Result of a failed RS....(Yunhaier)
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Hi all.. Its me posting again.
Its been a month since me and her parted. I have been trying to get over it, and still trying. Its not easy....
After reading the post of "Self Destruct" by Yunhaier.. I believe I am one of the victims..
For the past one month, I have developed a sense of "I-don't-care" and I have induldged myself in self-abuse... i.e: alcoholism... I cannot survive a day without it anymore. And I think it really takes the troubled thoughts away from me. Try as i might... I simply will end up at the store everynight! getting beer...
The moment I drink, ah..... soothing...
I don't understand why.... I do not drink at all in the past.
Slowly, I began to talk very little and shy away from all people... This is the exact opposite of what i was last time. My mindset have changed alot and I can feel it myself.
I just wanna share what I am going through. Its a very tedious poccess of going through all this and I am very tired.
They say "time will heal all wound.." I say its a big fat lie....
Suffering through a syndrom which i am losing myself.... I do not know how to find myself back... -
Its only a month, of course you will still feel the pain...
After half a year later, you will feel numb one -
yes 4 months have pass n its starting to feel numb for me. of cos there will b times where u will think of the past but.... wats past is past. we r not living in the past.
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Originally posted by mal_colm1979:
It appears as a "big fat lie" because you haven't given the wound time to heal.
They say "time will heal all wound.." I say its a big fat lie....
Is it worth wasting yourself over the girl?
By indulging yourself would the girl return?
"Living well is the best revenge."
- George Herbert
If you can identify with Yunhaier's article, you should know that her main point is not letting yourself dawdle in self-destruction. -
Time is just a factor. Some get it over in weeks, while some in months and some never get out.
The thing is...... when will you let go of this r/s and move on.
Drinking, doing things you usually don't are normal at the initiate.... the most impt part is still when will u let go of dis burden and move on.
Don't blame yourself for a ended r/s. Don't keep thinking dat u shld hv done dis or u shldnt have done dat. Don't keep thinking dat wld n nver happen.
Don't keep thinkin why she/he left u... what hv happened...
No matter what u will think, nothing will be changed or happened...
Just let go. What will happen in the future, no one knows... just stay open for all possibilities.
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... hehe.. i'm not alone..Originally posted by RaTtY81:yes 4 months have pass n its starting to feel numb for me. of cos there will b times where u will think of the past but.... wats past is past. we r not living in the past.
*if mission fails, abort mission? self-destruction activated... *
.. *restart* ..ahem.. Day 1 on the Outer Rim... -
yes im with u my darlingOriginally posted by sleepycat:... hehe.. i'm not alone..
*if mission fails, abort mission? self-destruction activated... *
.. *restart* ..ahem.. Day 1 on the Outer Rim...
as they say, the end of a r/s is the beginning of another r/s -
.. May the force be with us...Originally posted by RaTtY81:yes im with u my darling 
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and love...Originally posted by sleepycat:.. May the force be with us... -
It appears you have alcoholism.
Detox. Now. -
VIRUS alert!!!Originally posted by RaTtY81:and love... 
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huh wat virus alert?Originally posted by sleepycat:VIRUS alert!!! -
Can't detect virus le? So fast? Memories all wiped out? 4 mths nia..Originally posted by RaTtY81:huh wat virus alert?
What OS are u now eh?
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now reformattingOriginally posted by sleepycat:Can't detect virus le? So fast? Memories all wiped out? 4 mths nia..
What OS are u now eh? 
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... heh heh.. i set up firewall le..Originally posted by RaTtY81:now reformatting 
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last time i win98 now trying out winxpOriginally posted by sleepycat:... heh heh.. i set up firewall le.. u set up firewall??? 
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..better safe than sorry.. tio bo?Originally posted by RaTtY81:last time i win98 now trying out winxp u set up firewall??? -
yeaOriginally posted by sleepycat:..better safe than sorry.. tio bo?
okok me gonna go work le...crap next time -
Dear Malcolm,
If there's 1 word that raises my hackles, it's the word "victim". I believe whether or Not you're a victim is by CHOICE. You can choose to wallow in self-pity, indulge in "Why me?" syndrome & drink yourself silly. Ultimately, who's gonna end up paying except yourself?
