Changes In Views Of Love
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Thank you : )
I'll try my best to make him smile always
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:Indeed a welcome change from the depressing posts we've recently seen around here.
Thanks for sharing. May you and your intended end up in matrimonial bliss like your parents.
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*gigglez* Yah, my colleagues keep telling me that, he makes them snacks once in awhile, then everybody keeps asking me for the recipes
Unfortunately, I dunno, I always concentrate on the yummy results He said once, "No matter how I screw up our meal, you'll always gobble it up... I love you lots!"
But even when he screws up his meals, they're much more delicious than my most carefully prepared ones
FeowFeowOriginally posted by browniebaobao:
haha...how fortunate u are. -
I mean what your bf does sounds like me.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Thank you, MC : )
I wish you the same, that you'll find happiness & contentment : )
FeowFeow
I'm sure your bf is happy and wants to give you the best! -
Awwwwww, then your gf is a lucky girl, like me
It's so nice to look forward to the end of the day, knowing that there's a hug & kiss waiting for you
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:I mean what your bf does sounds like me.
I'm sure your bf is happy and wants to give you the best! -
fantastic feeling isn't it. the desire to love and to hold is reciprocated by your partner.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi All,
I've read some things in this forum, as well as spoken to some younger people (including my nephew, who's 6 years younger than I). It occurred to me how my past views are echoed in these young people, whereas my own thoughts about love have changed.
I used to imagine that love will all be roses, that my bf will fetch me after classes (sometimes with roses in hand, of course *giggles*), buys me soft toys, treats me to a meal at Denny's, candlelit dinner on V Day & anniversaries, blah blah blah... When there was a quarrel or argument, I'd get so upset & break things off. There was ONE difference, however, I was never 1 of those needy people My 1st love once told me he was so lucky that I'd let him go out with his friends for boy's days out, etc...
I used to imagine that I'd marry a guy who's rich, driven, poised, (maybe a banker, or lawyer?) with a fancy car... We'd work very hard together & accumulate our wealth, then we'd enjoy holidays & expensive meals, designer clothing, etc. We zip around town in his fancy car.
I'm now 28 (fine, I'm NOT secretive about age, can?), & after having relationships, I've realised what love, at least what works for me, is all about (to me also, it doesn't necessarily work for everybody). I learnt about commitment, to give 100% in the relationship. When there're problems, of course I get upset, but it isn't the end of the world, nor the end of the relationship. I learnt Not to sweat the small stuff, & when we argue (which is very seldom), 1 of us gives in pretty quickly, so that we don't stay upset for too long.
I learnt that the 1 for me doesn't necessarily need to be rich nor driven, as long as he spends time with me, & he feels I'm perfect for him. I learnt that I don't need candlelit meals for romance; dinners cooked by him are much more romantic, when I can hold him from the back whilst he's stirring in the ingredients, & when he feeds me little morsels to taste.
I learnt that to spoil someone doesn't necessarily mean to buy little things for him now & then, but to give him my attention, my time, my support & my affection. Hugs, kisses & words of advice or just a listening ear are much better than a teddy bear soft toy.
I learnt how much he loves me, is also partly measured by how much he's willing to forgive me.........
I'm still learning everyday, & I thank my guy for the lessons he taught me about love, forgiveness, tolerance & being happy together.
Sorry for the long-winded blah blah blah, I'm just musing : ) Or day-dreaming, as he calls it And I do it when I'm happy : )
FeowFeow
it is something that you only come across once, maybe twice, in one's life time. We read so much about the young people here pulling hairs of their head just to find practical measures just to please or rekindle the relationship with their gf/bf. what we learn from our age is all thing points to the maturity of the heart and mind.
just a rant. -
Hi Deportivo,
Yes, I agree to a great extent what you've mentioned below. I would also like to add that it's also up to the individual. Some young ones grow up still holding fast to the thoughts that they held during their youth, & tt's probably sad, because they continue doing the same things, repeating the same errors, maybe?
