Originally posted by M©+square:Seems to me like you're a young girl.
Your mindset is young.
there is no absolute defination. However interestingly, you've conveniently associated guys chasing after girls for one Prize - Sex.Originally posted by subarugal:me young.. humh.. not telling..
but what i see is guys around me are like dat.. i noe gd guys do exist but sad to say not for us.Oh come on.. how do u define i am young..
i am just getting piss off by the game this guy playing on my best fren.
i wanted to help her badly.. Haiz..
Originally posted by M©+square:there is no absolute defination. However interestingly, you've conveniently associated guys chasing after girls for one Prize - Sex.
It did not only creates the impression that guys, to you are walking penis who just want to screw, it was actually quite degrading in terms of implication.
Interpretation of Quote colored dark red - There are good and bad guys, but too bad good ones doesn't seem to cross my path, therefore my impression on 'good' guys will always be labelled like those guys whom i see around me.
Objectivity revealed from your post doesn't deem you to be matured.
My problem is not towards the situation of your friend's, instead it's with your broad perspective on guys - Sterotype.
Same goes to your friend's situation.
What makes you so sure that the guy is playing with her?
All that you're pissed is through assumption only?
Lastly, What do you want to help her achieve?
There wasn't A Relationship(BGR) yet your girlfriend couldn't control herself and jumped on the bed with him.
If your friend and yourself are adults, you would know what is being responsible to oneself.
It's up to you(girls) to protect yourself, your friend is silly to have allowed her emotions to rule over the slow paced relationship.
Is the guy she likes a JERK like people here commented? I reckon not....yet.
Game? What prize could your girlfriend offer to have him do the 'fishing game'?
P.s Your friend knows something is wrong and no fruit is going to grow out of this. Yet she refuse to admit.
The jerk is definately not the guy and his penis. The jerk is her stubbornness.
Seems like i've caused a volcano to errupt.Originally posted by subarugal:what is the problem with u..
nt everyone can explain like wat u do.. mayb i one of those with limited English Voc.. That's y my explaination is short and sharp.
anyway, whether this guy of my fren's is gd or jerk, i do nt noe..
but definately i feel that its not my fren stubborness, its the leading of the guy have for her. to make her belief he is in luv in her, and very much interested to purse a relationship with her.. and suddenly he stop his freq contacting.
That is y my fren is sad n trouble, and she is my childhood fren i wish to help her..
Either to continue getting the guys attention or give up is up to her..
but no matter wat i will stand by her.
and pls she did not bed with him..
as for impression guys given to me as walking penis, i didn't say so..
i just happen to comment gd man doesn't seems to pass my path..
if my posting is so immature or etc.. pls pardon..
tks...
Originally posted by M©+square:Seems like i've caused a volcano to errupt.
My bad for being harsh.
You may not want to heed my advice in the future after this incident?
But if you do. Please consider the need for your friend to protect herself and her emotions.
Cheers
Understand at this point that many of the things you've said and your friend think are just SPECTACULATIONS. You could be right, or you could be wrong?Originally posted by subarugal:Humh, my fren heed my advice dnt sms or call the guy.
just now he sms her asking her to take care and sweet dreams..
see how true.. Proven that this guy really leh, humh sucks..
i feel like killing this guy.. yoh...
he really playing fishing game with my fren, like dat will this guy ever be truthfully to my fren i wondering ?
or shld i say muz challenge him till he fall in luv with my fren..
Do u think he really interested in my fren or just having fun ?
now seems like guys are harder to know den gals...
Originally posted by Devil1976:Understand at this point that many of the things you've said and your friend think are just SPECTACULATIONS. You could be right, or you could be wrong?
There really isn't much point in trying to 'hook up' this guy if his intention is not really there. No doubt simple 'mind games' are part of a courtship and dating setting, and if there are to go too complicated... It could possibly defy the purpose of the relationship in the 1st place...?
1st thing I'll like to ask... How old is your friend and her bf?Originally posted by subarugal:humh, yap i fully agree with wat u say..
my gf keep asking my point of view, humh and i fully understand her ground of persistance.
But wat u had mentioned i have already told her, simple mind game is harmless but if its getting more then simple i guess she really have to give up.
Humh, me cautious her to look in my pervious r/l .. Wic sad to say almost the same of wat she is facing but navie i could be fall into the traps. Coz no-one was there to cautious me
End up after so many yrs i only get tonnes of hurts n disappointments.
so as her buddy i really hope she wil nt follow my path for being too persistance.
She told me before, the guy had say b4 :
"why gals always think i am joking n nt serious when i tell her i am interested in her ? "
One thing i really have no clue maybe diff guys can juz voice ur view...
1. Y if you are not really into or interested in the gal why did they wanted to give the gals a false hope with all those sweet talking ?
2. If not really interested, y hold gals hold and out of sudden gone silent ?
3. Why didn't him just tell her, he is not interested in purse r/l with her as a fren ?
Instead of replying her calls n sms so promptly. Dis way of doing things really made gals blur ?
Originally posted by M©+square:Dev is Hao Ren
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i like ur quote for this.. but i rather stick to mine at the moment now.. hee..Originally posted by Devil1976:1st thing I'll like to ask... How old is your friend and her bf?
gal in 27 , guy in 29
Are you currently attached?
me heh.. heh.. dnt want to be attach yet![]()
I think both of you shouldn't really be making too much spectaculations.. Don't try too hard into looking at the tiniest of details for 'clues'.... Her love relationship shouldn't be this way in the 1st way? In fact, such 'extreme moves' could possibly lead to drastic changes in the relationship which shouldn't have even happened in the 1st place...?
Got wat u trying to say but sometime when things happen on ourselves we dnt even noe how to stop ur mind from dwelling into it esp when u had fallen for the guy like my fren.
Subarugal, I understand you had been hurt before and really wish for the best for your friend in her relationship... Of course, it would be good to keep her eyes open and know what is going on to an extent. But it won't be healthy if she starts to have great doubts here and there throughout her relationship... Some things in a relationship cannot be foreseen. No matter how well prepared you thought you would be, things might still fall out in one way or another sometimes. It doesn't necessarily has to be all that bad a thing, as lessons could be learned from it and happiness you might once be occupied with..
yap, mayb i hav been hurt and tend to be over-protective towards her. Mayb me myself getting more emotional, esp when i see this problem she facing. the same kind of trouble i run into yrs back. that's y i am so worried for her, i dnt wish her to fall for a man who isn't sincere n try to lie to ourselves using sincerity will win the heart of his.. Well i tried and the answer is if he dnt luv u mean he nv will. Even will also in time of short term, when dreams awaken everything gone like a bubble.
I hope in your 'defence' for your friend, you would also share with her your knowledge to love her partner, and to be by her side when things are bad for her?
Of cos if its the rite man, we have to give mutual trust and heart to be with him thru bad n gd. But sad to say the guy is very mystery ?? that my fren herself cnt even see thru. and he as a guy didn't done his part too.. whether he is interested or not.. at least stand up as a man to clear all doubts instead of misleading her by all those sweet talking ? that's wat i felt and not going against any1![]()
"Road is a stretch which sometimes you can't see beyond until you've walked it..."
Really...?Originally posted by M©+square:Dev is Hao Ren
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