Of course you're sad when a relationship ends, you're Not alone, MILLIONS of people in the world go through break-ups everyday. If we had a million drama queens everyday walking around swigging alcohol, withdrawing from people, we'd have ZILLIONS of drunk hermits by now.
I've gone through break-ups, & even WORSE, believe me, much much WORSE. But I've refused to be a victim & I refuse to let others think I'm a victim. I don't need others to pity me, I only need the support of those who're close to me. I will NOT allow the people who shattered me to see what they'd done. In fact, if they can hurt me like this, it shows they don't give a damn about me. Then why should I ruin my life over people whom I shouldn't care about?
Sure, take time to cry. But indulging in that self-destruction only shows a weak character, who can't even think sensibly.
Wake up, will you?
I know this is harsh, but the word "victim" is so loosely used, it irritates me. Victim of rape, acceptable. Victim of murder, acceptable. Victim of robbery, acceptable. Victim of a breakup? What a joke.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi all.. Its me posting again.
Its been a month since me and her parted. I have been trying to get over it, and still trying. Its not easy....
After reading the post of "Self Destruct" by Yunhaier.. I believe I am one of the victims..
For the past one month, I have developed a sense of "I-don't-care" and I have induldged myself in self-abuse... i.e: alcoholism... I cannot survive a day without it anymore. And I think it really takes the troubled thoughts away from me. Try as i might... I simply will end up at the store everynight! getting beer...
The moment I drink, ah..... soothing...
I don't understand why.... I do not drink at all in the past.
Slowly, I began to talk very little and shy away from all people... This is the exact opposite of what i was last time. My mindset have changed alot and I can feel it myself.
I just wanna share what I am going through. Its a very tedious poccess of going through all this and I am very tired.
They say "time will heal all wound.." I say its a big fat lie....
Suffering through a syndrom which i am losing myself.... I do not know how to find myself back... -
Don't drink cos u can develop liver cancer.
Nothing u do will bring her back. U are only hurting yourself.
Don't withdraw from your friends, go out & socialise.
Keep yourself occupied then u will forget your troubles. -
"Time will heal all wound " is true.....Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi all.. Its me posting again.
Its been a month since me and her parted. I have been trying to get over it, and still trying. Its not easy....
After reading the post of "Self Destruct" by Yunhaier.. I believe I am one of the victims..
For the past one month, I have developed a sense of "I-don't-care" and I have induldged myself in self-abuse... i.e: alcoholism... I cannot survive a day without it anymore. And I think it really takes the troubled thoughts away from me. Try as i might... I simply will end up at the store everynight! getting beer...
The moment I drink, ah..... soothing...
I don't understand why.... I do not drink at all in the past.
Slowly, I began to talk very little and shy away from all people... This is the exact opposite of what i was last time. My mindset have changed alot and I can feel it myself.
I just wanna share what I am going through. Its a very tedious poccess of going through all this and I am very tired.
They say "time will heal all wound.." I say its a big fat lie....
Suffering through a syndrom which i am losing myself.... I do not know how to find myself back...
Believe me...i was like u in the past when my RS fail... i went to drink whenever i can just to get me drunk so i could forget the pain...
My Mindset Change too at that time... and till now it still stay the same.. too..
i know that after every relastionship...breakup...there will be time when depression came in ...hurtness and sadness...but on the bright side..there are lot of thing to learn from... me and her are together for about 7 yr..when we broke off...for the first 6 mth during the broke off...i really adopt the "hack-care att " as a result ...my final year exam fail and i am to repeat for another 1/2 a yr more... (which i really regert now..why am i so stuipd to let this affected me ).. thus i do hope that u be strong....
How old are u only this year ? still young correct ? Try to take this as a learning experience... u have lot of more yrs to go.. more ppl to encounter and more ppl to hurtz u... train yourself to be strong...
