Stupid ex-bf harassing my gf
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yes,she definitely still have feeling for him..3 years! In fact,i can accept that, i told her too. I said i willing to give her as much time as she needs to forget him slowlyOriginally posted by Gackt247:Be by her side at this moment of nuisance.. be her support..
Do not confront the guy.. he might juz indeed be a lunatic.. the 999 hotlone is always available for u to dial..
Dont give up too easily on ur girl ya..
The only thing tt may be bugging u n may including some curious concerned souls in sgf.. does ur girl still have feelings for her ex hence her emotional outbursts? -
i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..Originally posted by Devil1976:STUPID. You ARE her BF!! You can give her more free time and freedom to think things through, but you don't have to vanish from her life totally what...? What are you thinking about....?
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life.. -
juz be by her side when she needs youOriginally posted by sentguy:i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life..
even when she don need you,
you can still be by her side too..
it`s how we show care and concern to our loved ones -
I suggest you don't give yourself any time limit.Originally posted by sentguy:i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life..
Her condition should not be hurried or change because of your time expectancy. It has got to be natural.
On your part you will feel miserable if she does not meet the targetted time you've set. Why create destruction upon yourself?
If you know what exactly she's bothered over(her unhappiness) maybe you should do the above.
But if you don't, i suggest that you don't be too much a noble person.
It might or might not be your presence that have caused her to be so confused.
Get facts right before acting rashly on your end?
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Nah....dun leave her alone. She needs someone by her side..and that means YOU!!!! Try do somethin different to cheer her up....like buy her flowers and get delivery guy to deliver to her doorstep....something surprising yet pleasing. Show her that you r still thinking of her during these hard times. Maybe u have better ideas.Originally posted by sentguy:i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life..
She n him 3 yrs....no big deal....I've heard worse.
Always make her feel at ease and comfortable when she's with u. -
Hmm....Originally posted by sentguy:i do not know the actual details, but i roughly hear my gf say its because she losing a bit feelings for him then she initiate break up. None of the guy's fault i think(not confirm).
And after they break up, my gf actually called him back to ask to patch up, but the guy say consider.. so in the end she moved on with life.. and found me.. yup..thats how it goes.. -
true, think he cant really do anythg abt it but hmmz, at least will have an ending lohz, then will know who'd the ger prefer etc, instead of letting it drag on...Originally posted by bratpig:he also can't do anything about it right? -
can I just chk with you as to how old are you harZ? sound real mature in ur thinking.. hmmz, tink ya oredi have some sort of idea as to wat to do lerz, but juz needs some confirmation isit? tink having a man to man talk shldnt be too bad.. but maybe the 2 of u can bring a fren along so that he cannot complain to ur gf n accuse him of saying sthg hurtful abt him/her etc... sorta to protect urself bahz.. then he cant do anythg to ya if ya went with a fren... shld be safer tooz.. coz he sounds abit desperate to try anythg to get her back based on what ya posted here abt the guy's msgs... anyway, whatever u do, Good Luck to ya!~Originally posted by sentguy:yes,she is worth waiting for and i will stand by her.
she just showed me some sms from her ex-bf. He sent messages saying he hearing voices in his head, maybe going to do something silly. Then say ignore him he talking rubbish and then hahahahahhaah..
Sounds like he is using psychological battle now.. i can imagine the amount of stress my gf is getting from these messages.. and he calls her like 2am in the morning(yes i know because it was last night i was talking to her on phone). He calls her late at night and sends her many sms. And using 'maybe going to do silly things' is a very strong thing.. she is very scared he do silly things..
I don't want to use psychological tactics to add to her pressure.. my tears just came out just now.. she saw it.. but i just say i yawned... im not like that guy, getting pity and attack her mental state of mind...
am i stupid?
i feel like asking her for her ex-bf hp and ask him out for a man-to-man chat. is it a bad idea? i don't want to see her suffer until like that.. hurts my heart..
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sentguy, usually it may seems to be seen as chivalrous to let go of your love and allow her to seek her own happiness...but that can and only will happens in the movies/drama/soap operas.Originally posted by sentguy:i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life..
In reality, it would be seen as stupid, cowardly and unsincere about your love for her.
It's simple, if you really love her and want her to be with you in the end, you just gotta hold on and fight for it. Fight for your own happiness. Girls just won't simply run back to you even in the very end that she realised that you are the one that she loves...becos pride doesn't exists in movies/drama/soap operas...it only exists in reality. So most of the time when a girl does regret about it (although it doesn't happens often in reality...almost like striking a lottery), she won't let you know about it.
