help in my love problem 2
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yesterday we met each other again and from her face she is so happy to see me but we are only going out as friends. We went for dinner like normal and then go for movies. She already bought the tickets and it was lover's seat before i found out. inside the cinema, she rested her head on my shoulder and i allow her not very polite to push her away then later a while, she rested her hands on my pants (private part) and i didn't really push her hands away i just say no but she didn't stop and continue that time i was high already because her hands were massaging there. she unzip me and took out my brother and rubbing it and oral sex till i climax. I made a mistake here and i should have stop her right from the time she rested her head on my shoulder. But thank god the show ended and we left. after the show, she says she is feeling very upset and stress and ask me wanna go beach and take a walk but i decline and she seems begging me i told myself go beach only lah. we sit on the beach and watch the stars and she says she miss me very much throughout these months and she was leaning on my shoulder again and even closer like hugging me from the side with her body so close to me. She kissed me on my face and lips. Being polite, i kiss her face back and put my hands on her head and console her. But i don't know if we can still go out or not. I treat her as friend but she treats me like husband. What can I do to make her give up without hurting her at all?
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i can oni think of 1 thing - she got younger sister anot, can intro?
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were you all watching madagascar when she did you? i heard it's a pretty good show to do that kinda thing to.
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how come?Originally posted by starblue:were you all watching madagascar when she did you? i heard it's a pretty good show to do that kinda thing to. 
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i was just trying to have a dig at him.Originally posted by Ito_^:how come? 
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obviously i had a dig at you too.
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so friend, you decided to give her up?Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:What can I do to make her give up without hurting her at all?
in all case, i don think it will be possible to give up without hurting her at all. you can only reduce the hurt. there are hundreds and one way. i will tell you what i can think off. ppl will comment and you decide.
1) you secretly withdraw....not picking up her calls and not replying to your message. or you can even change your no. ( i would choose this, as this girl is so crazy about me, one way to stop her from harassing you and stalking you)
2) you confront her telling her you feel piss off, never expected her to be so cheap on what she done at the cinema and told her harshly that don borther you anymore.
maybe she will tell you that her friends advise her to do such things, then you told her off that she is 26, yet unable to think. just be pissed off and digusted and don be soft hearted to give in to her aplogies. then it will be most likely that she will try again after few days, she will not give up. the best way is change your number without telling her. ya, tell her to find other guys who like such things.
3)turn into a complete jerk and let her hate you, do the things she don like.(less hurt as it will be easier to forget some1 whom you hate)
4) always talk about a particular girl whom you like recently, tell her that you also like the 3rd party, ask her for advise, just make her give up. maybe she will not be convinced. then you will have to find a friend to help you act.(hurt the most)
5) be truthful to her. (but the truth always hurt the most). she may take sometime to forget you. be firm with your stand. no more 1 to 1 date as it will give her the wrong idea.
bear in mind she may have her own team of advisers just like you have us, but if you choose option 1. her team would have no chance and no way to help or advise, unless she know where you stay and crazy until come and look for you.
if you don want to loose her as a friend, maybe let things calm down a bit(choose option 1), contact her only until she found a new target or the inflaution is not that strong, usually take 6 months or more.
these are the waysi can think off, hiaz...how to don hurt her. either love or hate and these 2 are usually marginally apart.
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humm, oral sex till i climax in a cinema? well a bit hard to believe lar.
ok lets say is real. If she can do it to you in the cinema, are u sure she never do it with other guys too? U are only 23, do you want to have any health problems due to sex? oral sex there is no protection. Just want to caution u first.
My advice: Totaly ignore her stop all calls and sms. She is sex crazy and once she is finished with you she will disappear and find a new one.
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I may know who she is cos the age matches with one of my case I have handle before. Is the same method and same profile.
Is her bd in early feb? -
for God's sake... read the previous thread... the sicko in this case is the guy. leave the poor gal alone.Originally posted by drx:humm, oral sex till i climax in a cinema? well a bit hard to believe lar.
ok lets say is real. If she can do it to you in the cinema, are u sure she never do it with other guys too? U are only 23, do you want to have any health problems due to sex? oral sex there is no protection. Just want to caution u first.
My advice: Totaly ignore her stop all calls and sms. She is sex crazy and once she is finished with you she will disappear and find a new one.
