he's hardly dere 4 me..
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he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
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it's time to change a bf dear
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the only way is to tell him and sort it out from there... tell him wat u wan and guide him...
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i reli dun wanna giv up.. n how shud i tell him.. he tinks dat i tink too much..
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make he come out for a series talk, you guy is too optimistic alreadly and still childish.tell him you not happy in the relationship, see how he react? and from what you say, i don not think he love you as much as you do.why?Originally posted by angel_mei:i reli dun wanna giv up.. n how shud i tell him.. he tinks dat i tink too much..
He cant even borther to find topics to talk with you. topics can be prepared in advance if he really want to do it.
it is ok if you guys are not doing the hugging things in public, come out more often for the lack of communication. create more memories if possible. no problems, girls tend to be mature if same age, give him time to grow up.
No problems!
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my stead's kinda like that.Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
she's a prefect. sucks up all the time i have with her.
haix.and all the prefect outings. so scared she'll cheat on me..
cause i tink im reallie ugly..
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dun tink u are no good for her...tink shes no good for u.....dun be the one feeling lousyOriginally posted by o(O.o)o:my stead's kinda like that.
she's a prefect. sucks up all the time i have with her.
haix.and all the prefect outings. so scared she'll cheat on me..
cause i tink im reallie ugly..
how? 
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if u hv made efforts to change him and din get what u want. 4sure it will bother u n ur bf. talk 2him that he needs to change for better for his sake not for you. make some senses talk, thrash out. well, my partner oso hv bad habits...take time to explain y he can't do that due to........ it he don't agree with u then y. mayb he has own way to deal with them and his own reasons. when my partner tell me the reasons of doing those action i dislikes sometimes it make senses too and oso take this opportunity to know ur b.f. better. COMMUNICATE. good luck.
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Well.....hMz...u dun wish to give up this r/s is becoz you know he's loyal to you as in a sense that he dun flirt?
But how much do you actualli love your bf? Doesn't seems much to me...but definetely a certain amount of feelings involved...hMz..i also dunno...maybe you're used to him? -
Well i guess the best solution is to have a serious talk with him...
1. Reveal how you feel about the whole issue. Tell him how important is he to you
2. Ask him to reveal his problems. Do not ask him for a change but see how to comporomise between both of you. If that is his character, i feel he wouldn be able to change but you as his gf must understand his characters.
3. Examine how sincere is he. If he dun even make effort to make this talk or he just make a wishy-washy explanation.. maybe is time for you to reflect on your relationship. Maybe this guy in front of you dun really suit you. I guess there is no point to cling on further... -
Arrange more activities for you and him...Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do.. -
Serious lack of communication.....I think you both need to put in more effort to talk to each other....anything....Chat about anything and everything....There bound to be something to talk about....It shouldn't be too hard....1 Yr plus and still not enough communication....Something is wrong somewhere...Have a good talk with him...Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
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Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
It seemed that you have alot of things to let know know, however, you don't really know how to go about telling him. This is the trial of communication, the core to see how your relationship will fare in the future as your relationship aged.
He thinks that you think too much? Does he knows what and where your concerns are?
He may have his own point of view on this.
You need to find a good day to speak to each other, especially since this is causing you some form of emotional stress. Learn to talk like matured couples and see how you could compromise or deal with this insecurity/negligence issue.
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Hello there,Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
1st of all, i`ll really like to know if it`s really love for you,
seems that he`s rather careless to haf neglected you??
i can sense that he might not had been able to to satisfy ur emotion needs
But the question comes here,
Did u let him know that his constant dissatisfaction had caused a displeasure for you? if he thinks that you think too much, had he considered how much willl it had cost him?
Frankly i willl not be surprised that one day he might lose you because another guy comes along and take u away from his hands,
One possible reason that made him feel safe abt you is that perhap u don really have anyone else going after you? so that he is always in a safe zone?
you do know that people sometimes take things for granted,
wat u can do is to purge in some sense of emergency into him,
so that he might supply you w more desired attention???
hope it works,
BaByBoY
PS, don overdo it cuz guys don really like super glue type of gals too,
juz know that he`s giving you the right attention and be glad that he`s always here for you when u needed him most, tt`s most impt ya?? -
Well in a way my bf (of 1yr+++) is like that too... it's not he's first relationship... buthe's real shy so he also do not really like to outwardly display affection in public. He does not really know what to say on the phone BUT he still insists on calling... and we to have very bad communication problems... basically it's the way he express himself.... beating around the bush and stuff...Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
BUT point is I'm not ready to throw in the towel yet.... hence I force him to have some serious talks... basically telling him what is pissing me off and why it's pissing me off... etc. we still have a long long way to go but we are both working on it
and that's the key. the TWO of you must agree to compromise!!! if he don't hold your hand in public, hold his!!! give him a quick hug every now and then let him get use to it...
