What do you guys say ? abt sex ?
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Just happen to go on a coffee session with my groups of gal fren..
we were discussing on whether to give in sex to our new found boyfriend ?
Happen to lots of gals have same thinking, guy who got sex from new girlfriend easy will not treasure them.
some guys talk alot about cheeky things, like intimate stuff to gals, but is it not neccessary that they will be bad partner.. mayb their mouth is naughty only ? or actual facts is their mind actually think only abt sex ?
So i just like to heard from different guys view..
pls guys give some serious view of urs, how true is our thinking ? -
Who doesnt enjoy sex jokes, jus for the fun of it.
But i also feel that sex is not something that makes a relationship tick,
too much or too little is not good either.
Its the connection of the mind and heart that matters more.
Thats one feedback from me.
I do notice that some gals afriad to trust guys who likes to crack sex jokes.
but my view is these women r not open-minded enuf.
cheers -
Sex feels disgusting...
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that is why no gals trust mi.. sighz.... see my nick u will know already.... and for all gals info.. i only got 2 gf in my life b4... one is 6 yrs one is 3 yrs... so what u think??
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becos u have 76244276 flings outside?Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):that is why no gals trust mi.. sighz.... see my nick u will know already.... and for all gals info.. i only got 2 gf in my life b4... one is 6 yrs one is 3 yrs... so what u think?? -
The soul ties....having sex with one person is like bringing his/her soul to your body.
I think best is to keep it pure,during the day of marriage u can tell ur partner tis"I keep pure juz for you!!!"
He or she will feel happy....
Disadvantage of too frequent sex..
If you married your husband or wife,She have a baby,1 year no mood to make love.....Will the husband fools around?
If he love you, he can wait....
Girls is always the disadvantage.... -
how u know??? dun tell mi u are that 76244277??? or are u that 7677777?Originally posted by FireIce:becos u have 76244276 flings outside?
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Sex is overrated....there must be more in the relationship. If sex is the only thing the guy is interested in, he will lose interest once he got it, whether after 3 days or 3 years.
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agreed that is why i have flings and gf... one is to love and the other is for sexOriginally posted by oxford mushroom:Sex is overrated....there must be more in the relationship. If sex is the only thing the guy is interested in, he will lose interest once he got it, whether after 3 days or 3 years. -
agreed.Originally posted by oxford mushroom:Sex is overrated....there must be more in the relationship. If sex is the only thing the guy is interested in, he will lose interest once he got it, whether after 3 days or 3 years.
Theres often report saying why spore
love making freqeuncy alwyas among the lowest.
Why must we compare w the west?
Its all a different culture, mentality, and lifestyle.
The Western people, both men and women, are lik 'beast' when it comes to sex.
Sex if defly overrated. -
To subarugal,
U need to test water first if u want to give sex to a guy. Some gus are faithful but some are out with malicious intentions. Be very sure the guy loves and true to u only before giving it to him.
Not all guys are unfaithful but there are some i know personally who are really sincere. They are not even looking for sex, only love from the girl.Expecially those types who are madly in love with a girl but she hasnt accpeted him. Those guys will any day choose the love and attention from the girl over sex.Such are truly gentlemanly types. -
Has anyone heard of "men give love to get sex; women give sex to get love"?
It implies men may not give any more love after getting sex.
It also implies women may not be getting love before giving sex.
Hence women should never give sex easily, not even to get love because if they didn't get love before sex, the chances of them getting any love after sex are even less. -
Best is to wait until after marriage. Don't need to worry about unnecessary complications like unwanted pregnancies, STDs, etc.
Just my opinion
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I feel that just like good clothes, each case has to be individually studied and custom-made. If there was a single answer to this (or any other question concerning human characters and emotions), than life would be too simple and uninteresting, wouldn't it?Originally posted by subarugal:Just happen to go on a coffee session with my groups of gal fren..
we were discussing on whether to give in sex to our new found boyfriend ?
Happen to lots of gals have same thinking, guy who got sex from new girlfriend easy will not treasure them.
some guys talk alot about cheeky things, like intimate stuff to gals, but is it not neccessary that they will be bad partner.. mayb their mouth is naughty only ? or actual facts is their mind actually think only abt sex ?
So i just like to heard from different guys view..
pls guys give some serious view of urs, how true is our thinking ?
Some guys want a one-night-stand and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk about sex and mean it.
Some guys want a one-night-stand and will take the pains to cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but the motive is there. They may go by indirect means - eg. use love to get sex.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk a lot about sex, mean it....and will continue with the relationship, but will break off after a short period.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and will cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but may use love or attraction and sweet words to get it. The ulterior motive is there.....and the result is the same. After some time, they will break up.
Some guys are sincere about a relationship. However, after the first sex, they may feel that there is a character clash or sexual incompatibility. So they may distance themselves.
In the above examples, I've used the words "guys" and "sex". More accurately, the words "people" and "objectives" should be used. -
Ya la.. cannot give general answer one... each case is specific wat...Originally posted by gentlerock:I feel that just like good clothes, each case has to be individually studied and custom-made. If there was a single answer to this (or any other question concerning human characters and emotions), than life would be too simple and uninteresting, wouldn't it?