Just curious is she born in the month of feb? -
u may be surprise cos i have handle a case same as his.
Ihave read his case carefully and I feel that they are linked. The girl is not easy as you think cos if you notice carefully, is the girl who is doing all the pushing not the guy this time round.
Just afraid he may be kena cheated by the girl so I really need his help to have a profile match with the girl in the previous case.!!! -
suit yourself. personally, i wun give a sht for an Ashol like him.Originally posted by drx:u may be surprise cos i have handle a case same as his.
Ihave read his case carefully and I feel that they are linked. The girl is not easy as you think cos if you notice carefully, is the girl who is doing all the pushing not the guy this time round.
Just afraid he may be kena cheated by the girl so I really need his help to have a profile match with the girl in the previous case.!!! -
Thks starblue
I more worried cos if the profiles match, then the girl must have already done it to more then 20+ guys by now. Just want to stop the girl from doing this and warn others about her.
She is very dangerous and she knows how to con any guy, just do not wish that she spreads her health problems to others if she had any. -
drx: study him carefully instead of the girl.
She manipulates, he allows.
His decision is unclear till now. I do not see the point if the girl is easy or not simple.
He can make a choice to get out of the mess or continue in it.
In the end, he have to face it. He doesn't like her as much as she 'loves' him. Face it and move on, or be nice and continue posting all the mistakes.
Indecisiveness is a weakness to manipulation.
Again, i would say the girl is not at fault when he allows it to happen.
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i fully agreed she is not as easy as i think infact she lied to me many times just that i didn't expose her only. she is born in jan not febOriginally posted by drx:u may be surprise cos i have handle a case same as his.
Ihave read his case carefully and I feel that they are linked. The girl is not easy as you think cos if you notice carefully, is the girl who is doing all the pushing not the guy this time round.
Just afraid he may be kena cheated by the girl so I really need his help to have a profile match with the girl in the previous case.!!! -
Originally posted by heavenlyfire:
I tried some of the ways you mentioned above but i cannot bring myself to do no 2. I will definately be soft hearted and give in to her when she cry. She doesn't know where I stay at which block only know i stay in east area. I did no 3 too i did things like scolding all kinds of vulgar at her, ignore her and told her i went disco look for girls. but she still won't give up.
so friend, you decided to give her up?
in all case, i don think it will be possible to give up without hurting her at all. you can only reduce the hurt. there are hundreds and one way. i will tell you what i can think off. ppl will comment and you decide.
[b]1) you secretly withdraw....not picking up her calls and not replying to your message. or you can even change your no. ( i would choose this, as this girl is so crazy about me, one way to stop her from harassing you and stalking you)
2) you confront her telling her you feel piss off, never expected her to be so cheap on what she done at the cinema and told her harshly that don borther you anymore.
maybe she will tell you that her friends advise her to do such things, then you told her off that she is 26, yet unable to think. just be pissed off and digusted and don be soft hearted to give in to her aplogies. then it will be most likely that she will try again after few days, she will not give up. the best way is change your number without telling her. ya, tell her to find other guys who like such things.
3)turn into a complete jerk and let her hate you, do the things she don like.(less hurt as it will be easier to forget some1 whom you hate)
4) always talk about a particular girl whom you like recently, tell her that you also like the 3rd party, ask her for advise, just make her give up. maybe she will not be convinced. then you will have to find a friend to help you act.(hurt the most)
5) be truthful to her. (but the truth always hurt the most). she may take sometime to forget you. be firm with your stand. no more 1 to 1 date as it will give her the wrong idea.
bear in mind she may have her own team of advisers just like you have us, but if you choose option 1. her team would have no chance and no way to help or advise, unless she know where you stay and crazy until come and look for you.
if you don want to loose her as a friend, maybe let things calm down a bit(choose option 1), contact her only until she found a new target or the inflaution is not that strong, usually take 6 months or more.
these are the waysi can think off, hiaz...how to don hurt her. either love or hate and these 2 are usually marginally apart.
Pls comment and advise. [/b] -
she only did that with her ex bf . oral sex carries little to no risk besides she is the one giving me and i did not give her.Originally posted by drx:humm, oral sex till i climax in a cinema? well a bit hard to believe lar.
ok lets say is real. If she can do it to you in the cinema, are u sure she never do it with other guys too? U are only 23, do you want to have any health problems due to sex? oral sex there is no protection. Just want to caution u first.
