FAlll IN love with a Girl with BF
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distance urself from her for awhile ba...else u can never get out lohOriginally posted by IntenseFlame:ehmmm.....
I think you guys are right. If someone steal my gf that would be a nightmare to me.
So... what should i do ? Should i not call her again ? Ignore her ?
recently she had a bad day with the bf..... i think i dun want to continue this misery quest. How do i end this misery mission ? -
what i recommend is... don't be a third party.
yes you can wait. but never cause a relation to break down because of you
it feels very bad when you know that your gf ran off with another fella... therefore... don't do it on others -
sometimes it is the gal that is encouraging the guy's attraction...
theres only 2 ways,...
forget about her and keep as little contact as possible.
or
go for it....but make sure u dun regret what u decided to do.
Best of luck bro,...i understand your feelings.
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I say....there are lots of girls out there...y must u choose someone tt is most probably banged (perhaps) often, by another guy(his bf)?
(Get what i mean rite?)
Wise up... move on and look elsewhere.
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Fuck reason. Love is not just anyone but that one special person. Like that might as well go orchard choose your "trees". so many until can last a lifetime.
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I say GO FOR IT.... life is short, if you don't try, u wun know. dun live a life of regret. Dun care abt those "self-righteous" pple saying it is wrong. If they are so righteous, they wouldn't blast u for being so dedicated to love. Love is an art to be mastered by the artistic. And dun bother thinking about her bf's feeling. All humans are selfish and he dun deserve your sympathy. Anyway U dunno him and it is his problem if he cannot offer happiness to her gf. But before u try, ppls make sure her bf is no psycho or else you may kena chopped while u r walking.
He is now and enemy of your happiness, do what must be done, do not hesistate, show no mercy. -
number kid,
I love money but I donÂ’t want ill gotten money. I choose to earn it in the right manner. I agree in living our lives to the fullest and not to have regrets but i dont go around hurting people in order to get my happiness.
Your words are just trying to justify a selfish action in the good name of love.
The people in this forum arenÂ’t asking him to show sympathy to the bf. The advice given to him is to ask him to learn to love with the right approach, to learn to love responsibly, to learn to love without a guilty conscience. That's what i call 'no regrets' love.
I donÂ’t know who taught you love.
To you love is selfish.
To me love should be selflessÂ…
Grow up kid. -
hi all,
If love is selfless, then the guy should NOT blame his gf for choosing her happiness and go for the third party... he should feel so happy for his gf that she actually found LOVE and HAPPINESS...
I really admire those who can be selfless... it's really not easy...
Frankly, I tried but failed... to a certain extent, love is selfish... -
owen,
i understand what you mean...
i am no saint myself but it doesnt mean if i cant be a saint then i should go all out and do all the wrong things...
my point to intense is simple, do things the right way, it doesnt mean if everyone else is selfish we should be too...
anyway you dont have to agree with me
Vidvin -
WHy is it always someone who dun make sense being label as a kid? So making me feel a kid makes u mature? Some adults can be more immature than a kid. Anyway whatever. I really dun see what use the bf has since she's the one always going out with u. Most probably the bf's watching soccer or hanging out with his pig friends. Girls are selfish too, they also want what they desire. Love, money or whatever, as long as u can give it to her. Go ahead and snatch her from her bf.Originally posted by Vidvin:number kid,
I love money but I donÂ’t want ill gotten money. I choose to earn it in the right manner. I agree in living our lives to the fullest and not to have regrets but i dont go around hurting people in order to get my happiness.
Your words are just trying to justify a selfish action in the good name of love.
The people in this forum arenÂ’t asking him to show sympathy to the bf. The advice given to him is to ask him to learn to love with the right approach, to learn to love responsibly, to learn to love without a guilty conscience. That's what i call 'no regrets' love.
I donÂ’t know who taught you love.
To you love is selfish.
To me love should be selflessÂ…
Grow up kid. -
Love is a choice, not a responsibility. If the girl loves u and u love her. Her BF can go to hell if she's only with her becos she's is her gf in name. Ask her straight in her face if she has any feelings for u, if YES...do what you must. If no, well too bad...find someone else.
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well said!Originally posted by 123456890:Love is a choice, not a responsibility. If the girl loves u and u love her. Her BF can go to hell if she's only with her becos she's is her gf in name. Ask her straight in her face if she has any feelings for u, if YES...do what you must. If no, well too bad...find someone else. -
In our conservative society, guys who have feelings for attached girls are scorned as 3rd party trouble-makers.Originally posted by IntenseFlame:I have this problem ,
I fell in love with this wonderful girl but she got bf. The thing is i really do like her very much .
Ok...I spend time calling her every time. Every week i ask her out for date and she dun mind spending time with me. Most of our outings are very romantic and i know she loves it. I try hard to win her heart from the bf. Am i doing a wrong thing seeking for someone i love ?
i did hint her that i do like her ? she is confuse as i am since she is attach. Each time i go out with her.... it is always romantic places such as... beach walking, movie , romantic restaurants , sun set watching.....
sigh.... why do i fall in love in such a complicated girl ? As much as I love her...i am not going to confess since she has a bf. I am willing to loose everything waiting for her each but
Am i wrong waiting for her to break up ?
