if girls make the first move??
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What do u guys think if i make the first move??
I like this guy..its not like i never been in a relationship or kanna picked up..
But he like never really shows interest... but when we do go out as a group every weekend..i dont know if i should sit and wait or should i make a move...
if i kanna rejected, i can take it if i known him from elsewhere..but he happens to also be from my workplace... so i will get to see him..
but i really want to get it over with..
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wad's your current status quo with him? friends? have had great conversations before?? or merely a little more than a stranger who works at the same place as you?? give more details and we can see how to help mah...
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I thought we are preaching equality in this society now??? Whether guy or girl, it doesn't matter who makes the first move
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she just wants to know how it should be done mah.. actually, gals have to do it a different way from a guy loh.. thats what i think anyway...Originally posted by fredex:I thought we are preaching equality in this society now??? Whether guy or girl, it doesn't matter who makes the first move -
Friends loh... he works in another dept.. We only got to go out together recently... then actually i fancy him for a long time liao but thinking thats is impossible..but now that we get to go out and all so i think i got chance loh...Originally posted by starblue:wad's your current status quo with him? friends? have had great conversations before?? or merely a little more than a stranger who works at the same place as you?? give more details and we can see how to help mah...
but he not making any move.... i want to do my "thing" but then afraid that if kanna rejected then i will have to see him back at work place..pai say...
but then again if i dont try , i wont ever know...
My fren did try to help mi but his response sometimes goos sometimes bad..like when they were waiting for mi to go down to the club.. i sms my fren that i'm on my way down..he said " oh she coming down ah, then i think i wont go home liao"..stuff like that..
i feel so childish when it comes to dealing with him....
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ya as a girl..i cant just go rite up and tell him in the face or wat... i scared he run far far away...Originally posted by starblue:she just wants to know how it should be done mah.. actually, gals have to do it a different way from a guy loh.. thats what i think anyway...
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lolz.. then try your little moves loh gal... lolz.. seems like u know how to handle it liao wor... i think it is a really bad idea to go and tell him straight... just drop hints loh... i mean, even if they harp on equality, gals still have to use the indirect way sometimes lah...Originally posted by bluepiggy:ya as a girl..i cant just go rite up and tell him in the face or wat... i scared he run far far away...
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Hmm... in this case then if he cant get the hint... oh well... a case of wu yuan? Normally when girls drop hints a guy will be able to feel it... At times it can be more obvious than what a guy does as well...
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yup, just be sure that even the slowest guy get your hint. some guys can be very slow until you must tell him directly in the face, then he will goes,Originally posted by fredex:Hmm... in this case then if he cant get the hint... oh well... a case of wu yuan? Normally when girls drop hints a guy will be able to feel it... At times it can be more obvious than what a guy does as well...
OH?. then hanged there for sometime before he scratch his head.ha ha typical nerd. the small account that you give, seems to me that he is flirting with you. may alreadly notice you..good luck.
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i want too..but dont dare..anyway i just text him and till now no reply....think i better give upOriginally posted by starblue:lolz.. then try your little moves loh gal... lolz.. seems like u know how to handle it liao wor... i think it is a really bad idea to go and tell him straight... just drop hints loh... i mean, even if they harp on equality, gals still have to use the indirect way sometimes lah... -
so how do u want him to reply?
1) hey i love you so much
2) onz lets go steady
3) sorry i do not feel anything for you
4) why never tell me earlier i got gf liao
5) wait for a while more i not ready
6) u are not my type
7) total in slience and shock
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what you text him??Originally posted by bluepiggy:i want too..but dont dare..anyway i just text him and till now no reply....think i better give up -
take time, guys very slow, need to consults friends too. The guy in the same stituation as you remember? same workplace. it is going to be awkard if such office romance goes wrong. that's why take so long, guys decide things with brains while gals do things based on emotion.Originally posted by bluepiggy:i want too..but dont dare..anyway i just text him and till now no reply....think i better give up -
Wrong, us guys do not take hints one. If the guy knows it then most likely you must have done something, directly or indirectly but both obvious..
For example asking to see a movie with that guy FREQUENTLY -
for me it's okay if either a guy or girl makes the first move.
i mean if you're a girl, you can't expect to wait for the guy you like to make his move, 'cause he may not like you. in that case you'll end up waiting forever.
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i having a birthday celebration on fri and accordingly to my fren..he said he cant make it...Originally posted by smudgey:what you text him??
i saw him at the staff entrance at 2.30pm and he was with another person..so i went back to my office ans text him "ay..i heard from cheryl u cant make it for my birthday this fri huh? '
till now nothing
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Apparently hes already attachedOriginally posted by bluepiggy:i having a birthday celebration on fri and accordingly to my fren..he said he cant make it...
i saw him at the staff entrance at 2.30pm and he was with another person..so i went back to my office ans text him "ay..i heard from cheryl u cant make it for my birthday this fri huh? '
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Patience... Now still working hours, maybe he's busy.Originally posted by bluepiggy:i saw him at the staff entrance at 2.30pm and he was with another person..so i went back to my office ans text him "ay..i heard from cheryl u cant make it for my birthday this fri huh? '
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NOPE HE IS NOT ATTACHED..I CHECK LIAO...MY FREN SAYS HE VERY SHYOriginally posted by DriftingGuy:Apparently hes already attached -
ya i think so too....... there was once, i took 3hrs to return his sms....wonder what impression i gave him...Originally posted by choco B:Patience... Now still working hours, maybe he's busy.
dont know why...really like him loh.... the others i never have to rack my brains like this..i also scared becoz to eat and shit at the same place, takes alot of guts.... -
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It is very rude not to reply to message,SMS, at least acknowledge. It is his fault. you might want to try message him again. maybe he forget to reply or lost in air..
but His reply is most likely,"yup, my apologies, got something on."
like you say, he is very shy, so you expected him to go to your party with no friends around? who he talk too? he is sure to feel uncomfortable . -
wats wrong with that....as long as u can do it...just do it lor.....i admire and see up up for all this ppl.....go ahead bah....Originally posted by bluepiggy:What do u guys think if i make the first move??
I like this guy..its not like i never been in a relationship or kanna picked up..
But he like never really shows interest... but when we do go out as a group every weekend..i dont know if i should sit and wait or should i make a move...
if i kanna rejected, i can take it if i known him from elsewhere..but he happens to also be from my workplace... so i will get to see him..
but i really want to get it over with..
how ah? -
you alreadly make the move, if he interested in you, he will most likely give you an ang bao, present or maybe give you a treat depending on his age. How old is he?Originally posted by bluepiggy:ya i think so too....... there was once, i took 3hrs to return his sms....wonder what impression i gave him...
dont know why...really like him loh.... the others i never have to rack my brains like this..i also scared becoz to eat and shit at the same place, takes alot of guts....
you mind if i ask you why you like him so much? what has he done that makes you llike him? was it the way he carried himself or the way he dresses?or character?