My gf cheated on me...
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and I broke off with her immediately. All these while, she was making out with another guy behind my back. I love her so much and gave my all to her. I miss her now and really want to have her back. I can forgive her for what she had done although I know that she's not worth it. But i really love her.. gave all my best to her. For the past few days, I'd been crying and wailing.. and if not for my friends who held me back, I would have ran towards an on-coming car. I am so used to having her around me and it seems so weird suddenly these days. We haven't been contacting each other and I'm really struggling to resist calling her. I am really scared of getting involved in another relationship... i know that i need to move on with life but I find it so hard to without having her around me... I'm regretting to have broke off with her and I really want her back.. I can forgive and forget all that she had done if she repents and promises not to do it again.. I really love her.. I have committed too much into this relationship and I'm really finding it hard to let it go suddenly....
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Move on, pal. she ain't worth it.Originally posted by arrggh:and I broke off with her immediately. All these while, she was making out with another guy behind my back. I love her so much and gave my all to her. I miss her now and really want to have her back. I can forgive her for what she had done although I know that she's not worth it. But i really love her.. gave all my best to her. For the past few days, I'd been crying and wailing.. and if not for my friends who held me back, I would have ran towards an on-coming car. I am so used to having her around me and it seems so weird suddenly these days. We haven't been contacting each other and I'm really struggling to resist calling her. I am really scared of getting involved in another relationship... i know that i need to move on with life but I find it so hard to without having her around me... I'm regretting to have broke off with her and I really want her back.. I can forgive and forget all that she had done if she repents and promises not to do it again.. I really love her.. I have committed too much into this relationship and I'm really finding it hard to let it go suddenly....
If she really love you, she won't be doing that behind ya back.
since she doesn't love you, no point getting her back into your life.
it's only a waste of time.
there's always someone better out there. -
Take care ya?
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Originally posted by M©+square:detected: ranting session. Minimise advice.
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ever wonder why she is with another guy ?
is she worth going back to ?
Wat is she thinking when she is make out with him?
DO u think is you? If she loves you so much why not you making out instead of him?
come on lar i understand is hard at first.
soon this phase is all over and you will be free from her.
lucky u got good friends who can support you in time of your needs. -
There are plenty of better girls desperately waiting for you out there.
Cut off all contacts with her. (Phonecalls, text msges, emails, messenger) -
Next.
She's riding on his dick while you are waiting for her call or msg.
Move on. -
your scnerio is like my friend's, she has cheated on you, how can you be sure that she won cheat on you again? do you still want her back even if she still cheats on you.Originally posted by arrggh:and I broke off with her immediately. All these while, she was making out with another guy behind my back. I love her so much and gave my all to her. I miss her now and really want to have her back. I can forgive her for what she had done although I know that she's not worth it. But i really love her.. gave all my best to her. For the past few days, I'd been crying and wailing.. and if not for my friends who held me back, I would have ran towards an on-coming car. I am so used to having her around me and it seems so weird suddenly these days. We haven't been contacting each other and I'm really struggling to resist calling her. I am really scared of getting involved in another relationship... i know that i need to move on with life but I find it so hard to without having her around me... I'm regretting to have broke off with her and I really want her back.. I can forgive and forget all that she had done if she repents and promises not to do it again.. I really love her.. I have committed too much into this relationship and I'm really finding it hard to let it go suddenly....
can you imagine another guy touching her while being with you?
This is not love, this is stupid. you just cant let go only,she is not worthy of your love. you are still young. you can always find another one again.
My friend finally let go only after a couple of breaking and patching and only after catching her cheat again and again.want to be like him? heart broken and broken until I canthelp him to find the pieces.
must learn to let go, in order to acheive great things. I recommended you buddhisium, on the topics of attachment.
"all suffering are brought upon themselves, the inabilility to be detached, to let go" -
such things happen, and it doesnt just happen to you, it happens to other ppl too. look forward to the next relationship and learn from you. dont ever be too emotionally attached to someone also.
