help in my love problem 2
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i have an idea..next time just close Frog's thread whever he starts new one. Its pointless to give advice as it falls on deaf eyes. There are much more other people who need it more n deserve it.
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He sure sounds like DING SHANBEN in the forum...
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c'mon. him DING SHANBEN? gimme a break.
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as i have expected, u were the person who wanted to go for a trip "like husband n wife" n i had sort of advised u to be careful of not going overboard... aft reading this thread, i really had the impulse to start "flaming" u... but of course, i wun break my record...
so much for saying that u will keep urself in check from ur earlier thread... u cant even exercise self-control in a cinema, where it's supposedly to be a public place... let alone when u put urself alone in a room with her in a foreign land where u r away from any form of scrutiny by pple who know u... i dunno wat kind of thing u wld do, n i believe, u will start the nonsense by saying "... by being polite, i din push her away/reject her..." yah-da yah-da...
y did i get so worked up? well, itz simply becoz i wonder how much interest u have in developing a r/s with this gal in qn... everytime u din not reject her advances, u give the excuse that "u were juz being polite"... this is NOT being polite... i kinda sense that u had it all planned out that u will not reject any physical advances from her...
oral sex? i dun believe u... even the most secluded of cinemas have a few ah peks inside.. unless of course the so-called cinema is a home theatre system that u have in either of u guys' house... n i dunno watz there to console her... if u like her, have a decent r/s with her... if u dun like her, reject her flatly.. if u dunno whether u like her, go out as platonic frens... WHAT ON EARTH IS SO DIFFICULT ABT THAT???
i really question ur intention behind posting such a thread... are u trying to glorify ur own escapade? that someone is desperately throwing herself at u? pardon me for being blunt, but to me, it seems more n more like u dun have a love prob... more like a fantasy of urs... juz look at the number of times u defended ur actions by saying that "u juz wanna be polite"...
i apologise to others who dun share the same sentiments as i do or are offended n feel that i "flaming" him unwittingly... but i doubt the credibility of his character and the authenticity of his prob... -
when a girl makes a man high and then gave him oral sex which guy will reject? I dun know f i like her or her what. but going out as platonic friends i am afraid i cannot control myself when she arouse me and engage in sexual activities with her. I have needs too and i have no gf k. I ceased contact with her for about 3 days from now and everyday she is smsing me asking if i am alright aand she is worried what happen to me. She is like crying in the sms whn she ask me to sms a while to know that i am fine. I am getting soft hearted again but i don't want to sms her back to give her false hope. I rather she hate me and stop pestering me.Originally posted by mercurialz:
as i have expected, u were the person who wanted to go for a trip "like husband n wife" n i had sort of advised u to be careful of not going overboard... aft reading this thread, i really had the impulse to start "flaming" u... but of course, i wun break my record...
so much for saying that u will keep urself in check from ur earlier thread... u cant even exercise self-control in a cinema, where it's supposedly to be a public place... let alone when u put urself alone in a room with her in a foreign land where u r away from any form of scrutiny by pple who know u... i dunno wat kind of thing u wld do, n i believe, u will start the nonsense by saying "... by being polite, i din push her away/reject her..." yah-da yah-da...
y did i get so worked up? well, itz simply becoz i wonder how much interest u have in developing a r/s with this gal in qn... everytime u din not reject her advances, u give the excuse that "u were juz being polite"... this is NOT being polite... i kinda sense that u had it all planned out that u will not reject any physical advances from her...
oral sex? i dun believe u... even the most secluded of cinemas have a few ah peks inside.. unless of course the so-called cinema is a home theatre system that u have in either of u guys' house... n i dunno watz there to console her... if u like her, have a decent r/s with her... if u dun like her, reject her flatly.. if u dunno whether u like her, go out as platonic frens... WHAT ON EARTH IS SO DIFFICULT ABT THAT???
i really question ur intention behind posting such a thread... are u trying to glorify ur own escapade? that someone is desperately throwing herself at u? pardon me for being blunt, but to me, it seems more n more like u dun have a love prob... more like a fantasy of urs... juz look at the number of times u defended ur actions by saying that "u juz wanna be polite"...
i apologise to others who dun share the same sentiments as i do or are offended n feel that i "flaming" him unwittingly... but i doubt the credibility of his character and the authenticity of his prob... -
I was soft hearted today after reading her sms
she sms me " is it we are no longer friends anymore and why are you avoding me. I'm feeling very terrible" i sms her back finally on the 4th day. I cannot bring myself to break her heart. -
I guess we are all human and we still cannot change the fact he likes her.