So if you let go of this relationship now, you won't see it again unless you strike lottery...but the probability statistic shows that you'll need to be hit at least twice by lightning bolt before you can probably strike a lottery. (Stupid maths )
My last advice for you: Always keep a clear conscience, And brings true happiness to yourself. (Priority to the first statement, after the first sentence is achieved, priority goes to the second statement.) -
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Originally posted by parn:
best f.ucking advice i saw in this thread...i'll add my two cents worth...yeah, don't be a dickhead & mope in the corner...if you do that, you'd let him win...let him go & commit suicide, why the heck should you care...he's had his chance, let him die a thousand deaths...
sentguy, usually it may seems to be seen as chivalrous to let go of your love and allow her to seek her own happiness...but that can and only will happens in the movies/drama/soap operas. In reality, it would be seen as stupid, cowardly and unsincere about your love for her.
It's simple, if you really love her and want her to be with you in the end, you just gotta hold on and fight for it. [b]Fight for your own happiness. Girls just won't simply run back to you even in the very end that she realised that you are the one that she loves...becos pride doesn't exists in movies/drama/soap operas...it only exists in reality. So most of the time when a girl does regret about it (although it doesn't happens often in reality...almost like striking a lottery), she won't let you know about it.
So if you let go of this relationship now, you won't see it again unless you strike lottery...but the probability statistic shows that you'll need to be hit at least twice by lightning bolt before you can probably strike a lottery. (Stupid maths )
My last advice for you: Always keep a clear conscience, And brings true happiness to yourself. (Priority to the first statement, after the first sentence is achieved, priority goes to the second statement.)[/b]
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Bottom line if u love her. do everything u can to help this relationship work out.Originally posted by sentguy:i thought that i should leave her alone so she has a better mind to think of what to do..
so u think i should still linger around her? I give myself about a week's time.. if by end of the week she still unhappy.. i will propose for temp seperation to let her sort out her thoughts...
if by then she a bit happier already(not so sad), then i will continue to do my best to bring joy and happiness back to her life..
think abt it if u left her alone now and she left and is still not happy. would u regret ur actions in the future?
NEVER LET URSELF REGRET!!!!
trust me it hurts like hell! -
Sound like your gf is equally stupid to be bother by a jerk. I really hope your gf see my post too. Over means over get on with it. If your gf can't appreciate you and even suggest breaking off for an old flame. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. F*** it 4 billion population in the world go find a better one. Ask her go fly kite. If a girl is gonna be your wife or really serious about you she will not be bother by another male existence.
I had a few gf all less then 1 mth each because I dun waste time but mostly because they like choosing between guys. Current gf 8 years and counting because I know she is the 1 and she never even bother to choose another guy. -
hi all.. thks all for concern and your thoughts.. realli appreciated.. just to update you guys on whats happening now.. oh and by the way to respond to one brother's question.. im 23 this year.. hence thinking might be a bit mature(or stupid)..
anyway right, for the past 2 days, i could see that smiles and laughter is slowing appearing on her face once again.. im not sure whether its really happy or it seems happy but inside her heart still sad or what.. but im just glad to see her smiling again..
maybe im over-sensitive.. but she hasn't been calling me 'dear' and even in smses she never call me 'dear'... she used to call me that frequently.. i suppose she is still undecided.. or she probably don't even wanna think about it and just want to leave it aside...
no matter what is the situation.. i will continue to make her happy and smile... im going to do something romantic(i hope) at the end of this week... hope she will be touched.. and i hope to hear her call me 'dear' again soon...
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what do u plan to do?Originally posted by sentguy:hi all.. thks all for concern and your thoughts.. realli appreciated.. just to update you guys on whats happening now.. oh and by the way to respond to one brother's question.. im 23 this year.. hence thinking might be a bit mature(or stupid)..
anyway right, for the past 2 days, i could see that smiles and laughter is slowing appearing on her face once again.. im not sure whether its really happy or it seems happy but inside her heart still sad or what.. but im just glad to see her smiling again..
maybe im over-sensitive.. but she hasn't been calling me 'dear' and even in smses she never call me 'dear'... she used to call me that frequently.. i suppose she is still undecided.. or she probably don't even wanna think about it and just want to leave it aside...
no matter what is the situation.. i will continue to make her happy and smile... im going to do something romantic(i hope) at the end of this week... hope she will be touched.. and i hope to hear her call me 'dear' again soon...