Love vs fondness
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If your gf told you tat she parted u becoz there was no love but fondness....
wat does it mean?
wats the big diff?
But if there was no love... why did we started in the first place?
confusing...
when we first started... everything was good...
she stick to me and so on...
then after 1 year sian already... then break...
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another of those getting sianz of partner bulls hit. i'm getting sick of AA...
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wats AA
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aunt agony, noob.Originally posted by OwenMania:wats AA -
Sometimes people come together as a couple not because they already love each other, but because they have good feelings (fondness maybe) about each other and want to see how things would progress from there.
Since the girl has already decided that given a year things still didn't seem to progress much further between you and her and wants to call it quits, perhaps there is not much point for you as well to hang on and make love happen? -
Originally posted by starblue:
You're making it sound like Aunt Angry...
aunt agony, noob.
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it's my problem. if u think its your problem, deal with it. honestly dun u feel sick hearing all these "i don't feel a sht about you anymore lets breakup"??Originally posted by Tuatau:You're making it sound like Aunt Angry... -
hello starblue,Originally posted by starblue:it's my problem. if u think its your problem, deal with it. honestly dun u feel sick hearing all these "i don't feel a sht about you anymore lets breakup"??
wat`s up?
why suddenly so angry?
AA is meant for ppl w troubles,
and the people who might had relavance experiences might give a few suggestions..
the beauty of this place is that a similiar topic may appear and appear hundreds of times
but there`ll still be ppl willing to help them out
u get sick of it cuz u always come here to see if they might need ur hrlp rite?
if there`s a certain repetition to the topics u might consider not giving any advices, or wait for the more patient ppl here to help them out..
no need to get angry k??
the same old situations that had happened and will be happaning again
cheer up -
Originally posted by starblue:another of those getting sianz of partner bulls hit. i'm getting sick of AA...
Wah seh...
Then I should be worst right?
/me check date joined.
Cheers -
AA has too many heartbreak threads.. way WAY too many.. but how? Aunt Agony mah..
Anyway, ur gf probably has not feelings for u already. No point dragging it any further. Move on. It's not tt easy if u have invested alot of emotions but it's not impossible.
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Well, I wish I knew the answer to your question. If my gf told me that, I guess I would be sad and at the same time also angry cos liek u say: now no love then y in the 1st place wana go stead?Originally posted by OwenMania:If your gf told you tat she parted u becoz there was no love but fondness....
wat does it mean?
wats the big diff?
But if there was no love... why did we started in the first place?
confusing...
when we first started... everything was good...
she stick to me and so on...
then after 1 year sian already... then break...
haha
Girls may say that u nvr try u nvr know whether the feeling will last or say that din not know back then.
To me, all these mean nth at all if she say the feeling isnt there anymore. My ex left me with a stupid reason: she could not commit her self to this relationship ( that happened after 1.5 years tog). how come she could commite back then and now anymore? Strange, isnt it? -
ya lor....Arch Angel Yun damn pro adviser...should be retiring soon no?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Wah seh...
Then I should be worst right?
/me check date joined.
Cheers -
check dictionary for the 2 words meaning can define the difference...but to a human sentient being sometimes it is beyond the common understanding and definition to draw the line between love and fondness. Fondness is an affection felt at a mooment, a period of time...when u r so drawn to another person for his/ her outlook or charisma...u want to be with him/ her. Love on the other hand has a deeper meaning and is more bound by the soul. you will know it when u wish you were the one suffering in his/ her place in his/ her shoes.....when u will wan 2 spend your life and share yr deepest feelings and thoughts with him/ her...u will sacrifice yourself and expect nothing in return for him/ her...that is Love
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Originally posted by starblue:
Honestly? I've only been in sgforums for less than three months, and the threads are already getting repetitive. But this is an Aunt Agony forum -- we don't stop people from posting their problems as long as they are sincere and genuine -- and the problems facing people living in the same society aren't likely to be very much different, so to me it is just a matter of getting used to.
it's my problem. if u think its your problem, deal with it. honestly dun u feel sick hearing all these "i don't feel a sht about you anymore lets breakup"??
And when I do occasionally get sick of hearing the same problem in different posts, I'll just avoid those posts. -
ya thanks all for your replies...
I am getting better already... but just wonder why some girls can keep switching boyfriend... i mean they get discontented very quickly...
When things dont excite them... they get bored and wonder if the current one is the right choice... ummm...
is it gotta do with their expectation of guys?
starblue,
relax, you must...