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"never put all your eggs into one basket"
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oh man.. must be v depressing... Anyway, ... Going on with your life, dont spoil urself drinking, hurt urself etc... if she finds out.. its not that she will be back to u... the truth is that she will ignore u no matter how hard u try or maybe she glad that she's not with u because u dont respect ur ownself...
sometimes it's not fair since u have done everything and at the end received nothing. However the fact is SHE'S NOT WORTH of your Effort and Time. Once she cheats.. and even if (maybe) she's getting back to u... she will always cheat again and again. Imagine if u just find out next time and its too late... that u find out after u marry her after she suck ur money dry... -
how did ya managed to find out in the first place?
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The initial phase of the letting go process is always the hardest....
we grow so acustom to having someone by our side to talk to at the end of a hard day, to bitch about your work to, or to just simply hold.
It is the end of a relationship. mourn it. then move on!!! think about it... the gal you fell in love with, is she someone whom will cheat on u, and hurt you so much? She's "dead", your (ex)gf is no longer the same gal. be sad cry, wail... mourn the loss. but never go back (UNLESS you can be 99.9999% sure she'll change, and stay faithfull if not we are just going back to square one).
Let's put it this way. even if you went back to her and she promises not to cheat, can you be sure of that, will you find yourself looking back over your shoulder... wondering if she's where she say she is and with whom she said she's with? for me. no I can't accept that. I'll let go. it's the only chance for me to have a life without looking over my shoulders and checking if my parthner is faithful. -
Maybe Gals, can you advise is this wat his gf is thinking
Perharps Arggh lack certain quality .. wealth, good looks, stability, fun to be
with... etc etc
while the other guy may have this quality... can made
up for Arggh inadequacy ...on the other hand ... Arggh may have certain
quality that the girl still like that y she two timed ... or could it be she just
wanna have a fling.
Just my assumption....
I do know of gals who two timed .. some are even
married!! Even my ex two timed me at one point .. -
The other guy told me and I confronted my gf.. actually, I have been supecting all these while.. I didn't actually know but in the midst of a heated exchange with this guy, he told me so.. i couldn't understand how she could be making out with me one nite and be with another guy the next.Originally posted by jeremy_kokwk:how did ya managed to find out in the first place?
today at work was really tough... i can't concentrate and I couldn't get most things done.. i called her workplace twice, eventhough i know that she's not working today... i didn't know why i did that.
i've been in and out of relationships many times, but this time seems to be the worse.. i just couldn't seem to be resolute in breaking up with her.. I remember reading before that when a guy breaks up, he would always ponder over the relationship and would never be a clear cut break... is that true? -
How did she reacted when you exposed her?Originally posted by arrggh:and I broke off with her immediately. All these while, she was making out with another guy behind my back. I love her so much and gave my all to her. I miss her now and really want to have her back. I can forgive her for what she had done although I know that she's not worth it. But i really love her.. gave all my best to her. For the past few days, I'd been crying and wailing.. and if not for my friends who held me back, I would have ran towards an on-coming car. I am so used to having her around me and it seems so weird suddenly these days. We haven't been contacting each other and I'm really struggling to resist calling her. I am really scared of getting involved in another relationship... i know that i need to move on with life but I find it so hard to without having her around me... I'm regretting to have broke off with her and I really want her back.. I can forgive and forget all that she had done if she repents and promises not to do it again.. I really love her.. I have committed too much into this relationship and I'm really finding it hard to let it go suddenly....
Personally... I feel that if you can't handle the situation, it's never advisable to go back into it.... -
RELAX MAN..
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she was initially shocked that the guy spilled out the truth.. and then she cried..Originally posted by Devil1976:How did she reacted when you exposed her?
Personally... I feel that if you can't handle the situation, it's never advisable to go back into it....
but i have invested so much in this relationship.. isn't it a waste for it to go to naught? -
Imagine in the midst of you now suffering in agony, she's happily enjoying her sex to the fullest....well...i believe you miss having sex with her alot n you can't accept that she's doing it with other guys......
Face it....you've lost....dun further yourself to become a psychotic... -
she needs a good screw from you...
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Relationship is never an "investment." You will never take back what is given away. I believe you had done your best and there's nothing you can do now.Originally posted by arrggh:but i have invested so much in this relationship.. isn't it a waste for it to go to naught?
Take it as she's not the one for you. And you should be grateful that you have discover the truth earlier. She's definitely not worth crying for. She will get her retribution sooner or later. Just get over it and move on, pal. You can do it.
