Questions.. & I need answers..
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Answer: You're stubborn and refuse to wake up.
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why are you involved with a married man in the first place
if he can do it to his wife, he can do it to you. -
Where are you? Working or home?Originally posted by kopiosatu:why are you involved with a married man in the first place
if he can do it to his wife, he can do it to you. -
at home, 1400hrs shift leh... finish around... 9pm-11pm?Originally posted by M©+square:Where are you? Working or home?
why leh? supper ah???
i actually wanted to plan a seafood makan at JB with you guys but bo pian, they put me in the shift today.... otherwise i'm 8-5 liao -
I expected tis kind of answers...
But can pls refer to questions & answer from there... @ least clear my doubts from men kind of views rite...
I knoew tat I'm stubborn.. I noe I noe.. Tat's not gonan help... -
you're choosing what answers you want to hear.Originally posted by netchick:I expected tis kind of answers...
But can pls refer to questions & answer from there... @ least clear my doubts from men kind of views rite...
I knoew tat I'm stubborn.. I noe I noe.. Tat's not gonan help...
you know that you're stubborn then do something about it.
men's view? well he just wants extra fun, does that sound nicer? -
This is a specific class of male gender which i'm unable to, from your questions provide you with answers.Originally posted by netchick:I expected tis kind of answers...
But can pls refer to questions & answer from there... @ least clear my doubts from men kind of views rite...
I knoew tat I'm stubborn.. I noe I noe.. Tat's not gonan help...
However, indeed you've allowed yourself to feed on those words he has assured. Even though you know he's lying to whomever on both sides.
You are still keen to possess.
What does it do to you even if your queries are answered?
What purpose does it serve? -
8-5!!! Yummy! WS and I also 8-6Originally posted by kopiosatu:at home, 1400hrs shift leh... finish around... 9pm-11pm?
why leh? supper ah???
i actually wanted to plan a seafood makan at JB with you guys but bo pian, they put me in the shift today.... otherwise i'm 8-5 liao
Good stuff. We'll conduct a fellowship session soon!
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@ least I'll noe wat's happening... In short.. Am I juz being dumb.. I suppose soOriginally posted by M©+square:This is a specific class of male gender which i'm unable to, from your questions provide you with answers.
However, indeed you've allowed yourself to feed on those words he has assured. Even though you know he's lying to whomever on both sides.
You are still keen to possess.
What does it do to you even if your queries are answered?
What purpose does it serve? -
ok this friday my shift is the afternoon shift...Originally posted by M©+square:8-5!!! Yummy! WS and I also 8-6
Good stuff. We'll conduct a fellowship session soon!
so that means next week i'm the morning shift.
next friday then
you let the rest know. transport leh, i can only tumpang one leh. -
you won't know what's happening.Originally posted by netchick:@ least I'll noe wat's happening... In short.. Am I juz being dumb.. I suppose so
then again even if you knew what was happening, it would be a bombshell to you and you would question even more.
i say again, married men with women outside marriage are just looking for fun. simple reason, do you choose to accept it? -
was somewhat in ur situation b4 but the guy is attached not married... but i haf to tell u to get out of it asap becos in the end its U who lose out the most. i was in a struggle before i decided to clarify things in the end, it takes courage but you have to because in the end u know things will not end nicely for you. you only YOU lose out he doesn't. I think you know very well that he will choose his wife and not you. he can cheat on his wife as well as you too. don't let him manipulate with your life. your life is controlled by you not him.Originally posted by netchick:I expected tis kind of answers...
But can pls refer to questions & answer from there... @ least clear my doubts from men kind of views rite...
I knoew tat I'm stubborn.. I noe I noe.. Tat's not gonan help... -
Hmm...i wouldn't go to such extend to name you dumb or stupid.Originally posted by netchick:@ least I'll noe wat's happening... In short.. Am I juz being dumb.. I suppose so
But you're silly to get involved and unable to move on.
Extra Marital R/S aren't fufilling and it doesn't serve it's terms well to your advantage.
Care to share what is the exact problem you're facing now?
Cheers
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Here are the answers, I'll be blunt about it.
Why is it tat a man whos' married with a son who's 3 yrs old still fooling ard outside...
for the thrill of it, because his wife is boring him
Why he appears so true to you.. But yet he appears so true to his wife too... he IS married, and he has to act so she won't suspect anything. He looks true to you because he's fooling around, that's the fun.
Why?? the sky so high
Why?? the sky so high
Why he keep insisting tat he loves only u.. But yet he told his wife the same thing?? Please look at the second answer
Why is it tat he sent msges to his wife claiming tat he loves her, but when discovered.. H eclaims tat those msg r juz to pacify his wife.. Look at the second answer
Why after so many things... He's still saying tat he love not his wife... that's to pacify YOU
Why is he always lying... to cover his as$
Why can't he stop lying... then what? get shot down?
Why??? the sky so high
Why?? the sky so high
How can he treat me in tis way... that's the fun of fooling around.
How can he betrayed someones' trust so badly... do you think he cares, he's having FUN!
How can he bear to do tis to me... Fun mah.
How can he say something tat u feel it's so true... But yet it's so fake... you know its fake yet you still continue?
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Exact prob... Real long story... Been dragging for a yr liaoOriginally posted by M©+square:Hmm...i wouldn't go to such extend to name you dumb or stupid.
But you're silly to get involved and unable to move on.
Extra Marital R/S aren't fufilling and it doesn't serve it's terms well to your advantage.
Care to share what is the exact problem you're facing now?