2yr has pass..and i dun feel as sad as before..though at time still think of her..... ..time will heal all wound...dudez..btw..take care -
the sooner u get on with normal life, the sooner u'll recover from it.
for ur family's sake, ur friends.. and ur future spouse be strong and look ahead. -
Hush hush...Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi all.. Its me posting again.
Its been a month since me and her parted. I have been trying to get over it, and still trying. Its not easy....
After reading the post of "Self Destruct" by Yunhaier.. I believe I am one of the victims..
For the past one month, I have developed a sense of "I-don't-care" and I have induldged myself in self-abuse... i.e: alcoholism... I cannot survive a day without it anymore. And I think it really takes the troubled thoughts away from me. Try as i might... I simply will end up at the store everynight! getting beer...
The moment I drink, ah..... soothing...
I don't understand why.... I do not drink at all in the past.
Slowly, I began to talk very little and shy away from all people... This is the exact opposite of what i was last time. My mindset have changed alot and I can feel it myself.
I just wanna share what I am going through. Its a very tedious poccess of going through all this and I am very tired.
They say "time will heal all wound.." I say its a big fat lie....
Suffering through a syndrom which i am losing myself.... I do not know how to find myself back...
Suddenly I saw myself in you about one yr ago..
I truly empathised with you.
Life still goes on.. Really. I was closed up to myself for more than half a yr before opening up again. It is not easy.. yet we humans are not meant to be alone.
i dun noe about ur scenario exactly but in my case, I even saw my ex laughing happily in school only a few weeks after we broke up. In less than a week after we parted, she got herself another partner.
Can I not be depressed? I gave up all my dreams and ambitions just to be with her but in the end, the relationship still failed.
Can I blamed her or myself or anyone? No. Cos nobody wanted it to end up this way.
Sometimes in life, we got to make very tough choices. Choices which may not be sound or sane to anyone else but as long as you believe so, its alright.
I closed up myself for more than half a yr to cultivate, to change and to return to be the best of my pack again..
I succeeded. But it was at a cost. A cost where I was outcasted as a aloof guy, an arrogant guy.. But do I think myself as so?
No.
And I succeeded.
Do you have a religion?? If so, perhaps its time for you to believe in your God or whatsoever.
We humans are not meant to be directionless. We are not meant to wallow in self pity. We are males, whether you regard yourself as alpha or beta males is ur individual choice but I always think myself as alpha type.
Be positive, be strong.
Do PM me if you need someone to talk to.
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Whao... wat time to promote ur religion. Bravo.Originally posted by cutecuteboy:Hush hush...
Suddenly I saw myself in you about one yr ago..
I truly empathised with you.
Life still goes on.. Really. I was closed up to myself for more than half a yr before opening up again. It is not easy.. yet we humans are not meant to be alone.
i dun noe about ur scenario exactly but in my case, I even saw my ex laughing happily in school only a few weeks after we broke up. In less than a week after we parted, she got herself another partner.
Can I not be depressed? I gave up all my dreams and ambitions just to be with her but in the end, the relationship still failed.
Can I blamed her or myself or anyone? No. Cos nobody wanted it to end up this way.
Sometimes in life, we got to make very tough choices. Choices which may not be sound or sane to anyone else but as long as you believe so, its alright.
I closed up myself for more than half a yr to cultivate, to change and to return to be the best of my pack again..
I succeeded. But it was at a cost. A cost where I was outcasted as a aloof guy, an arrogant guy.. But do I think myself as so?
No.
And I succeeded.
Do you have a religion?? If so, perhaps its time for you to believe in your God or whatsoever.
We humans are not meant to be directionless. We are not meant to wallow in self pity. We are males, whether you regard yourself as alpha or beta males is ur individual choice but I always think myself as alpha type.
Be positive, be strong.
Do PM me if you need someone to talk to. -
Anyway, if u can't stand up by urself, I dun think anyone can help u. Yeap, although parents and friends standby u, they can only do this much *shows little finger*, the rest is up to u.
Everyone has been a "victim" some point in their life, but if most of them can stand up again and brave the sunlight, y not u?? Just treat it as a lesson learnt. Wat does not kills u, makes u stronger.
"Every failure dramatically increases ur chance of success." ~ A Beautiful Mind.