My advice: Totaly ignore her stop all calls and sms. She is sex crazy and once she is finished with you she will disappear and find a new one.
Just curious is she born in the month of feb?
I did try to ignore all her calls and sms but she will sms me things like is it because u think i am no good for you all these? and even sms me say things like she cannot live without me. She is sex crazy and i can tell but i don't wish to be like a toy to her. -
bloody hell this kind of things can predict hor? she is the one pestering me for so long alreadyOriginally posted by starblue:suit yourself. personally, i wun give a sht for an Ashol like him. -
yada yada yada... you know you're an Ashol ok??Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:bloody hell this kind of things can predict hor? she is the one pestering me for so long already
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I agreed with your saying that I should focus more on the guy but for the guy I think the people in the forum had already done a very good job in advising him. I have already say and done enough for him. If he does not want to listern, is his choice and we cannot force him. I see no point in repeating my advice for him again and again since I will be wasting my time doing that.
If this is a normal case I would agreed with you that the girl is not at fault and she is just trying very hard to love someone but sadly to say if the profile match then we have a problem at hand.
I am giving the worst case scenario!!
If she got some health problems due to having too much sex, she might have spread it to him already. I am trying to stop her in her tracks and prevent other guys like him from suffering. -
then choose option 1.. waiting for what and about the birthday. how true can it be, she is born in jan? i mean you mention that she likes telling lies, unless she show you her IC .Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:I tried some of the ways you mentioned above but i cannot bring myself to do no 2. I will definately be soft hearted and give in to her when she cry. She doesn't know where I stay at which block only know i stay in east area. I did no 3 too i did things like scolding all kinds of vulgar at her, ignore her and told her i went disco look for girls. but she still won't give up.
i personally would go for option 1. just buy a sim card will do.then inform your friends, then suscribe caller id for your house number to blacklist her or better still if you can change your house number if she have your house number.but changing house number will be troublesome as your parents need to inform their friends too. so i think suscribe caller id. in the mean time, just buy a sim card, 30 bucks, then you will be free.
if she call your house, and any of the ideas i mention above didnt work. get your father or mother to scold her, then you will have to tell either 1 of the parents or even threathen to call the police if she repeatly harass your home or family, there is a law on it, see how she react.
usually the most effective way to solve the problem is the most simplest. -
now that u mentioned i really never seen her ic b4 and she could be lying. she don't know my house no only HPOriginally posted by heavenlyfire:then choose option 1.. waiting for what and about the birthday. how true can it be, she is born in jan? i mean you mention that she likes telling lies, unless she show you her IC .
i personally would go for option 1. just buy a sim card will do.then inform your friends, then suscribe caller id for your house number to blacklist her or better still if you can change your house number if she have your house number.but changing house number will be troublesome as your parents need to inform their friends too. so i think suscribe caller id. in the mean time, just buy a sim card, 30 bucks, then you will be free.
if she call your house, and any of the ideas i mention above didnt work. get your father or mother to scold her, then you will have to tell either 1 of the parents or even threathen to call the police if she repeatly harass your home or family, there is a law on it, see how she react.
usually the most effective way to solve the problem is the most simplest. -
also i can sense that you are starting to be pissed off by the things she done and the things she sms you or call you.
don worry, there is a limit to one's patience, once over, your rage will take over, all the things you mentioned that you dare not do will no longer be impossible.
since you feel that she is manipulating you. just have that thinking whenever she call you or receive her sms, then you will be fine
by the way, you are a man. how can you allow a women to manipulate you or rather toy you? where your backbone, won it be worse if she become your gf?
another thing, she may be playing mind games with you, using your softness and your weakness of soft hearted. i hate ppl who does that and i will not hestitate to hurt or be hard-hearted to those who exploit my weakness.
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To Kerotan Frog, I really hope that you will heed my warning and leave the girl alone, sometimes being hard hearted may save your life.
This gal profile is the same as the previous case, the way she says and the lies she tells and finally the methods she use are the same. Even the birth date is too close for comfort.
Just to warn you that this gal is a very dangerous gal. I do not wish to nag but if you wish to countinue to see her is your choice I have no right to change that.
No one can save you but yourself. Only you can make a difference. -
sian.. this guy again.