Cheers
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you just can't handle the truth. -
a guy can sincerely feel like he loves 2 women at the same time...
but ultimately, when cut to the chase...the chance for him to leave his wife for you or any1 is very very low....he won't be brave enough to face the world, his family and close frineds etc....
he will tell u that he loves u and u will feel his sincerity, simply becuae he is sincere in his love for u, but he cannot give u that commitment as he has given the commitment away to his wife.
some guys are perpetually confused creatures themselves. once they make a mistake and assume that they can get awat with it, they fall into a comfort zone and enjoy the love of 2 women.....why not? these men will never leave their wife for u...no matter how hard u pray and how much u would like to believe so.....
live life for yourself and learn to love yourself. only by being in existence for yourself and leading an independent life can u give yourslef the chance to grow and get out of this situation.....
have courage.
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If you can spare the time, look around the old threads in this forum and you can actually find threads like this:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=124473
Authenticity aside, you can see from the thread there are actually a lot of men like the one causing you misery now. (Right now, there is one co-worker behind me boasting about his subservient mistress... uh, slave.)
Unless he happens to be reading your post as well, the rest of us here could only speculate the reasons behind his actions. Besides, knowing the reasons isn't likely going to do you any good. You wouldn't be able to change him or do anything on him to make him faithful to you. And you'll still feel miserable.
The only person who can bring you out from this misery is not him, but you. (Even if, by some miracle, he could leave his family to be with you, there is a high chance one day you'll end up following the exact footsteps of his current wife.) So instead of misplacing your focus on his motives by asking "Why?", you ought to concentrate on extracting yourself from this self-destructive love trap by answering "How?", and leave him with his pitiful wife and child. -
Hmm....Originally posted by netchick:Exact prob... Real long story... Been dragging for a yr liao -
Dear Netchick,
You want to know why? It's because you reap what you sow. You already know what's Not good for you, yet you still persist in pursuing it. I'm surprised you actually had the cheek to ask why.
The 1 who should be asking why, is his little 3 year old son, asking, "Why, Daddy, why?" He deserves our pity, Not you. May this image gnaw at your conscience, & his.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by netchick:Why is it tat a man whos' married with a son who's 3 yrs old still fooling ard outside...
Why he appears so true to you.. But yet he appears so true to his wife too...
Why??
Why??
Why he keep insisting tat he loves only u.. But yet he told his wife the same thing??
Why is it tat he sent msges to his wife claiming tat he loves her, but when discovered.. H eclaims tat those msg r juz to pacify his wife..
Why after so many things... He's still saying tat he love not his wife...
Why is he always lying...
Why can't he stop lying...
Why???
Why??
How can he treat me in tis way...
How can he betrayed someones' trust so badly..
How can he bear to do tis to me...
How can he say something tat u feel it's so true... But yet it's so fake...
There's still so much whys running through my mind... But yet, I'm unable to express myself well in terms of words... I juz .... Sigh... -
[quote]Originally posted by FeowFeow:
[b]Dear Netchick,
You want to know why? It's because you reap what you sow. You already know what's Not good for you, yet you still persist in pursuing it. I'm surprised you actually had the cheek to ask why.
The 1 who should be asking why, is his little 3 year old son, asking, "Why, Daddy, why?" He deserves our pity, Not you. May this image gnaw at your conscience, & his.
FeowFeow
Maybe I din give a full pix of d whole story... I dun even feel sorry for myself.. So, wat do I even expect fr here... Juz feeling extremely puzzeled thus I posted d 1st post...
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the longer u drag the worst it will be . things will not get better so the quicker u get out the better for u .
since u already know then be determine be strong .. -
Dear Netchick,
I believe there have been enough TV serials & real life stories about your plight. You probably would've already known all these way before you embarked on this pursuit of a married man. So I don't really understand what there is to be puzzled about.
I was pursued by a married man before, got involved with him, Not knowing that he was married with children. The moment I knew, I simply ended it. If I didn't, I wouldn't have been able to sleep at night thinking of how his children would feel if they found out.
It was the most horrible feeling, I can assure you. But ultimately, I can hold my head high, because I ended it the moment I found out about his marital status. Can you?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by netchick:[quote]Originally posted by FeowFeow:
[b]Dear Netchick,
You want to know why? It's because you reap what you sow. You already know what's Not good for you, yet you still persist in pursuing it. I'm surprised you actually had the cheek to ask why.
The 1 who should be asking why, is his little 3 year old son, asking, "Why, Daddy, why?" He deserves our pity, Not you. May this image gnaw at your conscience, & his.
FeowFeow
Maybe I din give a full pix of d whole story... I dun even feel sorry for myself.. So, wat do I even expect fr here... Juz feeling extremely puzzeled thus I posted d 1st post...
I dun expect ur pity... -
I admit tat I din end it d moment I knew about his marital status.. But, initially, when we started, I din noe anything @ all... And I found out everything through myself.. I went to ROM to check out his marital status when I started having doubts...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Netchick,
I believe there have been enough TV serials & real life stories about your plight. You probably would've already known all these way before you embarked on this pursuit of a married man. So I don't really understand what there is to be puzzled about.
I was pursued by a married man before, got involved with him, Not knowing that he was married with children. The moment I knew, I simply ended it. If I didn't, I wouldn't have been able to sleep at night thinking of how his children would feel if they found out.
It was the most horrible feeling, I can assure you. But ultimately, I can hold my head high, because I ended it the moment I found out about his marital status. Can you?
FeowFeow
My posting of tis whole thing is not to gather pity.. & neither did I continue wif tis 'drama'... My sole purpose is bcoz I'm puzzeled... I'm feeling indignant... I'm feeling enraged...