When You Have To Leave...
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Dear All,
Sometimes it's Not juz abt r'ships, it's abt leaving the cty, leaving ur workplace, etc... The feelings of loss may Not be as acute as losing someone u love, but they're still there.
Share ur experiences & let ev. body learn from it : )
FeowFeow -
Erm, of course in the beginning the memories will be there and you will be overwhelmed by sadness. But I believe that time will heal all wounds. This is especially true about relationships. People come and go in your life, until you have found the one you will be with for life. Until then, take every relationship as an experience and as something that brings you closer to the One.
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Think miss the studies life lor. Still remember when need to rush projects with project mates, struggle at the lab and stay until late night till kena chase out lor. Then go for a late dinner and talk nonsense again haha. During exam period, do revision in sch most like a chit chat session. The most important is the buddies no matter is a guy or a girl, like helping each other and hang out together. Woww.. but after started to work, all dissappear liao.
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GAMES! SLACKING IN CLASS! FAILING QUIZES! listening to mp3 and imagining the teacher is singing... the lousy cheapo school canteen food.
but its not dat i miss em, its because wad im going to do sucks.
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i will miss my colleagues
they are a great bunch.....
we are like one family.....teasing one another, have fun together (like going to ktv, watch movie, makan) -
I had always wanted to quit my <$1500 job if not for my colleagues. They have been a bunch of wonderful pals to me.
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... i dun like to say bye bye.. find it damn sad... so i always jus pack up and leave... plus give them a lastin impression.... cos when u leave, they'll think hey what happened to him and wonder hows he doin...
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well, when i left my uni hostel.. it was kinda sad and tragically funny in a way...
my last day at uni after completing it.. i made friends there.. good friends.. with the locals...
a kind of a sense of loss.. for a while, i belonged somewhere.. that sense of belonging gave me a warm fuzzy feeling which i've only felt one other time and more intensely but wasn't meant to be either..
i was all packed up and just hanging around until it was time to go to the airport...
my roommate suddenly asked: hey.. why don't you stay?
i said: uhh.. mine's a student visa which expires when i finish my course.. it's finished.. i can't stay here legally
so he said: uhh.. okay..
he disappeared for a while.. then came back with one of our lady friends in tow.. and said this priceless thing:
hey.. you can marry Kirstie here.. and then you'll get to stay!
i think he was actually half serious
but anyhow, Kirstie looked a little bewildered and then we all had a good laugh...
then i came home on the big ol' jet airliner..
it's been around a decade already... heck.. memories -
I'm not really good at expressing my own experiences. If you don't mind, I'd like to share excerpts from a meaningful article I came across recently. The writer's experiences echoed mine in certain ways and helped me deal with some difficult periods in life. Hope it would also help those here in similar plight:
"Letting go of a job I really enjoyed, extricating myself from toxic relationships, or leaving familiar surroundings can really hurt. It can be very scary. It turns my life upside down in the process. It was during times like those that I went back to the basics. I had, for the most part, learned the lessons of being gentle with myself and exercising patience and faith, while I go through changes. It was absolutely necessary to remember my own self-care - to eat enough, to sleep enough, to talk to people I trust and keep expressing my feelings, as best I could, rather than stuffing them. And to maintain an attitude of gratitude, not for what was lost by moving on, but for what was gained before having to move on.
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"At times, the process of watching life's changing landscape can seem ominous and frightful. It can feel like being kidnapped, but not completely blindfolded, just enough to be really, really terrifying. OR - it can be an adventure - a delightful detour through something or somewhere, to some thing I need to experience, to somewhere I need to go, to do what I need to do. Once I figured out that the loss, the change, the challenge, the 'opportunity for growth' was not going to kill me dead, once I got past doing the basics of self-care, I was able to find things to appreciate about the changing landscape of my life.
"Changing landscapes can bring pleasant surprises, too! Just like the project I have been working on since the end of May (after a 5-month period of unemployment), a life transformation can just pop up, out of the blue. Somehow I just knew, when I got the call for a job I had not solicited, that I would get the job. It sounded really challenging, but not beyond my capabilities. Career growth and new experiences for my résumé. Opportunity had just driven up with the truckload of blessings I was hoping for, and my empty hands were not holding onto what was. I had let it go, and I was ready to set to work unloading the Blessing Truck. Yes sir, you've got the right address. Here, let me help you with that one...
