to love or to hate
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Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle. My gf went to work as usual and I asked if she wanted mi to fetch her home after her work. She said she need to do OT and might be late. So I said ok and if you changed your mind, I will be here.
The next morning, I received an SMS from her. She told me she met up with her ex and her ex told her; he wanted to settle down with her as in get married with her. They told thru the nite and they make out.
I was shocked when she told mi that and the first thing that comes to my mind wasnÂ’t the make out part but rather would she still want mi? we talked for couple of hours and she hinted she wanted to be with me. She just need time to settle things with him. And she did!!! He was out of her life!!! However he played the disappearing act and it caught my gf attention. She felt lost and seems like she cant live without him!!!
They patched back after she told me she had chosen mi. she say sorrie and sorrieÂ… im not angry with her actually I encourage her. Cos if you never try, you will always be bother about thisÂ… am I stupid or watÂ… but I just lost the battleÂ…
i love her a lot but i cant bear to see her to be sad... well once always say is better to have two happy person rather than to have three sad people...
but i really love her... can someone just pull mi out from this black hole!!! -
ok,dont because of a tree then give up the forest,that's what u have done.u earned my respect.
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amazing that this is ur first post...
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dun love and dun hate..just give her up..or maybe you also play disappearing act??a person will only know something's importanace when they are missing..good luck to you..
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let her go. learn from the song 'heaven knows' by rick price!!!
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if what you've said is true,then i think you should let go..she does not worth your love for her...go find someone else..or maybe being single for the time being is also not an bad idea~
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sorry bro
What I am got to say is a bit hash but is a fact. I do not want to offend but I just could not stand seeing another one of the good guys suffer again.
from what i see is another case of kena played out by gf haiz..
being the good guys we try our best in the end the result is just the same.
To tell you the turth, I do not believe a single word your gf says. She says she loves you and got ot work to do but in fact goes to bed with other guys. Wow thats great man. So is it right for you to say you love her and go to bed with other gals?
I just hope that you take a step back and see that she is playing with you all along. She may even be laughing at you for being so weak and never fight for her. You do not get it do you? she play with your heart and you pity her? haiz you are so lucky to get rid of her so early before you 2 got married. I actually pity her ex cos he will have to get a wife like her. He will never know when she will sleep with another guy and pass some nasty virus to him. -
Sad to say it's her lost to lose such a sentimental guy who luv her so much. I believe u will deserve to hav a better girl, whom you can shower ur love to her.
Dun dun look back to love or hate, it will be painful if u cant let go, just like the rocks are sunking inside ur heart, u need to remove them.
Move on, find a new paradigm that u looking forward to.
Time would'nt wait for u but will let u heal ur sorrow & maybe fate be with u to find the right one for u -
i had something similiar happen to me with my ex. i can tell u that she is waiting for the best pick. whoever can give her the most comfort will be her choice. and sadly it may nt be u. she is 2 timing u and hoping to get the most out of u 2 guys.
i say leave her happilly and find a more deserving girl -
well by choosing to go back to her ex and make out watever, she already has gave up on u... its over dude..... now time to restart your life.... gd luck...Originally posted by slamdoink:Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle. My gf went to work as usual and I asked if she wanted mi to fetch her home after her work. She said she need to do OT and might be late. So I said ok and if you changed your mind, I will be here.
The next morning, I received an SMS from her. She told me she met up with her ex and her ex told her; he wanted to settle down with her as in get married with her. They told thru the nite and they make out.
I was shocked when she told mi that and the first thing that comes to my mind wasnÂ’t the make out part but rather would she still want mi? we talked for couple of hours and she hinted she wanted to be with me. She just need time to settle things with him. And she did!!! He was out of her life!!! However he played the disappearing act and it caught my gf attention. She felt lost and seems like she cant live without him!!!
