Every girl I'm interested are attached...
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Originally posted by rainee:Yea, that's what I mean, if the girl is not in a good and healthy relationship, then she would be better off with another guy. That why I said, if she is happily attached, shouldn't try to break up the r/s...
Say you are a third-party of a bad-relationship, does that makes the title 'third-party' any better, or technically makes the party involved feeling better? In an analogy, it seemed better to steal-from-the-rich and divide it among the poor, but does it means the crime has became something else other than theft?
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that being a third-party equates to 'crime'. I wholly support the idea of all is fair in love and war. I am just curious how people reason with themselves regarding 'Good' and 'Bad' relationship and how it seemed ok to enter into the picture using a third party title ONLY if your love is in a distressing relationship. Of course, often, some are downright obvious CMI, but there are the dubious kind - where the 'bad' isn't a bad, neither is the 'good' something good. So what do you do? Stagnation?
E.g. Your crush tells you that his bf is always neglecting her. In your opinion, he seemed like a bad bf. So under this assumption, one step into this damsel in distress, feeling completely reasonable. Say your crush loses the relationships and almost gotten a relationship with you, but just before that happens, she realise that that guy wanted to propose to her this coming week, working all his guts out to buy her a ring, thus neglecting her for the past few months. We are just mindsets of our own preceptions.
When he/she is attached in non-marriage sense, that doesn't mean competitions ends there. Being attached, still means your options are open, JUST that you DON'T actively seek potential mates to settle in another BGR, because that would bring in complications.
Still my old saying, a completely satisfied woman cannot be seduced. If he's a guy, then it depends on his wisdom. (Nature is such that biological genes want polygamy, spiritual love wants monogamy).
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Actually I have my own decision already, that is to hold back my move. Not that totally back out, just... be as a friend, ofcourse a little bit better.
Let's see what happens in the near future le..
Anyway, as for how to term a relationship "bad" or "good", IMO as a third party do not have the right to do so, he/she doesn't even know what's going on.
We can't force anyone to do anything, but we can provide them opinions, choices. It is their choice to decide, their outcome to bear. -
Haha. I think ur case still okay pal.
Consider this: John likes Cindy and they are good friends. Peter is also a good friend of them both. Before John can get Cindy Peter gets her and leaves John feeling sore.
Then after sometime John recovers from emotional sadness and his eyes fall on Anna. Peter again becomes friends with Anna too. John is about to ask Anna out when he realises that Peter and Anna just got attached. Yeah Peter n Cindy broke up.. Yep. Poor John got beaten to it twice by the same guy.
Well I am the John in the story and the feeling totally sux. I liked Anna for 8 months.. But all gone in a week.. Well thats life..
Btw all are fictional names obviously.. -
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go back to Cindy lor
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Good Gals is either dead, attached. So what left behind is all those not so good one. Most of the time is like that one.
Perhap, you can try to go for those not so good one cause once you manage to get them to be attached to you, then they become good. haha weird theory right hahaha -
what do you mean good gals are all attached or dead? Some of the most successful women I have ever seen are still single, and it is not because they have no man going after her, but she decides to stay single because of her own choice...Originally posted by ceciltan:Good Gals is either dead, attached. So what left behind is all those not so good one. Most of the time is like that one.
Perhap, you can try to go for those not so good one cause once you manage to get them to be attached to you, then they become good. haha weird theory right hahaha -
Successful Girls != Good GirlsOriginally posted by rainee:what do you mean good gals are all attached or dead? Some of the most successful women I have ever seen are still single, and it is not because they have no man going after her, but she decides to stay single because of her own choice...
If I get you right, successful in the sense of career? -
I mean those girls are not just successful in their career/studies/or watever they are currently doing, but they are also kind, nice, virtuous, friendly, etc. I do not know your definition of a good girl, pls kindly tell me.Originally posted by kuckuc:Successful Girls != Good Girls
If I get you right, successful in the sense of career? -
well even if the gal u like just broke off with her bf,
Dun woo her when she is in such a vulnerable state, esp when she need somebody at this moment.
give her time, dun rush her, i had seen too many rebound releationships happening that it is not worth it anyway.
when her head has cooled, she may discover that she may not really love u, jus that she need somebody to be there for her, and u happened to be waiting
Be there for her, and u will find eternity that everybody is looking for
hope this helps
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Fear factor is something that comes with us naturally..sort of badboy thing. How to explain..Originally posted by kuckuc:Yeah... what fear factor you mean?
Now I dont know whether want to continue tackle.. 
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I don't get you.Originally posted by rainee:I mean those girls are not just successful in their career/studies/or watever they are currently doing, but they are also kind, nice, virtuous, friendly, etc. I do not know your definition of a good girl, pls kindly tell me.
Previously you are saying: "Some of the most successful women I have ever seen"
Now you are saying: "I mean those girls are not just successful in their..."
Aren't this two contradicting? -
No, it is not contradictory. There are women who are successful and have a good personality/character as well. You still havent told me your definition of a good girl/woman.Originally posted by kuckuc:I don't get you.
Previously you are saying: "Some of the most successful women I have ever seen"
Now you are saying: "I mean those girls are not just successful in their..."
Aren't this two contradicting? -
Good.. hmm, isn't this hard to type it out in words?Originally posted by rainee:No, it is not contradictory. There are women who are successful and have a good personality/character as well. You still havent told me your definition of a good girl/woman.
I would not want to list out what is good / bad, it's for everyone to judge.
It's the feel that have within you about this person. -
Unfortunately Cindy is attached with some other guy. Come to think about it, I rather stay single then get attached with a gal who is changing bfs like her shoes.. -_-Originally posted by drx:go back to Cindy lor
Its not necessary that all the good girls are already taken.. Sometimes you won't realise that a gal is good until you fall in love with her. -
must learn..Originally posted by laurence82:Hmm, tell u a story
Few months ago, my fren met this gal at a club.
She had a bf, but the bf was a bloody idiot...was totally uncaring, and only started doing sumthing when she wants to break up, then after patch up, go back to his old way
So enter my fren, who wooed her, well, secretly...
She finally dumped that jerk and went out with my fren, who is a pretty nice guy
Think now they are having a pretty good relationship
AFAIAC, the bfs of all the attached girls that i like are idiots. -
I am only interested in ricg girls...but must pretty orso...i want to eat soft rice and speat their money...get it
