Met a insincere new boyfren
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humh, now he use soft on me..
ahhhaa.. i going crazy... humh
GD Nite sweet heart ??
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Hi gal.....he is using the soft technic to win you back apparently......
well, i think he still does love you and care about you to a certain extend...
do make use of this opportunity to talk to him.....share with him your insecurity
etc etc........ at least try to find out his motives for going on line to clear up
watever doubts you have.... pick up gals??? to make platonic frenz?
Trust & communication is impt in any relationship...
at least try to establish the framework & expectation of yr relationship with
each other.......ie to continue dating others or be fully committed to each other!
Good luck to you and yr bf ya!!
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Originally posted by subarugal:humh, now he use soft on me..
ahhhaa.. i going crazy... humh
GD Nite sweet heart ?? 
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Well, if you wanna know the truth, maybe you can get a friend or a fake ID to check up on him...however, you gotta be mentally prepared..the truth hurts sometimes..
It's not surprising when guys go around hunting other girls when they are in a r/s...some are only into making friends, others wanna "widen" their cirlcle of female friends... "the more the merrier mah"...in other words flirting..coz they find sticking to one gal is really boring...and they are those adventurous kinda people who wanna try to mingle around with new girls..etc..
May it be male or female, even in thie modern society, i bet there are still lotsa us who are uncomfy with our partners going around making friends with the opposite sex (even though it's merely friendship).I understand it's not about whether if we're giving them additional personal space...coz in this competitive society..we're just afraid of losing our other half to another party...
f i were to put myself in your shoes , since he changed quite a bit after getting together with me...and he loves hunting for new girls online...i guess..it's very hard for me to carry on with this kinda person. A relationship without trust and faith will never be long lasting..esp when that fella proves you right... there are many better decent guys out there... -
not mi not miOriginally posted by boyboy18:as usual,like wad most ppl says,guys known from net are never gd partners. -
don't soooooo easily "xin ruan". Make sure you get a firm committed answer before he wins you back...otherwise u end up in cycles of the same shit!
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Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.
Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.
Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.
What is the best advice for this if u were me ? 
You got to know him from net and did went on dates.
Still, technically speaking, you both ain't attached together; which means you have your own rights to STILL choose your partner. Do not tie yourself to someone, just because he has made known about his liking for you. It's silly. Furthermore, he has failed to prove himself as time passes, so it's ok - You can regard him as a normal, causal friend and you must still be open for other options.
Arguements? What stand do you hold?
To do something about it? Again, what position do you hold?
Cheers -
just because you found your squeeze online doesn't mean this doesn't apply to you...wait lah till he screws you then dumps you...then i'll laugh a million laughs to the bank...Originally posted by rainee:Don't generalize please
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looks like she's the kind of girl who looks for perfection in a relationship...happy hunting...for the next 1,000 years....Originally posted by Devil1976:You are.... Quite a conservative girl
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i will term such pple as "buaya"-s... these pple who aint satisfied with a gf he had singledhandedly pick to be his...Originally posted by subarugal:humh, now he use soft on me..
ahhhaa.. i going crazy... humh
GD Nite sweet heart ??
keep his options open is not an excuse, it's downright nonsense... i firmly believe that if someone already has that special partner, it's the responsibility of both parties to make it work...
i know a guy who already has a gf, but at his workplace, keep on "hitting" on gals... he would make excuses not to have dinner with the gf juz to go out for dinner with a female colleagues, make excuses to sit together with female colleagues during functions etc... it's REVOLTING...
if this guy cant settle down with juz one gal (that is, u), get rid of him, or u might juz end up suffering... -
flirting online is normal for most ppl i guess as they take it as joking. But try not goin over the limit i guess... esp when suggestive words comes into play and the other party is attached. Tink gd way is tok to him, if he dun change... let him have a taste of his own med... flirt around wif others the way he did..then see how he like it loh.Originally posted by subarugal:Sigh...
What is the best advice for this if u were me ? -
Originally posted by xking:flirting online is normal for most ppl i guess as they take it as joking. But try not goin over the limit i guess... esp when suggestive words comes into play and the other party is attached. Tink gd way is tok to him, if he dun change... let him have a taste of his own med... flirt around wif others the way he did..then see how he like it loh.
dun agree with wat he say, flirt around with others the way ur partner did. hoho~ that can be disastrous! read the thread by edLow and u will know wat I mean.
But I always feel that once a person is attached, he/she should behave liao. Even if he/she thinks that they were juz joking, playing, dun mean business..but then the person who tried to flirt with him/her may have other intentions, and take advantage if he/she dun mind. Before he/she try to fool around, should actually spare a thought for his/her partner's feelings.
Had such experiene before..initially I really mind it..then i started to close one eye..then tolerated..but seeing no change after a long time, I think I deserve someone better. And so, I got him out of my life. -
no no.. u got it wrong..
we are couple, we went out as per normal for 4mths holding hand, kissing, hug etc... like normal couples.. only thing is we do nt engage in activities.
which is my set of rulez. Coz i do not want to fix activities as a package in r/l
Originally posted by Yunhaier: You got to know him from net and did went on dates.
Still, technically speaking, you both ain't attached together; which means you have your own rights to STILL choose your partner. Do not tie yourself to someone, just because he has made known about his liking for you. It's silly. Furthermore, he has failed to prove himself as time passes, so it's ok - You can regard him as a normal, causal friend and you must still be open for other options.