They patched back after she told me she had chosen mi. she say sorrie and sorrieÂ… im not angry with her actually I encourage her. Cos if you never try, you will always be bother about thisÂ… am I stupid or watÂ… but I just lost the battleÂ…
i love her a lot but i cant bear to see her to be sad... well once always say is better to have two happy person rather than to have three sad people...
but i really love her... can someone just pull mi out from this black hole!!! -
For your case, you should not love or hate. You should be glad you left her.
If she really loves you, she will not open her heart to someone else, she will not open her body to someone else.
Try to stay single, its cool
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Originally posted by slamdoink:
"It had happened again". That means it had happened before. Has your girlfriend already cheated on you twice, including this time?
Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle.
Even if she chose you again, even if you won this battle again, could you still bring yourself to trust her again? How many more battles like this could you bear to face? Do you really want to be "always be bother about this"?
It is no battle lost. Not when what you could gain by winning is not the heart of a girl, but the name of a cuckold.
It is a battle won. Your letting go has won you dignity for yourself, respect from your peers, gratitude of one whose love you no longer have, and, last but not least, the chance to give your heart to another more deserving.
You're not stupid -- you're just too involved. Time is the best healer. See open... -
classic case of nice guy and fickle gal.
it happened to me 3 weeks back.
best cure for me is to meet more people. you realize that there are lot's of nice interesting people out there? I know making the effort sucks, but hey it's YOUR life.
now she wants to come back but i'm not so sure. -
Well.. Since you're the one who has 'willingly' gave her up, you'll just have to live with your own choiceOriginally posted by slamdoink:Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle. My gf went to work as usual and I asked if she wanted mi to fetch her home after her work. She said she need to do OT and might be late. So I said ok and if you changed your mind, I will be here.
The next morning, I received an SMS from her. She told me she met up with her ex and her ex told her; he wanted to settle down with her as in get married with her. They told thru the nite and they make out.
I was shocked when she told mi that and the first thing that comes to my mind wasnÂ’t the make out part but rather would she still want mi? we talked for couple of hours and she hinted she wanted to be with me. She just need time to settle things with him. And she did!!! He was out of her life!!! However he played the disappearing act and it caught my gf attention. She felt lost and seems like she cant live without him!!!
They patched back after she told me she had chosen mi. she say sorrie and sorrieÂ… im not angry with her actually I encourage her. Cos if you never try, you will always be bother about thisÂ… am I stupid or watÂ… but I just lost the battleÂ…
i love her a lot but i cant bear to see her to be sad... well once always say is better to have two happy person rather than to have three sad people...
but i really love her... can someone just pull mi out from this black hole!!!
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You are stupid.
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just like u.Originally posted by Oyathatsme:You are stupid. -
lol
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time to find a new dog......errm...i mean girlfriend.
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You are a SNAG
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for your girlfriend.
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Dear Slamdoink,
A relationship is Not a battle, nor a competition, please bear that in mind. What you have here, is a situation in which a girl has to choose between 2 people, & she has chosen someone who she feels she can be happier with.
However, your girl should bear in mind that a relationship is Not food. She shouldn't "sample the cuisines" to see which 1 she likes better, then swing to & fro. I'm Not saying this is definite, but she might be playing 1 guy off against the other. So, next time you make her upset, she'll say, "I think my ex makes me happier, should try him again", & she may say the same thing to her ex.
Is this ultimately what you want? Do you wish to be emotionally blackmailed for the rest of your life?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by slamdoink:Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle. My gf went to work as usual and I asked if she wanted mi to fetch her home after her work. She said she need to do OT and might be late. So I said ok and if you changed your mind, I will be here.
The next morning, I received an SMS from her. She told me she met up with her ex and her ex told her; he wanted to settle down with her as in get married with her. They told thru the nite and they make out.
I was shocked when she told mi that and the first thing that comes to my mind wasnÂ’t the make out part but rather would she still want mi? we talked for couple of hours and she hinted she wanted to be with me. She just need time to settle things with him. And she did!!! He was out of her life!!! However he played the disappearing act and it caught my gf attention. She felt lost and seems like she cant live without him!!!