"It was at that moment I knew that my trusting, my positive attitude, my gratitude and my self-care had paid dividends. Tired from leaning into the winds of change, I just leaned back and enjoyed the view."
- Excerpt from "The Changing Landscape" by Michael Rawls
Change is part and parcel of life. In fact, we could look at life as dealing with a constant stream of changes. To successfully deal with change means to grow and develop continuously. When we stop growing, we stop living. -
Quite sad since u feel attached to them n u going to another new environment filled with uncertainties.
but singapore ain't all that big, I will still get to meet up with them!!
I going to leave my current employment soon, it is going to be another adjustment to my life, hope I can accept it soon
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Yah, I kinda miss uni life too, when I was in Melb. The times we went shopping after lectures/tutes, cooking, lounging ard in fluffy PJs & slippers, etc... School days r fun : ) Sometimes oso get abit wistful thinking abt it.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by murphydannylfc:Think miss the studies life lor. Still remember when need to rush projects with project mates, struggle at the lab and stay until late night till kena chase out lor. Then go for a late dinner and talk nonsense again haha. During exam period, do revision in sch most like a chit chat session. The most important is the buddies no matter is a guy or a girl, like helping each other and hang out together. Woww.. but after started to work, all dissappear liao. -
*nodz nodz* Close colleagues r hard to let go... It juz wun be the same.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by FireIce:i will miss my colleagues
they are a great bunch.....
we are like one family.....teasing one another, have fun together (like going to ktv, watch movie, makan) -
I'd wanted to do tt when I came back from Melb, but I juz cldn't leave without sez'g bye to my gd fren, Josh. We've remained frens to this day (he actually came here recently on a flight, then dashed off 24 hrs later), & I think he wld've been really mad @ me if I'd left without sez'g gdbye
FeowFeowOriginally posted by mad.obsessionz:... i dun like to say bye bye.. find it damn sad... so i always jus pack up and leave... plus give them a lastin impression.... cos when u leave, they'll think hey what happened to him and wonder hows he doin... -
Nice 1, Tuatau, I think we can really learn from this : )
I remember when 1 of my colleagues left, I felt really horrible inside, altho I din show it, & smiled @ him, wishing him luck, etc. He oredi felt sad enuff, it wldn't be gd to make him sadder, he was oredi trying to be "man" & control his emotions, but tears were swimming ard in his eyes...
Some pple were meant to make an impression on the blank canvas of ur heart, I suppose it's fate? But this ex-colleague did it in a gd way, he'll always be my fren : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:
I'm not really good at expressing my own experiences. If you don't mind, I'd like to share excerpts from a meaningful article I came across recently. The writer's experiences echoed mine in certain ways and helped me deal with some difficult periods in life. Hope it would also help those here in similar plight:
[b]"Letting go of a job I really enjoyed, extricating myself from toxic relationships, or leaving familiar surroundings can really hurt. It can be very scary. It turns my life upside down in the process. It was during times like those that I went back to the basics. I had, for the most part, learned the lessons of being gentle with myself and exercising patience and faith, while I go through changes. It was absolutely necessary to remember my own self-care - to eat enough, to sleep enough, to talk to people I trust and keep expressing my feelings, as best I could, rather than stuffing them. And to maintain an attitude of gratitude, not for what was lost by moving on, but for what was gained before having to move on.
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"At times, the process of watching life's changing landscape can seem ominous and frightful. It can feel like being kidnapped, but not completely blindfolded, just enough to be really, really terrifying. OR - it can be an adventure - a delightful detour through something or somewhere, to some thing I need to experience, to somewhere I need to go, to do what I need to do. Once I figured out that the loss, the change, the challenge, the 'opportunity for growth' was not going to kill me dead, once I got past doing the basics of self-care, I was able to find things to appreciate about the changing landscape of my life.
"Changing landscapes can bring pleasant surprises, too! Just like the project I have been working on since the end of May (after a 5-month period of unemployment), a life transformation can just pop up, out of the blue. Somehow I just knew, when I got the call for a job I had not solicited, that I would get the job. It sounded really challenging, but not beyond my capabilities. Career growth and new experiences for my résumé. Opportunity had just driven up with the truckload of blessings I was hoping for, and my empty hands were not holding onto what was. I had let it go, and I was ready to set to work unloading the Blessing Truck. Yes sir, you've got the right address. Here, let me help you with that one...