The others have tried their best to stop you but i guess is hard to change your mindset.
Congras at least you hold out for 3 days without smsing her. At least you have try your best and should give you a clap for doing your best.
Guess you have to learn your lesson the hard way.
A few question to ask if you are ready for her:
1) I got to ask if one day you accept her and she dump you can u take it ?
2) Do you mind she call you everyday and nite to ask, are u ok, have u eaten?
3) If you look at other girls or call yr gal friends and she scold you in front of everyone and cries, can you take it ?
4) She hates your guys friend and ask u to break up with them and fellow her everywhere she goes, can accept?
5) If one day she tells you she got some sex health problems and she might have pass some to you, will you forgive her and say no problem?
6) She makes you pay for everything and never pay a single cent, can you stand it?
7) She is not a vigin, do u mind? and she refuse to say how many man she had gone to bed with? can you take it?
My advice is to really think over my questions first, if you have answer yes to all the above questions and accept all her past faults, then you are ready to start something with her.
I am not that hard hearted to stop you but only can offer some advice.
My advice to is to do a background check on her if you like her so much.
Just get someone who knows her or ask around. if she is a playgirl the truth will be out there. -
" care to share your previous case with everybody here? but u mentioned save your life sounds serious why is it that makes u say that? I just wanna be normal friends that's al "
the girl loves to have fun with many guys and plays them in her hand. All the guys thought that since she is an ugly gal sure no one want one to have sex with, so goes happily goes to bed with her and some guys she did oral sex only and was shock to find that they kena some sex problems. Shockingly the gal still goes around doing that to guys who are not aware of her.
Is ok since you feel that she is not the same person as the one in my case then I will not talk about the case anymore, since you say you just only want to be normal friends with her. -
like i say, the source of your trouble is your handphone, if you really want to end all these, you would have listened to my advise, get a new sim card, how much time and money will is cost?Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:I was soft hearted today after reading her sms
she sms me " is it we are no longer friends anymore and why are you avoding me. I'm feeling very terrible" i sms her back finally on the 4th day. I cannot bring myself to break her heart.
just 4 days only? i expected something more for a 23 years old guy. seems like you still feel something for her, as you cant bring it to end.
don be like what others say on you. guess what i must said has alreadly been said. the answer is alreadly with these posts. you want something, you must scarifise something. In you case, you desire for peace. yet a simple thing like changing your number also cant be borther, how to help.
Another advise is "if you wants other to help you, you must first advise." -
1) i can take itOriginally posted by drx:I guess we are all human and we still cannot change the fact he likes her.
The others have tried their best to stop you but i guess is hard to change your mindset.
Congras at least you hold out for 3 days without smsing her. At least you have try your best and should give you a clap for doing your best.
Guess you have to learn your lesson the hard way.
A few question to ask if you are ready for her:
1) I got to ask if one day you accept her and she dump you can u take it ?
2) Do you mind she call you everyday and nite to ask, are u ok, have u eaten?
3) If you look at other girls or call yr gal friends and she scold you in front of everyone and cries, can you take it ?
4) She hates your guys friend and ask u to break up with them and fellow her everywhere she goes, can accept?
5) If one day she tells you she got some sex health problems and she might have pass some to you, will you forgive her and say no problem?
6) She makes you pay for everything and never pay a single cent, can you stand it?
7) She is not a vigin, do u mind? and she refuse to say how many man she had gone to bed with? can you take it?
My advice is to really think over my questions first, if you have answer yes to all the above questions and accept all her past faults, then you are ready to start something with her.
I am not that hard hearted to stop you but only can offer some advice.
My advice to is to do a background check on her if you like her so much.
Just get someone who knows her or ask around. if she is a playgirl the truth will be out there.
