to patch or not..
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i broke up with my bf few days ago.. i still cannot stop thinking about him.. cos in school, i have this very close guy fren.. he doesnt have much frenz, so togetehr we in a grp, got more girls. he the only guy. then is 7gers plus me, den plus d guy is 8. so i odd one out, i with him always. den bf say whenever he sees me with that guy, he feels uncomfortable and his heart feels funny.. he juz don lyk me with him..
n i tink since u my bf, u not hapi, den go settle wif him la, y oni come always say i wif him den nt hapi.. in sch we 2 oso nt like couple like dat.. seldom c us togetehr.. nvr come talk to me oso..
i explain to him damn many times!! he is only a friend! den he say i always with guys, den when he with girls, i angry. okay i admit i get jealousy easily. cos he last time is a flirtatious guy.. now i don feel secured when he wif gers ma. den i told him, okay, since not happy, always quarrel abt this, den lets juz end.
all i wan him to know is that i only wan him to be hapi.. cos he say he see me with guys.. he don like, and feel sad, den moody. den i wan him hapi.. brk wif him, he no need worry abt me with whoever, n he can oso go out with any girls he wan, no need care or feel jealousy animore. bt he say he don wan leave me.. he wants me back.. he is nt happy.
i dunno wat to do now.. shld i go back to him.. i miss him alot.. 8mths le this relationship.. mayb,i tink iknow why iwanna go bck to him, cos after 8mths, no more fonecalls or messages animore.. weird.. alone, scared.. thats y i wan him back.. possible??
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if he treat u a his gf, he wouldn't avoid u in school....... better think about it ..... u still young still have alot of guys out there for u to choose ... take ur time ....
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no. we 2 shy.. i neva go look for him talk in sch oso.. bt we gt go out when free, lyk ani other couples wan. oni in sch duno y litat....... i miss him a|oT!!!!!!!!!!!! should i go bck......
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LOL.
WTF.
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you must be the most lucky, unlucky girl in this country!
your boyfriend was happy with you, but not happy you were with other guys. your boyfriend was not happy without you, but happy that now he need not worry about you? did i get that right? -
is good to talk to him face to face on this matter ........
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he hapi wif me, he don lyk mi wif guyz. i brk coz i tot he will be happy cos no nid see mi wif guyz. i duno he hapi dat now he no nid worry abt mi. nvr ask. nvr sms le. he saes he nw wunt care le.. he will treat it as nth happen.. n d guy stick wif me cant be solved, he oni wans mi go bck..Originally posted by tut4nkh4m3n:LOL.
WTF.
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you must be the most lucky, unlucky girl in this country!
your boyfriend was happy with you, but not happy you were with other guys. your boyfriend was not happy without you, but happy that now he need not worry about you? did i get that right? -
hw big? nw brk alady. is he wan me bck, i duno wan go bck to him anot..Originally posted by sonicworld76:is good to talk to him face to face on this matter ........
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generally, if a boy(pref. him) seriously wants you back, and you want him back too, it's most likely that he'll come to you first. anyway that's the least he should do, he can't expect you to go to him, that's faggotry.
so then when he comes to you, apparently what we see on TV is the girl rejects the man on the first try(which you should), and if he's really tangled up in you, he'll be back for many more.
otherwise giving up on the first try doesn't seem to be convincing enough for me.
having a stead at this age can really be a burden huh?
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so u suggestin if he truly luvs mi.. he will keep coming bck for mi? if he doesnt.. den he's a fag n i shld jus leave him n mi move on..???? haixx..Originally posted by tut4nkh4m3n:generally, if a boy(pref. him) seriously wants you back, and you want him back too, it's most likely that he'll come to you first. anyway that's the least he should do, he can't expect you to go to him, that's faggotry.
so then when he comes to you, apparently what we see on TV is the girl rejects the man on the first try(which you should), and if he's really tangled up in you, he'll be back for many more.
otherwise giving up on the first try doesn't seem to be convincing enough for me.
having a stead at this age can really be a burden huh?
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becos he might tink that u dun like him any more, or other guys is going after u.Originally posted by blueberryjam:hw big? nw brk alady. is he wan me bck, i duno wan go bck to him anot..
in this case, try to explain to him why u hang out with other guys or u can ask him to join in .... is better in tis way..... -
well since now he won't mind you hanging out with guys that a really good sign. and since he told you he wants you back that's another good sign. only thing if he's really okay with you hanging out with other guys. it's because no one can live in this world without interacting with the opposite sex, i mean, they're all around you.Originally posted by blueberryjam:he hapi wif me, he don lyk mi wif guyz. i brk coz i tot he will be happy cos no nid see mi wif guyz. i duno he hapi dat now he no nid worry abt mi. nvr ask. nvr sms le. he saes he nw wunt care le.. he will treat it as nth happen.. n d guy stick wif me cant be solved, he oni wans mi go bck..
