. Reason is simple, I put in more than her.
For some reasons, I have no friends and my social circle revolves mainly around her when she was around. Right now, I am so afraid to step out of my home.. Everywhere are memories of us.. HOW??
I totally have no mood to talk to anyone and simply lost enthusiasum in life. One conclusion made by my brother is that... She is not worth it.. You put in so much and she simply left you, w/o even hesitating..
I have send out many emails to her and there is no reply. But when I called her, she answered. Apparently, she still wants us to remain as friends. I don't know how to. Its very difficult to forget that we were once an item whom everyone envy us....
Right now, I am really at a lost. Can anyone please post some nice advice for me??
Lost and Lonely.
i have a female friend .. this is the reason she gave me on why she broke up with her bf .. -
get over it pal...i had given up on love..they can give u all the sweet promises but in the end a better guy comes along...she'll tell u all the bad points/things abt u and then dump you..so good for a ex-gf who was by myside for 5 yrs..
to my ex-gf..if u happen to read this...i need to tell u..
thank you for your love and everything u put into our relationship during that 5 yrs..i guess i am just not good enough for u thus u left me for someone else better.. -
get over it pal...i had given up on love..they can give u all the sweet promises but in the end a better guy comes along...she'll tell u all the bad points/things abt u and then dump you..so good for a ex-gf who was by myside for 5 yrs..
Agree with you!!
to my ex-gf..if u happen to read this...i need to tell u..
thank you for your love and everything u put into our relationship during that 5 yrs..i guess i am just not good enough for u thus u left me for someone else better..
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believe me.. u r not the worst out there.. there R pple who R worst off then U,Pick urself up.. and move on.. whatever we say is not going to do anything inside ur brain.. bt Believe me.. time will fade the memories off ur Head....
How I noe.. cos i been thru there nt long ago... and I still moving on.. It will forever b a dark patch of our life.. We must move on and B better then her..
GO do some volunteer... u see U R more fortunate then most pple outside..