2) i tell her try not to sms so many times a day
3) Then i won't call other girls besides her
4) we can agreed to have our own space if we are in a relationship
5) I don't know. But if i have sex with her, i'll use condom
6) she never ask me to pay for everything instead she pays for me most of the time but i feel not so good but she insist
7) I know she is not a virgin anymore but how many man she slept with before, i don't wish to know as long as she is faithful to me
She is not the kind of playgirl and she told me she only have sex with guys she loves not anyother men that comes along. One thing that is bothering me is she wants to get married and have kids type that one i'm not ready at the moment. -
aiyo..........................................why nowsaday guy so indecisive de.................
'wo hui kan bu qi' 
yes mean yes, no mean no...............beating around the bush lead u no way ..... 
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Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:when a girl makes a man high and then gave him oral sex which guy will reject? I dun know f i like her or her what. but going out as platonic friends i am afraid i cannot control myself when she arouse me and engage in sexual activities with her. I have needs too and i have no gf k. I ceased contact with her for about 3 days from now and everyday she is smsing me asking if i am alright aand she is worried what happen to me. She is like crying in the sms whn she ask me to sms a while to know that i am fine. I am getting soft hearted again but i don't want to sms her back to give her false hope. I rather she hate me and stop pestering me.
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wtf,
wasted my time and energy and understanding for a person who dont deserve my attention, -
oh no how can you let her do that....
does she still loves you....
she appears slutty leh.....oh no....hehe
but you enjoy rite
if not you will sure stopped her rite
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Well, you insisted on giving him the benefit of doubt.Originally posted by BaByBoY:wtf,
wasted my time and energy and understanding for a person who dont deserve my attention,
This is the type of person who just get advices for the sake of looking at what is being commented. Then he defended himself to all the post.
Should have realised it earlier yea?
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I`ll like to redress my decision,Originally posted by M©+square:Well, you insisted on giving him the benefit of doubt.
This is the type of person who just get advices for the sake of looking at what is being commented. Then he defended himself to all the post.
Should have realised it earlier yea?
I, for sakes, do not regret in giving him the benifit of the doubt in the 1st place..
Cuz if u`re sincere in helping the people, you must place urself in their shoes
and trust them...
For the 1st part of his post, i find it a perfectly ok situation about emotional distress... wat turned me off is the `cinema` part here..
not only is he unrepentent abt his actions, the excuses used simply cannot stand up for the word itself..
Now that i`ve been PROVEN wrong abt him will i not care abt his responses.
Not that i am going to humour him w my precious times, and make a mockery out of ourselves, i feel that if he who is decided against to change will not falther to any advices..
Thou there are ppl like him, i still will cont to give trouble souls the benifit of the doubt, anytime... that`s why they are here in the 1st place..
for those who were here with genuine problem might find an answer that can potentially save their lives..
Cheers
BaByBoY
PS. Let not responsibilty blind you to the heart you once see with..
U were a much understanding person then ya? ( no offences ) -
I like how yunnie post his observation.Originally posted by BaByBoY:I`ll like to redress my decision,
I, for sakes, do not regret in giving him the benifit of the doubt in the 1st place..
Cuz if u`re sincere in helping the people, you must place urself in their shoes
and trust them...
For the 1st part of his post, i find it a perfectly ok situation about emotional distress... wat turned me off is the `cinema` part here..
not only is he unrepentent abt his actions, the excuses used simply cannot stand up for the word itself..
Now that i`ve been PROVEN wrong abt him will i not care abt his responses.
Not that i am going to humour him w my precious times, and make a mockery out of ourselves, i feel that if he who is decided against to change will not falther to any advices..
Thou there are ppl like him, i still will cont to give trouble souls the benifit of the doubt, anytime... that`s why they are here in the 1st place..
for those who were here with genuine problem might find an answer that can potentially save their lives..
Cheers
BaByBoY
PS. Let not responsibilty blind you to the heart you once see with..
U were a much understanding person then ya? ( no offences )
_______________________________________________________________Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Being an Aunt Agony for quite a while, I can only see four types of people:
I) One that already made their decision regardless of what that is posted.
II) Consider the so called 'best moderated advices' after series of elimination, with accounts to his/her situations and personality.
III) One that practice Selective Preception - 'Selectively believe words that his/her mind wants to hear'
IV) One that needs the rant - Not particularly looking for advices, rather a channel to voice and rant.