what he says now can be just temporary to assure you that's he's true, but after a while when he gets you back, and you're all smitten with him, he may just go back to his normal ways.
i think you two should give it a break for a few months and then start to think about it. a break like maybe the june holidays? don't do anything that concerns him at all, and just see if he gives up. -
explain until wan mad liao. a|oT of tYmz le!!!!!!!!!! n he gt his grp of pals, he wunt join us, for sure..Originally posted by sonicworld76:becos he might tink that u dun like him any more, or other guys is going after u.
in this case, try to explain to him why u hang out with other guys or u can ask him to join in .... is better in tis way..... -
wat if he doesnt wait tat long? meaning i gt to let go of him??Originally posted by tut4nkh4m3n:well since now he won't mind you hanging out with guys that a really good sign. and since he told you he wants you back that's another good sign. only thing if he's really okay with you hanging out with other guys. it's because no one can live in this world without interacting with the opposite sex, i mean, they're all around you.
what he says now can be just temporary to assure you that's he's true, but after a while when he gets you back, and you're all smitten with him, he may just go back to his normal ways.
i think you two should give it a break for a few months and then start to think about it. a break like maybe the june holidays? don't do anything that concerns him at all, and just see if he gives up.
haixx. few mths.. quite long.. haixx.. 1st i scared to lose him, now i lost him.. i wan him bck.. but.. he may nt wan mi bck animore if he wait too long... -
Not sure if you should go back to him... But somehow I've got a feeling both of you should practise a certain level of maturity before going into any relationship again....?Originally posted by blueberryjam:explain until wan mad liao. a|oT of tYmz le!!!!!!!!!! n he gt his grp of pals, he wunt join us, for sure..
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give each other some time to think abt this.....
as for you, try to talk to ur close friends and ask them. wat do they tink abt the guy n you bas a couple -
mabbe we r nt quite matured yet.. for a 16. thou so, we can n we know we r able to be hapi n make each other hapi, datz all it matters..Originally posted by Devil1976:Not sure if you should go back to him... But somehow I've got a feeling both of you should practise a certain level of maturity before going into any relationship again....? -
he should wait long.Originally posted by blueberryjam:wat if he doesnt wait tat long? meaning i gt to let go of him??
haixx. few mths.. quite long.. haixx.. 1st i scared to lose him, now i lost him.. i wan him bck.. but.. he may nt wan mi bck animore if he wait too long...
that's for being so indecisive.
he let you go so easily like piss being flushed down the gutter.
you did nothing wrong over here, you were just being yourself, hanging out with buddies. normal teenagers do that. it's just his paranoida that he thinks your flirting with guys, but you clearly know your not(or not). if he can't live with the way you're living, and if you accept that and change, you're living for him, not yourself, like a slave.
well i agree we should make some changes to patch up, but you can't change your entire life for him. esp if you did nothing wrong like just hanging out with guy friends?
if he really likes you he'll definitely believe it's worth it to wait a month or so just to have you back. but these kind of people are one in a million in modern times, doubt he'll pull thru. not to be a sore but just realistic. -
alrite.. thanks.. i think i koe wart to do.. thks.. anyway, pple.. diz thread nt yet finish.. i will kip comin bck to see more opinions n suggestions u ppl give (hopefulli) thanks u al so much once again..Originally posted by tut4nkh4m3n:he should wait long.
that's for being so indecisive.
he let you go so easily like piss being flushed down the gutter.
you did nothing wrong over here, you were just being yourself, hanging out with buddies. normal teenagers do that. it's just his paranoida that he thinks your flirting with guys, but you clearly know your not(or not). if he can't live with the way you're living, and if you accept that and change, you're living for him, not yourself, like a slave.
well i agree we should make some changes to patch up, but you can't change your entire life for him. esp if you did nothing wrong like just hanging out with guy friends?
if he really likes you he'll definitely believe it's worth it to wait a month or so just to have you back. but these kind of people are one in a million in modern times, doubt he'll pull thru. not to be a sore but just realistic. -
For para 1 and 2 too quick to assume? I feel that it's a one sided story. Seeing both side of the coin we'll have a clearer picture.Originally posted by tut4nkh4m3n:1:::he should wait long.
that's for being so indecisive.
he let you go so easily like piss being flushed down the gutter.