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angel_mei. Can i be your bf instead? I sompa i will be able to meet all the criteria you have listed. PM me your hp num & msn details ok? Faithfully waiting for you, mwahs
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I think if love is there u shld try to accept him for who he is and he shld accept u for who u are. Trying to change one another can bring some undesired outcomes.Originally posted by angel_mei:he's nv been in a relationship b4.. always luv to be wif frenz.. always jokin n foolin ard.. e playful n active type.. sumtimes he neglects me.. he's nt used to lovey dovey msgs.. huggin in public.. u noe e stuff couples always do. he dunnoes wad to tok abt when he calls.. thus, he hardly calls.. we hav been tog for more than a year.. how to make him tok more to me..? n care more? i trust him.. i luv him alot.. n i noe he luvs me too. but y is he liddat? can i change him? i dun wanna giv up on dis r/s.. wad to do..
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he doesnt hug u in public, u hug him!
show him u really love him
slowly, he'll reciprocate and hug you too...
every person's 1st r/s is the same..
duno wad to do... it takes time.
u had previous r/s b4, u know wad to do, so u do it to show him, since ur his 1st gf... -
I think he is not that type of "show love" guy but what he did is that he made you love him. If you love him, you should love him what he is.. this is his character. I think i need to tell all couples out there.. never ever change yr parther because he/she feels uncomfortable because that is not the real him so Love what he is but not love what he gonna change for you
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Mei Mei angel, why you havent pm me your hp num? Im waiting ler...faster, dont be shy.
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i tot if i luv him alot, i can bear wif all dis.. but dere's been problems..
by demandin him to be more sensitive, caring, m i tryin to change him..? e reason i dun wanna leave him isnt cos he's loyal to me.. or dat i m used to him.. i noe dat i luv him. recently, we had a quarrel while tryin to tok abt our probs.. we cudnt solve it.. i told him he nv knows when im upset or unhappi, cos he hardly calls or msgs me to ask me hows my day..thus when im sad, im all alone or seeks frenz.. when im happy, he isnt dere to share wif me either. in e end he told me dat no matter it is happiness or unhappiness in our r/s, nv leave him.. he oso says he'll try his best.. n naturally, bein a gal, my hart softened n gave way.. -
i uds!!! mine too.. he's always bz wkin..its a bad time slot dat he got.. 3-11pm even wkends oso muz wk.. i hate it.. though i noe it isnt his fault.. bt dun worry.. i dun tink she'll cheat on u.. hav faith in urself!Originally posted by o(O.o)o:my stead's kinda like that.
she's a prefect. sucks up all the time i have with her.
haix.and all the prefect outings. so scared she'll cheat on me..
cause i tink im reallie ugly..
how? -
haha sorri woofwolf, i tink he's gonna b e only one i eva wan..
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He will not change becoz you want your relationship to develope in a certain way .... change your mind set instead...
love him as he is .... he will do likewise....
"if you truely love something,let it go, it'll come back if and when the time is right".... -
Why don't you try smsing him instead when you're feeling down and such for a change....?Originally posted by angel_mei:i tot if i luv him alot, i can bear wif all dis.. but dere's been problems..
by demandin him to be more sensitive, caring, m i tryin to change him..? e reason i dun wanna leave him isnt cos he's loyal to me.. or dat i m used to him.. i noe dat i luv him. recently, we had a quarrel while tryin to tok abt our probs.. we cudnt solve it.. i told him he nv knows when im upset or unhappi, cos he hardly calls or msgs me to ask me hows my day..thus when im sad, im all alone or seeks frenz.. when im happy, he isnt dere to share wif me either. in e end he told me dat no matter it is happiness or unhappiness in our r/s, nv leave him.. he oso says he'll try his best.. n naturally, bein a gal, my hart softened n gave way..