Some guys want a one-night-stand and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk about sex and mean it.
Some guys want a one-night-stand and will take the pains to cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but the motive is there. They may go by indirect means - eg. use love to get sex.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk a lot about sex, mean it....and will continue with the relationship, but will break off after a short period.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and will cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but may use love or attraction and sweet words to get it. The ulterior motive is there.....and the result is the same. After some time, they will break up.
Some guys are sincere about a relationship. However, after the first sex, they may feel that there is a character clash or sexual incompatibility. So they may distance themselves.
In the above examples, I've used the words "guys" and "sex". More accurately, the words "people" and "objectives" should be used.
I know frens who are one-night standers, long-termers, 2-timers, faithful-to-the-end, kana-2 timed, like the girl but 4ever wont tell her, etc...
Just trust yourself and follow what your heart says.. don't anyhow listen to what those around u say.. -
Ya la.. cannot give general answer one... each case is specific wat...Originally posted by gentlerock:I feel that just like good clothes, each case has to be individually studied and custom-made. If there was a single answer to this (or any other question concerning human characters and emotions), than life would be too simple and uninteresting, wouldn't it?
Some guys want a one-night-stand and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk about sex and mean it.
Some guys want a one-night-stand and will take the pains to cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but the motive is there. They may go by indirect means - eg. use love to get sex.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and make no efforts to cover it up. They talk a lot about sex, mean it....and will continue with the relationship, but will break off after a short period.
Some guys want a short-term sexual relationship and will cover it up. They may not talk a lot about sex, but may use love or attraction and sweet words to get it. The ulterior motive is there.....and the result is the same. After some time, they will break up.
Some guys are sincere about a relationship. However, after the first sex, they may feel that there is a character clash or sexual incompatibility. So they may distance themselves.
In the above examples, I've used the words "guys" and "sex". More accurately, the words "people" and "objectives" should be used.
I know frens who are one-night standers, long-termers, 2-timers, faithful-to-the-end, kana-2 timed, like the girl but 4ever wont tell her, etc...
Just trust yourself and follow what your heart says.. don't anyhow listen to what those around u say.. -
actually this is my buddy problem.
but problem with her is i think she is too scare to fall in luv..
coz she got freak out when she find herself falling in luv.. esp she dnt noe these guy too well.. cos she juz been thru a very rough patches, and got betray by his ex.. so the impact for her is very big.. i know she is interested in this guy but she is scare he will be another guy who betray her. i am worried for my buddy coz i noe she cnt take another blow. She was in very bad shape when she broke off w her ex. so as fren i really hope to help her.
humh, he talk alot abt sex to her but also mentions to her that if he is not interested in the gal he will nt talk abt intimate stuffs to her. coz he dnt talk intimate stuffs to any other gals on road.
now my gal fren is puzzel to belief or nt..
he seems quite ok, as our group saw this guy.
he is those type who will save for raining days and for his parents old age.
while this guy chatting my gal fren she sense he is interested in her.. so ask him if he is interested in him.. he divert the question to other questions and later he confess yes..
but at 2nd date suppose to go out, end up my fren wait whole morning he didn't call.. my gal fren call n sms but no respond. in the evening he reply apologize saying he was recall back to work coz collg mc and forget to bring hp and was too tired to go out on that evening..
the very sunday, he say fall sick going to doctor.. so didn't meet up again..
she told me she feel abit fishy.. coz she suspect he is attached ?
i dnt noe how to help her..
any guys got advise ? How to know if the guys is really true interested.. -
Observe the guy for a while before making any decision...Originally posted by subarugal:actually this is my buddy problem.
but problem with her is i think she is too scare to fall in luv..
coz she got freak out when she find herself falling in luv.. esp she dnt noe these guy too well.. cos she juz been thru a very rough patches, and got betray by his ex.. so the impact for her is very big.. i know she is interested in this guy but she is scare he will be another guy who betray her. i am worried for my buddy coz i noe she cnt take another blow. She was in very bad shape when she broke off w her ex. so as fren i really hope to help her.
humh, he talk alot abt sex to her but also mentions to her that if he is not interested in the gal he will nt talk abt intimate stuffs to her. coz he dnt talk intimate stuffs to any other gals on road.
now my gal fren is puzzel to belief or nt..
he seems quite ok, as our group saw this guy.
he is those type who will save for raining days and for his parents old age.
while this guy chatting my gal fren she sense he is interested in her.. so ask him if he is interested in him.. he divert the question to other questions and later he confess yes..
but at 2nd date suppose to go out, end up my fren wait whole morning he didn't call.. my gal fren call n sms but no respond. in the evening he reply apologize saying he was recall back to work coz collg mc and forget to bring hp and was too tired to go out on that evening..
the very sunday, he say fall sick going to doctor.. so didn't meet up again..
she told me she feel abit fishy.. coz she suspect he is attached ?
i dnt noe how to help her..
any guys got advise ? How to know if the guys is really true interested..