Anger is the path to the dark side... -
Originally posted by OwenMania:
Some guys do the same to their girlfriends, too.
I am getting better already... but just wonder why some girls can keep switching boyfriend... i mean they get discontented very quickly...
When things dont excite them... they get bored and wonder if the current one is the right choice... ummm...
is it gotta do with their expectation of guys?
The difference perhaps lies in most guys lose money while most girls lose body. -
Retiring? No? Maybe until Jason close SGF?Originally posted by StarPuppy:ya lor....Arch Angel Yun damn pro adviser...should be retiring soon no?
Cheers -
Originally posted by OwenMania:If your gf told you tat she parted u becoz there was no love but fondness....
wat does it mean?
wats the big diff?
But if there was no love... why did we started in the first place?
confusing...
when we first started... everything was good...
she stick to me and so on...
then after 1 year sian already... then break...
haha Love and fondess.
She probably meant that this liking/crush she had on you and thus the minimal reason for the relationship didn't blossom to the stage she probably like it to be. Relationship is a perishable commodity, unless there are reasons for its existence. Without reasons or meaning significiant to one, it would be hard to substain the love even if there ain't much serious problem in the relationship.
Relationship and Love is but two separate entities.
Being 'sian' is a general ill-feeling towards the relationship; the possibilities are infinite.
P.S: If this relationship doesn't satisfy certain critical needs, breaking up may not be something negative. Every door closed, opens another one else-where.
Cheers -
Ahem, Yun is not angel.Originally posted by StarPuppy:ya lor....Arch Angel Yun damn pro adviser...should be retiring soon no?
If you want to be a part of the fan club. Get your facts right -
Very simply.Originally posted by OwenMania:If your gf told you tat she parted u becoz there was no love but fondness....
wat does it mean?
wats the big diff?
But if there was no love... why did we started in the first place?
confusing...
when we first started... everything was good...
she stick to me and so on...
then after 1 year sian already... then break...
haha
Relationship - BGR can absolutely start without love as the element.
Nothing confusing about it. Somehow, you didn't agree with this statement i guess?
Rule: BGR can start at the slightest hint of attraction or what people call it infatuation. And it could last for a long time.
Why sian? Because attraction is gone.
Some people took a very long to realise. Some don't at all.
Cheers -
yeah.. i guess you're right. i apologise for posting useless complaints. still i dun understand why people always come in here, post same problems, and get same advice, and still post same problems again knowing the advice will be the same...Originally posted by Tuatau:Honestly? I've only been in sgforums for less than three months, and the threads are already getting repetitive. But this is an Aunt Agony forum -- we don't stop people from posting their problems as long as they are sincere and genuine -- and the problems facing people living in the same society aren't likely to be very much different, so to me it is just a matter of getting used to.
And when I do occasionally get sick of hearing the same problem in different posts, I'll just avoid those posts. -
Because when the problem hits that individual. They, then will realise the full impact and hurt which they will feel.Originally posted by starblue:yeah.. i guess you're right. i apologise for posting useless complaints. still i dun understand why people always come in here, post same problems, and get same advice, and still post same problems again knowing the advice will be the same...
Readin advices and actually going thru the process is two totally different experience.
People may have read AA with similiar topics tons of time. But when situation come to them. They are lost. Hence, posting the same again, except this time they need personal help. And it's about them. -
i m a firm believer that there's no such thing as love at first sight... so my guess is that when ur gf first expressed that she "loves" u, itz probably juz fondness, ie, she likes a certain aspect of u...Originally posted by OwenMania:If your gf told you tat she parted u becoz there was no love but fondness....
wat does it mean?
wats the big diff?
But if there was no love... why did we started in the first place?
confusing...
when we first started... everything was good...
she stick to me and so on...
then after 1 year sian already... then break...
haha
love comprises a lot more things, and i believe it developes over a long period of time when u are together with someone... there must be communication, both emotionally n physically (SEX IS NOT INCLUDED IF U R NOT MARRIED, TKS)...
so in my opinion, i juz think that the gal probably had a crush on u n that's it... either that or she's not mentally prepared enuff to go into a serious r/s with pple... watever the case, hope u find a better gal in the near future.. -
She just trying to break up with you nicely. Its the same like saying "I dont feel love in this relationship anymore". But check up on the definition of love and fondness in the dictionary ok~
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Thank you very much...
Really feel much better after reading your advices...
Something I trying to understand is...
if there's nothing to look for in a relationship... is it the end?
in another words, there must be always a goal... for example, marriage, buy house, buy car to keep couples together?