2:::you did nothing wrong over here, you were just being yourself, hanging out with buddies. normal teenagers do that. it's just his paranoida that he thinks your flirting with guys, but you clearly know your not(or not). if he can't live with the way you're living, and if you accept that and change, you're living for him, not yourself, like a slave.
well i agree we should make some changes to patch up, but you can't change your entire life for him. esp if you did nothing wrong like just hanging out with guy friends?
if he really likes you he'll definitely believe it's worth it to wait a month or so just to have you back. but these kind of people are one in a million in modern times, doubt he'll pull thru. not to be a sore but just realistic. -
yaa hiee..yaa u 16 rite..yupp mi too..haha
in my point of view,i tink dat if a guy do not approach u directly after the breakup rite..hes in the period of uncertainty..hes nt sure whether he can change..he scared disappoint u..n den he tink too much he will sian..yaa lor den stop tinkin cuz v stress..den the cycle continues dayafter day questioning himself
im nt quite a person wif yong qi la
if its me dats wad i'll do..cuz memories..really holds me back
i dunno abt ur ex la..maybe hes the hiong type n u noe dat he would gladly make e 1st move..if nt..give him some time lorr
haha juz helpin out by puttin in my view on this hope u get straightened out soon
cheers
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think you shld give urself more choices... as the time pass by u will stop feeling empty or lonely or uneasy without the smses n phone calls from him already. give urself more time to get used to it... n who knows maybe u might meet a better person n he too...
since both of u are insecured wif each other... this feeling will always be around... and its gonna b very tough cos every now n then u will think of it... i haf encounter it too... the best is to haf trust if u wanna be together dun keep having the feeling of suspect.... it realli tires u out...
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for your case u sure go back to him one
mark my words
1-2 month
say until sainz liao
is just some silly lovers quarrel only lar
u are just waiting for him to say sorry rite?
too shy to say sorry rite ?
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u say no more phonecalls or sms from him,weird..so maybe u got used to that kind of lifestyle??ask urself..do u really love him from the bottom of ur heart,that u're willing to do anything for him..if yes,i think u shd..but of cos he must also love u too la..if patch,try compromise things together..if he loves u,he shd trust u..and u shd trust him tooOriginally posted by blueberryjam:i broke up with my bf few days ago.. i still cannot stop thinking about him.. cos in school, i have this very close guy fren.. he doesnt have much frenz, so togetehr we in a grp, got more girls. he the only guy. then is 7gers plus me, den plus d guy is 8. so i odd one out, i with him always. den bf say whenever he sees me with that guy, he feels uncomfortable and his heart feels funny.. he juz don lyk me with him..
n i tink since u my bf, u not hapi, den go settle wif him la, y oni come always say i wif him den nt hapi.. in sch we 2 oso nt like couple like dat.. seldom c us togetehr.. nvr come talk to me oso..
i explain to him damn many times!! he is only a friend! den he say i always with guys, den when he with girls, i angry. okay i admit i get jealousy easily. cos he last time is a flirtatious guy.. now i don feel secured when he wif gers ma. den i told him, okay, since not happy, always quarrel abt this, den lets juz end.
all i wan him to know is that i only wan him to be hapi.. cos he say he see me with guys.. he don like, and feel sad, den moody. den i wan him hapi.. brk wif him, he no need worry abt me with whoever, n he can oso go out with any girls he wan, no need care or feel jealousy animore. bt he say he don wan leave me.. he wants me back.. he is nt happy.
i dunno wat to do now.. shld i go back to him.. i miss him alot.. 8mths le this relationship.. mayb,i tink iknow why iwanna go bck to him, cos after 8mths, no more fonecalls or messages animore.. weird.. alone, scared.. thats y i wan him back.. possible??
haixx dontt koe wart now la.. veri sian.. help..
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Yup.. That's what I thought...Originally posted by blueberryjam:mabbe we r nt quite matured yet.. for a 16. thou so, we can n we know we r able to be hapi n make each other hapi, datz all it matters..
Maybe that's just what some of you at this age would be after for now... But just remember that for such mentality, love can easily come with hurt and pain without much moderation in the relationship.. Anyway.. If you understand that hurt and pain are just part of the process in growing, then I'll say just go for what you like...?
And if you really happens to patch back with him, he should be treating you fairly good...? Around the 2nd or 3rd month of your patch-back, see how he would be treating you then? If things have died down by then, put in a bit of intensity and 'color' of your own.. Even try talking to him about it if it doesn't work... His attitude & mentality should be quite on the surface around then...? -
okay.. to tel u peepz.. wheneva i c him wif gals.. i'll get bit jealousy.. angri.. i kip tinkin he flirt wif gals when i nt around.. nt dat i don trust him.. i do.. bt its hard.. so e same thing lor. he c mi wif guyz he oso nt hapi.. i koe dis insecured feeling will be around for long.. i don lyk him wif gals.. he hatez mi being wif guyx.Originally posted by M©+square:For para 1 and 2 too quick to assume? I feel that it's a one sided story. Seeing both side of the coin we'll have a clearer picture.
tere wuz 1 inccident, he went out wif galz neva tel mi.. too bad i found out.. gav him hell.. i felt hurt n disapointed. den he sae betta if i neva find out cus if i did, reactionz sure like dis wan. so he gt intention of hidin it frm me foreva.. haixx. den i ask y he neva tel mi he gng out wif galz, he say coz i sure wunt allow wan.. den we start arguing.. haixx.. past things oso dig out for quarrelxx..
frm abv can c we 2 hate to c each other wif d opp sex ppl.. haixx.. so sensitive.. dono how oso.. haixx.. bt i really mizz him a|otZ