Can i still treat her nice and bring her to romantic places ?
I am just a normal guy..... I dont mind waiting long for her , i wonder she knows my intention.
All i know is she is very caring and i care for her very much too. I dont want to miss this opportunity to care for someone i admire
Am I a bad person.... ?
Love is not binding until both sides find something they have both been searching for. Just because they are currently attached does not imply that the search is over. Sometimes, qualities you dun find in your current half can be readily found in another person. Break-ups are always hard just as change is always difficult.
Many couples get involved too early before maturity and common sense sets in. Call it puppy love if you will. This is a receipe for problems, especially if both sides are not open and understanding. Because the likelihood of meeting someone more suited to yourself is very high, breakups are ultimately inevitable.
What is important is you stay true to yourself. Be selfish if you have to because the person you end up with will stay with you and 'till death do we part'. Certainly no one wants to commit into such a matrimony only to regret it and divorce later.
I am not an avocator of 3rd parties. I abhore such people who openly and eagerly come between you and the one you love. As long as people know the unwritten rules: that an attached person is off-limits, then staying friends is fine. Let the other person make up their own minds. But do not coax the other into initiating a breakup. Should that happen, the person must act on his/her own without interference.
In any case, people must come to terms with their relationship. If you have done enough, then trust is what holds it together. If the other side demands more everytime, then perhaps the breakup was imminent anyway.
No one should deceive themselves on such matters. Face the facts and accept the truth. -
Talk so much for what f.u.c.k lah!
If someone took your bf/gf, just find a master in Thailand and cast black magic on that i.d.i.o.t.
Very easy, just let him suffer.
I can give you contact if you want. -
boorish...Originally posted by Canavaro:Talk so much for what f.u.c.k lah!
If someone took your bf/gf, just find a master in Thailand and cast black magic on that i.d.i.o.t.
Very easy, just let him suffer.
I can give you contact if you want. -
totally.... not to mention senseles...Originally posted by BillyBong:boorish...
getting between couples isn't a moral thing to do.. if you'r eimmoral, go right ahead. i wun be the one to stop you..
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Dun think you understand.Originally posted by starblue:totally.... not to mention senseles...
getting between couples isn't a moral thing to do.. if you'r eimmoral, go right ahead. i wun be the one to stop you..
I have friends who got into relationships too early and subsequently broke up amicably. Later on when getting hitched to someone new, they have the blessings of their ex. Their cases had nothing to do with 3rd party relationships.
They just became a little wiser and mature and realise the one they were with currently isn't the right person.
3rd parties aren't the underlying reasons couples breakup. Knowing that attached persons are off-limits is drawing the fine line. Doesn't imply you cannot be friends with them. -
Don't ask her out for a date. Let her ask you out. From there you will know whether she loves\likes you or no.
Let her call you. Why should you call her when she's already attached since you liked her. Make her call you. You won't know how much she really likes you unless she starts asking all the questions.
Your dates are not romantic at all.
She loves you she will tell you everything.
I repeat
Everything.Originally posted by IntenseFlame:I have this problem ,
I fell in love with this wonderful girl but she got bf. The thing is i really do like her very much .
Ok...I spend time calling her every time. Every week i ask her out for date and she dun mind spending time with me. Most of our outings are very romantic and i know she loves it. I try hard to win her heart from the bf. Am i doing a wrong thing seeking for someone i love ?
i did hint her that i do like her ? she is confuse as i am since she is attach. Each time i go out with her.... it is always romantic places such as... beach walking, movie , romantic restaurants , sun set watching.....
sigh.... why do i fall in love in such a complicated girl ? As much as I love her...i am not going to confess since she has a bf. I am willing to loose everything waiting for her each but
Am i wrong waiting for her to break up ?
Can i still treat her nice and bring her to romantic places ?
I am just a normal guy..... I dont mind waiting long for her , i wonder she knows my intention.
All i know is she is very caring and i care for her very much too. I dont want to miss this opportunity to care for someone i admire
Am I a bad person.... ? -
okie.. i'm not the only one...
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The rest aint.Originally posted by BaByBoY:well said! -
I like the way you call him.Originally posted by Vidvin:number kid,
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Hey.. Settle it yourself.. Decision lies with you man.. No matter what we say, nothing's gonna change..
Why complicate things? It's only yes or no to whether ya gonna go for it only.. -
watch out!
you can milk the cow but dun bring it home.. joking..
give her a time allowance...ask her for a decision...if she dun wan, then you dun take her..its like she is two-timing you and the other guy...you like this type of gal?
unless she allows you to 2-time her as well.!
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just a consideration b4 u accept her...
what she did to her bf, one day might do the same back to u
are u afraid tt will happen also???