Love, to me at least, isn't about taking desperate measures: the "Oh, I didn't change when you nagged at me 50 times in 6 months, but now that you want to leave me, I'll change within a day!" kinda thing happens so often, especially when I read the posts with people going, "How do I get her back? I'm desperate!" etc...
From experience, I realise that those desperate measures don't last. If a guy/girl really wanted to improve, he/she wouldn't have waited till you gave up on the relationship to try. After awhile, they'll revert back to their old ways when they feel comfortable again.
Hence, I'm so appreciative of my guy, because he makes the effort, & it makes it so easy for me to reciprocate his attention, support & understanding. Sometimes we do try to change & improve, but when we fail, the other will always give a hug & say, "I love you anyway for trying. Please don't give up, baby", & it makes it easier to continue improving : )
*Disclaimer: Again, I need to stress that this relationship is NOT all roses. We DO argue. But we also treasure each other enough to work issues out.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Deportivo:fantastic feeling isn't it. the desire to love and to hold is reciprocated by your partner.
it is something that you only come across once, maybe twice, in one's life time. We read so much about the young people here pulling hairs of their head just to find practical measures just to please or rekindle the relationship with their gf/bf. what we learn from our age is all thing points to the maturity of the heart and mind.
just a rant. -
Hmm.... surprised I am tat there's life on this planet afterall. Yeap, like u said, one man's meat can be another man's poison.
Feow Feow, wish u a good luck, a good life, and a fairy tale-like ending, happily-ever-after. -
yeah i figured all this out pretty young and my partner and i committed ourself eternal in matrimony when we were 23.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi Deportivo,
Yes, I agree to a great extent what you've mentioned below. I would also like to add that it's also up to the individual. Some young ones grow up still holding fast to the thoughts that they held during their youth, & tt's probably sad, because they continue doing the same things, repeating the same errors, maybe?
Love, to me at least, isn't about taking desperate measures: the "Oh, I didn't change when you nagged at me 50 times in 6 months, but now that you want to leave me, I'll change within a day!" kinda thing happens so often, especially when I read the posts with people going, "How do I get her back? I'm desperate!" etc...
From experience, I realise that those desperate measures don't last. If a guy/girl really wanted to improve, he/she wouldn't have waited till you gave up on the relationship to try. After awhile, they'll revert back to their old ways when they feel comfortable again.
Hence, I'm so appreciative of my guy, because he makes the effort, & it makes it so easy for me to reciprocate his attention, support & understanding. Sometimes we do try to change & improve, but when we fail, the other will always give a hug & say, "I love you anyway for trying. Please don't give up, baby", & it makes it easier to continue improving : )
*Disclaimer: Again, I need to stress that this relationship is NOT all roses. We DO argue. But we also treasure each other enough to work issues out.
FeowFeow
up till this day, we are still learning the ways of loving each other. we find something new everyday. -
Wow, you're lucky to have figured it out so young. I only figured it out later Better late than never, yah?
It's so nice to grow together with your partner, learning something new everyday, etc. The feeling you get when seeing your partner smiling & delighted is unmatchable : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Deportivo:yeah i figured all this out pretty young and my partner and i committed ourself eternal in matrimony when we were 23.
up till this day, we are still learning the ways of loving each other. we find something new everyday. -
Hi Boo,
Thank you : ) I wish you the same : )
I do note that what works for me doesn't work for another person. Basically, this thread is just about my musings, I tend to do that every so often, to think about what's in my life & appreciating the bliss of what I have.
Not everybody has the same wants, needs & expectations. Mine just changed as I grew older & learnt through my failures. It just so happens that what I thought I wanted, is No longer the case now : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Boo777:Hmm.... surprised I am tat there's life on this planet afterall. Yeap, like u said, one man's meat can be another man's poison.
Feow Feow, wish u a good luck, a good life, and a fairy tale-like ending, happily-ever-after. -
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Okay. Enough of just sunglasses for now.
I would also take to take this opportunity to thank Feow Feow for her time and efforts in AA, despite the fact that she's really already quite contented in her relationship. And her post of threads and topics in attempts to inspire and lift up the spirit of those who are more down and lost in here.
