irritated

happypiglet

26 Jun 05, 02:10

there is this guy who ask me to b his gf..but i rejected him cos i already had a mindset not to ve any relationship during my poly life..unless i think he's the right guy to me...

however..no matter how i hint him...(of not accepting his love) he still couldnt give up...i noe this mite sounds v cruel of me feeling..but i really starts to get annoyed..he kept stalking me...try to go near me(even in a grp of frens)...argh...i juz cant stand it!!

n now he's seeking for a fren..(dats my fren too) for some advice...owaes asking 'how should i do?'...etc etc...making my fren irritated too...n i feel bad...cos this guy kept bothering him...i dun wish dat my prob bcum my fren's prob too Sad

Patrik

26 Jun 05, 03:27

To u is Si chan lan ta
To him is Chi xin jue dui
Haiz

BeEtHoVeN

26 Jun 05, 03:32

well chi xin jue dui does not work unless the feeling is mutual, if the guy truly love her, letting go is the only viable option Crying or Very sad

parn

26 Jun 05, 03:41

Don't worry about your friend being irritated by that stalker, cos if your friend really got pissed off by him...he will solve it in his own ways and you shouldn't worry a thing. Smile

You should ignore/avoid the stalker if you're irritated by him...I hate this kind of chee hong kia too. Even if he's persistent, it won't take him long to give up on you once his fire burns out in his penis. Smile

Take care and good luck. Smile

BrUtUs

26 Jun 05, 04:32

since u dun like him, jz tell him straight in the eye tat u dun like him... Wink

pipi & poot-poot

26 Jun 05, 07:49

Anyone here cud b dat fren....

Post his pic & he wil get d hint !

On a more serious note....reject him if u dun like him....in a definite way he'll understand...

Dun do drag n drag bcos u dun wana b d 'bad person'....lagi hurt 4 him...

Rolling Eyes

smudgey

26 Jun 05, 08:37

Try telling him face to face. no hint just cold hard fact. "Sorry but i don't like you" sometimes only a cold slap in the face will wake the person up.

or if you so choose u can have someone close to pose as your bf or even GF and scare him away... but i strongly reccomend the cold hard truth.

aCid_rAIn

26 Jun 05, 09:46

dun hint. be cruel and say u dun like him and he doesnt have a chance. keep ur rejection speech to the minimum to prevent him for taking word by word and analyzing them to create some false hope again.
i have a friend who likes this girl, obviously she doesnt like him, but she didnt reject him outright and he was still trying after 3 years but the girl is unmoved and wont be (i guess). so u know... just do it. end the misery( for u being irritated that's it )

UOS

26 Jun 05, 10:42

It bad enough being stalked....It bad enough being irritated.....and now it involved your fren....Straight to the point is a solution or option for you....since he doesnt understand your hint at all....

Tell him nicely that you don't like him....mayb a cold tight slap seem cruel to you....but u must make him know that you don't like him....Apparently a hint is not enough....

mahai102

26 Jun 05, 10:58

let him screw you once...once he sees how ugly you are in the nude, he'll back away for good for sure...

Razz

shaunlaw

26 Jun 05, 12:01

Tell him straight in the face to stop his actions and u dun like him. If he continues, give him 2 tight slaps. If stil carry on, get ur fren to give him 2 tight slaps as well.

Otherwise, u could find a fake bf to let him die off.

Yunhaier

26 Jun 05, 12:19

For guys who have been chasing their crush, declared their feelings and had their crush avoiding them, etc - THIS is one potential scenario that could happen on why she avoided you, but remain completely unknown to you guys.

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My advice is to speak to him and let him know verbally. You can do or do without tact, depending on how your want your friendship to become later. Obviously, after this, there would be a period of cool down and probably awkward silence, then it would be up to the maturity of both party to see if this friendship could still continue.