They patched back after she told me she had chosen mi. she say sorrie and sorrieÂ… im not angry with her actually I encourage her. Cos if you never try, you will always be bother about thisÂ… am I stupid or watÂ… but I just lost the battleÂ…
i love her a lot but i cant bear to see her to be sad... well once always say is better to have two happy person rather than to have three sad people...
but i really love her... can someone just pull mi out from this black hole!!! -
thanks mates...
actually i met up with my ex yesterday and i told her wat happen... she said im too nice to a girl, which is a good thing but you will get bully in return... i broke up with my ex not becos we dun love each other but is much much older than mi... (5 years older and age is the only wall that we have... beside that im cool) that is wat she claimed...
i told her i will only get bully by the girl i love cos i allow her to... so yes is kind of sad but i just dun understand why this keep happening to mi... 3 different girls!!! shit man...
is there something wrong about my view towards relationship... treating a girl with respect they deserve is a no no or should i treat them like a bitch...
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She's a material Girl.... Leaving is a correct choice.
Respect a girl is correct. Once this trust/relationship/respect is in any way disrespected forget about her.
Basically weather the boy or girl cross the line.... he/she is not worth it to go along any more.
You just can't control anyone not to cross the line again. If he/she can patch back after crossing the line, meaning she knows this is what he/she can do & get the same result(s) again. It will be a strong temptation to cross the line again & again & again. In the end the one who always "Yuan Liang" will be hurted long in the heart.
Just once not "Yuan Liang", he/she will turn over & finds all sorts of reasons to get out. It's human behaviour. 99.5% humans will find all sorts of reasons to get out of troubles, even cats & dogs will do this!!!!
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Originally posted by slamdoink:Well, it had happened againÂ… this time round I lose the battle. My gf went to work as usual and I asked if she wanted mi to fetch her home after her work. She said she need to do OT and might be late. So I said ok and if you changed your mind, I will be here.
The next morning, I received an SMS from her. She told me she met up with her ex and her ex told her; he wanted to settle down with her as in get married with her. They told thru the nite and they make out.
I was shocked when she told mi that and the first thing that comes to my mind wasnÂ’t the make out part but rather would she still want mi? we talked for couple of hours and she hinted she wanted to be with me. She just need time to settle things with him. And she did!!! He was out of her life!!! However he played the disappearing act and it caught my gf attention. She felt lost and seems like she cant live without him!!!
They patched back after she told me she had chosen mi. she say sorrie and sorrieÂ… im not angry with her actually I encourage her. Cos if you never try, you will always be bother about thisÂ… am I stupid or watÂ… but I just lost the battleÂ…
i love her a lot but i cant bear to see her to be sad... well once always say is better to have two happy person rather than to have three sad people...
but i really love her... can someone just pull mi out from this black hole!!!
Just some background information before I post essay:
I) How long have you two been together?
II) How long have both of you dated before coming together?
III) Both your astrological signs?
IV) Any other information/events that strike the relationship apart from from this ex-saga?
Cheers -
how old are you? have you had sex with her yet? don't worry, all girls are like that, especially singaporean girls...all are confirmed sibei materialistic b.itches...she's not sure who she wants, so play her game...you don't have to lose out just because she's not ready for you...
what do you look for in a girl? a helpmate? a soulmate? a f.uckmate? all three?
tell yourself this: if you go to geylang and have it with a prostitute, how much will that cost you? figure $150 per shot, one hour, hotel room not included.
tell your girlfriend/fu.ckmate that you want her back...don't worry if that's not something that you really want...she looks on the relationship as a commercial transaction...you have to do the same...don't get mad, get even...
next time you have sex with her, go several rounds...fu.ck her cheebai until it bleeds...at least when she leaves you for good for this other guy, he'll be inheriting well worn goods...