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You're most welcome : )
It's just a sharing of experiences, & I also hope that others will figure out what it is that they want in a relationship. Of course, when all is said & done, it also depends on whether the other party reciprocates, appreciates, agrees & grows together with you.
Being contented doesn't mean that I can slack off, alas It's all about keeping the other side happy, so that I also feel warm & fuzzy inside : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:Okay. Enough of just sunglasses for now.
I would also take to take this opportunity to thank Feow Feow for her time and efforts in AA, despite the fact that she's really already quite contented in her relationship. And her post of threads and topics in attempts to inspire and lift up the spirit of those who are more down and lost in here. -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:You're most welcome : )
It's just a sharing of experiences, & I also hope that others will figure out what it is that they want in a relationship. Of course, when all is said & done, it also depends on whether the other party reciprocates, appreciates, agrees & grows together with you.
Being contented doesn't mean that I can slack off, alas It's all about keeping the other side happy, so that I also feel warm & fuzzy inside : )
FeowFeow -
In Blue: Unevolved PiscesOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Hi All,
I've read some things in this forum, as well as spoken to some younger people (including my nephew, who's 6 years younger than I). It occurred to me how my past views are echoed in these young people, whereas my own thoughts about love have changed.
I used to imagine that love will all be roses, that my bf will fetch me after classes (sometimes with roses in hand, of course *giggles*), buys me soft toys, treats me to a meal at Denny's, candlelit dinner on V Day & anniversaries, blah blah blah... When there was a quarrel or argument, I'd get so upset & break things off. There was ONE difference, however, I was never 1 of those needy people My 1st love once told me he was so lucky that I'd let him go out with his friends for boy's days out, etc...
I used to imagine that I'd marry a guy who's rich, driven, poised, (maybe a banker, or lawyer?) with a fancy car... We'd work very hard together & accumulate our wealth, then we'd enjoy holidays & expensive meals, designer clothing, etc. We zip around town in his fancy car.
I'm now 28 (fine, I'm NOT secretive about age, can?), & after having relationships, I've realised what love, at least what works for me, is all about (to me also, it doesn't necessarily work for everybody). I learnt about commitment, to give 100% in the relationship. When there're problems, of course I get upset, but it isn't the end of the world, nor the end of the relationship. I learnt Not to sweat the small stuff, & when we argue (which is very seldom), 1 of us gives in pretty quickly, so that we don't stay upset for too long.
I learnt that the 1 for me doesn't necessarily need to be rich nor driven, as long as he spends time with me, & he feels I'm perfect for him. I learnt that I don't need candlelit meals for romance; dinners cooked by him are much more romantic, when I can hold him from the back whilst he's stirring in the ingredients, & when he feeds me little morsels to taste.
I learnt that to spoil someone doesn't necessarily mean to buy little things for him now & then, but to give him my attention, my time, my support & my affection. Hugs, kisses & words of advice or just a listening ear are much better than a teddy bear soft toy.
I learnt how much he loves me, is also partly measured by how much he's willing to forgive me.........
I'm still learning everyday, & I thank my guy for the lessons he taught me about love, forgiveness, tolerance & being happy together.
Sorry for the long-winded blah blah blah, I'm just musing : ) Or day-dreaming, as he calls it And I do it when I'm happy : )
FeowFeow
In Red: Evolved Pisces.
Hiak!
Cheers -
That is the sweetest thing I have heard for today.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi All,
I've read some things in this forum, as well as spoken to some younger people (including my nephew, who's 6 years younger than I). It occurred to me how my past views are echoed in these young people, whereas my own thoughts about love have changed.
I used to imagine that love will all be roses, that my bf will fetch me after classes (sometimes with roses in hand, of course *giggles*), buys me soft toys, treats me to a meal at Denny's, candlelit dinner on V Day & anniversaries, blah blah blah... When there was a quarrel or argument, I'd get so upset & break things off. There was ONE difference, however, I was never 1 of those needy people My 1st love once told me he was so lucky that I'd let him go out with his friends for boy's days out, etc...