P.S: Most guys are dense in BGR context - everything appears to be black and white. Hinting is grey, therefore he wouldn't take what you wanted to tell him. Idea

Cheers

happypiglet

26 Jun 05, 12:20

i've already tell him straight on dat day...'sry u've been rejected'....but he seems like not giving up...n after a wk..i reminded him again...'im not interested in you'...nw he dun tok to me dat often..(dats great!)...but still go nears me...n he kept pestering my fren..now my fren tells me abt his own situation of how he feels abt him..i really duno hw to help him as well as to help myself... Crying or Very sad

sgboy2004

26 Jun 05, 12:22

one thing is for sure, it is not mi not mi Very Happy

sorry to hear your problem, but time will make him fade off, and in the meantime, u can consider using me as a defence shield to wade him off Very Happy

happypiglet

26 Jun 05, 12:27

many frens tell me to use some1 to act as a shield..but i cant lied to ppl..(haha cos im not a good liar) besides..i would feel gulity...which i dun relly like to ve dat kinda feeling...

i've tried to avoid him...but nth helps...the most diffcult part is dat he's my classmate too..haiz Neutral

Ito_^

26 Jun 05, 12:39

wah so cham arh Laughing

slap him in the face, and tell him he is the worst scum in the whole universe, even last guy left oso dun wan him. Laughing

Ito_^

26 Jun 05, 12:41

u not young le, dun pretend to be poly student. Neutral

Yunhaier

26 Jun 05, 13:07

Wah... got fighting spirit. In my dictionary, this is call si chang lan ta. Sometimes can work one, but usually fail lar. Laughing

Come on, don't stress yourself dudette. He is not bothering you now, so that's good. However, if your friend is being annoyed by him, then it is up to his own discretion to avoid him. If you see properly, it's two separate issues. The 'bothering on you' is gone, it has shifted to else-where. And the truth is, it's easier for your friend to avoid, get annoyed or even scold the hell out of him because he is not exactly involved in this one-sided affair. Idea

Cheers

shade343

26 Jun 05, 13:15

Tell him staright in his face that you are not interested in a relationship at this stage of your life. Tell him that if he is really interested in you, he should be able to wait for another 3 years till you graduate.

happypiglet

26 Jun 05, 13:17

but its like kinda feel sad for my fren lo..he was juz trying to b like an advisor or a listening ear to dat guy...n as a fren...shouldnt this fren of mine b by his side...isnt wat ppl say 'this is wat frens r for'...haax..i duno *confused*

happypiglet

26 Jun 05, 13:20

i dun think i would tell him to wait for me 3 yrs...cos i noe he's a really passionate guy...but sry to say..i really ve no interest in him..so i shouldnt give him any hope right? to avoid giving him more suffering... Rolling Eyes

Yunhaier

26 Jun 05, 13:26

Yes, he's there for him. IMHO, he should reinforce your rejection message to him, since your friend knows both side of the story. Sooner or later, your pursuer will give up. One cannot survive very long without hope.

Cheers

Gackt247

26 Jun 05, 13:47

I know how u feel. The guilt of telling him ur view. But sometimes some things, whether u like it or not, has to be done.

drx

27 Jun 05, 04:07

got a few new trick which are not tried out before.

New ideas lar since she must be sick and tired of old methods by now.

1) how about this ring his parents up and tell them if they do not stop their son from stalking you, you will sent yr lawyer to talk to them.

2) Write a note saying that " U do not like him and he keeps pestering you, could anyone who see this note slap him to wake him up?"

next force him to paste this note in front and back of him and force him to walk around the school slowly for 3 hours if he cannot do it then says forget about seeing me.

3) keep saying you will kill him everytime he comes near or with your friends and keeps using a sissors to poke a hole in the paper. keep looking at him with a very hated eyes.

4) force him to buy very expensive things for you everyday and each time he ask u whether he got hope or not just say perhaps perhaps.

5) totaly ignore him no sms no meeting, ask your friend to siam him as soon as he sees him. when ask why by your friends, just act shock and refuse to tell them why and look very worried.

6) everytime u see him just point at him and laugh loudly at him, keep doing this and refuse to tell others why.

starblue

27 Jun 05, 09:59

i like number 6. Laughing

since he's not really bothering u now, just leave it. your friend will manage his own problem... i mean worse come worse, he can just go beat up that stalker, being a guy that he is... Mr. Green