Cheers
I didn't know you knew me. Anyway, no offence taken.
It's not so much about responsiblity which blinds me.
Well, it surely will come to a stage when we evolve and embrace a different mindset.
So i adopt a certain thought pattern, for now. I'll evolve again.
Like if you know me from the past till now.
I have stated very clearly that nothing about us and what we say will be absolute. We might fall short of our own expectations.
We change for better or worse. What may seem good to you may not to me, and vice versa. I find this, the beauty of human, we are made special-different. We share different perspective of life and paths.
p.s If you or others think i should reconsider my status as a co-mod.
Feel free to tell me know, thru PM or here. No problem, i will revise my position and take action for the good of this forum.
But i won't leave AA as a contributor.
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Dude... that was a VERY old post.Originally posted by M©+square:I like how yunnie post his observation.
Cheers
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It's certainly not a waste of time... Some forumites who read through them might just find things useful for their own cases or application...?Originally posted by BaByBoY:Thou there are ppl like him, i still will cont to give trouble souls the benifit of the doubt, anytime... that`s why they are here in the 1st place..
for those who were here with genuine problem might find an answer that can potentially save their lives.. -
You think too much... You're not superman you know....?Originally posted by M©+square:_______________________________________________________________
I didn't know you knew me. Anyway, no offence taken.
It's not so much about responsiblity which blinds me.
Well, it surely will come to a stage when we evolve and embrace a different mindset.
So i adopt a certain thought pattern, for now. I'll evolve again.
Like if you know me from the past till now.
I have stated very clearly that nothing about us and what we say will be absolute. We might fall short of our own expectations.
We change for better or worse. What may seem good to you may not to me, and vice versa. I find this, the beauty of human, we are made special-different. We share different perspective of life and paths.
p.s If you or others think i should reconsider my status as a co-mod.
Feel free to tell me know, thru PM or here. No problem, i will revise my position and take action for the good of this forum.
But i won't leave AA as a contributor.
Cheers -
i suddenly have an urge to put +1 here.. but.. nvm.. pretend this reply doesn't exist.
but.. how come become aunt agony for aunt liao..? -
Silly,Originally posted by M©+square:_______________________________________________________________
I didn't know you knew me. Anyway, no offence taken.
It's not so much about responsiblity which blinds me.
Well, it surely will come to a stage when we evolve and embrace a different mindset.
So i adopt a certain thought pattern, for now. I'll evolve again.
Like if you know me from the past till now.
I have stated very clearly that nothing about us and what we say will be absolute. We might fall short of our own expectations.
We change for better or worse. What may seem good to you may not to me, and vice versa. I find this, the beauty of human, we are made special-different. We share different perspective of life and paths.
p.s If you or others think i should reconsider my status as a co-mod.
Feel free to tell me know, thru PM or here. No problem, i will revise my position and take action for the good of this forum.
But i won't leave AA as a contributor.
Cheers
U`re one of the best ppl here,
perhaps u`re better in seeing thro a person faster than me..
tt`s why i still decided to help, cuz i`ve not seen thro the toad,,
keke
geez,
i really appreciated wat u had written for everyone wor,
hoped that u`ll still be here as long as this place exist,
one day i will need ur advices too..
Cheers
BaByBoY -
heheOriginally posted by Devil1976:It's certainly not a waste of time... Some forumites who read through them might just find things useful for their own cases or application...?
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muz future-proof ourselves
tt`s here that i learnt the most impt lessons in life,
and to know that there`s a lot of ppl less fortunate than us
we must cherish wat we already had, and look forward to life positively..
Cheers to all the great advisors in AA
Esp Bear, Devil, MC sq and of cuz my Master Yun!
U all made this such a wonderful place, simply by being here for the troubleds souls..
for those who were not mentioned, a bit pai seh lahz,
cuz i too long nv come in le
so only rem these few..
I`m sure there`re lots out there who gave the same great advices too
A big THANKS to all here,
BaByBoY -
Now the frog disappear.
I wonder if there's any problem in the first place.
Hai.... -
He had already accepted her regardless of what she do.
He had found the answer he had been looking for, so no point in posting liao.