I used to imagine that I'd marry a guy who's rich, driven, poised, (maybe a banker, or lawyer?) with a fancy car... We'd work very hard together & accumulate our wealth, then we'd enjoy holidays & expensive meals, designer clothing, etc. We zip around town in his fancy car.
I'm now 28 (fine, I'm NOT secretive about age, can?), & after having relationships, I've realised what love, at least what works for me, is all about (to me also, it doesn't necessarily work for everybody). I learnt about commitment, to give 100% in the relationship. When there're problems, of course I get upset, but it isn't the end of the world, nor the end of the relationship. I learnt Not to sweat the small stuff, & when we argue (which is very seldom), 1 of us gives in pretty quickly, so that we don't stay upset for too long.
I learnt that the 1 for me doesn't necessarily need to be rich nor driven, as long as he spends time with me, & he feels I'm perfect for him. I learnt that I don't need candlelit meals for romance; dinners cooked by him are much more romantic, when I can hold him from the back whilst he's stirring in the ingredients, & when he feeds me little morsels to taste.
I learnt that to spoil someone doesn't necessarily mean to buy little things for him now & then, but to give him my attention, my time, my support & my affection. Hugs, kisses & words of advice or just a listening ear are much better than a teddy bear soft toy.
I learnt how much he loves me, is also partly measured by how much he's willing to forgive me.........
I'm still learning everyday, & I thank my guy for the lessons he taught me about love, forgiveness, tolerance & being happy together.
Sorry for the long-winded blah blah blah, I'm just musing : ) Or day-dreaming, as he calls it And I do it when I'm happy : )
FeowFeow
Thanks for brightening up my day.
You are right in every sense of the words. Its the little sweet things that keeps and binda a relationship together.
And not the ambition, cash, career that bind it.
It took me so long to to finally realise this.. and your post really confirmed my thoughts.
May you and your bf be blessed and happy always. -
dear FeowFeow , ur love pespective and ur love life sure is sweet...
and envious.
mabbe u can read my thread and give me some advice / comments.
how i wish the gal that i love cherish the small little things which i had done for her and not keep on demanding that i do and change myself more to gain her acceptance and confidence in me.
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Alamak, unevolved Piscean = 2 fish
Evolved Piscean = 3 fish (extra baby later)
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Yunhaier:In Blue: Unevolved Pisces
In Red: Evolved Pisces.
Hiak!
Cheers -
Hi CuteCuteBoy,
Thanks for dropping by : ) I wouldn't be musing like this if my guy hasn't made me happy & comforted me when I'm down. I'm very fulfilled where my love life is concerned, & thanks to him, everyday feels better, No matter how bad my day is.
Thank you also for your good wishes. I wish that you'll find love, happiness & bliss as well : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by cutecuteboy:That is the sweetest thing I have heard for today.
Thanks for brightening up my day.
You are right in every sense of the words. Its the little sweet things that keeps and binda a relationship together.
And not the ambition, cash, career that bind it.
It took me so long to to finally realise this.. and your post really confirmed my thoughts.
May you and your bf be blessed and happy always. -
Dear c2on2,
Not everybody has the same needs & wants in life. When you were in primary school & your teacher asked the class what they wanted to be when they grow up, some said policeman, some said doctor, some said scientist, right?
The same can be said of love & relationships. Some seek security, some seek comfort, some seek companionship, some seek fun, & the list goes on. When 2 people want different things out of a relationship, sometimes conflicts can happen.
I'm lucky to be able to find someone who has the same dreams & is headed in the same direction as I am. Perhaps 1 day, you'll find the same thing for yourself. I didn't have this bliss in just 1 day, it was after broken hearts... So don't give up hope nor be too despondent. Trust me, 1 day the sun will shine.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by c2on2:dear FeowFeow , ur love pespective and ur love life sure is sweet...
and envious.
mabbe u can read my thread and give me some advice / comments.
how i wish the gal that i love cherish the small little things which i had done for her and not keep on demanding that i do and change myself more to gain her acceptance and confidence in me.