"It was at that moment I knew that my trusting, my positive attitude, my gratitude and my self-care had paid dividends. Tired from leaning into the winds of change, I just leaned back and enjoyed the view."
- Excerpt from "The Changing Landscape" by Michael Rawls
Change is part and parcel of life. In fact, we could look at life as dealing with a constant stream of changes. To successfully deal with change means to grow and develop continuously. When we stop growing, we stop living.[/b] -
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Actually, me too. Rite now, it's still awhile before I pack up & go to another co., & I'm more excited than anythg... But I think, close to my last day, I'll think abt how I wun see my colleagues ev. morning & greet them anymore. Aiya, dowan to think abt it lah
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Kenashi:Quite sad since u feel attached to them n u going to another new environment filled with uncertainties.
but singapore ain't all that big, I will still get to meet up with them!!
I going to leave my current employment soon, it is going to be another adjustment to my life, hope I can accept it soon -
i read somewhere sometime back .. when moving from a familiar environment to a new environment, there's always fear of uncertainty and inclination to remain where you are .. There are many many people/things I missed, school days, friends, ex-boyfriends
, colleagues, some ex bosses . But the new people I meet are all equally nice. 
As you move on in life, the past become wonderful memories tat u carry all your life .. 
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I actually haf a v. v. gd r'ship wif my boss! So when I tendered (for personal reasons), both of us cried Believe me, if the circumstances were better, I wld've stayed, cosh we were really close as boss & subordinate, & we were frens...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by margarita:i read somewhere sometime back .. when moving from a familiar environment to a new environment, there's always fear of uncertainty and inclination to remain where you are .. There are many many people/things I missed, school days, friends, ex-boyfriends , colleagues, some ex bosses . But the new people I meet are all equally nice. As you move on in life, the past become wonderful memories tat u carry all your life .. -
Yah, sometimes nice & supportive colleagues make a v. big diff in working environment & happiness in the workplace...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Ayla:I had always wanted to quit my <$1500 job if not for my colleagues. They have been a bunch of wonderful pals to me. -
wtf??...u and him cried??...u and him "got Ji Ka" is it??..oh no..this is terrible!i guess yr salary is higher at the new workplace?Originally posted by FeowFeow:I actually haf a v. v. gd r'ship wif my boss! So when I tendered (for personal reasons), both of us cried Believe me, if the circumstances were better, I wld've stayed, cosh we were really close as boss & subordinate, & we were frens...
FeowFeow -
My boss is a FEMALE, so when I tendered, both of us CRIED. Being both FEMALE, why cldn't we be emotional when we worked so well together?
If u think u're being farnie, u failed miserably, cosh it only shows tt wat u'd thot was a brain was actually a malignant tumour.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by CuteBeat:wtf??...u and him cried??...u and him "got Ji Ka" is it??..oh no..this is terrible!i guess yr salary is higher at the new workplace? -
it doesn't meant salary is higher, maybe it is due to better prospects.Originally posted by CuteBeat:wtf??...u and him cried??...u and him "got Ji Ka" is it??..oh no..this is terrible!i guess yr salary is higher at the new workplace?
when I leave my current job, I will be taking a paycut but I think it is worth it in the long run -
Xian Sheng,
He's sez'g tt I'm fooling ard, i.e. AFFAIR, wif my current boss, juz cosh I mentioned my boss cried when I tendered
Like boss can't be FEMALE like tt
As I'd sez'd, wat he'd thot was a brain in his head, was actually a MALIGNANT TUMOUR.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Kenashi:it doesn't meant salary is higher, maybe it is due to better prospects.
when I leave my current job, I will be taking a paycut but I think it is worth it in the long run -
sigh... i think leaving is not the worst thing... the worst thing is you never know when you're going to see them again... i got a close friend go overseas to study. we promised each other we will keep in touch via emial. but she never reply me since 2 months ago... mail her couple of times liao leh.... haiz... i can't go over there and grab her neck and shake her and ask her why never reply my mails also...
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sorri, I didn't notice that part!!Originally posted by FeowFeow:Xian Sheng,
He's sez'g tt I'm fooling ard, i.e. AFFAIR, wif my current boss, juz cosh I mentioned my boss cried when I tendered
Like boss can't be FEMALE like tt
As I'd sez'd, wat he'd thot was a brain in his head, was actually a MALIGNANT TUMOUR.
FeowFeow
don't take it to heart lah, no point getting angry!!