Met a insincere new boyfren
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Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ?
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as usual,like wad most ppl says,guys known from net are never gd partners.
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the answer to this question will aid in your decision:Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ?
Is this net hunting for gals his habit? -
Don't generalize pleaseOriginally posted by boyboy18:as usual,like wad most ppl says,guys known from net are never gd partners.
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Really?Originally posted by boyboy18:as usual,like wad most ppl says,guys known from net are never gd partners.
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You are.... Quite a conservative girlOriginally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ? -
confront him lah .......Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ?
he might have his reasons which allow u to understand him better
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dono leh,heard alot girls say like tis lo,r we guys reali tat bad?Originally posted by Devil1976:Really? 
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I understand y u feel that way....my dear dear does that all the time as well....
goes on line to noe gals...in fact ever caught him flirting on line ......even got gals that he call "wife" on line ya!!! Almost went crazy initially....
but I guess its really a matter of trust.... most guys/ gals alike ...like to flirt on line...
dun have to take responsibility for watever they say.... the other party may never ever
see you in person anyway!!
Unlikely that he will change becoz of you!!! The only thing is that he will do it secretly
behind yr back if you confront him abt it.....
Trick: Be partners in crime ....do the same thing to him!!!! Ouch!!! See if it
hurts him....harmless flirting on line is alright one!! Say only mah...no do...
If not...... leave him now if you find that you really cannot trust him!! Hurt now
better than hurt later ya!! Now only early stage of relationship...will hurt lesser
Move onz Plenty of trees out there! .....Sure can find one steady and trustworthy guy out there ! -
If u are going steady, then it is alright to question him.
Tell him it is alright to chat with friends once in a while but not to pick up girls.
If he is serious abt u, then he should spare a thought for your feelings. -
I afraid by talking 2 him will spark off a agruements..
coz he might get cross if he noe i am monitoring him, but y do guys take us gal like idiot thinking we will nt noe wat they are doing ?
i am tinking of letting him go..
anyway this r/l started nt long.. like ppl say to let go now when feeling isn't that strong den to suffer later..
some might feel i am unfair for nt letting him explain himself.
but i dnt see anything to explain flirting online is flirting..
if he can flirt online, sooner one of these day he will meet up with the gals.
if he came across a gal who is ok with meeting up.. sigh...
y am i so dwn in lucky with love..
lucky always miss me..
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actually, flirting alto harmless...but if it results in him giving u less attention and less love..then it's no longer ok. better check it out. i don't suggest "confrontation"...too strong and potentially explosive. just ask him in the right timing. be prepared to face the answer.....
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Not sure about you... But I'm a DEVIL... And I CAN be BAD...Originally posted by boyboy18:dono leh,heard alot girls say like tis lo,r we guys reali tat bad? 
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If he's hunting..he gave up on u ages ago. Get a subaru type C..at least it will be loyal n faithful
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Hmm...Originally posted by subarugal:I afraid by talking 2 him will spark off a agruements..
coz he might get cross if he noe i am monitoring him, but y do guys take us gal like idiot thinking we will nt noe wat they are doing ?
i am tinking of letting him go..
anyway this r/l started nt long.. like ppl say to let go now when feeling isn't that strong den to suffer later..
some might feel i am unfair for nt letting him explain himself.
but i dnt see anything to explain flirting online is flirting..
if he can flirt online, sooner one of these day he will meet up with the gals.
if he came across a gal who is ok with meeting up.. sigh...
y am i so dwn in lucky with love..
lucky always miss me.. 
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you seems to know the answers yourself but u just wanna some1 to push u off the cliff. fact is, it is ur life, live it the way u want it.Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ?
no r/s will survive without trust n sincerity. besides, ur level of r/s with him appears as thick as a comic book only. cheap lesson. some pple hv gone thru several years b4 realizing they hv been had, all alone. -
ask him join sgforum outings
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Find out his motive of hunting those girls. Is he fooling around or juz making frens? It depends on his intention. If he's making frens, well I can close on eye..but if he's fooling around, I'll break off with him.
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YAP!!! I really think all guys expect their gals to be like idiot!! Act Sweet,
innocent and Pretend not to noe what "evil deeds" they are doing outside !!!
You go gal!! If you feel that this guy is not worth going thru all the emotional
trauma of a potential cheating partner ......go along and do whatever yr heart tells you to do ! For him to behave like that in the earlier part of the relationship does make one wonder
how serious he is abt you ya!
Verbal flirting is okie with me....in this modern society...almost everybody
does that...... even the old 40+ "uncles" in my office flirts or talks in a suggestive mannner
with the younger and prettier gals all the time.....
just verbal flirting or making platonic frenz with the opposite sex is acceptable....
the key thing is that your partner must noe where to draw the line....
however if I ever caught my partner sleeping around..
i will castrate him ...hehehe -
i speak from a guy's point of view....
are you demanding too much time from him till he has no breathing space?? i cant quantify the amt, but u shld know better...
if ur answer is "no leh, i juz want the same amt of attention he showed me b4 we go stead", then run for your life... becoz itz only 6 mths and he cant give u his attention le... but then again, it will be good to listen to what he has to say first, ie, confront him b4 your make your next move... gd luck -
HIAK HIAK!Originally posted by Devil1976:Not sure about you... But I'm a DEVIL... And I CAN be BAD... 
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Better to give up now then later..."dun tong better than chang tong"...oops i know my hanyu is craps
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Get another net id if you suspect anything. Just pretend to be someone else and chat him up and see if hes picking up other girls. This shows a lack of trust but better safe than sorry.Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ? -
no i dnt tink i demand too much time from him.. we hardly meet coz i know he is more on adverture n sport type so i leave it to him to enjoy his fren and team company. we only keep contact more on the hp or sms.. sometime msn..
he didn't seems to make effort to meet me, only in the beginning he do made effort to meet me.
i noe he luv to go for soccer so its kind of i just want him to enjoy his days.
i am a normal gal also luv to hav his co. but yet again i dnt want him to feel miserable without freedom.
dats y when i found out his activities in net i feel so disappointed in him.
"shake my head"Originally posted by mercurialz:i speak from a guy's point of view....
are you demanding too much time from him till he has no breathing space?? i cant quantify the amt, but u shld know better...
if ur answer is "no leh, i juz want the same amt of attention he showed me b4 we go stead", then run for your life... becoz itz only 6 mths and he cant give u his attention le... but then again, it will be good to listen to what he has to say first, ie, confront him b4 your make your next move... gd luck -
Sometimes a confrontation is a must... but break it to him slowly, don't start off accusing him as that will just spark off a quarrel
Tell him that if he wants to make platonic friends with other girls its fine, if its fine with you, but that he has to draw the line somewhere... for all u know he may think that you are actually ok with all this even though you are not..