Isn't it considered statutory rape under the British law to have sex with the girls aged 12 and 14?Technically it is so...but they do not prosecute if the perpetrator is another minor of the same age
Well..it's only meaningful if the single mum managed to overcome her own crisis and became wiser...at least upgrade herself...be it her personality becoming stronger, living conditions improved, letting go of the past.Originally posted by Tuatau:Subjective.
In your opinion, what would be the right article to represent the term "meaningful"?
Poor choice in selecting men..
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I met a few other men after that and became close to some. The minute they knew about my past, they demanded sex from me. Not new to you, so donÂ’t pretend, they would say.
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When I met the man I eventually married, I was only 19. I didnÂ’t tell him about the abortion until we were getting ready to marry. In a way, you could say I tricked him into marrying me. But, I was sure he would also run away like the rest if he knew.
Originally posted by parn:Can't speak for her, but the single mother in the story didn't seem to me to be that self-pitying as was made out to be. Her background seemed to indicate that she could be the quintessential "Ah Lian" of the Singapore heartland. I do not wish to generalise, but many young girls these days do not get (or simply refuse) the benefit of guidance from parents and teachers on the pitfalls of being prematurely involved in a sexual relationship, making them particularly vulnerable prey to beasts of lust.
Well..it's only meaningful if the single mum managed to overcome her own crisis and became wiser...at least upgrade herself...be it her personality becoming stronger, living conditions improved, letting go of the past.
Seems like the single mum haven't got any wiser, her living conditions didn't improve... although she's hoping that it'll get better, and she's still dwelling in her own sorrows of the past and even plans to tell her daughter her sad/tragic story in the future. OMG....never transfer your own past sorrows to your own children, children won't be wise enough to understand and it will only make them be more shameful and feel inferior in front of their peers. They won't be able to enjoy their life as normal kids anymore once they know that they're born from such tragic event. That stupid mum watches too much soap dramas if she really thinks that her daughter will be wise enough to understand. It won't make any difference even if her daughter understands. Her daughter should be allowed to live her life free and happy and with pride and away from all those past sorrows/worries. It is best that she never tells her daughter about anything about her shameful past or she might risk scarring her daughter's life and her daughter might just end up like her mum if she's unable to overcome this past nonsense.
Whatever unhappy events that are passed and over should be allowed to be forgotten and never to be mentioned... even though not forgiven.
This author choice of story is unwise and will influenced other people who might be in the same dilemma before to follow in the footsteps of the single mum and her resolution for her future. Never allow tragic stories to duplicate itself and multiply like a social plague...else our future generations will indeed be a generations of mistakes and sadness and sorrows. Instead, stories that are published to the public or will be read by anyone else than the author herself, should be chosen wisely and should be stories of inspiration and hopes and strengths and love. Because everyone out there walking and breathing has their own sad story to tell, there won't be a lack of demand for sad stories. Instead, don't increase the troubles and frustrations of the common people. Publish more stories of hopes, inspirations, strengths and love instead...cos that's what is missing and greatly in demand in our present society.
Originally posted by Magnus:It could be, though personally I'd give the story the benefit of doubt.
Poor choice in selecting men..
Lesson not learnt, time and time again.
Or is this story slanted for it's intented purpose?
Nonetheless, there's much to be learnt. To go against it or towards it is just a matter of personal chioce. Such articles give one some time to reflect on situations... Rather than having to deal with them when the matter is upfront and in your face....Originally posted by parn:Well..it's only meaningful if the single mum managed to overcome her own crisis and became wiser...at least upgrade herself...be it her personality becoming stronger, living conditions improved, letting go of the past.
Seems like the single mum haven't got any wiser, her living conditions didn't improve...although she's hoping that it'll get better, and she's still dwelling in her own sorrows of the past and even plans to tell her daughter her sad/tragic story in the future. OMG....never transfer your own past sorrows to your own children, children won't be wise enough to understand and it will only make them be more shameful and feel inferior in front of their peers. They won't be able to enjoy their life as normal kids anymore once they know that they're born from such tragic event. That stupid mum watches too much soap dramas if she really thinks that her daughter will be wise enough to understand. It won't make any difference even if her daughter understands. Her daughter should be allowed to live her life free and happy and with pride and away from all those past sorrows/worries. It is best that she never tells her daughter about anything about her shameful past or she might risk scarring her daughter's life and her daughter might just end up like her mum if she's unable to overcome this past nonsense.
Whatever unhappy events that are passed and over should be allowed to be forgotten and never to be mentioned...even though not forgiven.
This author choice of story is unwise and will influenced other people who might be in the same dilemma before to follow in the footsteps of the single mum and her resolution for her future. Never allow tragic stories to duplicate itself and multiply like a social plague...else our future generations will indeed be a generations of mistakes and sadness and sorrows. Instead, stories that are published to the public or will be read by anyone else than the author herself, should be chosen wisely and should be stories of inspiration and hopes and strengths and love. Because everyone out there walking and breathing has their own sad story to tell, there won't be a lack of demand for sad stories. Instead, don't increase the troubles and frustrations of the common people. Publish more stories of hopes, inspirations, strengths and love instead...cos that's what is missing and greatly in demand in our present society.![]()
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It's still spinning...Originally posted by M©+square:M© looked at the coin intently and wonders if it's going to tilt on either side. But he wants to see it settle on the center.
The coin spins...still.
M© yawns.
Which side will it go Dev?
Originally posted by Tuatau:Can't speak for her, but the single mother in the story didn't seem to me to be that self-pitying as was made out to be. Her background seemed to indicate that she could be the quintessential "Ah Lian" of the Singapore heartland. I do not wish to generalise, but many young girls these days do not get (or simply refuse) the benefit of guidance from parents and teachers on the pitfalls of being prematurely involved in a sexual relationship, making them particularly vulnerable prey to beasts of lust.
My guess was that this article was published to serve more as a warning to such naïve girls out there, to be more careful when getting involved in a relationship; rather than as an example to the unhappily married young mothers out there, to follow her actions and traumatise their children with shameful family histories.
That was also my intention when I posted this thread -- that intention may be misguided as we already have more than enough tragic stories here. This tragic story, however, is slightly more meaningful (at least in my opinion) as it carries a social message about the stigma on single motherhood and the possible repercussions of abortion. Besides, as what some posters have pointed out in other threads with stories of questionable authenticity: if these stories could still serve as a reference guide to readers in similar situations, then perhaps it isn't that bad a thing after all.
As for personal stories of love, hope and inspiration, I have to admit there are other posters here who have already done more than a good job.