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Originally posted by arrggh:and I broke off with her immediately. All these while, she was making out with another guy behind my back. I love her so much and gave my all to her. I miss her now and really want to have her back. I can forgive her for what she had done although I know that she's not worth it. But i really love her.. gave all my best to her. For the past few days, I'd been crying and wailing.. and if not for my friends who held me back, I would have ran towards an on-coming car. I am so used to having her around me and it seems so weird suddenly these days. We haven't been contacting each other and I'm really struggling to resist calling her. I am really scared of getting involved in another relationship... i know that i need to move on with life but I find it so hard to without having her around me... I'm regretting to have broke off with her and I really want her back.. I can forgive and forget all that she had done if she repents and promises not to do it again.. I really love her.. I have committed too much into this relationship and I'm really finding it hard to let it go suddenly....
For what?
Going back to a relationship just because everything happened too sudden and you can't get used to life without her?
Love?
Or familarity?
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The sinisterial quality of betrayal comes in many forms. It is usually split between physical, emotional or mixed. Consciously making out with another guy is the worst among all betrayal - it defines freewill to accept
promiscuity/infidelity willingly, with all known facts and circumstances. The idealogy of 'Yes, I am going to do it and yes... I want.'
P.S: I seriously hope I don't know your gf personally (And if I do, I should know you as well). Because I am currently watching over someone like your gf who is currently a 'Nymphomania' (due to extra-stressful plantary transition and karmic debts IMO). She is not a Scorpio.. is she?
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Dear brother,Originally posted by arrggh:she was initially shocked that the guy spilled out the truth.. and then she cried..
but i have invested so much in this relationship.. isn't it a waste for it to go to naught?
I really feel very sad for you
as wat many others had said,
she`s simply not worth ur dedication
the truth is that you might had put in lots of love and feeling
spent ur life working, so tat you can dote on her
the fact remains there that she took you for granted,
I`ll advise that you moved on
Below are some of the simple step i feel might be of use to you,
1 ) Get rid of her images:
throw away all the things that bring back memories to you, cuz they`ll only bring you sadness, refrain all possible contact with her..
2 ) Change your mindset and accept reality:
face the truth that she`s unfaithful,and know that if the 2 of u come back to each other, she will have a tendency to do the same thing again,take it as an expensive lesson in life, and move on w ur own life.. tell urself that you`ve meet with the worst gal in the world, thus anyone that comes along will be a much better person
3 ) Get urself a hobby
try going for long jogs or cycle.. i`ve tried that and it works for me..
solitary life at it`s best.. streached urself out, make urself so farking shag u cant tink of other things.. for me, i mustered all my hate/love into physical energy and shoved it all out in sports..
4 ) widen ur social circle
always try to meet new people and make them ur frens
soon u`ll find comfort in all those new frens and tt will in turn make u much less
independent on her presence
5 ) get another objective in life and fulfill it
be it simple goals like gg for a round SEA trekking or mabbe just a simple task like giving ur house an over hual.. it does help u take ur mind off her
the above steps are created by me, and for sure i do not assure you that it`ll work on you, but that`s the least i can do to make you MOVE ON..
the worst kind of feeling is to be backstabbed, yet even worse than that would be by someone so dear to you..
U have my heart,
BaByBoY
PS. it`ll not be a waste to let go, instead it`ll be a waste of a gd man if u stick on to her, at least u know it before u got married, aint tt worse?? -
goshOriginally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: I seriously hope I don't know your gf personally (And if I do, I should know you as well). Because I am currently watching over someone like your gf who is currently a 'Nymphomania' (due to extra-stressful plantary transition and karmic debts IMO). She is not a Scorpio.. is she?
Cheers
master yun,
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No use chasing after her. If she can take such things so lightly, she is a goner. I was cheated by my ex too. As what others from this forum had advise me, can you imagine if both of you are married and she do this to you? No offence. I know its really hell to go through such ordeal but then, do you have any other choice? Even if you accept her back, this incident will still haunt me.
As for my ex, if she ever come back, I will definitely not accept her cos I will never accept such girl inflicting pain on me and leave me alone for several months alone.
6 months down the road or even 1 year down the road when you have cooled down, you will know why things happens in such way. Take good care...