Arguements? What stand do you hold?
To do something about it? Again, what position do you hold?
Cheers -
he isn't spend enuf time with me..
Mon - Fri (he say work very tired dnt feel like going out)
Sat (work half day, complaint tired want to sleep)
Sun (occasionally we meet up)
Just wonder wat kind of relationship is this..
i have been very patient with him, hoping he would change..
my fren ask me to be patient with him, but i really wish him co. me..
i dnt need him to bring me go shopping, movies etc.. i just wish to spend some quality time together even he went to bring me to beach sit down chat i would have been very hapi.. or go some place for basic dinner ...
so such request too much ?
i really think not u noe...
haiz... y am i so unlucky.. i just wanna find someone to luv me, dote me, spend time with me...
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Originally posted by subarugal:no no.. u got it wrong..
we are couple, we went out as per normal for 4mths holding hand, kissing, hug etc... like normal couples.. only thing is we do nt engage in activities.
which is my set of rulez. Coz i do not want to fix activities as a package in r/l Sorry.. my bad.
P.S: What activity? What do you mean?
Cheers -
wtf is wrong with you?Originally posted by mahai102:just because you found your squeeze online doesn't mean this doesn't apply to you...wait lah till he screws you then dumps you...then i'll laugh a million laughs to the bank... 
Get a life instead of saying stupid things and making a fool of yourself -
So what you reckon of it?Originally posted by subarugal:he isn't spend enuf time with me..
Mon - Fri (he say work very tired dnt feel like going out)
Sat (work half day, complaint tired want to sleep)
Sun (occasionally we meet up)
Just wonder wat kind of relationship is this..
i have been very patient with him, hoping he would change..
my fren ask me to be patient with him, but i really wish him co. me..
i dnt need him to bring me go shopping, movies etc.. i just wish to spend some quality time together even he went to bring me to beach sit down chat i would have been very hapi.. or go some place for basic dinner ...
so such request too much ?
i really think not u noe...
haiz... y am i so unlucky.. i just wanna find someone to luv me, dote me, spend time with me...
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date another guy............
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no sori needed...
activities = Sex
That's my sets of rulez, coz i understand now lots of gals and guys took it as sex is in the r/l package.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Sorry.. my bad.
P.S: What activity? What do you mean?
Cheers -
hey, dnt quarrel ..
we are suppose to chat n relax here n there.. ok
:,Originally posted by rainee:wtf is wrong with you? Get a life instead of saying stupid things and making a fool of yourself -
hey, dnt quarrel ..
we are suppose to chat n relax here n there.. ok
:,Originally posted by rainee:wtf is wrong with you? Get a life instead of saying stupid things and making a fool of yourself -
double posting
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I am not the one picking up the quarrel...Originally posted by subarugal:hey, dnt quarrel ..
we are suppose to chat n relax here n there.. ok
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Hmmm..... Same things happening to my bruddah's sis also, but at the opposite time slot.
Not to be a paranoid but, maybe u should just call him and make a check?? Using the excuse of "just wan to chit chat with u loh... cos miss u mah, so long then meet once", or something like tat.
Recommended time to call his home (if he's sleeping, then he should be at home rite?), and not his hp:
Mon - Fri : beyond 9pm
Sat : evening
Sun : Since both of u meeting up... y call?? ha ha!!
If the result is bad (as in he's not at home during these time slots), pls pm me, I need to check something with u, cos some things CAN BE tat coincidental. Thanks babe.
But think on the bright side, u can be the 1 to initiate and ask him out for dinner or movie or party, dun always have to be him.Originally posted by subarugal:he isn't spend enuf time with me..
Mon - Fri (he say work very tired dnt feel like going out)
Sat (work half day, complaint tired want to sleep)
Sun (occasionally we meet up)
Just wonder wat kind of relationship is this..
i have been very patient with him, hoping he would change..
my fren ask me to be patient with him, but i really wish him co. me..
i dnt need him to bring me go shopping, movies etc.. i just wish to spend some quality time together even he went to bring me to beach sit down chat i would have been very hapi.. or go some place for basic dinner ...
so such request too much ?
i really think not u noe...
haiz... y am i so unlucky.. i just wanna find someone to luv me, dote me, spend time with me...
sigh... -
Like i say if i were to do all these to catch him red handed.
i guess i would rather give up the r/l coz i dnt see the point to carry on such relationship
A relationship without trust, faith and loyalty is equal to waste of time n feel.Originally posted by Boo777:Hmmm..... Same things happening to my bruddah's sis also, but at the opposite time slot.
Not to be a paranoid but, maybe u should just call him and make a check?? Using the excuse of "just wan to chit chat with u loh... cos miss u mah, so long then meet once", or something like tat.
Recommended time to call his home (if he's sleeping, then he should be at home rite?), and not his hp:
Mon - Fri : beyond 9pm
Sat : evening
Sun : Since both of u meeting up... y call?? ha ha!!
If the result is bad (as in he's not at home during these time slots), pls pm me, I need to check something with u, cos some things CAN BE tat coincidental. Thanks babe.
But think on the bright side, u can be the 1 to initiate and ask him out for dinner or movie or party, dun always have to be him.