He may really be sick or ,maybe nt...but dun jump to conclusions...if the guy continues to be like this...maybe he is hiding sometin...but tt doesnt mean he gt a gf outside...give the whole tin more time... -
everyone likes new things... but when new becomes old, people lost interest
Some guys just have a naughty mouth while some guys uses this as a 'testing' phase for he further advance on the gal. IF the gal don't reject strongly to his 'dirty' talks, he knows he can take a step further and eventurally have sex with the gal and to dump or not to dump after that.. I dont know.
like I always say : 'You can be a non virgin anytime, but you cannot be a virgin again once it's gone' -
Originally posted by subarugal:
Think the crux of the problem for your buddy is trust. She does not know whether or not to trust the guy to give her love and/or body to him.
actually this is my buddy problem.
but problem with her is i think she is too scare to fall in luv..
There is one simple solution for testing trust: Time. Give herself and the guy more time to know each other first before committing any further. With more time, she should be able to know more about the guy and decide whether he can be trusted before giving her love and/or body. If he knows what's good for him, he'll wait.
Let the guy talk about sex -- talking is all right, as long as he keeps his hands to himself -- if your buddy doesn't feel comfortable with the sex talk, she should tell the guy to ease off and give her some lady respect first. A gentleman doesn't shoot his mouth off with such lewd stuff to a lady even though he may love her a lot. -
I'm always puzzled by the youngsters nowadays. If you don't know someone well enough, how do you fall in love with him/her ? And not even had a 2nd date ? How old are you and your buddy..? Love at 1st sight ? How much you know about love to decide that its love at 1st sight ?Originally posted by subarugal:coz she got freak out when she find herself falling in luv.. esp she dnt noe these guy too well..
but at 2nd date suppose to go out,
any guys got advise ? How to know if the guys is really true interested..
Lasting relationships are usually built on strong understanding of each other. Either before being in a relationship or during a relationship. Of course, sometimes, there are things that will never happen if you don'y even try. But the golden rule that works for me is, Never do things that you will regret doing. And Do things that you will not regret not doing . What are the things to regret or not regret doing, is up to individual.
Once read this article in Sunday Times many yrs backabout relationship. For a lasting relationship, Understanding of the other party should come 1st. With the understanding of the person you love, Commitment will come naturally. When you are committed to another person, you will be willing to sacrifice ( NOT your body by having sex !! ) things like time ( spending more time with love one ), missing that football match final in order to accompany the GF for her appointment with the doctor, etc. After all these in place.. then will physical intimacy take place... And sex should only be the last. I thought about it. It makes sense to me at least
But now, we are seeing more youngster, jumping straight to Pt no.5. And majority of them are doing so just bcos the BF ask them to.
Remember you are what you decide you want to be. A person who is aware of the situation that one is in.. or someone being made used of by another person to satisfy sexual desires.
It ok to talk about physical intimacy stuff. But only if the other party/parties are close friends or friends that you had know long/ well enough. But if the person is someone that you don't well well, someone only been to a date, doesn't that sound off the alarm that such a person is interested in such stuff only?
A real gentleman will not discuss such stuff with friends that he do not know well. Let alone a guy interested in a gal. If a guy is really interested in a gal for what she is, like her character etc and not bcos of her big boobs or physical appearance, he will definitely NOT discuss such intimate stuff with her, for the fear of scaring her off. Like what someone had advised , you can choose to lose your virginity anytime you want to. But you cannot choose to be a virgin once you lost it.
Physical intimacy or sex is a wonderful moment with the person you are in love with, someone who deserve it. Someone is right when he/she pointed out that some men give love in order to get sex.some women give sex in order to get love. These type of man are jerks and deserved to burn in hell. These type of woman are , well sorry to offend them , outright stupid . Bcos once sex is given out, they will not see love. Of course, when gals are of higher sex drive and out to have fun, thats they own choices.
Remember you are what you decide you want to be -
Very subjective.Originally posted by subarugal:Just happen to go on a coffee session with my groups of gal fren..
we were discussing on whether to give in sex to our new found boyfriend ?
Happen to lots of gals have same thinking, guy who got sex from new girlfriend easy will not treasure them.
some guys talk alot about cheeky things, like intimate stuff to gals, but is it not neccessary that they will be bad partner.. mayb their mouth is naughty only ? or actual facts is their mind actually think only abt sex ?
So i just like to heard from different guys view..
pls guys give some serious view of urs, how true is our thinking ? -
pufferfish_79:
i understand wat u trying to say.. but problem with her is i guess she is afraid of losing this guy according to her this is the type of guy she is waiting for..
she is in love ? i guess shld have correct it to she is interested in this guy..
according to guys he will not talk intimate to other gals he nt interested.. nor comfort with.. but i suspect this guys is only trying to fish my friend.. well we dnt noe how true coz we r not him.. mayb he is just like wat others say, just his mouth naughty only nt in his heart ?
i really wish to help my fren but i just feel so helpless.. dnt noe where to start ? haiz...
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Subarugal,
Just curious....
Did you friend have sex with him on the first date? Or gave any hints that she may be interested, but not now? -
I think in general, men act before they think. And after the deed they either regret wat they done or treat it as nothing.
I think its ok to talk dirty jokes, as long as it isnt too overboard la...